Need a nicer way to tell my fwb it hurts.

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  ReyandJean

  3 years ago

  Make sure you sound like OW OW OW instead of Oh Oh Oh But really, just tell him to stop and say it hurts. And because men have fragile egos and sulk, smile teach him how to do it better.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Just say it has become to sensitive during intercourse

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  MsSuperFoxy

  3 years ago

  If you can't tell him, Houston we have a serious problem. Your actions of not sating a he hurts you, will only cause a domino effect. Because he thinks and believes he's turning you on. You're given him an ego boost. So the next person he's with, he will most likely do the same thing and hurt them too. Your actions are not the right thing to do or even fair to place him in a situation, you have the choice and control over. Speak up and be accountable. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Maybe instead of discussing it in person discuss it over text message, it may be easier for him that way as well .

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  funtimes1978

  3 years ago

  Communication before, after and during sex is Key all good sex

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  curiousgirl35

  3 years ago

  Grab his hand and redirect it in a slower or softer motion,maintaining eye contact.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Just tell him to go slower/gentle in the moment and guide him. Be much easier than having 'the talk' outside the bedroom

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  BASICINSTINCTS69

  2 years ago

  If your fwb is so careless he is hurting you FIND ANOTHER FWB!!

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  sexuallover

  2 years ago

  Tell him straight don’t wait until it’s too late if he is worth it he’ll adjust and make it better for you

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  CallMeV

  2 years ago

  What are we missing here? Open communication?? What are you scared off?

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  Letmetease

  2 years ago

  Just tell him. Believe me, he won’t be pissed, tell him,,,,,,COMMUNICATE

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  Jacknt75

  2 years ago

  If you are confident, give him a show of how you turn yourself on, then say something like this would feel soooo much better for you to do it like this for me, place his hand underneath yours and manipulate his hand, then let work him some magic.

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  DannyMF

  one year ago

  Just say it. Better said out of bed than kicking him out/off because of pain. Sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both and talking about it just opens up for more pleasure. I got told that when I do a particular thing that i love doing it could cause beard rash down there. I adjusted for next time and I still get to do it for hours and she gets to enjoy it the whole time. So just say it.

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  bigwhereitcounts

  one year ago

  Honestly, everyone is different, some like more pressure others less, faster, slower. The best thing you can do is communicate exactly what you want in the simplest terms. Softer, harder, faster, slower, oh god that’s it baby just like that when they are getting it just right, Keep going, don’t stop. No lover worth a damn would be upset you are communicating what you like or need in bed!

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  RHP User

  one year ago

  Everyone is different and therefore I doubt that you'd be guaranteed a positive outcome no matter how you decide(d) to approach this. One guy might love the feedback. Others might see it as a personal attack on his sexual prowess no matter how you address it. What might be the gentlest way to tell him the truth is by twisting it into a little white lie. Something like, "I'm not sure why, but that doesn't feel as good as it used to. Maybe *we* can give it break for a while" * Saying we makes it about both of you and not just him doing something wrong. Anyway, that's my uneducated opinion on this. :)

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