Newbie... how does it go?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Meet in a public place. Basic security really. Then you can always make an excuse and leave if the chemistry is not there. I cant see myself ever walking up to a strange mans house not knowing what I am going to get myself in for. I try to cam with people first. It is harder to lie on cam and then we both know what to expect. Just make sure you are safe.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  As another newbie, mind you a male one and never been on site before, I'm finding it all a bit surreal..and boring.. maybe it because its always the same faces online or just that maybe I'm too nice.. as don't believe in one liners.. like fancy a shag etc..Being new to Oz its opened my eyes.. to online dating and the pit falls & I'm falling out of here.. as responses are few & uninteresting.. Anyone with a brain out there.. up for stimulating conversation first followed by sensual fun.. Opps.. dont think so..Or maybe i can be proved wrong.. I wait in vain whilst growing a very long beard..!!

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  erotictouch4u

  14 years ago

  Hope you girls don't mind one man's views...No need to rush, well that is my idea anyway. I too prefer to swap pics and messages to build some knowledge of likes and dislikes, interests and shared feelings to better judge if they are suitable for taking further steps towards a public meeting to continue the "getting to know you" phase. Some guys and gals just want the quick in&out then you don't see or hear from them again. I get the feeling this is not what you want. If the other person does not want to take it at your pace then they probably are not worth your time. Only you will know when the right time is. But also be prepared for them to possibly move at a slower pace than you and respect their wishes. ET xox

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  hi yes now how you feel its the same i supose for guys to you never no who youl meet behind the door,some profile pictures are not quite what the peopke look like and profiles dont match ,like fionabee said try using the webcam and go from there and meet in a public place anyway happy hunting

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  That doesn't mean that you shouldn't go swimming but just be cautious, just carry a spear gun and a wire cage with you at all times There are a few people here who just weren't well socialised as puppies and are a bit behind on the social skill sets. Luckily they tend to identify themselves fairly quickly, usually by expecting you to jump into bed with them after sending you a flirt. There are also (and I think probably the majority of) decent people here all looking for the same things. It just takes a bit of patience and time to find the right ones for you but it's worth the effort. My expirience was that I got a messaged sent to. I replied, we messaged back and forth for a while, then we TXT'ed then we phoned. After about two-three weeks we met on neutral ground (and yes we were both nervous about meeting) and basically we've been FB for the last two years and counting.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think most of can or do have pretty good instincts...so rely on those. If the initial contact seems a bit over the top or makes you feel uneasy...chances are you are right and it won't get any better. What do they say...it takes 15 seconds to make a first impression and usually they are right.|The other thing is that this is all about choice and choices. You are never compelled to do anything and if you are made to feel that you are...run, don't walk as there are other choices that you can make where you will feel very relaxed and hopefully quite excited on your new adventure.|Good luck...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Ramee, All I can say is take the plunge, though do do a few messages first before you meet so you at least have an idea that you both want the same thing. The first person I met in person through here I was nervious as all hell as to what I was in for but I had no need to be as they were who they said they were. We didn't click and that happens but it got the nerves out of the way. The next person I met with went well (and was more enjoyable because of the first) and we still message each other. So as I said take the plunge enjoy it as an experience and move on to the prize of having fun and trying new things as after all that is why you joined the site. Regards, Andy

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...is that there are no rules. Which basically means you can do as you damn well please! If you're not comfortable with something/someone, you're not binded to be a part of anything. And something else to remember is, we are still all human. With the same needs, wants, feelings, insecurities, and worst of all, NERVES, as you. So like Krissy said, take your time, be yourself, and go with whatever tickles your fancy at the time. And it won't be long before you're using these forums to brag about your latest played out fantasies... And as for the experiences part, I've been using "dating" sites like these off and on again for about 7 years now. And out of maybe a hundred meets, I might have had 1 or 2 that weren't entirely pleasant. And all I've ever done is taken my time to get to know someone a little on here, used a little common sense, and swallowed my nerves and gone for it...each and every time. And I think the majority on here will agree with me when i say......no regrets. Yet... All the best on here ramee! Have fun...and don't be a stranger now!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Thanks guys, i really appreciate all the advice, you've given me a lot to think about

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Good luck Ramee and I wish you all the best in your seach. You have been given some great advice which I hope you follow. It is entirely up to you but I wouldn't have unprotected sex with anyone as you don't know how many other people that they have slept with and if they have ant STD's. They are invisible to the naked eye. Above all else have fun and enjoy.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I agree, no unprotected sex. Very dangerous waters.We are fairly new too & have been very lucky in finding someone genuine for our first play but I dare say majority are far from that.Definitely do webcam chat if possible & meet up in a public area are good places to start.It is VERY nerve racking but well worth it.Good luck Ramee01 (Love the name )

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Hi Ramee,I was freaking out when I met my first guy from RHP a few years back when I joined up the first time. He ended up being wonderful and is a friend to this day. He also gave me great advice as I had no idea of how to go about things. Definitely meet in a public place like a coffee shop of something for the first meet. Also if you have a close friend who knows what you are doing on RHP let them know you are meeting someone. Give them all the details of the person as well if you feel comfortable doing that and maybe arrange for them to ring you or for you to ring them say, one hour or so into the meeting. That way someone knows where you are and who you are with. If you do get an address to go to, give the address to your friend and again arrange for the friend to ring and check on you. I have had one meet at a private house and all went wonderfully for me. I have also had two come directly to my home. All others I have met at coffee shops. Out of all of my meet ups I had only one I had no connection with and nothing eventuated. That is out of a total of about 10 or so on this site. I consider myself a fairly good judge of character and by the time I get to the meet up stage with someone we have chatted on the phone and exchanged a lot of mail so I am fairly confident by the time I meet someone that I will hit it off with them. Most of all, have fun. There are some wonderful people out there and this can be a way to meet some of them and you may make some wonderful new friends. Good luck!!Kisses all,L

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I am with kaiserchief2011 - my experience here is very limited and thus far totally unremarkable! There seem to be a lot of women here who seem to know what I want even though they don't bother to ask me! I am beginning to to wonder what they can see that I can't! I just want to meet a normal woman who has a brain, can hold a conversation and is NOT into abusive violent relationships. Is that unreasonable? So far, I have managed to meet just two women, one was a bunny boiling weirdo and the other just had her car trashed by her violent boyfriend....of 18 months.....I don't want to be part of that!I don't even get nervous on a first time meeting. As I see it, you meet in a public place, you either find some common ground or your don't. No problem! Finding attraction seems to be my problem. So far, I have not met a woman on here that I would want to take the bedroom but I have found a few who tell me that is what I want....go figure!Its early days, perhaps my second month will bring me some fun adventures.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Hi guys, I was just wondering if anyone could answer a quick question for me, i just made my profile and am wondering how i add a profile pic, do i have to wait for verification first? or do i have to subscribe to one of the paid accounts? i'm new to all this so any help would be great, I think a pic is always good to put a face to the person your chatting with i guessThanks Guys

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Lucky_Phil, If you go to edit profile from your home page, there is a Tab that allows you to add photo's, it's not that difficult, you just browse the directory where you have your photo's stored and double click on the photo you select and it will load in a few minutes. Another thing, not everybody who has a profile on RHP is looking to meet people. There are some on here who kust want tio scam people for their money. If someone says that they want you to join another site to watch a nude video of themselves and get their mobile number or login to a site and vote for them in a competition, one word of advice DON'T. Both involve giving out your credit card details which they can get and clean out your accounts or spend to their heart's content. Good luck.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Thanks mate appreciate the advice Quoting 'ThickHardCock69' Lucky_Phil, If you go to edit profile from your home page, there is a Tab that allows you to add photo's, it's not that difficult, you just browse the directory where you have your photo's stored and double click on the photo you select and it will load in a few minutes. Another thing, not everybody who has a profile on RHP is looking to meet people. There are some on here who kust want tio scam people for their money. If someone says that they want you to join another site to watch a nude video of themselves and get their mobile number or login to a site and vote for them in a competition, one word of advice DON'T. Both involve giving out your credit card details which they can get and clean out your accounts or spend to their heart's content. Good luck.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  No problem, glad I could help out. Good luck in your search.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Sounds like some good advice above Remee C

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