M42 F33
"No single guys"
June 01 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
Regarding photos I agree that both F and M should equally shown as to establish attraction. However I don't think it's rude to clearly state what you're NOT after. Even with the clear message guys keep contacting couples. So who is the rude one? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is a few threads already going on this subject.Some people just dislike the amount of guys that try their luck, maybe if the website had settings to stop people outside of their wish list messaging them then you'd see less ***NO SINGLE GUYS*** on profiles. As for pictures well people are only happy to show what they are happy with. I for one don't put loads of pictures up of myself as i don't want to be recognized by friends and family as i have very distinguishable tattoo's on my front however she does not. While i appreciate where you are coming from it's just the way these websites are.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not a 'we' however I echo everything you said. It's as if the female is the main draw card, but with that is the obvious assumption they ARE trying to attract male attention, so why not put pictures of the male up to attract women, either singles or part of a couple. I don't get it either. I do think in a lot of cases, the male doesn't show himself for a reason, same with singles profiles, in my experience, there is usually a reason, but more frustrating for couples like you who would come across this all the time It comes across to me like they're prostituting out the female half of the partnership, we see all the sexy lingerie and sometimes explicit pics of her, from every angle, and what do we see of him? His back or neck lol Come on guys, we need more than that
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have not checked your profile as I am not interested. I do agree with what you are saying; however, can't help question why your main photo only has a photo of Mrs ????? (very tasty she is too). I would therefore agree with you more if your main photo had a picture of Mrs & Mr. Just my opinion though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Unfortunately the ratio of members is usually weighted to single males on these sites. When members are not seeking single males, and their profile lists this, it is no wonder they add more specific wording to convey they do not want single males.We did.Guess what, some single males still make contact regardless of the wording. Then there is the usual abuse followed by "you don't know what you're missing" . Now that is rude. Adelaide3some has a brilliant idea. Only members you are seeking can contact you then the problem of unwanted contacts would be solved.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I have to say that your profile is outstanding, the photos of the Mr is very refreshing to see as its almost always a plethora of photos of the female. One valid reason for the "no single guys" is that the female half of the couple is very very bi and has no interest in other men. You will often see an association between the "no single guys" and "no kissing". As a couple we love the single men as they can give you way more play time. Our experience has taught us that the single male is a ton of fun, brings positive energy and is always respectful. The best ones are the ones that come back again and again over a period of months and years, the familiarity brings its own rewards that you can only get with return visits.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The point though being that we have photos of both available pubicly as we dont have any together. We're more refering to the couples which you have to be given permission to pgs and still no photos of him. Yet he tends to do all the talking. Our Mrs isnt interested in seeing photo after photo of the female half. Works for Mr - but doesnt leave much for her. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yep just been through that. The PG had zero facial portraits, it was the straw that broke my back and for the first time ever I sent a blunt/abrasive message back thanking them for wasting our time. I'm sick to death of the same bullshit of having ask if there are any photos with heads attached, or do you have any without sunglasses..... etc etc etc. WTF people!..... Just put up a few portraits!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Adelaide3some, i agree with ur comment- just the way these websites are. My post might be different if i was female, on the website a few yrs n still put up with this I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed but even as i was reading ur post I had the thought that ppl could just change their details, even briefly eg age, single male to couple. *cough* Not me obviously but other ppl might send a msg, then change their details back either soon after or at a later date. Making it harder to change details might go against a websites ease of use?..starting a whole different bunch of complaint threads Deleting msgs/ignoring probably easier, leading to blocking if need be. At least having some deterrent such as *You will be blocked* would deter most of the general public. There's always one tho...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find it strange on the profiles that list "man" in the "seeking" but then say "no single males" and complain about it in the profile description.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just get annoyed with everyone not wanting single men, including parties and clubs. What's with that? More for me I suppose No single men and I'm out. I for one, just can't get enough of them
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nattyocean
10 years ago
and chose not to be annoyed by it I say. You can choose your actions with anything you encounter and you can just let it fly. Personally I have modified my behaviour on here and how I react to things in the time simply because I've come to realise no matter what my expectations are, no one is obliged to meet them, but it's so nice if they do. My profile states I am looking for - men, couples (MM) - not interested in casual or NSA but I still receive every week both messages and flirts from outside of this selection including couples that don't fit my criteria being (mf not mm) But every now and then I do get contacted by those that fit my stated criteria so in turn that is pleasant (mostly). I think we are all allowed to state what we want and have others respect that but when people chose not to then well you can make it your problem or just smile and move along. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
"If you are not interested in single males, why advertise directly to them? " Just because one may have more photos, of the female half of the couple (in the public galleries ) , does not mean that one is advertising directly only to single males. Could one not be advertising to both halves of a male / female couple ? We therefore don't see any contradiction at all. As far as your belief that it is rude to say "No single guys " (males) & " You will be blocked " , we don't think it is being rude at all. Surely one is allowed to be seeking what one is seeking ? You also need to understand that "single males" outnumber females / couples 100 to 1 on here. As a result of this most females, and a large number of couples , get bombarded with dozens (if not more) messages and flirts daily, from single guys who have either not bothered to read the profile wording, or have simply decided to ignore it and take the chance and send an unsolicited message . Is this not being rude and disrespectful , as it quite clearly is in contravention to the clearly defined wording on ones profile ? Many of these unsolicited messages are highly disrespectful, pushy, lewd and crass, and many guys get quite rude, nasty and aggressive when turned down (lots of other forum posts have discussed and made mention of this ). Sometimes the only solution is to take a zero tolerance approach and to block them. One is entitled to set ones own set of rules is one not? As long as these don't infringe on the rights of others. If you see it as being rude, arrogant and contradictory , well that is your opinion to which you are entitled. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I can't understand why people who do not want single guys to contact them say they are seeking men. If you don't want to be contacted by men, don't have your profile come up in a search of women/couples seeking men. Simple. I am sure most guys wouldn't seek them out especially if they do not come up in a search. Obviously, I think it is good manners to not contact people who have that in their profiles, but it really shouldn't be an issue if the profile was targeted at the right demographic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We go for the more polite "we don't reply to single guys, if we need you we'll find you" before that we go bombarded from single men. Also I can see why profiles tend to be more female leading, alot of profiles (including us) have a very bi female and on some occasions my partner has turned down a couple even when she finds the male half attractive because she's not keen on the female half. The reason rhp doesn't have a turn off button for single men is simply to make the site more appealing to those single guys. A single guy logging in and looking for a couple would probably only get a short list of about 10 in his area looking for mmf action and wouldn't see the point in paying for subscription. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my opinion though if you do want a lot of attention it's best to have both the male and female displayed in your public gallaries - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, our profile states "seeking couples only"Yes, our profile has pics of both of us.Yes, we still get single blokes looking and sending messages. Adelaide3some has a valid point for settings to stop people outside of their wish list messaging them. RHP TAKE NOTE
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agree with you on this. Our profile has pics of both, only 1 of me in public but face pics of both of us in PG plus the juicy stuff in the other PG. We don't mind the single guys as long as they are respectful and can accept a NO if they don't meet our wants - but that goes for couples and women too, just that there's way more men on here. Mr D
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'NATEnMEL' The point though being that we have photos of both available pubicly as we dont have any together. We're more refering to the couples which you have to be given permission to pgs and still no photos of him. Yet he tends to do all the talking. Our Mrs isnt interested in seeing photo after photo of the female half. Works for Mr - but doesnt leave much for her. - Posted from rhpmobile Fair enough. I think it could be a common theme though. When I was looking I was specifically looking for single woman only, no couples and no men. However, nearly all of the interest, requests or views I received were from couples and single guys. Go figure ???
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madotara69
10 years ago
When we first joined it would not matter if we had 'no single males' written up, it wouldn't make any differance for single blokes having a dabble, seems the way it is, look at the pic send a ..'hi like your profile, wanna meet see if we click, maybe play up ? We had great times with a couple of em too. I don't think too many blokes are keen on their wife getting fucked by another bloke. After a while the messages slow down anyhow, it's easy to see who's sending a message, can't see all the bother or worth a fuss. Unless the bloke doesn't like the idea of his wife reading all the profiles of guys that want to fuck her. It's worth it for him if he did, because she gets horny' n a bit of fantasising, fucks him silly, what a blast... Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you arent looking for single men and have this in your settings the messages come up in your other folder...so you dont have to read them. Whats so annoying about having unread mail in a mailbox?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't believe any couple would deny a well presented male the opportunity to meet because some idrop kick idiot says the wrong thing ? I understand these cretins waste your time but isn't that the nature of the beast ? I predict this subject raises its ugly head at least once a month. Whinging about it won't change things , best to accept it and just get over it and block them. I've meet some great couples and I never see them here whining. ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are not opposed to a nice single guy from time to time. It is not our number one choice but sometimes that is what we both feel like. So in our "we are looking for"we put "and occasionally seeking guys". When we have put it in our SEEKING section, we get hammered by views, flirts and messages and it becomes too much. We still get enough when we don't have it in seeking so if someone catches our eye we just put them on the shortlist till we feel like it.We agree with ITM2 that single guys do get excluded. We are talking about a camping trip in September/october ( last one we planned got cancelled due to illness) and we are thinking of inviting some single guys.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I sympathize with the amount of unsolicited messages and flirts that women and couples get. I get them too ...in fact I probably get more messages from men than I do from women and couples combined. So I certainly support the need to be blunt with the "No single guys" criteria. However, I am firmly against blocking those outside your criteria, as a RHP default, as I message couples, and even men, on a purely social basis. Sometimes it is just a compliment on a good profile, or say Hi to someone (guy) that you met at a club, take a forum reply offline, whatever. This site isn't just about sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'tessiecouple' Yes, our profile states "seeking couples only"Yes, our profile has pics of both of us.Yes, we still get single blokes looking and sending messages. Adelaide3some has a valid point for settings to stop people outside of their wish list messaging them. RHP TAKE NOTE I'd hate to see that become available. If that were the case, every guy I hit on who has his maximum age set at 45 (which is most) would be off my radar ?? But they DO reply and very enthusiastically most of the time, there are always exceptions to the normal expected criteria for that age range or sexual preferences, we evolve as well along the way and hard and fast barriers aren't a good thing IMHO in this sexy world of ours here. Alway ALWAYS keep your mind open with sexuality, you just never know who or what amazing adventure is around the corner. Never a good idea to shut doors and close yourself off with preset ideas, something I never do and never will, just my 2 cents. Probably sounded preachy, sorry, but if I'd stuck to what I wanted rigidly 12 months ago omg I had no clue how amazing the path was going to be and how open I would end up being, and how much that excites me and turns me on. Never say never, but either way, easy to ignore flirts and messages, as nattyocean said , smile and carry on if you're not interested
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, hadn't thought of that, but social messaging would also have to stop with people outside our preferred criteria, good point
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RHP User
10 years ago
well we are only new but had pics of both of us in public view and are also on the North side of Sydney .... plus sent a wink but still NO reply ?? ... so is that not yet a bit more rude even if a thanks but no thanks, or maybe it is us still not knowing how this couple profile thing works on here ?? ... but surely in saying we have some mutual interests ?? Just saying LOL ;-) x
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'TandC047' well we are only new but had pics of both of us in public view and are also on the North side of Sydney .... plus sent a wink but still NO reply ?? ... so is that not yet a bit more rude even if a thanks but no thanks, or maybe it is us still not knowing how this couple profile thing works on here ?? ... but surely in saying we have some mutual interests ?? Just saying LOL ;-) x The two of you look hot. I don't know why you wouldn't be getting any replies. Maybe contact site admin to get your profile verified. Simple thing to do. They just give you a number or code to write on a piece of paper, hold it up and take a picture, obviously with the two of you in it, being a couple, send the picture back to them and they let you know if and when it's approved. Usually takes a day or so. Couples profiles are quite often men, not couples at all. Getting verified is something you should probably do, might help. If you're new here, being 'verified' which is what I'm suggesting, is different to being 'validated'. You probably know this stuff, just thought I'd mention it in case you didn't
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe....I guess it comes down to the fact that people will go look at a brand new Mercedes motor car.. AND ask the salesman for a test drive.. OR for details on the vehicle...even though they know they will never afford it..Something is advertised.. now matter WHAT the slogans are, or the sales pitch are.. people will always walk in off the street and want to look or touch or play with. I have had couples, (AND I am confident I am NOT the only one) who have come to check out my profile when I have NOT been on their profile.When I go check them out, I see the same thing .. "NO SINGLE MALES -- YOU WILL BE BLOCKED"I invariably send them a note.."Hey, saw you dropped in to visit, sorry I was not home - please feel free to revisit of message"To my knowledge, I have not ever been blocked...AND in a couple of occasions, I have received a nice respectful reply -- and NEVER have I received a "FUCK OFF" reply from it.Goes to show I guess.. "Respect invokes respect" Just commenting on life I guess, instead of my usual "Politically incorrectness"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SNAG4XTC'However, I am firmly against blocking those outside your criteria, as a RHP default, as I message couples, and even men, on a purely social basis. Sometimes it is just a compliment on a good profile, or say Hi to someone (guy) that you met at a club, take a forum reply offline, whatever. This site isn't just about sex. I'd hate to see it as a default, it'd be better as an option for those who really dislike being contacted outside of their criteria (Considering how many threads we see about it). We have single guys & girls selected on our profile so it really does not bother us, we still get couples contacting us even though we don't have it selected but it's not really that much of an issue and we don't get upset over it either unless they get abusive and then they just get blocked.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'Adelaide3some' I'd hate to see it as a default, it'd be better as an option for those who really dislike being contacted outside of their criteria (Considering how many threads we see about it). We have single guys & girls selected on our profile so it really does not bother us, we still get couples contacting us even though we don't have it selected but it's not really that much of an issue and we don't get upset over it either unless they get abusive and then they just get blocked. I'd say RHP is keen to not give single guys (and couples) another reason not to become, and stay, paying members. Oh i totally agree, i've mentioned that exact sentiment in another thread.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A single guy and at my age fit nobody's criteria,but I do message people occasionally not for sex but for a number of different reasons. It might just be to say I liked a post or to message a friend..as someone else has said,If you want to stick to your strick criteria ignore your non matching box..simples Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' A single guy and at my age fit nobody's criteria,but I do message people occasionally not for sex but for a number of different reasons. It might just be to say I liked a post or to message a friend..as someone else has said, If you want to stick to your strict criteria ignore your non matching box..simples Q Nothing wrong with that at all, i only mentioned the option for some people as they seem to get very upset about "the wrong people" constantly messaging them. We get a number of emails complimenting on pictures or even comments in the forum outside of our preferred criteria while i (the male) initially found it annoying if it progressed further to "what are you looking for" i found i much better to just say no thanks or thanks and move on. On the plus side we have made platonic friends with people outside of our criteria. Maybe the expectation of it being a adult website and not finding what they are expecting immediately is to much for some people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'tessiecouple' ...a valid point for settings to stop people outside of their wish list messaging them. I don't think there's a thing wrong with an open format search and prefer it that way. Even I get the odd out note or flirt that's well and truly out of scope but only takes a second to turn it into cyber-dust. If they were turning up at my door at 2:00 a.m. and genuinely being annoying then that's a horse of a different colour. In a way (unless it's rude or an obvious troll) it's sort of a compliment. The most amazing woman I've met here (or there for that matter) fell outside of both our posted criteria... guidelines as opposed to rules? Similarly with the more rare species amongst a few very select couples. 'Tis all a bit of fun and we never know what's on the menu until we read it. Be well......
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SexyScorpios
10 years ago
We would like to put a bit of a different perspective on the single male thing. The both of us love mm+f and we actively seek single males. At first we were enthusiastic about couples until we realized after trying to get four people to click, meet every bodies expectations, and have sex actually turned out to be really difficult. As the male I generally wouldn't have a problem with the female of the couple but Mrs Sexy is very particular with her choice in males and even harder to choose a bi female. This is made harder for couples because we often expect bi interaction between the females. She will always pick classy hot guys who are well groomed and well mannered, and she has absolute right of veto which is essential in our relationship because she has much better taste than I do....lololol Having said all this including the giving heads up to the single guys in the profile that they will be considered it is simply amazing how few read the profile and blow their chances completely. Same stuff every time, no clear face pic, 10 pics of dicks when one will suffice, couples who always turn out to be a single male masturbating on cam, and my personal favorite, single guys with shit profiles no pictures or pics of dicks, little to no information, who are not paid up members sending us winks asking us as unpaid members to send them a wink. That is the one scenario we do the instant block. We get up to 40 messages a week FFS and I respond patiently to most messages unless you are butt fucking ugly, or a weirdo and clearly outside our criteria. Single guys if you want to get laid its simple, clear concise pics, no need for face pics in the public profile but if you don't have face pics in your private gallery of your face, instead of pictures of massive sunnies I guarantee your hit rate with hot desirable couples will be zero. There are always going to be fools on these sites and one needs the thick skin if you are going to swing. Just block, these days I don't give it a second thought............ To all the couples who turn their noses up at single guys you should remember they are a resource, often treated like crap by the attractive couples and will generally (if you make wise choices) turn out to be your hardest working players. I understand its not for everyone, its all about free choice,but I don't see the drama. Enjoy your plentiful choices instead of waiting for an elusive dream of mff.
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Fuckmywifexxx
10 years ago
Agree with SexyScorpions comments... Over the years we've played with some top blokes and heard horror stories of being treated like meat... We've also been fucked around more often than not by guys. All talk no action, which is disappointing when you know your own intentions are 'good'. But like so many other things in life and society we shouldn't pre-judge anyone based on the subgroup they belong to.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've done this as a single guy and with my now ex wife. Usually it's mostly about the women that tempts the female and the male . Only %15 of the time is the male even wanted by the other couple. This whole swinging thing is a Women's domain. The male is just there to fill the odd gap in between. Because most of the time it's fun and his simply happy to watch it all unfold. So the process of capturing a sexy couple relies heavily on there being a sexy female to show off. I think it's pretty simple . - Posted from rhpmobile
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