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Old flame
February 24 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ive reconnected with an old flame recently. Unfinished business. Hehe
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sweetgem, good on you for taking care of your parent! Filial piety is a quality that is unfortunately rather foreign these days. You have sacrificed a lot for your parent and that's to be applauded! My answer to your first question would be, "Yes, why not?" It would be a person you are already familiar with, and he seems to empathise with your current situation and not hold that against you. You guys had a good thing going previously and I presume it must have ended on a good note because you both seem very civilised towards each other, so it'll be as comfortable as slipping on a favourite silk chemise for bedtime. Why not? As to your 2nd question : Have I returned to an FWB before to relight the flames of passion? Yes, but only because he was single and available. If he had been attached / married, it would have been a staunch no. A relationship takes a lot of effort on both parties to make it work and in this case, you are willing, he is willing, so why hesitate? I hope you'll find your little slice of happiness in your new relationship so you can have your needs taken care of and feel recharged over the weekend to face the very challenging role of caregiver again during the week. I hope your FWB will appreciate your kind and loving heart and treat you well. All the best!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'willow_2' Ive reconnected with an old flame recently. Unfinished business. Hehe _____________________________________________________________________________________________ Oh willow2... my heartstrings got tugged when I read "unfinished business". Whenever things end badly and there's regret lingering nearby, "unfinished business" seems to be like open cartons left outdoors to brave the elements. They nag at us with their formidable presence even though they've been relegated to the furthest corners of our minds and try as we might to ignore them, they are always seen form the corner of our eyes. Oh hell do I have "unfinished business" I would love to attend to once and for all so I can seal the boxes and put them away in the cold recesses of my memory! But life is such that sometimes, it's just best to walk away and hope that the ache in your heart and the deafening "What-if"'s in your mind will both fade and diminish with time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For sure! If it was an enjoyable experience, there's still chemistry there and you still respect each other why not? It's sounds like a mutually beneficial arrangement. I guess it comes down to why you stopped being fwb the first time? If it wasn't anything dramatic then I wouldn't see any harm in getting back on the bike so to speak 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would, and have. If it works for you, and if you're clear about what you're getting into, why not? But, if you are getting tangled back up in something that you walked away from for a reason, then it's worth considering carefully whether that is a good idea. Some doors should be left closed. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
some doors are better left shut, at least where feelings are involved. Most of mine are purely fuck buddies so if they were good, if the sex was good, and they showed up 3 months later, I'd take them back in a hot second, have done and will again, no problem at all. They have a right of entry into my life whenever they want it, kind of like a life membership lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
After a couple of weeks that can only be described as crap after dinner tonight I made the decision that nothing ventured nothing gained but at least now we are ordering from the same menu
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RHP User
10 years ago
a lot lately .. not sure if i should go there so watching the other responses here
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I know exactly what you mean about reconnecting with an old flame, been there done that with an ex (of a monogamous relationship) in my younger year and that door should have never reopened! So, lesson learned 😛 My friend and I were not an item of a serious relationship in the past. We were exactly as the term suggests.......friends with benefits.......and we did not part on a bad term either. We just drifted apart naturally as our personal circumstances changed 😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I would never reconnect with an ex from a serious relationship again after my former experience! Once was enough 😛 But with a companion that feelings and emotions aren't involved, I have nothing to lose to go there again 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh god no. Your imagination is running with " Unfinished business" being a sinister means to an end. My unfinished business is a 3way that we had been aiming for. He was bicurious back then. We ended up drifting away on our own paths and he just contacted out of the blue. Gave me an update on his bi sexperiences and, well, theres some unfinished business we need to look into. 😜
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thing about FWB is things change and you go different ways but there is no baggie between you do if all things align again, why not.Better the devil you know.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'they have a right of entry into my life whenever they want it, kind of like a life membership lol is a club I want to join!!! Seems to be a topic that so far is ladies only, but I think is a good question worth thinking about. If its with a person that good company and a good sex partner and there is no angst involved it would be silly to pass up the pleasure. I guess it depends on the reasons for parting and the type of relationship it was.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Id probably do exactly the same, no pressure and convenience with accepted knowledge of your mutual situations but I'm pretty sure that would be the only reason I would reconnect The fact that the word ex, or former is put in front of the word, partner, fwb, spouse etc is for a reason. I don't believe in going back, only forward And may I commend you on (probably not the right word) on being the primary carer for your parent. Not a easy task but a selfless one. Remember to take care of you too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of the film Sliding Doors...if she goes left she will have a relationship with one man if she goes right it will be with another man and her life will be different. Is it better to regret a poor choice or to always wonder the whatifs? ...xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have never reconnected with an old flame mainly because there haven't been too many in my little fire 😘xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes i would most defiantly but it would only be the one lady ???
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think you can make blanket rules here.....every situation and every two people are different......and two completely changed people at different points in time. If your former flame didnt end for a negative reason, and theres no badness, then why not? May be just what you need at the moment. However if it ended because one wanted more, one didn't, or there are still unresolved issues then maybe the same thing will happen all over again. I've recently been in a similar situation and it didn't work out, but I still think every situation is different. Like a lot of things in life......only one way to find out! Good luck! xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Roger that applications close at midnight so you better hurry
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Thank you everyone for your inputs and kind words of advice, which are all received with sincere appreciation :-) I know what you mean about thinking it through with the pros and cons before reconnecting with a former companion. I, too, would not reopen a closed door if it was an old flame from a serious monogamous relationship; or an old flame that was put out bitterly and nastily of a FWB situation 😛 However, this friend of mine is really only a friend as we didn't have anything more than a physical connection before we naturally drifted apart due to our own personal commitments and priorities. Feelings were not in place before, nor will they happen this time because, my one and only commitment/priority right now is my mother, who needs me and it is in my understanding that water can never be thicker than blood! :-) @ChiChi05 Thank you for your kind words of compliment. It is what it is and I am only doing what my mother did, decades ago, for my family when she had the chances to remarry, but she gave them away for my siblings and I because she didn't want to risk the chances of bringing us an evil stepfather! :-) I know not all stepfathers are evil, but a mother won't know for sure until she's in it, which could be a bit too late to prevent in some cases! Therefore, it was my mother's choice that my siblings and I grew up safely, so it is now my choice to ensure her that her sacrifice is worth it! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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