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Orgasm Alone...please help!!!
October 06 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
I wonder, are you a clit or a vag jj gal?? Lets assume you're a vag jj girly... So I would suggest that you get yourself a toy, to make you feel more at ease you could even name him - say Bruce?!?! Make sure you're able to relax 100%, then bounce all over that bad boy like a crazy cowgirl!! Oil up those hot titties... Rub your clit...... Imagine you're kissing a hot blonde chick... And I swear to god, wham bam!! Before you know it, you're in Puff Puff heaven!!! Enjoy sweetie.... YUM... Now I have a hot wet pussy so I am heading off right now to put my "ralphy" to good use!!! Bambi..xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Erotic fiction always gets the job done for me - www.literotica.com - just choose your favourite topic and author, lie back with fingers and/or fave toys and away you go! :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
OK...make sure you have privacy and time...you have to be able to completely relax.I like to read erotica....like sophie...literotica is a great site!Then...get some lube on your fingers...and seduce yourself.Start slow....imagining some hotties hands on you.Rub your hands over your body...avoiding the erogenous zones to start with....with just light strokes over your belly...tickling and teasing yourself. Gradually rub your breasts.....squeezing your nipples....squeezing your breasts.Then move your hands lower...lightly rubbing over your pussy...exploring....teasing....touching yourself the way someone that doesnt know your body would do....Perhaps talking to your 'unknown seducer' would help too...mmm baby...yes...just like that...Then just experiment....and keep trying til you succeed!Good luck hon...Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Powder you want help,call,do need to meet
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thank you for the suggestions Sofie and Miss BJ, have tried what you said but Nope not happening... I haven't had a sex life for a couple of years and being single makes life very frustrating at times. My Vjj throbs so hard it hurts and the out of control sensations inside me drives me insane... Sometimes I feel like a freak as I don't know of anybody that can't self satisfy themselves... I do have orgasms when having sex with a partner, I have heaps of orgasms when having sex, so I know I can... Anymore ideas????? Powderpuff
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Mr_Invisible
16 years ago
Maybe you need a Hitachi Magic Wand
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RHP User
16 years ago
you're the girl who has vag and clit orgasms (re: your other post) so I'm still very envious of that alone LOL... I rarely have had vaginal orgasms and when I have, I've found it impossible to work out the reason and repeat it every time! If you have any tips on making that happen every time, I'd be very grateful :P I don't know what else to suggest, you say you have clit orgasms with guys? What do they do to get you off? Can you use that in any way? Also,try lying on your tummy, with your hand and fingers tight between your thighs. I often can't masturbate to orgasm if I'm lying tummy up.
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RHP User
16 years ago
hi powderpuff, it's good that you have worked out that you can have an orgasm, this means it must be a psychological thing rather than a physical one. might seem trivial but it is an important step. if you are really having trouble and it is clearly upsetting you then i would that is only going to make it worse. so my suggestion is that if it is bugging you that much maybe you should consider seeing a therapist, they would be able to help you sort of the mental block. good luck.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just like the guy whos cock wont get hard..so he stresses about it not getting hard...and it doesnt get hard coz hes stressing....I think you may be worrying yourself out of an orgasm.Try a couple of drinks first....or something else to relax you if thats what youre into...then try....witht the mental attitude that you WILL cum....that you CAN cum....and then it may happen.If you go into it already deciding that it wont work...then it wont!!Good luck!BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
and the other option is...let the fellas know of your problem...and that you have NO problems cumming when you have sex....then im sure you wont have to worry about trying to cum alone then!Hmm...maybe this was your ploy all along hey?? If it is....GREAT IDEA!!!!Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Powderpuff It seems that you already have the idea firmly planted that you cannot do it more than once. Have you tried seducing yourself, nice music, candles, some essential oils vapourising, maybe a glass of your favourite drop and close your eyes, relax and let you mind take you away and your fingers do the walking to speak. Anthony xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have a little toy, named Buzzy....kind of like a bullet.....it makes me orgasm even when I don't want too! Hence Andy will pin me down and attack me with the thing! Hehe Seriously though, I think the more you worry the harder it will be. My orgasms are better when in company than when alone and without my little toy I do find it trickier, but practice makes perfect. I have another toy...it is a double ended thing (dildo one end beads the other with a bullet in the middle) If you are a clit vag combo girl you may like something like this. It is very flexible and I find if I slide the dildo end into my pussy and hold the beads, angling it so the bullet is against my clit it only takes very little movement before I begin to climax. As Sophie says...try being on your tummy too. xx Sal
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have tried a few of the suggestions but failed-' Sofie' I was lying on my tummy with one hand and fingers doing all the right things from underneath, my other hand around and over my bum, with fingers inside my pussy but nothing... I have tried to do what a guy would do to me but nope, 'no joy' there either... It is so easy for me to come either way when with a partner, wish i could help you but i feel i can't suggest anything as ican't work me out yet!!! 'Miss BJ' - Very wise words as I might just be so stressed and putting myself under so much pressure to do so, that I'm already damned before I start... Popped a bottle of bubbles to relax had everyhting ready but drank the whole bottle and fell asleep!!! lol lol lol ps. I don't have any toys and wouldn't know how to use them either!!! porn really turns me on as i have started watching in hope it will inspire me or teach me... Powderpuff
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RHP User
16 years ago
Puffy if it is now a stressful thought maybe you need some extra relaxation. So the bubbles didn't work, well a little tote on the green stuff may do wonders. Now don't go getting off ya tree, just a puff or two then settle down in a situation where you feel ultra sexy. Take it nice and slow, if you need a top up a puff or two at a time. It can take the edge off whatever stresses you have and let the goodtimes roll. Now for me a puff or two more will have me curled up asleep so don't overdo it!Oh and if that doesn't work, don't worry, doing it with company is more fun anyway!Disclaimer: Puppy Inc. does not condone the use of mind altering substances whether they are legal or not unless used in small quantities for therapeutic reasons. And if anyone thinks ohhh drugs bad then they should flush all their prescription killers down the drain straight away as more people die from the effects of prescription "medicines" than natural herbs. Oh and if you think alcohol is safe then, well there's no helping you!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I suggest getting a good porn or your favorite porn,some lube and your favorite toy and enjoy the ride....try not to think too much about making yourself cum....and as puppy mentioned you could try some herbs,like damiana,yohimbe etc....don't give up,the journey will be worth it to arrive at your destination...
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RHP User
16 years ago
shes right you know, about both toys, ingenious.
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RHP User
16 years ago
bambi?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Bambi_blonde' I wonder, are you a clit or a vag jj gal?? Lets assume you're a vag jj girly... So I would suggest that you get yourself a toy, to make you feel more at ease you could even name him - say Bruce?!?! Make sure you're able to relax 100%, then bounce all over that bad boy like a crazy cowgirl!! Oil up those hot titties... Rub your clit...... Imagine you're kissing a hot blonde chick... And I swear to god, wham bam!! Before you know it, you're in Puff Puff heaven!!! Enjoy sweetie.... YUM... Now I have a hot wet pussy so I am heading off right now to put my "ralphy" to good use!!! Bambi..xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you want to get into this form of literature, try an author by the name of Anais Nin, she is the "master" of the form :-)) good luck PowderPuff! :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Powderpuf I appreciate many here have suggested physical aspects of an orgasm - however where is your mind when your going through these motions? Just the motions on their own isn't going to suffice, if your head isn't in a space which will create the full environment for you. Do you fantasies during these times, perhaps visualise a setting etc? IMHO your mind must be as aroused as your body is - in fact with little arousing the mind there isn't much chance the rest of the body will be. I am not professional on such matters, but I know I am most of fire when self satisfying when I have a visual or mental stimulus happening.
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RHP User
16 years ago
strange, I'm surprised no-one has mentioned it yet. Despite the common perception that Tantra is about sex, it is actually about experiencing the diving in everything, including sex. Therefore Tantric sex when experienced to it's full potential (energetically, rather than as a formula) is typically ecstatic and mind blowing.The secret to Tantric sex is virtually the opposite to how many people have sex. It's about deep, slow breathing, relaxing every muscle in the body (rather than tensing them to cum as we often do) and feeling the orgasmic energy move through your body. It's often best done slow, rhythmically and without all the gymnastics that we can get addicted to. Multiple orgasms are common and move through in wave after wave. It's all about connection to yourself and presence to the moment.The good news is, Tantric sex can be done solo :DIt's hard to know what the block is for you in orgasming alone, but it can't hurt to work on shifting the orgasmic energy through your body, trying something different, deepening your connection with yourself.You can buy books or have individual sessions or attend workshops via tantricblossoming.com. Check out the links to articles on there and also to Nityama's site, with video.Oh and for DIY clit orgasms, you can't go past a heavy duty massager - the motors in vibrators aren't strong enough for me so I use a double headed beast of an electric massager. Not very portable but soooo yum!Good luck and enjoy the journey xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes, privacy and the knowledge you wont be disturbed. Home phone off the hook, mobile switched off front/ back doors locked. If you have a powerful recall or former sexual situations in your mind that you can call on like a bit of a mini catalogue it sure helps! I have found erotic magazines or pornography (to my own taste) helpful prior as well. Its also a state of mind too. If youre anxious, tense, worried, even feel guilty that its YOU giving yourself pleasure and not a man (shouldnt be there at all) because if you did (for whatever reason even sub-consciously) its not going to work for you. I cannot really fully identify with the barriers you may be experiencing but i can fully sympathise. If I couldnt masturabate fairly regularly whenever i have strrong urges, i'd be rather stressed out. Hopefully youll find something/ situations that Work for you, whenever you wish to do so.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Powderpuff looks so hot in her profile photos that one would normally assume the exact opposite to what one reads here. Never ceased to be amazed how cruel life can be… Do hope you achieve this allusive dream… meanwhile enjoying every morsel of valued advise the kind RHP fraternity is offering. Brings out the voyeuristic instincts in me. With all this well meaning advice your aim dear Powderpuff will hopefully be fulfilled in the new year… now there's a resolution for you :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
If orgasm is so difficult alone .. is that a problem ? Maybe it's just your body . What happens if your on a deserted island ?
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am no professional, however it appears your issues are not physical ones. So can't help but ask where is your mind off to during those times? Mental stimulation is perhaps even more significant, especially for most women then physical stimulation. Let your mind run wild and see if that helps. Cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
according to your sexual and fetish interests, you need more than your nomal vanilla sex. take your imagination way beyond that, and let your mind drift to things you like to be done to you but you never had the courage to try them out. it will work
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RHP User
16 years ago
No one has mentioned the g spot... If you're having sex and you can have your orgasm but can't do it on your own, if i were in your shoes i'd try to get myself off via my g spot. Can't hurt to try, right? have fun ms. powderpuff
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