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Our children
April 25 2019
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horneycouplewa
7 years ago
Our son is 21 and he definitely doesn't know even though we go out a lot, however I have a horrible feeling he thinks I'm cheating on his father as I go out "with the girls !!" on Thursday nights, stay in a hotel and usually pick him up for lunch the following day on my way home. He has started asking a lot of questions :/ MrH and I need to have a conversation in front of him about Thursday's LOL Our 16yr old daughter certainly doesn't know but in a couple of years I think she might. She has an amazing young mind, all about equality and knows that I have friends that are cross dressers, we have talked about her doing their makeup (she is incredibly talented at it, too bad she's not home when I need to go out). Unless they bring it up I/we won't be have this conversation with them.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don’t make a point of telling my kids things, but I don’t go to any real effort to hide anything from them either. Age certainly makes a difference though, when they were younger I used to hide things which led me to spending way more time than I should have in my marriage. Now I explain that it’s important for me to be happy too, so I’m going to seek that out in life and chances are they’re going to see all sorts of relationships come & go...they seem ok with that, we all just kind of middle through together.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I love seeing you and your son together. It is very loving and beautiful. As for my daughter, it doesnt worry her about my lifestyle. She has stated to me as long as I am happy, then she is happy. She too has met several of my friends and lovers I have met here, so has my mum. I am blessed to have such an amazing and supportive family in supporting me in what I want to do. Ms Foxy PS One of my male best friends from here, flew interstate to take my mum on a date, while I went to an Ed Sheeran concert with his daughter. How cool is that!
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't have kids. I imagine if I did I would tell them though as I am pretty much a 100% open book. I've told my siblings and cousins a snippet of my lifestyle and they were understanding/mildly interested. The only people I would never tell are my parents as they are essentially the opposite of kinky: they are 100% orthodox, stereotype. They probably wouldn't shun me for it but that's just never going to be a nice eye-opening conversation for anyone. I think I turned to kink to get away from that insatiable dullness that my parents exude.
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Our kids are quite a bit younger than everyone else that has contributed so far... 9, 11, 14. We have been open with them about our non monogamous marriage..... age appropriately though. We have been open with ALL friends and family.... even The ones that don't agree with our choices. The 9 year old understands we go on dates, sleep overs and have guests at home sometimes and even catch up socially etc ... but is too young for sexual information. The eldest is fully aware and as we've got close friends who are poly that he's friends with their son, it seems rather "normal" to him. Any questions asked are always answered honestly.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I was away from home for a while last year and Wifey had the boyfriend around. My son was pretty upset about it and accused her of cheating on me. When I got back I had to explain that I knew and that it was actually me who instigated the open marriage in the first place, at 21 he doesn't want to know about it but has little choice but to accept it. 23 year old daughter is cool about and is pretty much out there in her own life style.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just dont invite them to foxys family dinner party lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have had the pleasure of meeting your son with you, and he is a gorgeous young man. I've wondered how you would feel if he ended up attracted to someone from the group, or getting into the lifestyle. My kids know of our foray into swinging and that I still post on RHP but they really don't want to know about the details, lol. They reckoned they already knew something was up when I told them years ago. I'm really no good at hiding that I am hiding something. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
We have had this discussion and he isnt interested in the scene. He has a lot going on in his life and lots of friends. But.....later on things may be different. I didnt get into this until I was 50. One day it might be something he wants to dabble in and as long as he is happy and stays safe then its his life. X
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kinky_and_bi
7 years ago
My boy is only 1yo so far too young to worry about for now. However I’ve always wondered how we would handle that conversation (or if it would even come up at all) that Mum and Dad are in a non-monogamous relationship. Thanks everyone for their contributions - certainly helps me with how I might approach things!
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RHP User
7 years ago
All our daughter knows is we are going to a party and we leave it at that no complications.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm with you Koko. I told my then 15 year old daughter when she started to ask some fairly insightful questions. I had always told her that I would want her to be honest with me even in circumstances where she might feel embarrassed and so when she asked it was clear how I should answer. I gave her an overview of my situation, skipping any details, and told her that we all have needs/desires. How we go about meeting those desires is personal choice and I simply asked her to respect my choice. Ever since then we have grown our relationship and she now comes to me to ask about all manner of things ("dad, what's rimming?"). I'm so pleased that she has the confidence and comfort to talk to me about her sex life (she's now 18) and I think that by trusting her to tell her my story has only encouraged her to do the same. Sex isn't bad or shameful, and the more we can talk about it the better we'll all be.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'Peachy We have had this discussion and he isnt interested in the scene. He has a lot going on in his life and lots of friends. But.....later on things may be different. I didnt get into this until I was 50. One day it might be something he wants to dabble in and as long as he is happy and stays safe then its his life. X I like to know you guys communicate so well. Peachy
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totally_normal
7 years ago
Most of our children are grown up with families of there own, as far as we know they live conservative married lives and it seems unnecessary to share the details of our sex life or our sexy social life. We have two single adult children back at home and it is more tempting to tell them so we can socialise at home, but at this stage we are resisting. They have all coped when we were single
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
My dog has stayed overnight with at least four different people I have met in this scene :p 🐕
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RHP User
7 years ago
At least you were Pup front
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Seachange73
7 years ago
I commend you for your open and honest relationship with your son. My boys don't know about my activities in RHP, yet. I've told them I'm on a dating site, so not really lying. However, I was never very much into the swinging lifestyle.and separating my RHP and personal life was not a stretch. I just ensure these two worlds don't collide. Lately, I haven't had much 'me' time since I've commenced' full time studies while running my business .
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JohnAnn2227
7 years ago
Our kids are too young (13 and 11) to know anything yet. We are all nude at home all the time so they see us warts and all and the conversation has come up regarding our lack of pubic hair and why. They have also asked about my labia piercing and I simply said I thought it looked pretty, much like my belly button ring and ear rings do. Our 13 year old daughter has talked about sexuality when the gay rights marriage debate was happening and that lead to an interesting discussion. She said that her friend at school has 2 mums and they are lesbians. She thought that was weird and couldn't understand why a lady would love a lady. I had to say that there was nothing wrong with it and that you don't choose who you are attracted to. The conversation went on with me eventually saying that they weren't weird as I sometimes find women to be very attractive as well as men. I didn't tell her I was bisexual but just wanted to let her know that it was fine to be attracted to who ever you want. When they were 7 and 5 they began asking why mummy wasn't home in the morning when they knew I had gone out the night before. This became awkward so John and I agreed that while we could both still enjoy an open relationship, we had to be home before the kids got up.My 13 year old this year came home early from tennis and caught me naked in the pool with one of our friends. Thankfully we had heard the door slam and we had stopped playing when she walked out. She wasn't surprised by our nudity as we regularly have these people over with their kids for pool days (they are also nudists). Friends of ours have a 19 year old daughter who knows that her parents swing and is fine with it. She was suspicious as she was looking for something to wear in her mother's wardrobe and found some of her sexy dresses she wears to parties and came out and asked them. She knows we do and has actually babysat for us when we have gone to a party with her parents.So would we actively come and and tell our kids when they are older? Probably not. Would we lie if they directly asked us? No we would tell the truth.
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