Playdate Foreplay

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It's not a RHP problem, it just sounds like people being idiots, trying to get off quickly on some pics/sexting etc and then moving on to the next target. Don't take it personally, there's plenty of people to enjoy and you'll know when you come across the real ones worth the time. I'm just speaking from my own observations and experiences. And clearly they are obviously missing out if they then choose to ignore the door that you have opened slightly for them to work their way in :)

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  curiousgirl35

  7 years ago

  For the most part i find the singles drop off pretty quick but couples or singles with fwb stay much longer and have intrigued me more. I guess they understand things take time more to a degree.

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  teamaj2

  7 years ago

  Hi Pip It’s great that you have taken the step to put up a profile . My main piece of advice is patience . We’ve found finding the right ‘ playmate or playmates takes time . As I’ve said before on forums , we all have different wants , needs , likes etc and it’s 100% ok to hold out for what feels right for YOU. No one can tell you what’s right for you . We too prefer to chat on kik and see if there is rapport and some sexual chemistry. We have found single men are a little impatient and want it now . They lose interest quite quickly. The ‘right ones ‘ will continue to chat and I’m sure it will be worth the wait. Good luck with your search . A x

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  FeistyFatty

  7 years ago

  Normal for RHP...... yes. Likely thinking you're just another time waster needing an ego boost spoon fed to them via the endless exchange of messages as opposed to meeting amd establishing a genuine connection. You're only a newbie, be patient, spend time on the vetting and you'll find someone that ticks all the boxes. Good luck x

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I'm not sure that I have the answer for you Pip... But I have similar problems. Completely different for males obviously.. And I have a very different situation from most people, in that I'm a very long way away from people on here. The closest people I've met were 400km away but 99% are 800km plus. Men often aren't interested in having a back and forth conversation... And really are only interested in sex...I guess they think on here they can get straight to the point... And not have to worry about all the getting to know each other stuff. I've found the opposite to be true... I find it very easy to meet women online on vanilla dating sites. I have face pics and an in depth description. I find they give me phone numbers exchange photos, phone sex (often the first day) and even though I usually have to wait weeks or months to meet then... When we do meet.. Always spend a weekend together and have awesome sex. The trouble is... These women are looking for a relationship and might not be into, threesomes non monogamy etc which is what I'm looking for. Something that happens in vanilla dating sites is... Attractive Women go online... get bombarded with generic messages from everyone between 20 and 60... Can't keep up replying to everyone,, and then start getting abusive messages and often get driven away in the first 2 weeks. On here I imagine it's very similar for women... But as a bloke... I find it very hard to find attractive women, and then when I do.. Everyone is so cautious... Won't give numbers or even go on Kik, I have face pics in PG... But I usually like a reply and something to indicate the profiles are real before I send face pics. There are so many profiles on here which are obvious fakes. I've met couples, but finding a unicorn I'm attracted to in SA is near on impossible, even though I have a very attractive And amazing lover (who doesn't want her photo on here) I know unicorns have the choice of pretty much every everyone on here and they get to choose whoever they want... I've spoken to unicorns interstate (pretty much everyone I've met is interstate) But finding anyone in SA is almost a complete waste of time. A lot of people want to meet people at events... But I can't get to events because of my location... The one event I did get to was cancelled after I travelled a long way to get there and then went to a very sexy venue which wasn't. appealing to me at all. So maybe you could try going to events with (or without) your husband. At least that's an option.... I made this a couple's profile but because my lover didn't want her pic on here, people immediately assume I'm a single bloke pretending to be a couple so I've just stuck with a single profile and still looking... Probably didn't answer your question... But if anyone has any ideas on where I could find an attractive unicorn, or a couple I'd love to hear it.

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Like to think we are free hookers. Often message " Watsup? I'm driving through your area now. Wanna hook up?" When they find out you actually have a job and are not available, they disappear for a while until their next road trip. The ones that want immediate hookups are usually married and have a window of opportunity where their wife has decided to go out with a friend or something. Nothing wrong with a bit of messaging and flirting. Yhe longer you message the more likely their web of bullshit will unfold. Message them in the evening. No response is usually because they are nestled on the couch with their loved one. Am l jaded much? Lol.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  From the perspective of a guy, the site is promoted to take money from men with the promise of quick wins. That clearly isn't how the game works and that may be where your problem lies. But persevere; I know men from here (through groups and friends of playmates) who take the time to understand if there is a mental connection and intellectual bond at play. I'd also say look at the quality of the initial message, how is it written? Is it a copy and paste job or is it personalised to you and what information is available on your profile? If so, you know they are more likely to have an interest in digging into your brain and flirting with you. I hope this helps and hood luck. Jason

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Sounds standard, whether you are on RHP or not. You may want to consider going to a swingers party or swingers club, possibly with a single female friend, as alternate way of meeting people in the scene and having fun. At least you will know then and there if they right for your purposes.

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  EarthQueen

  7 years ago

  Hi My experience is different. The majority of guys I met I have talked for at least a few weeks . Usually because they lived in Sydney . Then we met. I haven’t been ghosted for a meet on here once it was organised. Did the same as you chat, pictures etc. So keep looking . Possibly wait for a while and chat on here before you jump to KIK to weed out pic collector types.

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  SSExplorer

  7 years ago

  It’s an interesting site! As we live at least a few hours away from most connections and have kids, organising time to meet takes some planning. We move to kik to get to know people better and have some connection to help us justify leaving our kids for a weekend but find it rarely moves forward. Either people want more and more photos and when the photos stop the conversation stops or interest just fades before we can organise to meet. We have had a couple of couples we really thought there was something and they were keen as mustard but then suddenly they go quiet. We have had quite a few messages from single men and I must say some of them are really nice and happy to converse even though they aren’t on Mrs S’s want list yet. I’ve actually changed to considering a mfm thing would be less trouble and might be more enjoyable but as yet the Mrs is just focused on her desire for women. Some of our issues are our fault too, this isn’t our lifestyle, just an addition so maybe we want as much as the rest too 😋

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