F56
Playing without partners consent.
June 20 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Following to see if anyone will honestly reply to this :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
With that profile pic that appears to be glamour model Jodie Marsh, I'm not convinced you're sincere. Happy to apologise if I'm proven wrong though.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
possibly more than there are singles. I say it's their choice. BUT, dont take away my choice by not telling me that's what you are doing. It's not my place to judge but I detest being lied to and lieing by omission is just as bad in my book.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's called cheating. I don't want to hurt another woman so I ask a few questions. If things don't add up I don't go further. I also detest being lied to. Go pay for sex if that's the case. Or be honest if you can. There are women out there that are ok with being an accomplice. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
An inquisition.
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RHP User
11 years ago
in our experience, there are many many women doing it... We have played with women who have FIFO husbands that have no idea. We are not their moral guardians... It's their choice what they do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You deleted that pic. I stand by my comment though. On topic: Never, I agree with Lilly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Firstly..... sprung! Which leads me to say, secondly..... there are a range of reasons why people start topics in RHP. From genuine curiosity, to self advertising.... but this one made me think of another possibility...... beating the drum for private investigators.... ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The condemnation is...
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I wasn't gender specific either. You are making assumptions. I also wasn't condemning anyone. I clearly state it's not my place to judge but I can't make an informed decision without all the facts, it's me being lied to that I have a problem with.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP.....did you really expect the cheaters to oust themselves?
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RHP User
11 years ago
its not for anyone else to judge other than both parties. If you are going to cheat then at least own it with at least some ethics with your potential playmates (and ideally your primary partner ....) so they have the info as to if they want with someone who cheats and not be lied to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
MyselfAnd I have it listed on my profile, aware other guys don't though.WhyOnly married still as I have kids, whose welfare I put first( hence why no profile pic)Gave up putting the effort into my marriage after my wife had her 3rd confirmed affairJudge or don't judgethat my story
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not me. I mean who else would give me dating advice!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lilly78'There are women out there that are ok with being an accomplice. - Posted from rhpmobile This is gender specific to my mind...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' OP.....did you really expect the cheaters to oust themselves? I do have Mrs D's consent to outsource my sexual servicing, but I do it without her knowledge, and want to keep it that way. Bettina Arndt suggests being discreet when seeing someone else. Mrs D and I have had many conversations about our sex life, resulting in her giving me her blessing to seek sex elsewhere. Since I have found a lover neither of us have raised the topic again, if/when asked I will not hide what I have done. In the meantime I tell little black lies about what I am doing with my time. I believe she has some idea I've found someone and simply does not want know about it. It so happens that we are getting better now than we have in a long time.Think what you will, say what you will,it's not going to change me.My profile reflects my situation to an extent, it's a bit of a mish mash having had bits added and removed along the way. It'll stay that way until such time as I make time to rewrite it. In a nutshell I'm making myself available to those who would like what I can offer, and I will not impose myself on those who don't want to have anything to do with . It even suggests anybody interested get in touch with given that I may well not try my luck with them...
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RHP User
11 years ago
The OP is asking for those here without their partners knowledge or consent... You are upfront and open about your situation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' The OP is asking for those here without their partners knowledge or consent... You are upfront and open about your situation. I'm only halfway up front...to Mrs D
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RHP User
11 years ago
With couples. They dont care if their playmates are attached because at the end of the day they still have each other. I am looking for a FWB, and a single one, I dont want to waste my time with a married or attached guy? Or run the risk of his partner finding out and the feelings of betrayal it causes. Married people can do what they want for whatever reasons they have, and I know some have genuine reasons for looking for other playmates, but its not for me?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The only reason that play is fun is if its behind the back of the one you love most. Adds that extra zip to the proceedings if at any moment you have the chance of being sprung. Nor is it easy to bullshit and the only way to become prolific, like a second language is to practice, practice, practice. If the BS does not matter you will never get it to a state of perfection, so refined that not even one's self can know what is truth and what is lies. To cheat has so many advantages I will never understand why so many see it as wrong.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do you feel like you are cheating even though you have your wives consent?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If they are comfortable with living a lie and robbing their partner of dignity and choice. Sure go ahead. However if their partner knew and so had it in their power to choose to go elsewhere, also, themselves then I'd respect the cheater for not making a fool out of their partner. I DO judge because I know how foul it feels to be living as the faithful, honest partner. Worst bloody feeling in the world and if I'd known the situation I would have gone out and partied too. No more miss nice girl these days that's for sure and btw.. No more honesty - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Outsourcing sexual services? Wow...how could any woman refuse that!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Outsourcing sexual services? Wow...how could any woman refuse that! Welcome to the 21st century...outsourcing a sinister 21st century word if ever I heard one...Don't get too petty...or I'll have to F O
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RHP User
11 years ago
well if going forward you will be outsourcing sexual services I hope that you have set achievable KPI's for the monthly scorecard reports. I am assume that there will be a illuminating waterfall graph and a revealing pie chart.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' With couples. They dont care if their playmates are attached because at the end of the day they still have each other. I am looking for a FWB, and a single one, I dont want to waste my time with a married or attached guy? Or run the risk of his partner finding out and the feelings of betrayal it causes. Married people can do what they want for whatever reasons they have, and I know some have genuine reasons for looking for other playmates, but its not for me? Thats a pretty broad brushstroke! To say couples don't care if their playmates are attached? Some couples will ONLY play with other attached people to avoid complications and emotions. I know for a fact we'd never sleep with someone we knew to be cheating on their partner as we wouldn't want to be on the recieving end. I know at least one other couple who feels the same. To assume couples don't have a moral compass because we have a partner is a bit of a strecth i think.
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RHP User
11 years ago
mine was purely related to the poster who was male and married. I assume he was married to a female , and that's his gender preference my bad. At the end of the day having sex with another person whist in a relationship without their consent is cheating . No matter what ever you tell your self. You will find people from both genders willing to help you cheat/lie to your partner. No matter how you want to pretty it up. If you feel uncomfortable with this it might be that your moral compass twitching. I personally despise cheating and would want a bed mate to allow me to uphold my views not lie to me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' Do you feel like you are cheating even though you have your wives consent? I'm not sure what I think about that. I do enjoy the time I have with my lady friend...but I guess I do feel a bit bad about it...I do like my lady friend (with benefits) but I still love my wife, the sex is good but not fantastic. Meetings are few and far between...nothing's ever easy is it?I guess the answer to your question is yes...I think another lover would help me psychologically, but I won't hold my breath waiting for her to turn up. I took a few years to find one let alone think about another...I must confess I do enjoy bringing out my inner slut
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RHP User
11 years ago
There was a comment on another post from a couple saying that they preferred married playmates as there would be no complications. It was a generalisation but obviously didnt encompass EVERY couple. Youll get your bloody arse smacked next time I see you....cantankerous old git! xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'Youll get your bloody arse smacked next time I see you....cantankerous old git! xx and tickle?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' There was a comment on another post from a couple saying that they preferred married playmates as there would be no complications. It was a generalisation but obviously didnt encompass EVERY couple. Youll get your bloody arse smacked next time I see you....cantankerous old git! xx Yes many couples feel the same way. If everyone involved is commited to their significant other then it's honest. Its just fun and good times. Couples aren't that different from the singles on here. They're looking for some fun to spice up their life. Whereas some use this as a dating site, others (like us) use it to find potential playmates and friends. We aren't looking for the love of our lives as we already have found them (hopefully anyway). Most couples I've met would actually have quite a problem playing with someone they knew was cheating on their significant other as the issue of trust is a major one when in this lifestyle and if you can excuse your playmate from it, you may be opening the door for it to happen to you down the track. Honesty and open communication is the key to this we've found....if I was to cheat on Mrs3 then the relationship (in our case anyway) would be broken already, as I'd have broken her trust.
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PrinceCharmin69
11 years ago
Half the men on this websites are cheating and playing Single.. If they are here for a little fun is their business as long as they make you aware and the lady is fine with that.. If you are single why would you be in here and not out there meeting new people - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...... am I allowed to do that as an Aussie? ...... every one has their reasons .... some valid ..... some less so .... I have given up trying to be the moral adjudicator a while back as I figure to don't have to live in their skin ........ and therefore take people as I see them until I otherwise form an opinion. ..... but as a final thought ..... no one owns the 'rights' to another person ....physically or emotionally irrespective of the contract .... fidelity is a gift which 'you' choose....., or not - Posted from rhpmobile
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Plain280
11 years ago
Every time this subject comes up one person will bring up a truthful answer stating the reasoning behind there predicament.. What Jack explained is not the quickie, it is a considered and emotional issue at heart, that some here may or may not have happen to them in their life time. As a person in a similar situation who has written about my own journey down this path, I get royally pissed off when the heckling, unthinking, unhelpful answers start up.I accept that the Op is a bit suss, but I have nothing to hide. As for guilt bloody shovefuls for going outside of my relationship for this need to be satisfied, even though I have a pass with strict borders.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where's the fun in that? .... Would rather include him in on the fun... Mmmm many hands make.... Mmm for more fun 😜
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wife does not know. Because I am rebad and enjoy it
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm cheating on my wife.....I don't care...she loves it...actually she craves it......so I left her and picked up a younger woman....and I feel as though I owe my SS an apology for cheating on her with the colorado....but....I really don't give a toss what she thinks.....I'm happier now though as this lady wants to try mud bashing 😝
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I'm cheating on my wife.....I don't care...she loves it...actually she craves it......so I left her and picked up a younger woman....and I feel as though I owe my SS an apology for cheating on her with the colorado....but....I really don't give a toss what she thinks.....I'm happier now though as this lady wants to try mud bashing 😝 ... Mudbasahing ... now ya gettin dirty !
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Plain280
11 years ago
So the SS starts to backfire again huh when you upset it?!!
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