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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I think so..unfortunately for some reason she changed her mind..or was a man pretending to be a woman ,or she was married and never had any intention of meeting..who knows why but it happens ..I hope the next woman isn't so rude OP ..good luck xxFreya

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I'll assume for a minute she was genuine. It's not something I'd do personally, but I can understand how disappearing into the ether is easier than telling someone you've changed your mind. More often than not the dreaded "But why" question follows, that someone either isn't willing to answer or simply can't (when they're "just not feeling it" anymore). Worse, many women (and men) here have had an abusive response when they've turned someone down or been called time-wasters, make many of them weary. Hope that helps a bit OP. If your messages to this woman were respectful and not pushy, I think it's fair to say it was her, not you. I don't think it necessarily means she was rude however.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  This happens all the time. When I first joined my natural instinct was to blame my self. RHP can introduce you to a level of apparent rejection that is hard to find anywhere in the real world. Each such event over time though did me good. Rejection is now only a disappointment, I don't take it as personal, nor will I throw assertions. Now thanks to the many rejections I can focus on the my real insecurities not the superficial ones that made me so shallow.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It's a bit like spending all day cooking a beautiful meal for someone you are looking forward to seeing. And then they blow you off at the last minute. Just bad manners.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  At least you got stood up online as opposed to on an actual first meet. As the others said, don't take it personally.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Thanks for all your replies - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Hi Ian,This is quite an intriguing question. Several points come to mind. First, this lady may well have been telling the truth. If she was logged in on the mobile app on her phone, she would show as online, even though she was in fact, "crazy at work". Sometimes we ladies tell the truth :-) Your question as to her locked profile and inbox does suggest that she is shutting you out now. This may be a useful opportunity for self-reflection, and perhaps you should not view it negatively, as a rejection. Shall I elaborate? In order to help you out here. The lady in question may well have read over the messages you exchanged. Did you remember to ask her questions about herself, as part of the getting-to-know-you process? I do hope you didn't make the "I'll just talk about me and then give her my number," rookie error. She probably had a thorough look at your profile. She undoubtedly looked at your "friends". I know I would. One can learn a lot about a gentleman by the company he keeps. Speaking personally, and just by way of example you understand, I have a very vanilla profile :-) I would say perhaps your friend on your profile could by comparison - and certainly without a scrap of judgement - be described as 50 Shades of Brown. Now perhaps the very busy, disappearing lady felt that she was not quite as adventurous as you. Or perhaps not adventurous in the same manner? Perhaps she decided that a cruise of the islands of the Pacific Rim was a more appealing option the week that she blocked you. We ladies do like to do our research. And remember, there is nothing better than a home-cooked meal prepared by a talented cook to take away the bitter taste that this experience has left you with. All the very best, MissBabyBluesx </form>

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I never even questioned if she was telling the truth or not I had no reason to. Though they are good points to consider I don't take it personally as I don't hold any expectations I just take it as it presents itself to me 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  will take this as a time to develop - Posted from rhpmobile

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