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Questions...how many is too many?
January 21 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ok I am no the best person to answer as I have a limited experience. It all depends on the person and situation. Questions I ask at first are as open ended as possible.What interest you? - this can be taken in various directionsHow did you end up on RHP? Not much makes me feel uncomfortable but if the other person starts asking questions about my financial status.How many is too many?Hmmm tough some people can ask lots of questions and it doesn't seem to much but I do feel if you are asking via emails two or three is the right number as it is easy to answer.Now qualification statement...it all depends on:* how honest you feel they are* if they share a bit of themselves (information)* they seem interested in what you are saying * they give you a feeling that you are connectingOK all of this is off the top of my head might come back if I think of more.caioHermes
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would like to think I am like most guys here. I am fairly open with answering questions, even if sometimes I don't tell the whole story (they don't have to know everything or every detail do they). But I am normally hesitant in asking pointed questions to the women. I prefer letting them tell me, if I can garner their trust, they will, if not, well they have a reason not to tell me. After all, in essence I am a total stranger to them, I don't need to know where they live, what their home phone number is etc. That information should only be given once they realise I am not an axe wielding rapist! There are some things I keep hidden. I have got very good at describing what I do for a living in a detailed YET very obscure manner. That has nothing to do with trust, just common sense given the areas I work in. Same with financial matters - does it matter if I am wealthy or poor? mooka
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RHP User
16 years ago
Why do people have to be so intellectual about stuff? I just open my mouth and words fall out, especially if Im nervious. If none do, then I figure I've really got nothing to say. this can mean I feel that we have nothing in common.. or it means I'm mesmerised and can't get passed those beautiful lips. I mean, I can sit there pretending to be listening and look cheeky for ages... so it's no biggie... and women like to talk. Guys do to. If guys have nothing to say to me this can mean they feel that we have nothing in common.... or it means they're mesmerised and can't get passed my cheeky grin. See, guys really are simple creatures. It doesn't really matter what is said... whatever you have to say reveals something about yourself. Even if you are lying.. the fact that you are lying about that issue reveals something about yourself. It's an undeniable consequence of communication. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm a very laid back and open person so you can ask me literally anything. The only problem with that is that I'll always give you an honest answer... sometimes without engaging my brain first. haha. But seriously, I don't think anyone should rehearse a date or plan questions to ask. You'll learn soon enough what you can and can't get away with. It's different for everyone. What might offend one person may be totally fine for the next, and vice-versa. Just relax and have fun... Don't think too much or hesitate... it will just get awkward and uncomfortable. Let common sense prevail!! A mate of mine reckons he went on a date with a chick who was reading off palm cards in her purse... That's a little extreme... please tell me nobody really does that!
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RHP User
16 years ago
if I ask you what work you do in the first hour or so... it pretty much means I'm so bored I have already exhausted most other interesting topics of conversation... obviously work will come up as a topic eventually... but what people do for a living is often (but not always) the least interesting thing about them...there are so many other interesting things to talk about and discover :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
please don't ask me about my starsign. I feel silly, and it really won't tell you much about me other than a vague indication of the months my birthday might be (cusp of gemini and cancer).I ask what people do so I can look down on them if they're sub-par, being professional ;) actually if I do ask, its not because i give a crap about how much money you may make, or anything about your job itself - its because I've found you interesting enough to maybe have an interesting job or it gives an indication of your interests e.g. statistics professor, aerospace engineer, bible teacher, mauy thai instructor, etc.Would people be hesitant about asking what someone is studying at uni? same deal IMO.Anyway, like I've said before (and all the other guys are saying) I try not to overthink it and just have fun, I can't think of any hard limits on questions where I'll clam up and not answer.How many is to many? It depends on how you ask, if its rapid fire with a light shining in my face and you adopt a Gestapo officer voice then thats no good, but if it flows in with conversation then I couldn't care less.Basically, don't think too much, just enough - have fun and smile.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Submit your sexual CV for perusal.... Working on mine now...I'm going for the minimalist approach
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RHP User
16 years ago
Anything. None. No more than 20 questions (each person) between drinks.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Depends on the person and how much you already can tell from the profile. Some basically give you nothing to go on so you would need to tread more cautiously with the questions to avoid saying something wrong. Others you can steer the questions from what is on there. I'm not easily shocked and I've had some people tell me stuff they thought would shock me. Plus I'm open and don't mind any questions asked of me. So it doesn't really matter, although it gets a bit annoying talking to someone for a couple of hours only to have them say that they would never consider meeting someone from RHP, or online in general. Seems such a waste of time.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm not worried what i'm asked as i am pretty chilled too. The whole purpose of conversation with someone new is to ascertain what makes them tick. My problem is sometimes you just don't click, and funnily enough it is usually (Unerline usually) the very pretty girls that have never had to rely on interesting conversation, who end up boring the shit out of me. (All you beautiful women in these forums are obviously excluded from this category)When this smoking hot airhead begins the boring drivel, it becomes more of a sport than conversation, i will find their trigger points and do my utmost to get a reaction, just to keep me entertained.These conversations usually end up with me "being" a psychotic, seal clubbing, meat devouring, satan worshipping, hippy bashing, arsehole, just to get a rise out of them. This is leading me into another forum post. I think i better put my hand up as one of the genuine "Not Nice Guy"
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RHP User
16 years ago
for example, i have been helping a guy rebuild his farm after it was destroyed in the fires last year...we have put in 1200 fence posts...only 400 or so to go...woohoo...but in working with him, we have become friends...i see aspects of his life which i share...makes for interesting discussions...so if ya doing some sort of world service...tell them and then see what discussion entails...find out what she likes...she may like cooking...sudoku...her kids...libraries (hehe)...it should be a free-flowing...not one-sided...ya gotta be open as well as willing ta listen...cheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just have both parties fill out the standard BDSM Checklist.....it's all there !! hello ! LOL VeryBadDog. Woof !
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RHP User
16 years ago
hello all, 4 me what fuks me off is when they ask me to go on web cam, i say sure but face only, i dont do cyber sex, i love the real deal, so then i get on cam, then its wow your sexy cum on please take it off, please baby show me your boobs, cum on let my have a peak at your pussy cum on hun.......... OVER IT!!! jensta xxx
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amiira
16 years ago
What is this list you speak of, and where can one find it?lv Blinky xxQuoting 'BadBadDog' Just have both parties fill out the standard BDSM Checklist.....it's all there !! hello ! LOL VeryBadDog. Woof !
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RHP User
16 years ago
It amazes me how few questions people ask some times. They want to get to know someone but they don't want to ask questions for fear of insulting? WTF?! Bring on the questions!! There ARE NO RULES. The best people have a child like curiosity and question everything. Even better when they learn the art of open ended questions that lead to long interesting conversations that bounce back and forth hours. The favourite words I love to hear are "I could talk to you about anything" which is most certainly the time for the horns to come out and the conversation to change to more sultry topics of .... well you get the idea ...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey One bright star I got referred to your post by Dr Jean cause he said i asked too many !!!! WTF he started the post titled ask me a question ???? LOL I hate the question time.....boring...indicates a certain anylitical pidgeon holed sort of mentality. If i have chosen to meet the lad/gentleman/cpl its because we have laughed together online. Weve boounced off each other in chat. (He/she/they) have made me giggle, think, wonder. When we meet if i am not inclined to flirt with him and be mischievious or he cant tell im flirting with him, and has to ask me ...."so what do you think ".... its a pretty good sign that im bored/dead or we're going to need a defibrillator to make any sparks ! I trust my instincts...i feel my way around someone (hehe) There is generally something about them that intrigues me that i will discuss, not so much enquire about....I do however use trick questions....hehehehe just to check their story fits ! a girl has to look out for herself. Finances ?????? Why ?? Im not looking for someone to pay my bills for me. Employment ...maybe cause thats interesting and i love to learn about something new. As for professional vs non....nah ! work boots is just as sexy as a suit !! and i luvs both hehhe But its all about personality....sexy charming respectful polite cheeky confident teasing intelligent humorous personalities. oh and the buzz ...anticipation suspense and yeah that naughty dog does have a point about the list !! cheers miss b just luving the ppls lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
If the list goes and on it would bore me..You know what is your fav this or that 's !! Give me a balance of fun probing question unless i'm asking Eddy to lock it in !
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