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RHP thoughts so far!
January 22 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
Why not get a three month membership to see what it's like. I definitely wouldn't get an annual if I were you. IF you don't like the rat race and spending lots of time sending lots of emails perhaps this dating site may not best suit your style. Maybe.
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
on what you're ultimately here for.Being up north, you have a reasonable chance of actually meeting some people.Don't know what you mean about more men then women bitchin' in th' forums, as there is usually more women contributing in the forums then men.There are indeed more men than women on site - by a great multiple, so don't get complacent about the overall scheme of things. Membership is generally an automatic continual roll-over unless you actively stop it. There are steps for that. If you are patient, and don't feel entitled, or get abusive, and possibly get yourself known a bit through the forums, you might eventually get somewhere. If you're around long enough, there are usually state held 'meet and greets' - informal get togethers usually held at a local CBD venue. Up to you how you want to play the game. General advice is to take it easy and play nice. It could take a while - so it will depend on how you feel about that. Or maybe a bit quicker if you make your profile appealing and make an effort to contact. Tall
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Not long. Seems most guys recon that by 24 hrs they should have a line up of women gagging and throwing themselves at your feet.Wrong. The women and trans know what they want. They know what they don't want. They know how to do it. You put the effort in they can rock your world like you have no idea. But you need to learn how. Membership is the first important step. Reckon you can get by on the cheap. Good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps this 'dating' site? According to who?
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RHP User
9 years ago
There are a lot more men than women on here, but I suspect a lot of the men aren't really in contention. If they're guest members, or have no photos, or have a boring profile they might as well not be here at all. But if you have a bit of personality, if you only contact women you're actually interested in, and you put some effort into your messages it's fantastic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You are on the other side of the country. Sigh! A couple of comments about your profile, if I may? You mention you want to tick off the FFM scenario. I think just about every straight guy here and in the real world wants to tick that off their 'fuck-et' list. Apart from the obvious ;) You are very easy on the eye as far as I can tell. However, a lot of guys here are just as good looking and we women are a little spoiled for choice. What else an you bring to the party? Is there anything else you are looking for? Enjoy? Wish to experience? Expand... I am more likely to chat with a paid member as well. It means they are putting their money where their mouth is. They are serious about the site and what they wish to accomplish. I agree with Annie - you could get by on the cheap ;) Read profiles and get an idea what floats a woman's boat. Be polite and original when chatting - it helps. And don't get angry or rude if you are told no thanks. Good luck. KB
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I'd give it a bit longer than 24 hours. You can also buy a months membership to try it. I'm not a guy though so have no idea how hard it is for men. Your subscription will continue indefinitely unless you cancel it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...what you make of it. There is no ''one size fits all'' department and whilst the women are making a statement in a way about their own sensuality and sexuality, if you are looking for easy try your fav nightclub an hour before closing. Really drunk chicks might appeal but these ladies here are much more selective. Just my thoughts but the longer the journey...the greater the rewards. Best....... CM
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RHP User
9 years ago
Definitely agree with all views mojojo8 so far. Tall certainly nailed it. One thing to note that if you do become a member then that will be the only way to message any prospective lady's or other's unless they contact you first. ( Most women don't reply to flirts.) Being that you have just landed on the pie you'll soon find out who is who and how they respond to you within the forum's. Also like to point out that you will revert to a guest if you cancel your membership so your profile will still be up & searchable unless you ask it to be removed completly. Not impossible to attract someone as a guest if your profile is genuine, have a tasteful profile pic and private gallery. Being patient with other's responses is essential. If your rude or lazy within your messages chances are you won't get a reply. Good luck mate and welcome to the pie. It definitely is what you make it, There's alot of genuine nice people within it. And alot that ain't.
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
You've put yourself out there to be noticed, the forums is a good start that's for sure, you have a profile and a photo another plus. So I say keep reading, there is plenty of advice in the forums for new members.Being a member means you get to send messages, so if you stumble across a profile that takes your fancy, send a message, ohhhhh and you get to see the naughtier pictures. Read profiles, be respectful and don't be a tosser, participate in the forums, put yourself out there. I think you need to give it more than 24hours before you pass your critique on.💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
I get what you are saying about the forums and how that has put you off a bit but just remember, as it in life, you usually hear about people's bad experiences rather than good experiences they have had so don't take forum subjects as gospel. Whether you will have a lot of success depends on lots of variables. Your looks, age, location, how fussy you are with your requirements, what you are looking for, whether you are good with women and can express yourself well online. Some guys find it easy to meet up with others and others find it hard. Only way to see if works for you is to get a short term membership. From what I have read though, there is lots of hard work required in order to meet up with people. Lots of emailing with low success rates. I guess it's a numbers game but it definitely works for some. I know that people can have pretty wild experiences on here so in my opinion it's worth a shot. ITM - hook up site then. I said dating site as a generic term as everyone knows that people will use websites in the way that suits them best.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like most things in life it takes a little time and effort!! Buy a month or 2 , be genuine, be respectful and be yourself....sounds easy doesnt it?? I opened my account and never really used it much until recently due to a busy life. I am still in the process of finishing my profile and have found the people I've chatted to great to talk to...interesting, intelligent...cheeky (my personal favorite) and have started to become more active on reading and posting in forums. Im enjoying it and I'm not fully active yet. Ive messaged people and have got the dreaded no thanks...no harm done as that id there choice and I respect honesty. I respect even more that someone has the courtesy to say thanks but no thanks...good luck. Id still talk to them on forums, chats etc and be totally respectful. Some will like me and what i have to offer some won't...no different to life in general. Having said that I've also chatted to some really cool people who when I finally get back to Australia this week will be surely catching up with. Just give it some time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, that phrase off the login page gets missed by a lot of folks, i think. Maybe people miss it because they save the login details to their device. Whatever....but it's been relevant to me as long as I've been here.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've been a paid member for all of a week and I'm loving it. Sure, this certainly hasn't been a fast track to the bedroom but anything worthwhile always takes patience and effort. To be completely frank, I'm enjoying the chase even if my effort hasn't yet borne fruit. I've just started to pay attention to the forum and have been fascinated by the dialogue and stories people are sharing and am ready to start contributing. My only complaint (and it's really not that big a deal), is that I would love a polite 'sorry hun, not quite what I'm looking for' instead of seeing messages that have been read but with no skerrick of a reply. I'm guessing all these gorgeous people I've been messaging (and with serious effort too) are kept busy responding to people far more handsome than myself. It leaves me wondering if I should try again in a week or two, or if it was a closed door. Without even a simple template reply I guess I will never know. Just my 2c
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for the input so far people, just to clear few things from myself. It's not that I expected anything within 24hrs of joining, was just a statement of being new and my thoughts so far within the 24hrs. I will try to respond to most comments overall here, in one go. Hahaa Ultimately I was not fussed if I got what I was seeking, yeah I'm aiming for the typical ffm as something to experience, I have chat with many bi women and currently have something in motion. I have already done mmf a few times, back when I had a bach pad with the lads, sometimes we would meet women who wanted us all to give her a railing or nothing at all. I at one stage was rocking with a swinger couple for a few months, which was great, endless nights of pokeher and pools hahahaha they were loverly people! As for tv,cd, lb or anything along trans or gay scene, I know quiet a few never done anything in this direction but they are some wonderful characters and good quality company! As for respecting other people, they get what they serve, I will not sugar coat anything. I'm polite and respectful 100%, but I won't talk rubbish and will express openly how I feel. This don't mean I'm aggressive or anything in that matter that stuff is not in my lifestyle, I just like to speak my mind and be straight up honest. This to me is showing a great deal of respect for others, everyone has a choice to live how they want and do what they choose to, as long as nobody is getting hurt (involuntary-add that for u bdsm folks :p), ultimately it is your choice to make. Not others. As for memebership info, greatly appreciate the info and input there, not sure if I'll need it. But other thoughts on that are, I'm generally passive with my sex life, like kinda let my dragon have a hibernation for a couple of months (omg it's so hard to do but so worth) then head on out with an appetite that can not be satisfied for days, literally and then slip back into my everyday life, so the memebership area should really give a few days deal or something, for those like myself that just venture out on the odd occasion. But I'm saying that prob would not give most people enough time to connect more deeper. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
9 years ago
Yeah well said gentlemen. We've been paid members for a few years in this joint, guests for a couple years as well. It seems to be, if you have a want, a vision and feel (intuition) for the really real folk, the dodgy type and of course the head scratchers....you can have a dabble and pursue just about any sexually explicit sex act with who ever is up for it, if you feel lucky, but one may believe ' we make our own luck, so good luck. kbdwizdave, you may get lucky if crossing paths with any wizbangers :). Yeah, no but fair dinkum, if you think it's fair to think of it in it's way for thoughts sake and perhaps save doing some of the head miles, there is this.... if we are feeling toey, leads to feeling lucky, then we may go into our messages and read, re- read some for the chances with getting up to mischief, right there and then and there you have it.Patience is a virtue One other thing... Tara likes to look at the guys who smile in the pics ;) Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mado, just checked out your profile. You two seem like a hoot. I reckon I'm gonna have to put up a ride-on mower pic just for giggles. As for the wizbangers, there's plenty of magic in my wand!
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On_Safari
9 years ago
The Fora is only a small representation of the greater Pie World but if you can make yourselves known favourably here than chances are you'll make friends you'll eventually meet. Get invited places, travel for parties and generally find a niche where you have others to run amok with. Enjoy your adventures ~ Indy On Safari
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RHP User
9 years ago
yes and that's why they call it 'redhotpie' and flash around raunchy pictures and promote it in a sexual way, including activity supporting, financially and otherwise, sex clubs and sex parties, I don't see them promoting dating, purely sex from what I've seen. Regardless of what they promote, it's a well known swingers sex site, you know that, everyone knows that. But I'm not getting into a debate with you or anyone about it. Candy clarified, it can be whatever we want it to be, simple as that, but the majority of people would be looking for sex in whatever form, when they come here, not to join a local cwa group for cups of tea on a Wednesday
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RHP User
9 years ago
if it's a dating site, I must have missed that brief, I haven't been on one single date since I've been here, plenty of sex though like to get straight down to it
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RHP User
9 years ago
wait for a heavily discounted membership period, the membership is on an auto-renewal, so after your contracted period ends it just charges you at whatever the monthly rate was - but you can cancel it any time after the contract. So if you got in at a heavily discounted amount then it would continue going forward.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You can still go on a date with people you fuck you know. It's actually a lot fun. Rather than just wham bams all the time. Nice to mix it up and usually depends on the other person too. I had a FWB who no matter how hard I tried to get him to meet up for a hot quickie - nope. We always had to go on a date first. Damn men and their principles. 😝
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hook ups are pretty much one night stands - even if you have more than one ONS with the same person. FWB which most people appear to be looking for is the same as casual dating. Just diff terminology. That's how I see it anyway.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sounds great and all, i love the sound of invites and places and running amok. But I generally don't have a lot of free time, is why I reserve my self and hold out to go on a wild adventure. Gold Coast is great, most people I meet are out in the real world, but never that extra spiciness like a couple etc generally is most often 1-1. Mostly meet at the beaches, as I can't go a day with out a surf. In saying that, is generally just random fun, but mostly leads to emotional side of things which kinda scares me tbh, I'll forever be spirited! I don't lead anyone on or give false impressions, even if stated before not wanting a relationship after few meet up claws try to get dug in and I dislike it. So when I was told about RHP, I though might end up with something different and those more on a emotionally controlled level. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Took the words out of my mouth... I hate not having instant posting! C'mon Mods, you know from my Astrild profile that I'm good for it!?
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RHP User
9 years ago
After seeing " casual dating". Ive had loads of great dates as well as nights and weekends away. Its up to the individual how you use the site. But I prefer to have sex with someone Ive met and actually like.
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'ElkeM' Took the words out of my mouth... I hate not having instant posting! C'mon Mods, you know from my Astrild profile that I'm good for it!? But are you always good for it ??? Tall
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' if it's a dating site, I must have missed that brief, I haven't been on one single date since I've been here, plenty of sex though like to get straight down to it We all know you didn't miss the brief - you just went for the most direct 'route'. Tall
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I feel sad reading your post....not one of the men you've met, has offered to take you for a coffee, lunch, movies, dinner etc as in go on a date/outing of some sort?? Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I feel sad reading your post....not one of the men you've met, has offered to take you for a coffee, lunch, movies, dinner etc as in go on a date/outing of some sort?? Ms Foxy I guess she did say she preferred sex over the social aspect. But i also suppose that many guys are suggesting coffee/drink/dinner/flight to bali (lol.. whats that all about) ... as a soft sell when they're really pointing their penis at the bullseye.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Thank you, for telling me and others how they should or should not feel. 😕 If I want to feel sad, I will. It's not up to you...is it??? Sorry, I didn't think posters needed your permission first. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel like you missed the intent of Foxy's post there. Rather than being sad for anything anyone might or might not want... I felt it was more aimed at the men's potential attitude... but of course, if no contact outside sex is what is what someone wants, then that is what they should gets. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd say I'm good for it 99% of the time 😀
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Claws huh.....(smirking) I got proposed to tonight and laughed saying "You don't want to do that really, I know I don't!" Maybe in time I'll change my thoughts on the matter but then....I don't think so. I guess it's all about where the women you meet are coming from, going to and how much baggage they're carting with them. Personally I think baggage is something you put in the trunk of your car. As above I appreciate time is precious, that being said you can still find time to party, run amok and have some fun. A meet and greet sounds perfect for you. A good way to meet many in a short space of time and create potential "time permitting" interests 😎 I'd message you privately but I'm not financial here and only get 1 message/mth. Lol maybe next month!! Again I welcome you here, pull up a pew and have fun sorting the shit from the clay ~ Indy 😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
And one person's trash is another person's treasure. I respect your take, thanks Summer for your pov. Peachy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Yes, that's exactly how my post was meant to read. Anyways, I feel it's rude talk discuss other posters in front of them like they are not in the room, so I am ending further more discussion about my post to I Touch. She doesn't have to answer/reply, if she does not want too. It's her choice. :) OP- Hope you find exactly what your looking for. Ms Foxy x
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RHP User
9 years ago
Awesome come back , very funny 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Claws are good but not the i want to koala bear, latch on forever type. I'm pretty solid with my personality and appearance, as in won't change just to suit someone for what I desire, I do it my way! She wants a coffee or a dinner, yeah that's fine but she can pay for her own. I had a girl this one time I had to pick her up, take her to dinner (on avg $400 pp to where I was treating myself at the time), then drive her home, this was kinda all ok, I drew the line when I did the simplest of thing, I opened the car door and not even a thank you, it was expected that I had to do this, so I drove her to McDonald's and got her a soft serve for dinner then took her home and boy was she angry, since then I won't pay for nothing but my own, as far too often I find it is expected of me and not a treated gesture for them. Being ask to marry, that's a massive call imo, not something this rubber duck would ever do, but that is just me. Baggage in other aspects, for myself I care not for. It's all about the adventure here and now between those involved, nothing more nothing less. Time is precious, once I'm on the job again it is 24/7, literally I will also be doing type ups and research after hours at home all the time. That being said my though time to move on from here is coming, I resume my work early next month and I'll disappear from the grazing fields and back into the tornado of society. Thanks for the welcome and offer of a seat, however I guess like I was told as a child still remains the same "can't you stay still for 5 minutes"? No need to sort out sht n clay, you don't become as cool as this cucumber without learning a thing or two! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
As a couple it shits us when we get a message from a guy who only addresses her we are a couple and want to enjoy this together make the effort and you will see it counts for a lot - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well said, I could imagine that to be annoying. Forgetting about half the party, that's not cool bananas! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' if it's a dating site, I must have missed that brief, I haven't been on one single date since I've been here, plenty of sex though like to get straight down to it We all know you didn't miss the brief - you just went for the most direct 'route'. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'staytogetherplay' Awesome come back , very funny 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
it's my choice, I like to go straight in to sex, I'm very horny and not always appropriate in coffee shops to be, well you know I turn down dates usually or suggest we meet straight away for sex lol so also suggest you keep your 'sad' for me comments to yourself, thanks I'm cheap I don't want to waste a second, but then not many women are like me that's why they come back, so Candy, no very few are once only encounters, if they are, the sex wasn't good, so best for each to move on and find someone more compatible, you can also keep your snide remarks to yourself thank you
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RHP User
9 years ago
lol just lolI do wonder whether other women are actually horny or most times wanting a relationship, I think the latter, though they will never admit it. Those of us who don't are mocked. And the comeback remarks will be more respectful going out on dates blah blah I could spend 2 hours sitting in a restaurant with him, costing money and the all important time or an hour touching and doing things to him mmm I don't usually get any complaints, except from the women on here, even talking about sex seems to offend, funny that
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RHP User
9 years ago
I meant spend 2 hours touching and doing things to him, minimum, much longer is preferred I'll just grab some popcorn, few due to show up any minute now, group decision to go the throat, or group decision to ignore, what will the sheep decide today, quite 'sad' really
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I'm happy you answered. ☺ I understand. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is that one size fits all. We all use and adapt the site for our own needs. No one is wrong in how they use it, its personal preference. My preference is to meet someone first. Ive met a couple of guys that were obnoxious and rude and there was no way I was going to let them near my body. I like to meet first first, whether its coffee, a drink, dinner, whatever, to get to know the person behind the profile. I find that if you have a connection then the date is full of anticipation and leads to some mind blowing sex. And yes, they come back again. So whether we use it for hook ups, dates, discreet affairs, swingers events, whatever, its not up to anyone to say that its wrong. Going by the the ladies posts I think we are all quite happy about how it works for us xx
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Safe travels and happy adventures....👍🏽 ~ Indy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'mojojo8' I had a girl this one time I had to pick her up, take her to dinner (on avg $400 pp to where I was treating myself at the time), then drive her home, this was kinda all ok, I drew the line when I did the simplest of thing, I opened the car door and not even a thank you, it was expected that I had to do this, so I drove her to McDonald's and got her a soft serve for dinner then took her home and boy was she angry,I may be completely of track here but am I to assume that the lack of response that ticked you off was on the way to your favorite show off place ? Did nerves and her concern for the other million useless things that go through a woman's mind at that exact point in time not enter your mind. Or was it after the meal (still a lot of shit going on up there ) that you treated her to desert? Or did you buy her an ice-cream - then go to your show off place - followed by a good wank at home?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I came in late and the only popcorn left was on the floor.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Firstly, I only just read the page one comments following your comment to me, and only read that one yesterday. I'm hardly on here anymore, I'm on 2 other sites and life has taken over, so don't assume people are on here 24/7. I hadn't even been back in to this topic, so the inference of guilty by absence, is ridiculous 👎 I wasn't wanting to come back on here at all until I read your comment, and the cycle starts again. I think Summer nailed the intention (my apology, I missed that) of your post. Belittling is the word I couldn't find but absolutely that's what it was. Bit like being called a slut. Should any of us be ashamed of our choices, our sexuality? I don't want to be like you, and you shouldn't want to be like me. We're all individuals and jealousy comes through in your snarky comment. Sorry, plainly obvious to everyone. Time to regroup. Just get on with being happy, but whether you do or not, I am and you can't change that, so why try? You seem to be making me a target, why? If you're happy in yourself, which you claim you are, why would little 'ol me, be a concern to you 😉 Also like to apologise to Summer and others through inference for things I said, things I have said, things I'll no longer say. Disclaimer: can't be responsible for what I've said today already 😂😂😂 coffee brewing as we speak
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nah it was not my "show off place", don't have such things, was just going to a restaurant that I had recently discovered and was amazing food and was hitting it a couple times per week, as I do till I'm over it. Didn't even have the dinner, I wanted go the soft serve and see the reaction, to validate my assumption of expected vs appreciated. I never took her back to my house or anything of the sort, just simply dropped her back home no wank had totally lost interest also she was really pissed off. She wasn't nervous etc, In my line of work, Behaviour and Neurology research sciences. Unless openly saying they want a sugar daddy etc, a lot of girls are too spoilt for choice in guys, with this comes things to be expected and and lack of appreciation. I like to think I'm a genuine chill nice guy, but as I've mentioned before, with respect they get what they serve. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We were members for a while and are thinking of joining again for 3 months. Our advice is just to be totally honest and upfront in your profile. Rob & Kaz - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have no way of contact other than by flirt n it's frustrating! I can't get on chat n I can't afford the expensive fee for a month 😫 - Posted from rhpmobile
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