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Raising the bar

September 21 2015

Do you find that as you climb higher on the age ladder, your needs and wants in a partner and relationship change completely compares to when you were younger? Do you also raise your standards to a higher level because you now have a clearer concept of what you want in life and in a relationship? I have certainly gone firmer on what I seek and what I want in a partner as I age, and I won't be compromising my standards for the second best! Even when I am on RHP looking for a short term companionship. I cannot remember when was the last time I had met someone off RHP and I am in no rush to meet anyone any time soon either. After all, quality wins over quantity all the way. - Posted from rhpmobile

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aussian43

10 years ago

If anything, I have found I have been lowering the bar. Of course I am just looking for some fun, not a serious relationship. However, setting rigid limits on who you might hookup with might mean missing out on some amazing encounters with some wonderful people. For example, I met a lady on here 11 years my senior, and who at the time had her foot in a cast. Despite the age difference we had a great time. My only regret is not getting down there to visit her again. - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

10 years ago

I'm getting close to the top end of the ladder and yes the past looks a tangle of compromise. Opportunity has arisen to take the chance of raising the bar so i will give it a go. And if that fails, well i enjoy my own company and will be happy in myself that i tried. At least i won't die wondering. Annie

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RHP User

10 years ago

I think that I just want to sit on this very high rung for a while...I can't see anything much on the horizon but the rest of the view is just fine xxFreya

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Tall74nHard9

10 years ago

people their views will change, and for others their views will refine. It all depends on what base you were starting from. For those that are wise enough, you will always learn more as you climb up that ladder. Tall

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RHP User

10 years ago

Anyone new was fun when I was young, now I want someone in particular. But that could just be my ovaries talking, sneaky little fuckers get the better of me more and more lately. Somehow they've even convinced me to go off birth control, all they need now is the right irresponsible guy and 2 bottles of champagne... *deadbolts the front door*

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RHP User

10 years ago

I find that I am more familiar with myself (the good and the bad) and as you get older you start to want to connect with others that share your values, can be trusted to help push boundaries you may have been afraid to push before, and are prepared to live more authentically. I am are also more aware of picking those partners that are not good for me and avoiding. When I do connect with someone my age now it is a deeper soulful experience and that is precious. Oh, and sex lasts longer now :)

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RHP User

10 years ago

I believe that as we age we discover more and more our value. Our value that we contribute but also the value we also perceive to receive. We have a lot influencing us on what we should be thinking or doing...but at the end of the day we all gain learning through experiencing what life is all about...and it is with that to put it simply, I believe that our perceptions not only of ourselves but that of humanity change and grow.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I've raised my standards too much, which I know I won't change, it is what it is and I'm fussy. Does leave me with dry spells though, but I always have my bullet vibe Mainly because it's so disappointing to go through the process of all the communicating, trying to get decent pictures, that's a challenge in itself, to finally get to the point where you feel comfortable going ahead, a lot of boxes have to be ticked, there's nothing worse than ending up in the moment and not being into it. I'll never let that happen again, all or nothing for me. The best for me is getting a call from someone I've been with before, where I know the sex is incredible and I trust the guy, it's quick, 'you horny, yep get over here' or straight from the beach, shower when I get there lol I love that. I once sent out an SOS for sex from the beach to 3 guys, 2 of them I hadn't even met, the other was a regular fuck buddy. One of the new guys responded, swung by and picked me up on his way to see a client, I won't repeat the story, I've said it before on another thread, but there aren't many guys I'd do that for now, though I'd definitely do him again, nearly happened a second time but fell through, dayam sorry, got off topic there, horny, might go and have a cold shower

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RHP User

10 years ago

My thoughts on this matter have never really changed. Always looked for someone with similar values and life ambitions as I have my own way of being I suppose and it is not easy finding someone who compliments that. Probably should have moved around a bit that could have helped no doubt. It is only recently that I decided bugger that I might just enjoy some company for the time being.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'CravingTouch' Anyone new was fun when I was young, now I want someone in particular. But that could just be my ovaries talking, sneaky little fuckers get the better of me more and more lately. Somehow they've even convinced me to go off birth control, all they need now is the right irresponsible guy and 2 bottles of champagne... *deadbolts the front door* That's why I got a vasectomy !

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RHP User

10 years ago

In some things I have become less tolerant, rascist bigots "phobes" and other morons but then I now like men too and people a bit larger than size 10 so yes, swings and roundabouts. However I do think some people raise there standards so high they don't have to meet anyone.

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RHP User

10 years ago

You crack me up ! 👍😃

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sweetgem

10 years ago

For your time given to respond to my thread. Your inputs are well received and appreciated :-) To me, there is no right or wrong, good or bad, that one has raised or lowered their standards when it comes to seeking a sexual partner, or a lifetime partner. It depends on what the individual likes and what fits in with their values and belief. For me, I have certainly raised my bar to a higher level (but not unrealistically high) because I value qualities a lot and one of them is RESPECT! Which I do not see in the messages I received in the last fortnight! I believe, without respect, we are no better than a four-leg creature! Therefore, for those who have intentionally sent me those rude messages, please be assured that you are only showing your level of intelligence and nothing more! :-) Happy hunting everyone :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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