Recovering from Serial Cheaters

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  EarthQueen

  6 years ago

  Nemesis Feel your pain. I’ve tried extremely hard to get past my marriage breakdown. I’ve done so much work on myself but I just feel there’s a part of me thats broken by it. Not the act of cheating so much, more the aftermath that someone you love can lie repeatedly with seemingly zero remorse. So now when I date there’s a little part of my brain that’s always in fight or flight mode. It stops me from allowing myself to develop greater intimacy. So it seems doomed to failure on my part. I’ll keep trying but I’m just not sure it’s fixable anymore.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  6 years ago

  No, because it is up to that person to make the choice, not you or what you want them to do. The other person needs to sort out their own shit first. One can not force another into a relationship because it is what another wants. Trust is earned, not freely handed out. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  "The very rare men who do not want to cheat on their partners, value their relationships, are loyal and trustworthy''... it's a shame that you feel that way about men OP. I would say that most men tick those boxes, as would most women. Most relationships fail for reasons other than infidelity. I can see how, if one has had a number of partners cheat on them, that they would start to think that infidelity was the rule rather than the exception. It isn't though. I have known many women over the years that have had their partner stray. I have known many men also who have had the same. I know a few people who are simply attracted to the wrong type of people (I'm sure everybody knows the type); there was one friend of mine from many years ago who was famous for his bed-hopping ways and yet when one woman ditched him others were virtually lining up to be his next. He is still like this to this day, and I don't know how he simply hasn't run out of options given that he lives in a small town - but he is still considered quite the catch.

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  Hanna_ybbn

  6 years ago

  I agreed to a date with a 'man' once. He then spent the entire meal explaining exactly why it is a man's DNA to cheat. Really? Next.... Last time I checked - I was 46, not 4.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  6 years ago

  Why would you be held responsible or blamed for someone else's fucked up behaviour or compared to other women????? Is this just your thoughts Nemesisrising? 🤷‍♀️ Ms Foxy

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  Mask_007

  6 years ago

  As EQ. Did got divorced due to my ex wife cheated on me. I would say EQ, you are a fantastic women, his lost. In relation to my ex, is her lost no my. Now as single guy, still don't like the idea. Just had to understand, wasn't my fault. We are all adults, and make our choices in life.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Sorry to hear how you are feeling.... I just think fuck them, I dodged a bullet and I am worth a hell of a lot more than some dickhead disrespecting me, themselves and the relationship. They're the ones with the issues, why lose your power them. You girls are incredible! Dont let their behaviour effect you another second. Remember.... Its not about where you have been, it's about where you are heading and being that amazing person you want to be! 🍃🌻🍃

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Apologies to the guys, I know a lot of men are good guys who are loyal and would not cheat didn't mean to put so many in a box and label it. Generalised comment only. My husband cheated on me and I guess still a bit raw...….. My comment I guess on comparison to other women and being held responsible was something I was feeling. Women and men who have been cheated on more than once would possibly feel that all of the opposite sex were the same no matter how nice the person and maybe its just a pattern of behaviour on their behalf as they have a big issue trusting anyone. Sad state of affairs in any case.....

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  AnnieWhichway

  6 years ago

  A lot of married guys that have strayed my way have been really bad fucks. Could it be that they are so average that wifey has shut up shop in disappointment and accidently leveraged him onto unsuspecting others. I mean to say, cheaters, if you are going to fuck everyone around, at least be competent with your sex act. I guess as part of this performance issue, the wife is forced to seek high quality performance elsewhere and therefore contributes to the OP topic. I should probably refrain from dissing the male population as a blanket problem but the facts are there and I'm pretty much over the effort l put in and the miniature reward in return. So OP, you can diss the female cheaters but it most likely caused by the males. See what l did there.

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  On_Safari

  6 years ago

  Your fuck from the other night who attempted very poorly to slut shame you was an obviously stunted individual, his issue not yours as for the 1st man of the weekend, he obviously wasn’t MAN ENOUGH to equal you. Don’t fret girlfriend, we all screw a few shrews before coming up trumps ~ ❤️ Indy xx

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