M47
Reflection
September 23 2019
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horneycouplewa
6 years ago
Forgive me as I've been indulging but Ill do my utmost best to respond (checking spelling between hiccups) As a avid forum reader and sometimes a participant for near to 6 years I have learnt many things, updated our profile and pictures along with many things from here, it has been an amazing experience in here and I still continue to learn and enjoy the topics and comments. IMO it's difficult to respond to those who I/we/whoever know they are fake profiles, we (or they) can pick the fakes a mile away. OK maybe jumping the gun and a little intolerant but to honest usually with just cause, comes with experience...I guess (said under my breath lol) Personally I think it's better than before, However, for the newbies it is difficult as they want to learn just as I did, and as a newbie you don't know how to scroll through the forums and search for a topic ( >>>blonde here fucked if I knew) I've had my fair share of bitching at me in the past because I didn't clarify my wording correctly, so to answer your question no it wasnt easier back then, fuck em....read it and see no malice from me intentionally. Trust me if you piss me off I'll let you know..... ohh the biatch left ages ago, go figure !! Is this really the real world ? regardless I get what your saying or trying to say but NAH, we choose who we fuck, we have the right to say no, we have the right to be who we want to be and do what we wish in this lifestyle and we all have the right to have different opinions, it's how we say it...I GET IT ..refer to above, i don't bother replying in here to what I assume to be fake profiles (shoot did you just get me ? meh didn't look actually)...rather giggle at others reactions . So to finish my ramble, your topic was well.........negative but well written, shit I sounded judgemental then..jest :) Cheers MrsH xxx
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curiousgirl35
6 years ago
Only been on here 2years but I think you could be onto something. :(
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RHP User
6 years ago
Great question...I first joined RHP about 7 years ago and was on it for about 2 years, I was single and very keen to experience my sexuality and my sexual experiences. Met some awesome people and had lots of fun, I have only been back on RHP for the past 8 or so months and still meeting some awesome people and had some fun. But its a very different now then it was when I first started, and not in a good way. It's hard to explain how its different, it has always been a hook up sight so to speak and always been about sex but it was more respectful and genuine. I feel people back then although were looking and wanting the same outcome as they are today the way people went about it had a classier feel.. but you have to remember even as short as 7 - 8 years ago sex and swinging and bdsm and 3somes and 4 somes and any other sexual fetish/fantasy was still a "private" thing, people didn't just announce their sexual wants and desires, sex, sexuality and life in general has changed. We now have gay marriage, 7 years ago I doubt if the vote was put to the people it may not have been a YES, seems these days its the norm for people to talk about and be open about just about anything they want. RHP is still a better sight for Hook ups etc then the meat markets of Tinder and POF and the like. Sassy x
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mr Dragon here... Years ago when I first joined, which would be about 9 years ago or so.... The discussion topics were far greater broader in the sense we would talk about real issues...not “what’s wrong with my profile?? I’ve been here 2 days and no one has messaged me yet!!” We would talk about suicide, safe sex, and other topics that affected our lives as adults.... Yes we would brawl at times and call each other dickheads, dumb fucks and geese...but no one ever really took it personally...unlike today’s congregation where such deep topics and hardened skin are avoided in favour of being outraged and offended....there was no real need to remind people that a differing opinion didn’t make you an arsehole, and someone calling you an arsehole isn’t really hating you....we never needed to reassure people that they are loved constantly.... Nowadays we have to censor topics in case someone gets offended, and we are required to reword our opinion based upon someone else’s likes and dislikes... Has the place gone to shit?? Nahh, but it has changed and evolved like any other society and congregation of adults...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ahhh you get that!!
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On_Safari
6 years ago
I’m not here often anymore, used to be a prolific forumite 10years ago and don’t post often enough to have IP (instant posting) anymore which is fine since “real life” takes priority these days. Yes the forum used to discuss so many more deep topics, social issues, life experiences and situations without anyone getting hung up or judgemental. The same topics around BBW, squirters, cut or uncut, profile pics and all that were still happening but overall the community was generally that “a community”. There were bickerings and arguments, place any group of people together and eventually there will be disension in the ranks. Look at reality TV? 🤷🏼♀️ it’s not just sex that sells and the Forum is the same. I miss a lot of the old “posters” who were here back then, Meeka, Lady Tuscan, Subgal, PaintMe, JayJay, Wingman, Funlover, Kizza and crew. They brought a lot of diversity, learning, controversy and downright laugh my guts out fun and games BUT we still have some of the fun lovers here, MischeviousLad, Cavey and OB1 at times. I think the forum is only as fun or good as the people posting, I think if fewer people left their egos or misconceived ideas of their own grandeur at the door and set aside their gripes and judgements it could become humorous again. Granted I only visit periodically nowadays I still see a lot of new people and profiles who genuinely have put a lot of thought into their posts and topics, so all is not lost. Maybe everyone could just lighten up a little and remember that whilst you might think your popularity scale is through the roof here it still gives you no right to trounce all over other people’s input. It took me a little while to get my brave on and post in the forum, I’m sure others may have the same hesitation given how well some here know each other. I do highly recommend giving it a go AND going to the forum member organised meet and greets. When they started years ago I couldn’t wait to get to one! I remember it was like seeing all the comic book characters coming to life! 😂😊 I was soooo happy that weekend. Met a couple of the forumgirls at the Brody airport where we nearly missed our plane talking so much at the bar and the Hosties (and the back half of our plane) were hanging on every word and laugh and the Hosties poured us out on the tarmac in Sydney all giggles and excitement! We booked a 4brm suite where a dozen of us stayed together and the girls all bought mini vibes with remotes and at the pre-dinner we put all the remotes in a bucket and the men got one each and had to figure out who they were driving!! Meeka organised an en masse trip to CC’s the same night which for a lot of us was our first sex club trip 😂 honestly it will always be one of the best weekends of my life and one where I’ve made lifelong friendships. The fun is still here, I think some of the long termers should reflect on their fun times and remember THEY are the Ambassadors for Experience here and potential creators of joy and inclusivity NOT the only ones who have a valid opinion/question/fetish/interest. Good topic OP and thanks for the memory 😘 ~ Indy still loving my Pie Family
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On_Safari
6 years ago
When I joined Sept 2009 there were about 580,000 Australia only profiles from memory 🤔 now it’s multiple millions of Aussies on here!
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MissBishere
6 years ago
I’ve been on and off for a number of years now. When I first joined I was amazed at how friendly and welcoming the site was and the friendships that I made with the women on this site I’ve met some amazing people and I would hope that they would be lifelong friends even though lately I haven’t seen them very much. These days when I come back it doesn’t have the same feel to it anymore seems everyone’s very jaded it’s very much about sex and what you can do for me it’s no longer about a mutual connection for people looking for friends to spend time with it’s become how many can I screw and how quickly. Hope everyone is well and doing ok and finds what they seek on here. Missb
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Hi OP. I would like to congratulate you for such nice and inclusive topic. I have been part of RHP from the very beginning and have seen a lot of changes, some for better and some for worst. I am a Aussie immigrant (sorry for all my spelling mistakes) like many other, and is extremely hard to get some respect as a human in places like these where we have a enormous variety of faceless people that is around to make them selfs better by putting other down or simply mistreating. In the last year the numbof people that judge you by very silly things has grown in big numbers and all so people that forget very easy(like they have been new to all of tgese once before). I hope that those that judge and make simple assumptions (like mention before, like knowing how are the fake profile). By simple a siple fact like that you coud be mistaking someone. To end I like to thank those that have had a great deal of understanding with me. Ammi, Ms foxy, I_touch_myself... Thank you.
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Libertine001
6 years ago
First of all sorry for typos..😕 Thses days instead of accepting one point of view, we shut them down and call them f***wits. Either it's best to not respond or give an educated and informed view in a genuine sincere way. Negativity spreads like the plague and once one starts it l, a lot of others join the bandwagon much like parts of society in general. Hopefully we can all just get along and help each other instead of all the put downs and shaming. TDH
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Libertine001
6 years ago
An example of this is there was a woman(who doesn't seem to be around anymore) who was very vocal on her thoughts much to the opposition of the rest of the forumites. You could take her point of view and lash out at her which may be what she was after or you could say nothing and move on with life. IMO best to say nothing!
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Just different as Mr Dragon (lol) says. The political correctness has filtered in to here. People get offended if people get called out or even disagree with them. We can't smack kids, we have to be nice to the little brats and now when the rude bastards grow up, we can't call them fuckwits when they post in here. The hard school of knocks hardened us up to deal with rejection. If we failed we were actually told that we failed instead of sugar coating by saying we were not as successful as some of the others. No hard lessons learnt and they got most things they wanted instead of waiting, being patient and earning rewards. They have grown up and want it now. " why can't l get sex in here?", "why are people being abusive in here?" Times are a changing and this old dinosaur still saunters along looking at the young with their baby soft skin. Apparently sunscreens the go......pffft
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree with what On_Safari and MissB have said. I miss the banter on the forums from years gone by, and the respectful and engaging conversations from posters who are no longer around. I'm not in here often enough now to make any judgements about new posters that have joined us, but it feels a bit like visiting your home town and walking into a bar you used to frequent, but the regular's stools are being inhabited by different people now.
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compressor
6 years ago
Well this should be a place where most are friendly and happy as this is a place for fun right? Talking to and meeting people who make you feel good and special. All the negative stuff puts a dampener on the whole experience. I have had a few people fire back at me and I don't know why.
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RHP User
6 years ago
There's a big difference between being vocal and forthright and being spiteful and abusive. I love a good discussion and you can't have one without "offending" someone, however a good discussion needs to stick to the topic not spiral down into character attacks and name calling.
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RHP User
6 years ago
As they often do TallDarkHandsome. 😊 You mostly get the same people replying who as you can tell by the numbers on the thread so far (but give it time this will likely run for ages because it is the fodder of the i experience) aren't as many as there used to be (they keep leaving and blaming the people who won't fit into their boxes for it. They tend to have met and know each other and give their version of their experience which is similar. You get people like me who are out of the 'group' experience, though I have met a fair few forumites myself I tend to be a loner. For us it can be quite difficult if we don't think the way they think we should. I can think of a few who ended up leaving or rarely posting because the majority ruled and they'd end up as a talking piece to be ridiculed even when they hadn't posted. Question behaviour by one and it will become a thing to use against you throughout the forum with regular squeals because they can't have things their way all the time. Sadly the group experience isn't really open to the individual experience as I see it. Rather than looking at other people all the time it makes sense to me that it would help if there were more self reflection instead of self indulgence. Of course there are actual trolls who play to take advantage of all. They are unfeeling things who pander to whoever it takes to make that person their puppet in their games. Acting like the victim in public while attacking privately, stalking profiles, sending aggressive messages. They are likely narcissists and good at what they do but also vulnerable because of the traits that cause their narcissism. You don't want to be a man most of the time, you might get by as a poster but all bets are off when we're generalising. Don't say anything about women though because they might swear like a sailor but they're vulnerable to the nth degree when challenged. RHP is just a specialised section of people who reflect the online world, the largest percentage of it don't even know or care it's there and what we say here has no reflection on their experience. 12+ years I've been posting to base my opinions on, I'd love to have a Venn diagram ability to describe the group, parts of groups and satellites as I envision them. I have a curious mind. 😂 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
The forum has been quiet for a a while as we went through a formative stage regarding posting limitations but the return of a regular individual who was absent through that time got things very active. It is amazing the effect one person can have, cheers 🍑
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nightingale8
6 years ago
People are too politically correct yet people are just plain rude. People are snowflakes yet people should consider others.... and back in the "good old days" it none of these problems existed!(?) We now live in a world of Info-(O)besity, we can't tell who is a bot, fake, extreme stretch of the truth, real. So we fight amongst each other, frustrated with trying to navigate the new system. Time to step back and Rage Against the Machine, not each other.
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Libertine001
6 years ago
Thanks for all your responses and annie has hit the nail on the head with the entitled generation wanting everything now and not working hard for reward is partly to do with a lot of here and societies issues. Just find it all negative when someone opinion doesn't align with others that they are jumped on instead of taking their point of view and letting them have there say whether it be right or wrong. Tolerance and respect goes a long way in showing your own personal character and that seems to be diminishing day by day. Thanks again...😊 TDH
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Agree, some of the super salt of the earth people who made the forum thier home for many years have now gone. ? Just the way it is ?
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Very well said.. found myself reading and nodding on all you had to say... bravo..
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don't see how ageism has anything to do with the topic or life's problems. It was just last week school kids spent the day protesting environment change. In support news people focused on the small group of kids dawdling behind the thousands to present a story of how they just wanted to go to Maccas for lunch. Good work news crew. There were the misleading photos shared in the news to shame the kids for rubbish left behind, except it had nothing to do with the event. There were the comments on the above stories where people were happy to be sucked in by fake news. So much shame for kids doing what adults are blithely ignoring as we destroy our planet. My kids do fine too. The youngest showing incredible strength as she pushes herself to be a mother, wife, daughter, friend, manager, student etc. She deserves praise, not being lumped in a generalised basket for everything that's wrong with the world. 😂 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
Because I know this involves you in particular Annie, there's a lot that describe the trans, same sex toilet shift as PC. How do you feel about that? Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Most posters are 40 + is that the entitled generation ?Every generation alive has been slagged off by their elders so nothing new under the sun.My kids don't do crack, do volunteer work and have after school jobs all good bro xx
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RHP User
6 years ago
I do think people were more genuine in the forums and actual meeting face to face. As a few have mentioned...there were some great forums of fun banter, aware of political corrections but not tooooo prevalent in the forums. Many topics were fun ...even the more serious ones. Topics were discussed, sometimes heated discussions, yet most folk were open to others points of views even if they didnt agree . There were trolls back then ....some of them even still here and trolling freely on most topics . These days, I get the feeling that too many people are after instant gratification, whether that is sex - instagram - life in general. Levels of tolerance seem to be lower . ...And if others dont fall and fawn at their feet they get all huffy. I dont make many comments these days as I feel many topics have come and gone over the years and unless my thoughts have really changed on a subject what is the point of saying the same thing again.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Because I know this involves you in particular Annie, there's a lot that describe the trans, same sex toilet shift as PC. How do you feel about that? Peachy Red hurts my eyes.... Ok. Off topic question really but since you asked.....Same sex toilets. They are a dated affair, built for economy for the masses and thus PC is updating the arrangement which is fine when done right but that involves a lot of space and expense. PC done badly, just look at at what the Aids Council did in their Melbourne offices. Just changed the men and women's signs both to Unisex with no alterations. Ie. A male can be standing at the urinal and his fellow female colleagues can walk in. PC gone mad....But Peachy, l have and never had an issue using same sex toilets. When I'm Annie l use females, when I'm a male l use the males. Not rocket science and works fine for me
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'usebi' Most posters are 40 + is that the entitled generation ?Every generation alive has been slagged off by their elders so nothing new under the sun.My kids don't do crack, do volunteer work and have after school jobs all good bro xx The reconised entitled generationage range is roughly 18-35 today. Millennials were born between 1982 and 2002.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I'm allowing the off topic because it was introduced by the OP. Sorry about the pale colour, it's not red but the closest to peach I could find in a not too pale colour to read. For you, I will adapt back to a mixture of darker colours, your point is taken. I do miss the variety anyway. Thanks for the reply, my apologies to the OP if he feels we're taking the topic too far off but I'd like to think mine and Annie's convo makes a point in itself? I really do appreciate your input on what is a topic you are particularly able to comment on Annie. I've never used one but have been known to invade the men's in the past when the girl's loos were too busy. Hey, I kept my eyes down. Down down I mean, no eye contact and you know... no eye contact. Your last line is where the PC description can come in because you identify as a woman when you're Annie you get to use the girl's dunny. You might not see that as PC, and I get that, it's my example of how we can see PC differently. I don't see a big issue in sharing the 'girls' because we have stalls? Peachy
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On_Safari
6 years ago
And Compressor you’ve been sending me flirts for years, still haven’t met but thanks for the recent one 👍🏽 ~ Indy
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Rubyt25
6 years ago
always have been and we always will be and just like the online world and real life too nothing stays the same...Luke Sital-Singh - Nothing Stays The Same (2014 Official Video) --- Luke Sital-Singh -- Published on Jul 9, 2014
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