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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Not all messages are hitting on someone, I've seen photos and wanted to know where it was taken because the place looked cool; or a forum related question; or an answer to a question about an event; or many types of message that don't belong on a public forum and do belong in a private message.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I often comment of peoples profiles.. and make it clear I am NOT hitting on them..As some of the regular forum posters know, and in some cases we have built quite solid friendships.. I get messages, flirts and views from Gay men, bi men, TV's and X dressers..I get messages from CHRISTIAN women (Although they are fake) saying they think I am JUST what they want in a man... someone faithful, honest, caring, truthful and who can love them totally...I TRY to answer them all..fckl people who are so up themselves that they cannot "Ig-fckn-nore" people who "try their luck" on them..

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  ...what SOTL said.I can't quite remember the last time I sent a message to a women here, hitting on her. I gave that up a while ago.I'm paying for this privilege, so I want to use this service as an R-rated Facebook.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I'm not 'seeking' anyone, so any contact is outside my criteria. But I contact people and sometimes people contact me and like the guys say above, the largest part of it has nothing to do with hitting on anyone. I don't feel any need to limit contact most of the time. Peachy

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Ive had messages from people regarding something other than hooking up before. I reconnected with an ex from Scotland after 25 years when he saw my pic on here. So personally I wouldnt like an automatic blocking system.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  If people are here to have their ego boosted, they may wish to consider the pds a little more closely to see if this product is right for them. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  But agree with everyone above. The fact is I'm the range of getting a lot of attention - single female profile. Sometimes it's overwhelming to see an inbox overflowing and pages of flirts. It's time consuming and often frustrating message wise when people obviously don't meet my criteria and message me anyway. But that's the collateral damage so to speak in sacrifice for what I get in return. Flirt wise I often get the "just wanted to say I loved your profile" and they the automatic response back. A lot of those are couples from interstate that I don't hear from again for instance. I take this is as - just wanted to compliment you. I also get a lot of messages from all types of people saying they wanted to comment on my photos, ask me more about having an open marriage or compliment my writing and messages from friends. I only use my messages my to communicate with people for non-pick means, sending them compliments, asking a questions or chatting with friends on here. With the majority of those I don't "meet the criteria" and therefore wouldn't be able to send anything if that option was in place.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  With most of the reasons above for not blocking. I'm not currently looking for anything other than friendship and have set my criteria so I don't come up in search results. It would mean that almost nobody could message me. When I was looking, not all my criteria were set in stone, such as age. I would have hated to limit myself to a possible connection with somebody because they were a few years either side of my age range.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  are fairly harmless, arent they? While I havent sent many, I have sent one or two to people who I think is compatible (and yes, after reading the profile).However, Im the worst case on here....male, in a relationship, but looking for single meetups. So i dont expect much back. I cant see a problem with sending flirts (obviously a message would be better, but guest account) and would hope people dont get upset by this. I do think anyone sending a flirt should be respectful of what the other person is after, according to their profile. At the same time I think a block is a bad idea, for many of the reasons listed by others above. I believe that if everyone showed respect for others we wouldnt need stuff like this - creating rules and laws for everyone, based on the actions of a bad few, is always a bad idea in my opinion.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  nah unwanted can be annoying but its part and parcel of online i believe

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I would not like automatic blocking on messages or flirts. Sometimes you come across someone who really doesn't fit with what had been stated as criteria but can become quite interesting friends. I have made some lovely friends who don't fit with what I have stated as looking for :). You know who you are ;). xx

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  Lovinit28andKC72

  9 years ago

  I wouldn't want to see an automatic blocking for messages that don't fit the bill, like most have pointed out we all send messages of general chat. As for the attention side of things, yes there's definitely people that are Attention Seeking and any attention is good attention in their eyes. Me, well I get the occasional messsges, the odd flirt, but they are either from someone I know personally, someone being a sweetheart and wishing me well or some silly person who haven't read our profile. Either way, it doesn't really bother me, the nice messages are lovely to receive, the others, well we get a bit of a giggle out off. 💋

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I've heard of other sites (not necessarily with the same scope) that have filters that automatically disallow messages from members that don't fit exactly some stringent criteria, or even after some arbitrary number of messages already received that week/month. Such as "Don't let me receive more than 40 messages a month." What if number 39 was a muppet, but number 41 would've been the best thing ever? I don't even think it informs the sender that their message won't even have a chance of being looked at. As far as I know, it just disappears into the aether. The sender doesn't know whether the intended recipient has just had a lot of messages that month and has their filter set at a lower number, or has read the message and given it the personal touch of consciously choosing not to acknowledge it, or has let their inbox fill up and been in a shitty mood and just blanket-deleted all of the messages that got past the filter in the first place. With the shoe on the other foot, for someone who is in the position of needing to send a lot of messages in order to get the desired (or any) result, the frustration is often that there aren't good results for messages sent as it is. Imagine how much worse it would be if the damn messages won't even send in the first place. Or, they send, but the intended recipient never sees them and the sender has no idea which is the case? If that were the case here, I'd probably go back to writing lewd propositions on paper aeroplanes again and throwing them from tall structures on windy days. The effort-to-success ratio seems better.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I actually found a paper plane in a glass bottle with a number in it one of the times I was over in Sydney, cant remember if it was Brighton le Sands beach or Manly. Was that you??? Although it would have taken a while to get there! I always tried to answer any genuine messages I got when I was single. Ive met a couple of guys who werent really what I thought I was looking for but their messages were lovely, interesting and humorous. They are still friends, so they might have been 41s? Ive only ever blocked one person, who became threatening.

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  sweetgem

  9 years ago

  An automatic blocking system for receiving flirts, but not messages. I do have friends on here whom I would like to message from time to time to chat about something, or to send my regards, and vice versa. So, I vote no for an automatic block of sending/receiving messages, but yes for the flirts. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  wannabyummymummy

  9 years ago

  Maybe if it was an option you could select in your settings that way if people aren't interested in any communication other than hook ups they could choose that setting and cull unwanted mail. Personally I don't mind if someone is "outside my criteria " and messaged me anyway ( it's their message after all) sometimes someone you think isn't your type turns out to be someone you have a lot of fun with. And I get plenty of messages from guys who DO fit the criteria but I'm not attracted to them or they just send a stupid one line message like "hey you're hot what are you up to?" Which just doesn't spark my interest so you just never know . - Posted from rhpmobile

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