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Serendipity - How do you know?

August 25 2016

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Since becoming single (over 2 years ago), I have been learning, evolving and making the most of it. 2016 was amazing and I actually got to a point where I thought "I have peaked."There was very little left on my sexual bucket list and I started to consider beginning to look for my perfect match. As I pondered the long task of chatting to prospects, to feel out how well we are aligned for a long term relationship, I thought "How will I know?"That thought was immediately followed by "You WILL know. It will stand out. It will be obvious." The next day, I messaged an (attractive) newbee, just to suggest exploring the Forums, and it became something.It stood out... Obviously...undeniably.One second I was staunchly single, with zero interest in any sort of relationship or commitment, and the next second, I had a girlfriend and was making long term plans. What the hell happened? The answer is that I couldn't escape the strong feeling that the universe was pushing us together...for reasons unknown.I was not in the mindset of wanting a relationship, but it felt like something that I had to do...boots and all. Have you ever felt that?What was it that made it stand out as being soo special?How did it turn out?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Just the once, not long ago, but it didn't last. It was the only mutual "yes, we both want this to go further, we both want the same things in life". Alas, there were still differences, some of them outside of our control. Short answer, it was evaluated as the "right girl, wrong time" category. Maybe again, one day... Despite the pain it caused, I would never change it from happening, as the memories are wonderful, and it became a significant building block for me to continue the rest of my journey. I know now it is possible. Before then, I just assumed it was something that happened to other people.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    As I peaked out on acid back in the 60's :p - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    heady times and i think you have described what many have experienced before you..newly single, jump on a dating site and with time and effort it's not that difficultto hook up is it ?.. and you become very good at it- Most get past that after a period of timewe want or miss what we had.. an ongoing relationshipsome sort of what we perceive to be normality again..creatures of habit- we crave routine .don't we? Be careful what you wish for - you just may find it ! then comes .. do i really want this - more -

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'SNAG4XTC' One second I was staunchly single, with zero interest in any sort of relationship or commitment, and the next second, I had a girlfriend and was making long term plans. What the hell happened? The options are.... you settled, or, you were hit by the bolt that compelled you both to be together. Sounds like the latter. Good for you both!Look after that.

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  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    Slowly, suddenly or in between. Hard to describe but someone described it to me last week. It feels like coming home when you see them again. Wondered where you went OP. Now we know

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Absolutely and I'm still wondering what the hell happened! Mr and I met on RHP 2 years ago now and dated casually for a year. A year into it I was blissfully single and getting everything that I wanted when he realised he couldn't keep going without developing 'them feels' so we stopped seeing each other (my idea) and after a month of being absolutely miserable I realised I had a terminal case of them feels too. I guess that was what made it special - I took a month to understand that it was hard be happy without him in my life. We've been together ever since and just yesterday lodged an application to a place where we are hoping to move in together and have our own space. I felt like - as you said - 'the universe was pushing us together' and I was very unwilling and fought it at first because I wanted to stay single, but then I realised that just wasn't possible any more! I wouldn't say it stood out as 'special' at the start and i've never had that 'love at first sight' feeling or anything previously either...I would have been perfectly happy keeping things as they were for that year we saw each other casually, but it has definitely turned out even better despite my initial reservations. It's a wonderful thing and congratulations to you on making a connection here too, I truly wish you both the best! Miss Little x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    at a party three days after breaking up with someone else when I met a guy who had tagged along with his friend, we ended up being together for six years

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I was not looking for any kind of relationship. On a whim, decided to meet a guy one lunchtime for a drink thinking Id finish my drink then have a look in Myers Sale. I never got to Myers. We hit it off straight away. Down the line I tried to end it but I wasnt happy. So Ill go with the flow for now. It seems to hit you when youre not looking. Dont fight it...whether its for now or for ever, enjoy the happy times.

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  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    9 years ago

    Sure have! Many times. I've questioned it too. It's unexplainable. It stands apart. Only those who have experienced know exactly what you are talking about OP. It's more than fate, timing and inclination. It's just one of those universal mysteries that just happens- it's special. Treasure it OP, it's rare. Ms Foxy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I was in the process of separating from my husband of many, many years. It was very amicable, but still quite stressful. I rejoined here after a long absence in order to chat on the forums - I was absolutely not looking for anything, which is exactly what I told many people who messaged me, including one guy in particular. We continued to chat anyway, and a few weeks later he told me he loved me - even though he knew it was terrible timing, and that we didn't want or expect anything to happen. I said yes, it is terrible timing, and totally not what I want right now, but even as I said it I knew that it was too late - I was head over heels in love with him too. The rest, as they say, is history. Or future. Or both. Whatever it is, I'm glad it happened, terrible timing and inconvenient geography be damned.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Don't look for the "catch".....sail away and enjoy it!!!

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  • madotara69

    madotara69

    9 years ago

    One of the very things, I believe, is the worst for the worst for mankind with wellbeing the path to travel, and that is stress. Worrying about something that has never happened. There will always be catches, the more planned you make of it, the more and especially if that, 'worrying about something that has never happened' set's in and choices become of it, then you carry the weight of stress with you, and make of that as you will, ? IMHO Serendipity, how do you know it ? Perhaps a synchronicity of the souls, indeed. Mado Mado Tara xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    you mix two gases.. two liquids.. gases and liquids... acids over solids.. and ALL The possible combinations of the mixes, and you get a reaction... some are good, some are bad..some are tolerable, and some are so fckn explosive, they kill..WE are all chemistry and physics, so it stands to reason that we ACT as a .. well... a reactorI ate a piece of home made chocolate the other night.. it was by far... the BEST I had EVER tasted..I crave it now.. my mouth waters up at the very THOUGHT of it.. I still have the taste and smell of it in my head.. and I swear, sometimes, in REAL TIME..etc etc et.fcknpoint is... even though I will possibly think about it for the rest of my life.. and regret not getting MORE of it.. more time with it.. and shit like that...I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH ITI AM NOT GOING TO CONDUCT A LIFELONG RELATIONSIP WITH IT..nada.. zip .. fck all...same with any person I meet...IN FACT... from now on, I will probably say to the person in the morning..."You are a lovely piece of chocolate "They will be thinking I am being cute..BUT.. it will be me reminding myself to stay fckn grounded...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    You cynic!! Lol I am a slow learner - I think it took me 2-3 years to understand that I had totally fallen deeply in love. All I know is my life is better because he is in it and no matter how my day has been his company makes everything okay. Snag, I didn't give it much thought at first. All I knew was that I wanted to matter to him. I found him sexually liberating, exciting and amazing. I was compelled to chase him. :p

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I believe truly and sincerely that into every life a little chocolate must fall...and many years ago I fell for chocolate ,we have been inseparable ever since 😝Q

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I am a little ;)

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