F68
Sex free zone
December 14 2016
Comments
-
sweetgem
9 years ago
I do put sex on pause due to: 1) Exhaustion from my #1 commitment and other priorities. 2) My duties and responsibilities. 3) Ongoing lacking of sleep at night because of my commitment for my ill parent. 4) My own health issues. 5) The heat, as I'm a heat intolerant! 6) I simply don't feel like having it and want to focus on something else. 7) Unable to find the right/compatible man who shares mutual attraction and chemistry as my. I can list more, but seven reasons are sufficient to send some men into shock 😂😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
* being all touched out by a clingy child who breastfed 24/7, I just wanted my body to myself. * exhaustion and sleep deprivation - see above. * hormones - just like levels of testosterone affect a mans libido, us women have a complex balance of things going on. If something isn't right, it can lead to libido disaster. * feeling connected. I need to feel connected with someone. In the case of hubby - if we are just like flat mates, in a bad rut etc I don't want to jump his bones. * lack of self confidence - feeling shit about myself and my appearance makes me feel the opposite of sexy. * women's issues ongoing - not going to expand on that one 😉 Thankfully these things have come and gone in waves and I want bonk like a rabbit the rest of the time lol!
-
RHP User
9 years ago
No surprises yet. I also know someone who still wants to have sex, but not with her hubby.
-
RHP User
9 years ago
I haven't been put off sex or masturbation, except for things related to tiredness/exhaustion, being ultrabusy at work, stress etc. I do get put off attempts at dating though and meeting new people per se, due to the sheer amount of time, effort and money involved, often to little outcome, relying on luck or being in the right place at the right time. * * Not talking lately, I've met some wonderful people in recent times on here, I'm talking over the past decade/s. I have thought to myself lately, if some of us added up the many, many hours we have spent over our entire lives "trying" to date (eg messaging, browsing/joining websites (phone or internet), going to vanilla parties, going to other random events with the background hope of meeting someone, not to mention all the travel and preparation hours etc, I'm sure over the course of our lives had we directed that time to something more fruitful, like self employment, self improvement (skills, art etc), holidays, or other hobbies, we might be in a better (at least financial) position. But I am lucky now to have a couple of lovely ongoing contacts, found not least by that kind of effort/luck in searching. So for your question OP, at least going off sex for a while does allow you to improve your own life and focus on other things. Sex can consume so much of your thought time and actual time, so it's good to try and let go of such desires for the benefit of other parts of your life. Masturbation at least for me is also sometimes a form of procrastination, wasting time when other things need doing. At least for me it's not an everyday need. On the extreme end is what is known as sex addiction, where it does impact your life much much more.
-
AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Is a complex thing. And men and women are both complex in different ways. Most women will have a need to feel connected in some way to get the mojo bus on the highway. Whereas men can get a bus boner and think......" be a shame to waste this...."
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Sex starts with subtle foreplay outside the bedroom. If nothing at all happens until we're in bed and lights are out, forget it. You've lost me right there. I need a little time to myself at the end of every day and if I've had a super busy day at work and at home, that sometimes may not happen until very late at night. The need for connection (totally agree with SoftAndCurious on this point). A couple of years ago, losing a couple of close family members when they passed away really killed my sex drive big time for a while.
-
RHP User
9 years ago
can lessen my interest in sex, but about the only that takes away the desire completely is the lack of an erection. On second thoughts ,lack of an erection may precluded sex but even that doesn't take away the desire.Ps Why am I developing the desire to spend my summer in Sydney?
-
AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Lucky you dont live down here with the cold. You'd only get to get it on a few times a year. Us southerners make like rabbits in our burrows to warm up
-
RHP User
9 years ago
I'm with Annie on this one. I have a giant boner most days 😂😂😂 that's a joke, no I am all woman, just couldn't think of the female equivalent 😀
-
RHP User
9 years ago
It's called a "wide on" 😃
-
RHP User
9 years ago
I love sex and if I could would have it several times a day but I get put off sex when I'm upset/stressed Or If I have had a round of bad sex and don't want to take a chance on bad sex again! Have been dealing with a lack of sex drive the last few months but now to put that to rest. 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Can't say I have ever not wanted sex, I self relieve once or twice a day. But I certainly get sick of chasing it, for a guy it's a very time and money intensive preoccupation!
-
RHP User
9 years ago
A bit before Easter this year - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Since this post I have had a few messages from married men, not having sex. Before you all roll your eyes ladies, and say pleeeeaaaase. It is a common problem for men and for women when they are in a relationship but the other one says Sorry not happening I am no longer interested in sex. I know one of my female friends has not had sex with her husband for 15 years. Another female has not had sex with her husband for that time, and her vagina atrophied so they could not get a spectrum up there, she burst into tears when she told me. He just got depressed and would not talk about it. She loves him just the same and when you get older you cant just up and leave and live in poverty on your own, thats the reality of splits these days. Same for young ones, many a guy has lodged at my house freshly throw out and lost everything including access to kids. Sex or lack of sex plays a huge roll in relationships these days, and our expectations of sex are off the wall because of porn. I feel for guys, like one said I am a man, and his wife has not let him near her for 16 months he has tried all the doing house work and romance and talking but she is just not interested. So what is he supposed to do leave his wife and kids because of his sexual needs. Or just bury his manhood and suffer. I do not have the answers, but I feel real empathy for married men caught in this situation. Though yes there are the rats that live here, the my wife does not understand me blah blah and that translates into gee my cock loves variety pussy. For me I got put off by my last lover, the reason I came back on here. Great lover , good to me in and out of bed. But he had his first time out and about with a single woman of here and went bare back. Lots of people do, but my trust went right out the door along with my libido. I guess my sex drive is based on trust. If you cant trust a person to take care of you then you can let go and enjoy sex . If you cant your always on guard. All the sweet talk all the blah blah blah, can no longer give me a moist on. And take note of STD threads, many a person here, men and women will go bare back despite the best intentions. I have done it myself once and though I never got an std, the guy said after that his previous lover had told him she had one. Turns out she lied, but we both got tested anyway, but it was a huge wake up call for me. the answers are great btw, and I have directed a few guys to this post.
-
CreativelyKinked
9 years ago
Its an interesting question - men can be so focused on the physical interactions that they stop considering everything else. Sex vs sexuality? For me the physical is an ending to the experience and I'd rather spend all day (or longer) enjoying my partner in whatever direction that happens to take us. (even shoplifting?) Sex is great but its just the climax for me......I'm more about the journey, and if its rushed that puts me off straight away.
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Or being sidelined due to an operation as I am now... - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Enlightened. Thanks guys. Weird that this thread would be the one - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
It seems to be either feast or famine..At the moment it's famine due to some health issues. The longer I go without sex though,the less I miss it. Perhaps my libido will return one day,one can always live in hope :) Q
-
RHP User
9 years ago
I was truly happy to read your post.I don't feel so alone in my thinking. Your post, So true. In reguards to unprotected sex,Wow so many people seem to prefer this,state that they have multiple partners but prefer " natural " sensation sexyally. Aka no Condom. Instant gratification with no thought of the consequences to themselves or others.
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 15123 Comments: 88143
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1417 Comments: 10231
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2520 Comments: 11665
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2506 Comments: 9760
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 1007 Comments: 5254
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1303 Comments: 5776
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 782 Comments: 1988
-
LGBT
Topics: 170 Comments: 867
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share