Sexual mind

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Damn. This is sad. But not an insurmountable problem. 🥰 Without wanting to pry, are you suffering from depression? Depression has a HUGE impact on libido and the ability to see through tasks. Big or small. You may just need a verbal outlet to get past this. A friend, family member or a support worker (psychologist, social worker, GP, etc). Or. You may need to take small but brave steps. Dress up and then hop online to chat with someone. Being dressed up changes how you feel and therefore how you speak/act. Or take a brave BIG step. Contact a club in your city and then go. From my limited experience, the club manager/staff will welcome you and chat for a little bit. Ease you into it 🥰 Make NO plans/expectations for yourself. So . . . at a minimum, you’re just going to watch. Just people watch. And then if people approach you, then you can chat. And things may grow from there. Overcoming self doubt is a goddam bitch. Most women know this, as do a large population of men. There is no fast fix. You must be gentle and optimistic. What you feel today can be overcome. With small steps. Support. Reaching out to this community was a great first step. Good luck gorgeous 😘

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Hooking up is its own potential monster, for various reasons. One the one hand, it suits people who don't want complications (emotional etc) and on the other hand it's kind of incompatible or doesn't go hand in hand with the human need to connect, because connection implies some type of mental connection whether that be emotional or whatever. In any permutation it's considered, some type of emotional aspect enters the equation at some point. The other thing is that the hook up is also good because it doesn't have to be about the emotional. For myself, I think of it as the one off, but that's my own personal definition and take on it. The one time event, and then going separate ways after (no expectations, demands, etc). But that's how I view it, others may be and are different. It may be that something about hooking up that unsettles you, maybe something you need to explore further, what works for you and what doesn't. For myself, along the way, I realised that the hook-up thing doesn't always work well, because it can potentially be mentally draining too. For me, and it's my own personal view, for myself, and it's that type of objectification that I don't and have never felt comfortable with. Everyone is different and it can be about life phases too. In the wider culture, the female form or body is marketed, commodified and so on. It's difficult not to have that enter our thoughts as women. The other issue, and I think it does eventuate, is that with online anything, there are many profiles out there, and there is this sense or idea of choice. I can't presume what makes you feel awkward in your body, but having been there pretty much most of my life, it tends to be outside or external things that can do it or impinge on our view of ourselves. What I do, for myself, is that I get moving, do some exercise just to feel myself be alive and moving, doing the small things (for me it's a manicure or pedi). At my age, it's not about looking like a 20 year old. It's about feeling some vitality - especially in winter. It's all about self-care and blocking out anything negative and focusing on things that you like. Energy wise, I'd say even the smallest amount of physical movement, even if it's a 30 min walk a day to your favourite music, or even an online class at home (a friend of mine started a yoga challenge, just for the mental component) can make a difference. It's all about being in tune with yourself first and foremost.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Relax and unleash when comfortable, I'll gladly help you out non judgemental spoil the woman and make her feel beautiful

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