Sincere Compliments

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Personally I very much appreciate sincere compliments that come with no ulterior motive, whether here or in real life. To me it says the other person is trying to do a nice thing, which makes me want to do the same in return. Sadly I will admit that years of saying 'Thanks!", only to have a follow up message hit my Inbox with a "Well then?" has made me a bit wary. Compliments without strings are precious commodity around here in my view, and I treasure them.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I readily give compliments with sincerity and meaning however struggle receiving them. When on the receiving end of them it makes me squirm and question the sincerity behind the words. This is due to conditioning in a past life where compliments were given in an attempt to negate a verbal belittling... I also find it much easier to see beauty in others than in myself which I think is a reason why it’s easier to give them than receive them.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It is something I am working on overcoming and can say I do have moments where I feel Kick ass red hot in my own unique way - hopefully those moments will become more frequent. I do think in general we can tend to be not complimentary enough for fear it may be taken the wrong way... society is a fickle place now a days where words can be misconstrued quite easily... Now back on topic - with regards to receiving flirts there are flirts that I have used myself to say thanks but no thanks so when I receive that flirt I do wonder whether it’s been sent with the same context as when I send it lol

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  bonefide

  7 years ago

  That was fairdinkum.

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  countrytouch82

  7 years ago

  In regards to the flirt "I just wanted to say I love your profile", often it comes from those interstate etc, and my normal reply is with the flirt "thank you I enjoyed the attention". This is essentially the best representation of my real feeling without sending an actual message response, that I am flattered and just wish to thank them for the compliment.

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  bonefide

  7 years ago

  Off topic Early new year greeting, All the best in the new yr people. LOL Now back to the topic. 👍

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  That's my Langolier memory for you. 🤣 About the 'Hot or What?' rating system. I've noticed lately that men are often looking at my profile before rating, and then I get a notification about the rating (instead of the flirt). That impresses me to think they took the time to look and still rate (no flirt or notification if you're not rated hot) though I make it clear I won't respond, and that they actually seem to take that into account by not sending a flirt with the rating. Peachy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Solitary, welcome back. That was a beautiful post. Well said, and how you feel, completely understandable. It is a let down when people think flattery will get them a foot in the door, sexually or emotionally. But all the rewarding for the genuine gold we find among the pyrite. You come across as a deep thinker RedMustang, it's a fascinating thing how the mind can make like a merry-go-round, revisiting the same thoughts over and over again. Ever questioning and wondering and having difficulty settling. I can relate to the, "Are you being sarcastic thing too often?". Countrytouch, I'll have to give that flirt a go. Let you know how I go. Peachy, thanks muchly.

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