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Sliding door moments
February 17 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
of choices...big ones! And I have not always taken the right path! But I am here now and I am ok with that. As far as regrets go, I would like to say I have none, but I do have one big regret....All in all, I am glad for my 'sliding door' experiences, so much better than being stuck in a revolving door!!! :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
My ex partner was offered a job here in Oz, we had family, a house , friends and a good life back home. With only two weeks to decide, we went for it. No regrets at all, even though Im no longer with my partner. Im happier than ever. I was asked over to Sydney for a weekend, and went. Now I have a good friend over there. I was never a chance taker before, but certainly am, now. I am trying to teach my son to take chances, because they enrich your life in so many ways. And if you do, and it doesnt work out, youve still had an experience.I was talking to someone about this recently, and said to her that I dont want to be sitting in a nursing home sometime in the future a bitter old lady full of regrets.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually look back on circumstances so foreign that I feel I've lived 4 separate lives. I'm now into the 5th, things have changed so dramatically with some key decisions. All have been deliberate choices that could have gone another way, with hugely different outcomes. That's not counting the millions of moments that have conspired to make my world what it is today! Life number 3 went on a lot longer than I would have liked, but there was also a lot of good to come out of it. No regrets, it is the here and now that's important.
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6exxy
11 years ago
Yes, coming to Australia was a chance in itself. Life could be worse!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think about this often, where would I be today if my choices had been different? I have definitely had some major sliding door moments in my life and there is one in particular which I regret and struggled with for many many years. I have moved on and learnt to deal with that decision I made 15 years ago. I know that I would not have the life I have now if my choices had been different and I believe that I am meant to be exactly where I am now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Isn't the whole point of sliding door moments that they aren't big decisions, but rather seemingly inconsequential "random" occurrences that end up shaping your future dramatically? Like missing a train, you don't ummm and ahh about that, it just happens. Decisions are ways that you actively shape your life and future.
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RHP User
11 years ago
..... a long time ago I courted 2 beautiful women simultaneously ...(forgive me .... I couldn't decided ... ) ... I eventually chose one (an excellent choice) .... but spent a lifetime wondering about the other .... ..... and ya know .... I never thought to consider suggesting ffm ... what was I thinking !
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LifeUnscripted
11 years ago
I (Mr LifeUnscripted) have had two of those major moments. The first was when I decided I wanted to marry my American wife (Mrs LU) and move to the U.S. Packed my bags, grabbed my guitar and got on a plane. Ended up there for 22 years. The second time was probably even a bigger decision. That was whether we wanted to up and move our entire family, including our kids, back to Australia. I had lost my job, and after being out of work a few months I had two job offers, one in Australia, one in Seattle. The sliding door was there and we had a big choice to make. We decided to jump, left family and friends (including friends with benefits, lol) and sold everything and moved across the world a year ago. Don't regret it yet. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
also those sliding door moments where the choices made are not yours, but drastically change the course of your life. The trick is that once the door has slid, not to fall down the rabbit hole. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
......we have to be grateful for. I can so identify with CucknShells. I to sometimes lament of paths chosen, and have looked back at what was, to wonder where the path may have led. Maybe I am still in love with an old girlfriend I reconnected with a year or so ago, or maybe I am in love with the idea of what I wanted it to have been. Which ever, I am kind of grateful of where I am. And meeting new and interesting people every day! Cheers and BR to everyone!
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beebs
11 years ago
A very interesting program on SBS tried to explain some of the theories behind what may be our universe and other possible universes. One is a multiverse where every decision splits reality and both realities progress separate to each other. So somewhere, forever unknown to us, our decisions are playing out in lives similar but totally different to those we live here and now in our own reality. It was mind bending stuff.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Moving across the country to Perth was one, leaving my ex-husband was another, quitting my job to do a degree and change careers as a single mum with 3 kids under 5 was probably the biggest. None of them involved vacillation, long period of contemplation or soul-searching. I seem to wake up one day and decide to change my life and then, I make it happen. I've never regretted any of it. I am a completely different person to the woman I was 10 years ago and I like who I am now soooo much better...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't reply with quote from my phone but....yes it is like we are the same person haha, that is exactly how I have been, waking up and saying "let's just do it" and even moving to WA, decided to take up a job offer in WA and just went for it. I also look back to the person I was 10 or more years ago and I am a completely different person. 😊
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Q) Have you had one or more of those moments and which path did you choose? A) Yes, I have had a few of those moments and always been the one to choose the path that I now walk on. For relationship, I always chose to free myself from the emotional prison. For family, I opt for putting them before me as I'm still single and able to do so and I have no regrets in doing so for family. Q) Are you glad that you made the choice that you did or do you have regrets? A) I cannot be anymore pleased for the choices that I have made in life so far, even though not all of them were happy and sunshine! Yes there were pains along the journey, but those pains have made me the strong person I am today :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
for some things you have a choice. The moments in life when someone else has control of the sliding door, that's the pisser.
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RHP User
11 years ago
then if it feels right I'll throw myself in.. As they say' life is not a rehearsal . If you dont take a few chances in life you will without a become vanilla and in evidently die thinking " I should have done that " " why did I let that slide " "Its too late now. " Challenges are there for a reason. Take a few chances ' use common sense and things will happen..
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RHP User
11 years ago
That reminds me of a book by Haruki Murakami called 1Q84, awesome read.
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6exxy
11 years ago
Moving from NSW to WA was a chance as well but once here I knew I was home!🏠
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IamMrSilly
11 years ago
So many of these choices, and most of the time I only realised the importance of the choice after it was made.
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RHP User
11 years ago
came out right when I was making the biggest decision of my life to end my first marriage. After that I discovered there was life after taking a chance albeit an uncertain one. I have embraced chances ever since. I look back on how this attitude has shaped me and the life I lead now. I have no regrets only challenges and successes. I look back at some of my friends, and who they used to be, and realize because they haven't taken any chances in life they haven't grown as people either. Their lives are mundane and very vanilla (and they seem to think that is all there is to life). Taking a leap of faith and learning to trust my own intuition has given me a much richer life. I relish the sliding doors of our lives and the possibilities of what could and will be. LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not to follow my then long-term boyfriend to Ireland, but move here by myself instead. It broke us up, but we both made the right choice.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have made many choices which have changed the direction of my life.It began when I ran away from home at seventeen..it was liberating..I have been married and single,being single is definitely for me...I have chosen the risks over the mundane.but now I am content to stay still.live in my village.live a quiet life.Well sort of 😃xx Freya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '6exxy' Moving from NSW to WA was a chance as well but once here I knew I was home!🏠 Welcome home!!! LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
i got so many regrets i don't where to start and finish ! Would not be me without every one , and i don't see regrets as bad personally i see them as just another bunch of lessons learnt and character defining fuck ups ! Moments ! Or triumphs ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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