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Some tips for Newbies. Care to add your own??

December 16 2012

So I've been here a few months now and it's been an interesting journey. My expereince has been a positive one I've met some great people, had some great sex, made some new friends, learnt a lot about myself and about sex and sexuality. I think that some simple tips from the regulars might help people get the best experience from their time here. 1. Decide if you really want to do this! Seems simple - but the feedback about of lots of the people termed "time wasters" is that they decide at the last minute that they can't go through with it! Surely that decision is made BEFORE the profile goes up?? 2. Get that profile up, fill in all the details, Generic won't attract the type of person you are looking for. Keep tweaking your profile as you get clearer on what you are looking for or as your desires change. Your profile can be geared to attract the type of person you are looking for. Test and Measure! 3. Get really clear on what you want - what your priorities are, this will be a bit of a learning experience, sometimes you have to suck lemons to learn you don't like the flavour! 4. Be respectful - everyone here has a story. If you want to be a part of their story then understand that they are an individual with their own feelings, reasons and history, Be here to have a good time but in the process to hurt no one else. 5. Develop your own filtering system - learn and adjust 6. Be honest - in your profile, your intentions and your interactions. Word travels fast! 7. Measure everyone's intent on their behaviour not their words - people will always act in accordance with their values. ( I add this because i constantly hear "but he SAID" " she SAID she would do...." words are lovely, but open to interpretion and misuse. If you measure a person only on their ACTIONS you will have a far more accurate idea of them as a person) Now to add your own.......

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RHP User

13 years ago

Recent pics are always a winner... andbe upfront with what you REALLY want...Oh yeah...and just because she/he does not like your face pic...or your profile...of the fact that your earring is attached to your ear...and your cheek!...There will always be someone WHO DOES!!!...

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RHP User

13 years ago

Get out there to events and meet & greet drinks and meet as many people as you can in the flesh. Enjoy yourself and step out of your comfort zone every now and then, it's the only way you will grow and learn about yourself and hopefully have a fantastic time into the bargain. I disagree with KarynB in the knowing exactly what you want.. I find this changes as you meet more people, experiment and chat/read the forum. Prepare for that fucket list to grow!

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RHP User

13 years ago

Leave your expectations at the door. Just go with it. Be yourself. Get into the forums, you learn a lot about people by reading their posts, could be the difference between deciding to message them or not. PICS PICS PICS PICS PICS PICS and more PICS. Most people will refuse to acknowledge a message from someone they can't see.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Only use pictures less than six months old, or a year at the most. try to update your pictures all the time. Meeka is right again, we find out what we want as we go along in life what we want when we first start can chage meet offline as much as you can in the social meet and greets learn that nobody owes you anything and they can come back or not after they fuck your brains out that not everyone lives up to your expectations be honest and do not have a magic mirror as reality of others views of you can be at odds to what you think you are. cock pictures in private gallery or you will put of most of the women on here if its your profile picture, unless its an exceptional cock with a bod to go with said cock. laugh , its all just shits and giggles

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RHP User

13 years ago

Go buy a six pack of jimmys....strap to stomach...take photo...and caption it with "the only six pack I care about!! It lasts longer!!" :p

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RHP User

13 years ago

Meeka's arse!!!! :p

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RHP User

13 years ago

... Judge ... Be a hypocrite ... Lie to yourself about what you want ... Jerk people around for no reason.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Thanks guys, this was a great idea! We're new to this so any advice is welcome :)- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

13 years ago

Maybe then I could get a reply lol.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Karynb: 2. Get that profile up, fill in all the details, Generic won't attract the type of person you are looking for. Keep tweaking your profile as you get clearer on what you are looking for or as your desires change. Your profile can be geared to attract the type of person you are looking for. Test and Measure!Yup, mine seems to be a repellent for women! Although I do have to say I am currently having a great conversation with this fantastic lady. Seems that it is attracting the right kind of person after all.

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