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Somebody Please Explain!!
June 10 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
They say its a woman's world on here....something like 6 men to every woman ??? WTF ???I too have experienced messaging / flirting a guy only to be rejected.....or ignored.It seems they have the final say.....not us women.I am polite and try to answer every message / flirt I get but not the same can be said of the guys on here.I don't get it.....probably never will.
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
Not every one on this site is really looking to actually play. And I guess many of the 'single' guys here are not really single. Given guys on this site outnumber girls, hang in there I'm sure you'll find someone.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ah...they both repulse and fascinate us.... God only knows whats going thru the poor blokes head, but trust me...you will truly never know...you have more chance of cracking the Riddle of the Sphinx or solving the eternal question of Is there life on other planets ?? .....look his probably just playing hard to get..and look its working, cause you've started a forum about hime which could attract his attention...so you have two choices..keep on chasing him..or alternatively...give him the flick and move on...as you can see 27 other bokes think your hot...and worth the effort....so let that be your salvation.. Have fun..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Men tend to be very visual,you give then nothing to look at,no face,no boobs,no butt.May be the reason,but as QLD24fun says,there are lots of men here,just wait.x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
Actually I've tried to put a pic on here (took a great face/cleavage shot) but it won't let me upload whatsoever - still working on it:-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
but maybe he is "just not that into you"Quite simple really.
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RHP User
14 years ago
yep... typical isn't it!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Don't take it personally though. His loss.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If I have this right, you have'nt been on the site too long. So lets start with the simplest thing first.1/ Has he read your message?2/ Some guys can find that women doing the hunting can be a little intimidating.3/ Now he's got you, he doesn't know what to do with you, some guys are pretty good at talking themselves up I think.4/ He just hasn't had time to get back to you yet.5/ Like the girls have stated.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
1. I gather he's read it because he's looked at my profile 2. I'm a typical hunter by nature, never been a gatherer! 3. I can give him plenty of suggestions of what to do with me;-) 4. *sighs* men are their own worst enemy at times!! 5. I know it's easy to say next (& I have done it before) but not this one.
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RHP User
14 years ago
One further. You're attracted to him, so you've seen what he looks like. Has he seen what you look like? There are no photos on your profile. It might be that you have sent him a message offering NSA sex, and he hadn't even seen what you look like. I expect that would be a little full- on for most. It might have put him off thinking you expect him to jump anyone just because they offer it up on a silver platter!
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RHP User
14 years ago
He's 'over promised' and now realises that all that's left is for him to 'under deliver' ......stranger things have happened on RHP
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
like Hesione says guys like to see who they are talking to (as do us girls mostly)For me, a guy or couple with no pics is going to pretty much get a 'no thanks' reply for most when you read through profiles they will tell you, "no pics means no reply"You state on your profile that you are "ample" put that with the no pic thing and this guy is probably conjuring up all types of images of what he THINKS you look like. Fact is you are probably of average size (us girls tend to think we are larger than we are anyway) and very attractive so put a few decent pics up, keep face shots for PG if you are worried about privacy and maybe you will have a better shot.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' yep... typical isn't it! Not typical at all, most woman won't do anything pro active at all, Kudos to you for sending the message !Qld guys get with the program, damsel in distress !P.S don't chase further, you've done your bit.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Go and have a good long hard look at your profile. No pics...not even in pg's. Now, I dont know about anyone else but I want to know who it is I am chatting to, messaging. Maybe you chose the ONE out of the bunch that just wasnt into you and maybe he hasnt been on to check his messages yet or is just thinking about his reply. You can not jump into bed with just anyone, there has to be an attraction and yet you seem to think he can? He can not even see if he would be attracted to you. Further more...just because you are attracted to him...does not necessarily men that the attraction is mutual. You may not be what he is looking for at all....but he can not tell that can he? Just that you want sex and nothing more. I know this is a bit of a smorgasbord for us single ladies but fair dinkum...give a guy something to go on.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Settle petal.... it's all ok Upgrade your membership....then you'll be able to send another message to him "to please explain" Just a thought
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Offthebat' 1. I gather he's read it because he's looked at my profile 2. I'm a typical hunter by nature, never been a gatherer! 3. I can give him plenty of suggestions of what to do with me;-) 4. *sighs* men are their own worst enemy at times!! 5. I know it's easy to say next (& I have done it before) but not this one. You haven't even met this guy and you are saying that you can't say next to him? That is scary shit right there for any guy that is reading this Thread... He changed his mind or is maybe even attached and decided not to contact you...leave the poor guy alone..I am sure he has his reasons...He has a right to say no just as much as you! Go find someone that does want you and umm don't come of as too clingly or desperate and they might contact you! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
My experience, and I don't hold myself up to be much of the general case, is that everyone on here tends to get a little judgemental (even me). We all get picky when emailed and more often than not find ourselves a little non-plussed by those who send us messages. And realize for most guys this happens not at all often... typically about once a year for me, so this is a real "just not sure" feeling and is for many, unless you've picked a desperado. Such is the way of chemistry/spark/the gods, whatever you want to call it.Unlike some, I take the attitude though that if someone writes I'll usually do the coffee meetup... you really can't tell a damn thing about people from their profiles I find, for various reasons and if they were moved to write, maybe they saw something I didn't is my approach. Of course like I said I'm dealing with one of these a year. You girls getting dozens or god forbid hundreds of guys trying to attract your attention daily clearly don't have this luxury.And for the record, not replying --> just rude. But, not replying promptly, sometimes is just life.Either way, hang in there. Things can only get better right?E.
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RHP User
14 years ago
His loss;-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
You get a "How about it" message from a guy with a phone number, right off the bat, and he has no picture.. yeah, I wouldn't reply either. You can't expect every guy on here to have an "any hole will do" mentality. Put some effort in.
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RHP User
14 years ago
unintended pun, but the meaning remains the same.
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RHP User
14 years ago
As a woman you will have much more success with those sorts of messages than men would sending them to women. If you're looking for instasex you'll be able to find it soon, you'll just have to lower your standards a heck of lot. Odds are one of those 8 guys who messaged is a) actually up for sex and b) actually local to you. See you at the bottom of the barrel!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Of course he will be attracted to her. Everyone should be attracted to everyone on this site because apparently EVERYONE is either Attractive or Very Attractive!!!Beyond that? "Just Ask Me".
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ah Apollo youve just made me spit my dinner. can't agree enough. Off the bat, your probably georgous, but a bit scary for anyoneto meet with no pic. You should be worried if he is prepared to meet you without a pic.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I wish this stupid thing would upload a pic, it won't even let me browse the system for one!!! Ok, until then try to imagine a size 14/16 (that's the clothes size I wear) woman with long dark brown shiny hair, green eyes, I'm very white (refuse to expose my skin to the sun to get cancer!!) I'm either known as really attractive or downright ugly lol, no in between!!! BUT beauty is in the eye of the beholder:)))
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe just Maybe ... he lost his phone...he ran out of petrol.... got called into work Or he hooked up with DGT Just saying
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'slippery_halo' See you at the bottom of the barrel! Raaaoooooooowwww !!!
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Innercircle
14 years ago
No picsAmple sizedNo picsNo substance to the profileNo picsStraight to the point, with a phone numberNo picsWe wouldn't have bothered replying either."Tried, but can't upload pics" is an interesting one, but always means the same thing. The 'other' excuse is something like "We don't own a digital camera, or a phone built since 2006, or have friends on facebook that have taken photos of me...". Every single time we've had some excuse for lack of pics, there has been a very good reason WHY they didn't want those pics up :(
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Quoting 'slippery_halo' See you at the bottom of the barrel! Raaaoooooooowwww !!! I was speaking for myself, of course. No-one dispenses with their standards quite like moi.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'slippery_halo' Quoting '50zcool' Quoting 'slippery_halo' See you at the bottom of the barrel! Raaaoooooooowwww !!! I was speaking for myself, of course. No-one dispenses with their standards quite like moi. Oh ! The old "go along to get along" ! Lowest common denominators are a bitch !
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RHP User
14 years ago
lets see now ... you send a message offering night of nsa hot foreplay and sex,even give your number and you get ingored...welll oyur just being tried like most the guys on here..although i havent send a message quite like that.thats what alot of the wemen complain of..guys who seem desperate and after anything they can get.you"ve now put yourself into that group..then again mabe he thought, well if she was that quick to give out her number, how many others does she to it to...part of the excitemnet and arousel is the chase and you denied him of that..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Offthebat'His loss;-) ... is my gain ... ?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't contact guys, I.let them contact me... Mind you there is this annoyingly sexy pilot ejo is as kinky as hell with a mind so imaginative I would happily fuck IT, except he doesn't turn up for dates, leading me to beliebe he is either 17 or in involuntary lock down in a mental health facility... But my god, that guy's mind...Omg. but hey, if he doesn't show up, he could be Thor in the.first person, I ain't gojng to waste my time chasing him... Have a look at a nook called THE RULES. Hehe...works for me... I.just transfer the ideas to ongoing fwb instead.of lifetime relationships. Can't be bothered with long work lifetime relationships any more.
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RHP User
14 years ago
he may think you are a guy posing as a woman...and believe me, there are a few on this site, so i guess you will just have to wait for the next "bus" as so aptly put by one poster. Of course, you could send him a busload of flirts to try and grab his attention.And anyway, how come you haven't sent me an email I'd answer...Ricky
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm new to this but I'm sure it's just like women, I like to see what I'm in for and with a profile that doesn't have a pic then who knows what is on the other side. You could be a bloke for all we know, seriously.....Post a profile pic and see the results change for you. Surely there will be someone out there that clicks with you!!! My thoughts anyway.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe there's not enough in your profile to motivate him to meet you. You have no pic, no gallery pic and the rest of your profile is a bit barren. If the guy is in a position to be choosy it's no different than it is for us guys.I'll be brutally honest and say that I believe a huge number of women in here expect to punch well above their weight and for those ladies the odds of getting what they want are not dissimilar to that of the average guy in here. Maybe the guy is only turned on by wafer thin girls, maybe he's into girls under 5'3" who knows but just like all the women here that reject guys for whatever reason, he has no obligation to take any woman up on an offer nor explain why he's not interested.It could even be that he's not really the person you see in the profile or any one of a thousand other reasons.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi All if you contact me I asure you I will reply and wont ignore you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If anyone has any problems with this in Perth then you know who to hit up then :)
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JessicaRabbit
14 years ago
Perhaps he has backed out because he isn't really single...As QLD2ForFun mentioned, not all guys on here are. I had one who seemed very keen, chatted for a few weeks and sent me pics before organising a meet, then went silent on the day we were supposed to meet (thankfully I text before leaving the house). My guess was he was in a relationship but just enjoyed the thrill. Shock, horror, not everyone on here is genuine! Dida xx
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Smilingwithfun
14 years ago
He is choosing not to contact you. Why are people amazed that a male is not thinking with his dick? Ask the woman on this site, they don't take up every offer they get,why should men be different?
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RHP User
14 years ago
It s called life as the rolling stones say "You cant always get what you want " . So get your hands on one of his friends and give him ah night 2 remember just 2 let him know what he missed out on . lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
There is the other side to this too - someone (me for example) who was in a committed relationship, which children involved, for 15 yrs until 3/4 of the way through last year, then ended in a series of mega arguments and disagreements and other things where it became clear that stuff seemed to have fractured beyond repair, then having to work out how to date, approach women, make friends and be 'out there' again after a long time thinking that it would never happen that the relationship as it was would end and I'd be no longer living full-time with my kids (youngest is 9).I suppose another facet to this is that the genuine guys which I hope includes me can be very suspicious of straight-out offers of NSA action since it's not the norm and it rings those mental 'alarm bells' to some degree. Maybe that's just me.Craig.
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RHP User
14 years ago
and i dont think thats the problem but if aroona is anywhere near mackay i can help you out
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's a funny "game" this Internet " dating" thing. I hear what you're saying offtb , you get so many messages and when one guy pushes your buttons (finally) , you pounce....as felonious said some guys can find that intimidating, or they can wonder why your so keen ( mr I've just said "no thank you" to a page of messages , no I'm not desperate , I'm particular ) If someone does say no I don't care there are sweet new boys signing up every day to take their place;). But try not to get into a situation where you are messaging and having to leave numbers, get your "ducks" in a row earlier:) Minxy xx
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blueballs212
14 years ago
Not replying to a message...any message...is just plain bad manners.... Having said that and speaking as a carnal 62 year old who just wants sex, any uninitiated message I get offering sex is entirely likely to be from a Filipino scammer, an American spambot or a cop trawling the internet with a fake ID looking for perverts...that is to say, it is highly unlikely to be genuine.......so in my case. although I would always reply, I would be extremely suspicious of any such offer.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The 27 guys you blew off may very well feel the same. I think when people rate you, a flirt gets sent out... Although you don't have a picture posted so perhaps it's the flirt with newbies function that's responsible.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have messaged woman and they have even given me their mobile, and you text with a greeting, and aftr about a week , im guessing there not interested.Go figure.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Most girls on here don't put up their photo. Which really derails guys from actually wanting to reply or meet up.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi! offthebat:) I read your sentiments it seemed to me you were offering the virtual stranger yourself on a Platter way too soon .... Both Sexes tend to wonder what's wrong when something is given away so quickly... maybe they think you do it too often with others .. Play a little harder to get let them think it's their idea ...they will eat you alive then in a very sexy fun way he!he! I'm 60going on 38 in attitude he!he! By the time I choose a Guy as a Lover he's more than ready willing and able to pleasure me anyway I wish because he knows I'm worth going after . The reason being is I take my time weed out the Morons Connect with and know the others ... What's left is quality Guys I'd enjoy to the Max...But they have to Hunger for me to appreciate what I offer... If I gave it away as quickly it wouldn't be the same at all... That may not be your way but it's something to think about .It's working for me Big Time :) Good Luck! enjoying those you're attracted too Hun :) Lu
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RHP User
14 years ago
So us guys are as lacking in manners as you girls..... and who said there is no equality of the sexes.I leave this post enlightened.Michael
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RHP User
14 years ago
you will post a picture, I would sure like to see who i am hooking up with
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RHP User
13 years ago
Iam very interested to know your story. I like your honesty.Please let me know your interest.Kunally
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RHP User
13 years ago
and he is probably not that into you for any or all of the reasons mentioned above. Move on, plenty more where he came from, trust me XXX
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'QLDtwo4fun' Not every one on this site is really looking to actually play. And I guess many of the 'single' guys here are not really single. Given guys on this site outnumber girls, hang in there I'm sure you'll find someone.
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brent3250
13 years ago
it's unfortunate that something like this has happened to you , i only speak for myself when i say that it has happened to me quite a few times and the best thing to do is move on P.S a picture of yourself might have sealed the deal so to speak
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I can only speak for myself here and without seeing your profile, but some guys do actually like to talk a little first, get to know who you are, not just what you like and want. I for one also, start to ask why me?? Neurotic I know, but there are scanners out there that try to initiate a meet just as you have, AND have no pics. There's an old saying that goes "if it looks too good to be true, then it usually is." Good on you though for being woman enough to make the first move.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Really, I think its like speed dating, obviously you want to land on someone to want to land on over and over again(when you spin the wheel), but it timing too--guys here like to play the game and see it that way, but aren't waiting around for the same amount of time a woman may need to make her move. Or maybe he was all show and no-go?Someone here put it nicely: maybe he wasn't into you and was just fishing. Girls on the other hand here keep seeing these amazing fish jump into there boats automatically (but smile waiting for the shiniest one) only to see him flop outta your boat and into the boat right next to you. Kittens should know not to play with there food, but they do it anyways.Happy Hunting Kittens(I always appreciate a woman just responding with a healthy YES/NO, obviously you cant do it all the time, but it part of this game).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Offthebat'His loss;-) His Loss!!!!! How's it his loss, poor guy doesn't even know what he's lost! I only read up until the first pages of this post and there are 3 of em...so sorry if this has already been said, but, when i seen that you have decided to just flick him to the side for not replying is just plain PISS POOR on your end. What is it WOMAN say,,,,,,"persistance and you may prevaile" show us woman how much you want us. Fuck me!!! when the shoe is on the other foot....its "oh fuck it ....his loss"...Bullshit. So many people have given you the right advise to put up a picture,,,upgrade and contact him....but OH NO not you..his loss. You know what ...I think it is your loss...because until you listen to the advise youve asked for...the same ole' shit will just keep happening!!! Why on gods earth should a bloke jump into your bed without knowing what you look like! atleast. We are visual creatures...we will even wank off to a picture in a magazine ( add my wifes nickers...and yeehaa....lol). My Question is........What are you hiding...warts on ya nose!.....come on girl give a guy a break and put your pic up if your serious about attracting a guy for SEX. He WANT'S to know what you look like BEFORE he wants to hear you talk......that's men......that's life.......and any man that tells you different is a liar! Just my opinion,,,,and only my opinion! Good luck in finding what your looking for Troy P.S. again if its been said ,,,sorry,, but just thought i'd add if you look at your SENT folder in your winks or messages the unopened or not looked at's,,,,,,will be BLUE and the little envelope icon will indicate it is closed not openyou can see if your msg/winks have been read!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Girls do it all the time too, even to guys that do their profile "by the book" with well written paragraphs, appropriate photo and write thoughtful messages that show they read the woman's profile. I write such messages to women and might be lucky to get a message or two back out of the ten or so I'd send a day, even if they are "sorry, not available". With that said though, I have met a few nice ladies on here, so guys do follow through on here.Your profile gives little incentive for any decent man to write back to you though. No picture of any sort, nothing really in your profile that makes you different from anyone else. Even just a pic would be enough for you to start getting messages/flirts in, girls have it very easy on here as they can pick and choose through all the rubbish until they find an interesting enough guy that stimulates them mentally, whereas guys will mostly never be messaged first and instead need to create the well thought profile, pic, and messages, if they even get read.So the point is, state what you want in more detail on your profile, put up a pic, verify it and watch the interest come in for you. Cheers.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Didn't get what you wanted hey. Not all guys are animals that will fill any hole at the drop of the hat. Maybe a little more effort from you would have been helpful, ie, a picture ! Would have been helpful.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' but maybe he is "just not that into you"Quite simple really. This. People will often rationalise it with a gazillion reasons but avoid the obvious one. Not every guy is looking for just another lubricated hole to dump a perfunctory fuck into.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fair goWhy is it women think men are just root ratsYes a lot are but he may not be he might be wanting a connectionI was a DJ in the 70s-80s and had more women than i could counthowever I was still choosy of who I had to like the gal not just fuck...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi I'm online long time people onli love lock pic not interesting to meet nowan interest to meet I'm love to someone do me profile better I'm wery bad writhing I'm lock for you help do eniwans love to help
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RHP User
13 years ago
Offthebat........straight off the bat lol....thats what makes hook ups what they are. Everyone is searching for someone they like but trying to find 2 people that like each other in the same way.....can be difficult.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Seriously.... just cuz you're a woman doesn't mean you are guaranteed for sex just cuz you say you offer it up. ATTRACTION!!! Men need to find women attractive just the same as you need to find a man attractive. So in all those messages and flirts you received in 24 hours offering you sex... how many did you jump for? Put the shoe on the other foot is right!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Best line I've read on the RHP forums thus far: ""He's 'over promised' and now realises that all that's left is for him to 'under deliver'"" How true.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe this guy likes to do the chasing and maybe you have come across as too aggressive for him(ie. too forward) I don't have a picture and have not had any problems, with guys contacting me, but I am not available now, just on here to check out the forums. Don't worry there will be the right guy for you that will like your advances, just be patient
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