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Stood up
July 16 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Posted on E&N page that it happened to me last night for the first time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a meet first kind of person with no pressure to play. I think I tend not to get stood up because of that... guys get anxious too. If they expect to play without meeting first, then they won't meet and I'm saved the bother. I did stand someone up once. I got to the restaurant and before I went in I had this overwhelming sense of dread. I couldn't do it. I turned tail and left. I messaged him and told the truth. He wasn't happy and boy did I get abused. Well - dodged a bullet then didn't I? I have been stood up - by a woman - a few months ago. I have a feeling it may have been a man pretending to be a woman. It felt as if I was being watched - a bit creepy.... Whatever the reason for a no show, an honest reason is better than none or a lie. I'd much rather be honest and say why and have the same in return. Then turn it into a positive... like Meander and her FWB.... or me as it obviously wasn't meant to be.... KH
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a couple we were stood up by another couple, it happens and it's annoying but the following week we met an awesome couple and had an amazing night :)
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Mainly it has been single guys that have not turned up, and one single woman (probably a male) Couples have however always turned up. We always ensure that they come to wherever we are going in any event. That way if they don't turn up, we enjoy ourselves regardless - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are quite simple ways to check if someone is going to flake out in you Being able to call them prior to meeting certainly helps.... but then.... getting that number and connecting over a phone call prior to arranging a meeting does most of the checking first - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's happens to everyone at sometime or another I think. But what do ya do? No point getting angry. Shrug ya shoulders and move on. It's their loss :) I tend to think that it's probably a bullet dodged because if they don't have common decency not someone I want to spend time with anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
we have been stood up twice which is really annoying as we dont have a lot of time and we plan things in advance. The last couple i had spoken to her on the phone and they were excited about meeting us. We booked a room and never heard from them again. The couple before that we travelled and ten minutes before were to meet said they would be late then nothing from hthem ever again.Yes people are fickle but gets expensive and frustrating! But then you meet some really amazing people and there isnt any hassle at all!
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RHP User
8 years ago
But not via rhp (yet), I have though three times on first meeting attempts (eg for coffee) via other sites. In one case I got an explanation of her getting cold feet. Lucky for me these were arranged relatively local (ironically I've had my actual success - platonic or otherwise - mainly with people from Melbourne, or further away in Vic, or interstate). But the disappointment obviously comes after have built up the anticipation, combined with the effort of preperation, dress and hope to make a good impression, overcoming nerves, only to end up sitting there looking like a lost puppy, wondering if there was a mistake on time/s somehow, or if you said something wrong etc etc. Unfortunately you can't guarantee or force someone to turn up, I will continue to try to make actual dates as there is no reward without risk.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...is that you know (at least from a rural single male's point of view) that you have probably sent messages to 20+ people to get to the point with one who is mutually interested in arranging a date. And so when they don't turn up nd you never hear from them, you know it's possibly going to take another 20+ messages and however so long (long term average I'd say a year) before the next opportunity. I'm talking general one-on-one dating with other singles, hasn't happened with any couples. However I did have an actual entire party cancelled on me while I was already over half way there due to other people's cancellations on attending! Lucky for me I checked my text messages while I was driving . All I can do in that case is turn around and head back home...
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RHP User
8 years ago
We have never been stood up by a couple but have been stood up by single guys twice.... Go figure they were keen as and then just never showed. One said he feel asleep and the other one just disappeared lol Should have taken Meander's tips and checked out a new bar or movie lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Single guys, mostly couples though :( One case, following a no show, Only to meet up at a party a little later on that day :) The comment by the male of 'fuck you're stunning IRL... your pics don't do you justice...' made me think about being stood up :) I actually asked whether the 'no show' was them getting cold feet about my pics :) Apparently, after perving at my pics, including our PG for ages, on the day of play I wasn't what they were after :( Seeing me in person at the party though, they had another change of heart :) They were disappointed that in fact I said 'no' to them at the party, proceeded to find myself a hot couple and put my porn on lol. I gave that original couple who stood me up another reason to regret their choice lol 😂 No second chances from me I'm afraid ... Mary xx
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Mask_007
8 years ago
I haven't been stood up. As they say "I still kind of virgin on RHP" I believe in karma, what goes around comes around. In my opinion they are the one in lost. And in real life I have been once. All we meet afterwards. I was fine with that. I think like KH mentioned is the best solutions mepet first but always with a plan b just in case. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
But having put aside an evening to meet up then trying to get in touch to organise an exact time or place and getting no response...almost as bad. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not stood up while waiting for them, but have been ghosted prior to the scheduled meet. But, I would be in contact on the day, to make sure all on track before heading out. A call or contact on the day usually sorts out whether someone likely to turn up or not.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
... but I put that down to my meet over a coffee first policy.. Either that or it's because I wait for them to contact me which no doubt lessons the number of contacts, but when they do are usually more genuine.. Only good if you have the patience to wait.
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RHP User
8 years ago
More times than I care to remember. Meh 😏 their loss. I don't get a lot of opportunity or time to play, so if I've arranged travel and plans with my OH and they don't have the decency or respect to stick to plans. Then, I'll just walk on by. Plenty of fish in the sea. Depends on the reason of course. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The topic name merely reflects that this topic has arrived back at the beginning in the RHP merry go round..... something even you have commented on in other topics. If the topic bored me, I wouldn't reply. You're free to do the same to my comments 😉 DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not a lot but a few times by one long term fb, longest in fact, one of the first I ever saw, and I'm going back again, what is wrong with me? He better show up this time 😠 Sometimes they're just too hard to turn down 😊 And another long term, not as long, but a guy I'd seen a number of times, again he was incredible, though I did place him in my past after that. It's worse when you've already been seeing them and you know how good it is, but the age difference definitely affords them more leniency from me. I expect they have a busy sex life with chicks their own age as well, and support that of course. Only those few times that I can remember. I haven't been a no show myself, but have dropped off the radar quite a lot while messaging
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RHP User
8 years ago
We have spoken on the phone sent face pics did all the right things lol I think people get joy from messing people around. For me to meet a couple and play I need to psych myself up emotionally and get a little annoyed when they don't show up. Especially if we travel to meet. I agree couples can seem as keen as mustard but must get cold feet at the last minute In saying that we did pull out of a meet but messaged them and explained
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RHP User
8 years ago
In more ways than one ... lol We all have busy lives ... and lives outside of RHP (some more so than others) If I set aside time to meet with someone on here, it's because we have chatted and there is an attraction. I'm not going to waste my time arranging to meet a guy and then not show up and find it annoying when that happens. I get that people have options on here (again some more so than others), but a courtesy text or message never goes astray ... Anyway, if a man stands me up or misses out on an opportunity to meet me, it's his loss ... Just sayin' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We feel that most men in our area get cold feet when the time comes to planning a meeting. At least they dont get to waste our time at all , but we really thought that average men were more daring and disposed. Sad :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
Most have no intention of meeting, they are just looking for a quick thrill to get off. Or they are most likely married and just want to feel sexually wanted. Usually when they make it an excuse it's something that you really can't argue with like a death in the family etc. I had one Saturday night, she was meant to meet after a dinner at my place, she went home and told me to go to hers instead and only for a half hour. Fuck that, the internets full of them because they could never do it face to face
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RHP User
8 years ago
Mr DEX is smoking hot! Those guys loss. She she very juicey and inviting with that smile. Fuck I wish work would send me that way for work for a while. Uhh...could only wish!🤔
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RHP User
8 years ago
Miss DEX I meant...oops damn typo auto spell shits me..
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