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Swinging Couples Who cheat

January 01 2010

Hello all fellow RHP' ers I have been increasingly amazed at the number of couples on RHP and other sites, who have profiles with lines Like"WE DO NOT PLAY ALONE"..yet one or both of the partners play alone without the knowledge of their partner. Having a look at some of the profiles today that i know this behaviour goes on, its just amazing to read at how emphatically they state their"WE DONT PLAY ALONE" line. Obviuosly i wont mention any names, and no i havnt been involved,but i know of one couple profile, where one of the partners, has another profile(couple) set up with a Fuck Buddy, without the knowledge of their partner!! I just dont understand that.They are in a great position of being able to have a great sex life, with the only proviso that they be together, yet that doesnt seem enough. My questions are: Have any of you experienced or know of this happening? What are your thoughts on this sort of behaviour? Are you aware of any relationships that have ended because of this? Really interested to know your thoughts Cheers

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RHP User

16 years ago

Firstly if a couple do not have the "we dont play alone" tag, then seems they get inundated with messages from single guys wanting to fuck the chick.. and ignoring the bloke like he doesn't exist. Now, that's just plain rude... so couples obviously try to discourge that behaviour by any means. Secondly, just because the say that they dont and then do play alone, doesnt mean that they are cheating. Thirdly, you base part of your premise on teh idea that if you are married then that should be all the sex a person should desire... and frankly that's not always the case. There's an enormous gulf between having sex and making love to your wife. Frankly I just dont see how people dont get that. And finally, I've certainly expereinced blokes trying to split up my relationship just so that they can get a poke at my Misses... and some will go to extraordinary lengths, not limited to spiking her drinks with GHB... so we can't always blame our partners for their actions, nor should we be all possessive of our lovers and deny/punish them for their moment of fun if that is what they seek. Hugs Stalky

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RHP User

16 years ago

Sounds familiar..are you who i think u are..lol

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16 years ago

So to add my / our pennies worth. We play in three combinations ...... well we think that the number keep count for us please. We play as a couple with mostly single girls , occasional couple here or there who are incredably sexy fukrs.. not just body but cerebral. ........ ahhh but I digress We play as a three some with a friend , single girl we have known for sometime. Now on the odd occasion the girls will find a girl and play alone .............( shit ) (ooooops) thats without me. Now mrs looking will when we have a lovely lady at home or with us indulge in some play by herself................ I have on occasions joined in but to tell the truth sitting in another room listening to her moan or her ady friend moan is entertaining enough............ (yes yes I know I will go blind) Now finally I do on the odd occasion play alone. With complete permission from my ever, ever, so delightful partners full knowledge. Ths is in fact with another friend that we both play with ( oh fuk you thought days of our lives was complicated..... ridge oh ridge...) I also read some other stuff the other day on another post about cheating ..... perhaps i will just cut and paste...... but the reason we( good wife and I ) DON"T CHEAT is because swinging has allowed us to develop this really healthy understanding of how we feel our needs and how to be open and how to fullfil them. See that Stalky bloke , learns quick for a new kid really doesn't he, has hit it on the HEAD! (BOTH) What makes you think that just because your married all desire will disolve................. pooooooooof offf it goes in a cloud of smoke , with nights out with the boys and not showering before going to bed! Another point from that stalky bloke .......... Hi stalky, nice to meet you, I am Brae ;-) I infact I have grown in trust, towards my wife .............. wow if she should want to grab another guy for sex she will just sit me down and tell me. YUP Stalky I get sick of having sad little single boys send STUPID messages to us asking to just (^#$ my looovely lady ......... guys if she wants it she will ask ............... now, now also before the onslaught comes ..... we have had discussion after discussion together (suprisingly sane ones) about her desire for bonking other blokes ...........its always her choice. Perhaps the good people that you speak of havent got their stuff together yet ( OH I hear it coming so... NOPE i am not........ NOT I say again, claiming to have it all sorted!!!) This is not an easy road any of us take, its complicated. society has taught us to be ridiculously monogomous. yes yes i am sure there are those that have plenty to tell me why we should be BUT! The point being we are taught by societies norms how to be "normal monogomous folk" not polygamous. In the road many of us take here there will be ups and downs ........ greeeeeeat ups and some pretty shitty downs! Of course relationships end ............. does it have to be about this or can it develop from who should put out the cat? Thanks this is an interesting topic. Great post many thanks!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hehe. For the right reward I can be whoever you want me to be single1. :p hugs stalky

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RHP User

16 years ago

Sadly, some people would think that partaking in a swinging lifestyle is a way of avoiding sexual deception within the marriage.. ie- if he/she is able to enjoy multiple sex partners with me, why would they do it deceptively? It does happen and swinging does not stop it- for whatever reason some people feel the need to carry on relationships outside their own partnership. I wonder if it is the need for a thrill, the inability to sexually express themselves within their relationship, the need to personally control the outside relationship or just a selfish desire to have more?

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RHP User

16 years ago

Great reply...Thank you. Perhaps the point i was trying to make and didnt clarify is that if a couple get involved in the swinging scene, it allows them to both express and meet their sexual desires, openly and honestly between each other. That is the beaty of the lifestyle.If they choose to play alone with the knowledge and acceptance of their partner, thats fantastic. Im specifically referring to those that do it WITHOUT their partners knowledge. Stalky...i think i know who you are...better send me a message confirming or denying!!! Can i c ur pg??? Girlycuddles...Whatever it is its wrong..i would be absolutely shattered if i had a partner and she did that....... Cheers

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RHP User

16 years ago

Single1 ! thankyou! Girlycuddles I am off to suck my thumb in the corner rocking back and forth .......... bye ............ said sobbing of to his corner ! peace and love to all sexy swingers Brae

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RHP User

16 years ago

Just keep your swinging self open with your partner, and don't cheat if you are one of the lucky ones who can swing and share x

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