Swinging with Friends

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  hi guys yes we have same as you friends a few drinks in the spa he was steves cousin and his wife known for years it just happened was a bit weird at first we thourt not see them for a while after thatbut they rang to go for dinner next week and all was fine now see them more than before lol and we don't need to drink to play lol xxx kaz

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  "Make friends out of swingers not swingers out of friends" is something I read a while back and kinda resonates with me. Having said that I guess we would treat it on a case by case basis if the situation ever came up. Xx - Posted from rhpmobile

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  usrightnow_Again

  7 years ago

  We have, and if anything, it was our preference to play with people we knew well. That said, you want to be fairly certain before you cast that line in the water. Some are open to exploring that further, some take huge offense at even preliminary feeling out. Sometimes we have turned down opportunities, other times we have initiated heading down that road. There can be some awkwardness the next day, after an initial occasion, it depends on whether everyone is on the same page, and they should be. Maturity, note that that is Not necessarily dependent on age, and emotional maturity are also factors. Another can be alcohol, it can be a social lubricant, too much can create problems and clouded judgement and end a good friendship too. Over the last three decades, sometimes it has worked for a time, sometimes it hasn't and the friendship has, after months or years of play, in some instances, ended too. However, that can and does happen with regular friendships all the time anyway. Tread cautiously, all be on the same page, never be afraid to back out either. Best of luck, hope it goes well, if you pursue it. Mr. & Mrs. urn. .

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  horneycouplewa

  7 years ago

  I'm not sure we could with vanilla friends that know us well, not even skinny dipping. A lot depends on the type of friendship you have I guess, I would be inclined to talk first, look out for jealousy issues too. I would be shattered to change the friendship and be uncomfortable in any way. I told a close girlfriend (known for 30yrs) that we swing and although we still talk it's not the same as before, my mouth is now sealed. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  curiousgirl35

  7 years ago

  They obviously want it and probably talking about it like " they swing, why wont they ask us?" Haha . Theyve obviously thought about how theyd feel about it. Maybe try soft swap and see how that goes? I can vouch for putting feelers out to friends, its definitely nerve wracking but sounds like you dont need to do that, just be yourselves and have fun. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  We assumed that it would be a bad idea to mix flavours with vanilla so to speak. Well that was until we had a Christmas party at our place with a mix of friends from all walks of life. There was plenty of drinks and laughs and later on in the night things began to get a bit frisky between some of the guests. At that stage anyone who felt uncomfortable decided to leave (including one girls boyfriend - but she stayed!) and things began to get a lot more interesting. A great time was had by everyone who stayed and now we get lots of friends asking when the next party is going to be !! You have to choose your vanilla friends though - and tell them it might get wild, let them decide if they want to come or not.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I have some very sexy vanilla friends, even a gorgeous couple that introduced us to swinging, but I just couldn't go there, as the friendship kinda dampens the attraction. Don't know why. I love making friends out of swingers though. I think with my friends it's too much of a brotherly/sisterly love which makes it weird.We have had some hilariously drunk, naked nights in the spa with friends though and not taken it further which was lots of fun. Even my best friend and hubby have had some raunchy times in my presence, but she felt so guilty afterwards, that we'd never go there again. Lol...it didn't bother me.It all depends on how easy going everyone is. It's not for everyone, so tread carefully.

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  boobsandbusted

  7 years ago

  “Make friends out of swingers not swingers out of friends" i like it mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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  BacioCouple

  7 years ago

  A very small number of our close friends know what we get up to (in general terms) and we've taken one of them to a club for a look. Another would like to come along as well. Would we go there with them? Never say never, however we're very cautious about it and at this stage the answer is a no. It is great having some 'vanilla' friends (who obviously aren't so vanilla) to discuss our experiences with, and not be judged though!

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  couplecourious

  7 years ago

  Has worked out fine so far. You have to make sure though that the friendships come first and know to stop at the first signs of weirdness. Just as communicating with your partner is important at all times, it is almost more important to talk with your friends. Good friends are hard to find though so tread carefully And good luck. Hope it works out for you both

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  And some are not. They may think at the time they arrr. I agree with WEmelt...😉 Fine line, sometimes the friendship is worth more than awkwardness or losing a friendship. Def make friends with swingers, no need to change the converted. Peddling to friends, first may take your offer then feel that you are responsible for selling them something they were pressureed into Even tho it was not meant that way.. Why did I purchase this shit computer, when all I needed was my vanilla tablet.

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  justforfun2da0

  7 years ago

  Thanks everyone for the comments it’s hard to choose which way to go. This visit had too many children around so opportunity didn’t present itself anyway but we did talk about it and we may take it to the next level next time - Posted from rhpmobile

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