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Taboos and Innuendos
August 16 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
A lot of men lie, and they do not have their wives permission. Its safer to stick to unattached guys. However....some guys say they are single but they are not? Single guys (who ARE single) have less complications. Even if you do play with your wives permission, the fact that there is a wife in the background will put women off? Of course, there are women who prefer married men, so good luck xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Who play with married women feel that it will not be complicated..because she has a husband strong feelings won't develop...but sometimes they do.I have seen on some single men's profiles married women only..I think these men may be looking for the zipless fuck..Why don't single women want married men?In my experience they just aren't available...either emotionally or physically..And are often wracked with guilt but some how manage to pick themselves up and move on to the next woman..Only my opinion of course..everyone and their situation is different xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I spent some time with a married man from interstate who had his wife's permission..he told her he was meeting me...just before he left he said he couldn't wait to tell het all about me in the hope that she would be jealous..that made me feel very,special indeed...It was just one of the reasons I decided not to see him again on his return journey xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seen the movie Fatal Attraction? There's some bunny boilers out there ..... That would turn me off as a married man !! There could be 20 women normal and that one crazy desperate lady could ruin your life On a lighter note if your partner knows that you want to meet others alone and you are both honest about it go for it .. - Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43
10 years ago
The numbers are against us. Being so outnumbered by men on this site, why risk getting involved with an attached person with the potential for drama and complications? Not to mention the number who may be lying. Plus being attached limits some options. He already has time limitations, meets probably require planning, and he may not be able to host. Many ladies seem to be looking for a relationship, in my case I can only offer friendship, and mutual physical pleasure. It all comes down to what the lady is searching for on here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I prefer men who are 'available' emotionally and in other ways. I also don't care to feel like a 'convenience' should an attached man have a window of opportunity - no matter how good the sex is. When it comes to chatting with men on these sites, I find married men often more interesting and intimate in a non physical way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its the availability of time that a married man can give as well. Even if they have an open marriage. Rarely can they do an all nighter. Who wants to spend time with a clock watcher who has a set time frame?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dinners out, movies, hanging out, going to swingers and sex parties, being able to meet up spontaneously. Most married men can't offer that. So it's okay if a woman is looking for a bonk only, most women want a bit more than that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Got want we need. :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Curious what you think a married guy would have over a single guy? I can't think of anything. Everything I can do with a married guy, I can do with a single guy. But not the vice versa. If two people are going to be able to define the limitations and restrictions placed on my dalliance, I think one of those people should be me. Not a guy and his wife. If I wanted to tease a taboo, or feel 'naughty' - there are plenty of options out there. There are numerous single men profiles in here who are anything but - so obviously lots of women just couldn't be arsed. Next!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wait... I'd also question just how much permission you have to play, when I read this: "Discretion is important!" ! Indeed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Discretion is important with our couple profile as well. Most profiles ask for it. My wife actually helped me with my profile as I thought it would sound a little better with a woman's touch.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I definately agree with the time management issues. I would say that I would be more patient than most single men. Sex isn't the priority. I receive plenty of that at home. I seek witty conversation and building up a connection. I would be happy to go on several dates before anything proceeded. The communication my wife receives on her profile from the single men would justify this thought.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A lot of comments in profiles .... seem to be used in an attempt to pre-empt and defuse rejection for the usual reasons. There are some things that just don't need to be said... as they should be a "given".
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RHP User
10 years ago
One guy told me he had an open relationship as his sex drive was higher than his partner's. When I said I'd like to meet her for coffee he backpedalled quickly and said she was ok with him finding extra elsewhere as long as she didn't know about it....yeah... sure!
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RHP User
10 years ago
We have had several married men who claim to have there wifes blessing. We always have the same answer. We will do a meet and greet with you both if your wife really is giving her blessing she can come along and tell us herself then maybe we can arrange a play date. Big surprise out pf id say 4 or 5 men weve encountered this ploy from not one answer after the initial proposal. So surprised. Mr and Miss TwosomePlus - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
you have no certainty who you are meetinganyone can create a profile stating whatever and be whoever they like attached or a separated spouse with new found freedom makes for great sexual liaisons just be aware of the possibility of jealous partner lurking in the backgroundand the usual head trauma that may follow not to far behindbut then some like the excitement of living on the edge of the unknown others who are content with their lot - don't
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RHP User
10 years ago
Played with an attached guy for a while, with approval of his partner (the three of us actually started off with a threesome). One problem for me was that all play dates had to be scheduled way in advance and he was not allowed to to stay the night. As spooning is one of my favourite things, it just wasn't working for me in the end.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I care not for being stabbed or outed as a home wrecker by a jelous spouse if it turns out they're lying. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men play when they can, relationship status matters little when fishing for an invitation. If men could get it easy then relationship status would be a deal breaker. Being in a relationship is a limiter on when, where, and what can happen so a woman that is unattached is more available and thus more attractive. There is concern that the woman may become "overly" attached (lord forbid) this is really only a problem for men that have poor social and communication skills, (eg faking attraction to get some) Most men can deal with this with the appropriate conversation and thus it is not a concern at all. Some men (and women) have egos that need to be feed conquest status, particularly the bedding of another man's lady. Depending on their social skills (ability to score) they may well be relationship women only. On the whole men will take anything because opportunity is far and few between, women on the other hand are spoilt for choice and can thus select men more suited to their needs. Men and women in relationship are general less desirable because they are less available, and for a good sized minority of us playing with someone in a relationship does not feel right if both people in the relationship are not directly involved. So people in a relationship are also for man a moral dilemma that is easier avoided.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why do we always have to be someone's second choice. Why should we be available to a married bloke to give him, poor didems who gets plenty of sex at home, more variety? Haha. That probably sounds bitter, but I still can not understand why some married men ask this question. Like it's a surprise to them women don't want a married man.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can certainly appreciate why a married person would require discretion. Though I hope you can similarly appreciate why many women would rather be with someone who enjoys their indiscretions, rather than demands their discretion. As it is is really a choice of person A (Now my wicked new partner-in-crime, whatever shall we make of our arrangement?), over person B (Fit in this predefined circle that my wonderful wife and I have made for you. Please). My commentary is based on being a single woman though. Perhaps married women would have a different perspective. I'm curious.... Has this question come about because you're wife is getting more attention from RHP'ers?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mr January........ are any of the answers really that big a revelation?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was in a bad marriage, I am not interested in becoming entwined in someone else's marriage. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
many married men just cant seem to understand that many women just arent interested.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
No judgement but you just said your wife helped you write your single guy profile? I haven't read your profile, do you mention you're married? There are married men here who reference their wives/couples profiles and are completely legitimate, open and honest giving singles and other couples the chance to meet them together then apart if that's the way it progresses. As others have said married men are too complicated and with no emotional involvement can't offer much and the emotional involvement ends up fucking with both people's heads (then there's the wife and/or kids factor!!) Single men if they're genuinely into you can at least meet you on mutually beneficial terms, drop stuff at the drop of a hat to do things with you and are basically available (unless they live with Mum and have a curfew), then sleepover arrangements could be a hassle. I guess for married men preying here without comsent could possibly comsider what they DO HAVE, and work on that instead. Statistically speaking women are more prepared to quit a marriage if it's not working and give both persons the chance to start over whereas men stick it out by finding stimulation elsewhere? I'm not sure which is worse. Just my 2c ~ Indy
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aussian43
10 years ago
Several people mentioned the inability to spend the night as a reason. That may not be the case. In my circumstances I typically end up traveling and staying in a motel. Of course I will spend the night! Part of the fun is cuddling afterwards, and waking or being woken by wandering hands in the middle of the night. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' Its the availability of time that a married man can give as well. Even if they have an open marriage. Rarely can they do an all nighter. Who wants to spend time with a clock watcher who has a set time frame? When I was meeting men from dating sites, I attempted to avoid the clock watchers at all costs as their attention is elsewhere.How boring not to mention rude.If you have insufficient time for a date - reschedule - or at least apologise to your date for being preoccupied and promise them you will make it up to them next time.Simples! As for me, I never organised a date on a day when I didn't have several hours free and I never organised a date on a night when I didn't have the whole night free, that way the guy could fully relax and stay overnight if he wished.Most brought overnight bags with them whether we had discussed a stayover or not so I would not have liked to tell someone they could not stay if they have planned or wished to as I would consider that rude.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey everyone, thought I'd pop in and say hi, I'm the wife :) Yes, the question was asked in reference to the attention my profile gets, even though I state I am married and not currently looking, I get daily messages and offers. Hence hubby's query as to why it's different from single men to women's opinions! Considering we have not been single since we were teenagers, we have found the responses actually very interesting. We have been on RHP for over 4 years as a couple, we had a break and have just started a new couples profile, and thought that by having singles also as an option might give us more opportunities, perhaps we were wrong lol! No harm in trying. We were still with the understanding that we can have the passion, chasing and wooing doing it this way also, and an exciting idea would be double dating with our new FWB, dinner dancing flirting and a lovely hotel room were all the fun takes place and sleep over's included .... At the end of the day, the idea is exciting enough, if it never happens it is no big deal, but we all have our fantasy's. I'd also enjoy my hubby going out for one on one time with a lady, I am happy to be part of any or all of the interactions, from the first drink, to the bedroom! In the OP he never asked why no one was interested in him, as we have been here long enough to know that single men get the raw end of the deal, was more the question as to why single men and women think differently, and that question has been answered! Disco xx PS .... Please go easy on me, I avoid the forums, because all you regulars can be scary lol!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yep. Now that you have said it your profile totally sounds like a woman wrote it. Not that this is a bad thing. You should actually write about what you can offer women... what are you after exactly... and will your wife meet the woman so that she knows you are on the up and up. I think all of that would help.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd ask a different question..... Why is it - do you think - that a single woman would want a married man?? Sex with men is obviously an individual thing; but what happens when she falls in love with you??? What do you do?? You're not leaving your wife right?? Yep single men still kick women in the vagina if that happens and it's not reciprocated.....but that single male is just as big of a dick too.... But he'd be a single dick... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm soooooooo not scary...... Unless its first thing in the morning 😝😈😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
As a married woman, my experiences have been vastly different. I concur with most of the above comments, except with the bunny boiling, knife wielding bit, lol 😈 For me, ones marital status is not equal to their 'emotional' availability (my definition may vary to others) I have had sleepovers with married men, even going interstate for three days with a gorgeous married friend. For me, it's the supposedly 'single' guys who have been emotionally and physically unavailable, that is, until very recently. Yes DG, I know my screening processes may need improving (you'd be proud, I'm on a winner now 😎) but even though 'scheduling' may be unsexy, I've never been stood up by a married guy who is truly playing with permission! Yes, you'd all argue I'm offering to married guys what they are offering me, you're right. When I've gone looking for 'more' where I too wanted more connection and spontaneity, it has taken over 18 months to find a 'legitimate' single guy I connect with and who legitimately makes time for me, go figure! Considering I'm a hotwife, you'd think that would be easy, alas not! But, all good things cum to those who wait (pun intended). Just my experiences, Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks to everyone for their input. It has given me a good insight to people's thoughts and feelings. In my profile I do state that I am married & on here with my wife's permission. I also say that she is able to meet on request. I have taken a completely honest approach and I guess that will be overweighed by the married men who are dishonest with their single profiles. I do not solely seek single women as I would be happy to engage married women with their husband's permission. Women on here are spoilt for choice with the single men and it would be a drain on time to filter and check if this honesty is correct. I am not bitter in any way but just like the rest of the men on here I learn to be patient.
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