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Taking a stand
September 16 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think there is something quite comfortable about being mediocre. I spent far too many years striving to be the very best at what I did. Now I am happy to be in a state of enjoyment ,just enjoy who I am,enjoy what I do ,not even competing against mediocre me hugs Q ,
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RHP User
9 years ago
Boring damned people. All over the earth. Propagating more boring damned people. What a horror show. The earth swarmed with them.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
I understand your view. But I don't think you would be happy with mediocrity in your work? From what you have previously described I can't see it being an accurate description.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've had so many in the last 12 months I can't really think of the most epic. But I'm a huge lover of quotes and have quite the collection on Pinterest. And one has really resonated with me over the last few weeks: "Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are. Your reputation is who people think you are." Sometimes I think we receive wisdom at the right point on our life - which is when are ready and open for it. I've spent all of my life concerned with what others think of me. But I'm now embracing who I am, my integrity, my values, my vision. I'm trying to not concern myself with what others think of me - particularly those who don't hold prime position in my life. My job is to stay true to myself - not to be worried or upset if people can't see who I really am. Not trying to convince someone they got it wrong. Because I finally realise that as long as I live truthfully as me that's all that matters, not other people perceptions of who they think I am. And it's been extremely freeing.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Got a loud and clear message not to accept being treated as second best or as a second choice. I am worth so much more! Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with Betty Q. Finding happiness , who you are, isn't mediocrity, it's what we all hope to find
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RHP User
9 years ago
I absolutely hear you, although could you perhaps say you're just no longer a perfectionist. As the say.... A perfectionist never really sees the real beauty. x I read the other day.... Are you happy with your current journey and is this want for your future...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...I resigned from my employer of 7 years, last year. For some time I had been unhappy at work and that had overflowed into my home life. Circumstances had combined to leave me feeling controlled and used like a puppet....my strings being pulled back and forth by various people at the time to suit their own agendas, and my path of choice with my employer was being denied to me in the name of "Operational Requirements." It wasn't really necessary to resign completely...I could've just made myself Casual and taken time out...but it was incredibly refreshing to cut all ties. I think that psychologically, it was symbolic for me. Of course, I've lost any claim to long service leave in just over a year now....but such things are not what's important. I feel I did the right thing at the time. 3 months later I was asked to come back and I was happy to return to work by then. Time out is a wonderful thing if one can do it for a while.I feel wiser and much happier with my lot now.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is that I am no longer a driven woman.,,I don't put the pressure on myself that I used to..I don't feel the need to achieve anything really.To just be is all I want. Is the world full of the mediocre,people who aren't being the best they can be.probably,but are they happy being mediocre? For me the yardstick now is about contentment. Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
...especially in the latter stages of a career that has ebbed and flowed. Sometimes, I wish I had the exuberance and moral certainty that came with being the dedicated Socialist of my youth, minus the sanctimony. Sometimes, I wish I still had the burning ambition that followed The Road to Damascus conversion to belief in the individual. But mostly, I am content in the knowledge that what I now do I do well, or perhaps put otherwise, at least I do not steal my pay...life's simple pleasures will do me and I leave it to others to rail against life's imperfections, perceived and real.
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RHP User
9 years ago
quite a few moments that opened my world up, the first time I took my clothes off at the nude beach, going from shaking with nerves, then feeling the warmth of the sun and the air in my other areas lol it was incredible, like flipping a light switch, nervous about being naked in public one moment, the next completely comfortable. Boy have i come a long way since then, my how things changed it was instant, and I found a friend that day, or he found me, gave me an amazing erotic massage, we swam and yeah you know, had fun, and that was it, I was then addicted to how my body felt naked in the sun. I also discovered what a turn on it is to be watched, lots of moments like that, that are life changing, the old body image stuff goes out the window which is where it needs to bloody go, good riddance. Then there were a couple of guys who worked me over good and had me squirting madly haha incredible, they knew what they were doing, and turned me on obviously, combination of both, full on encounters, but again, showed me what it can be like and raised the bar that's just an example though, lots of things like that. I went from not being comfortable being seen naked to being completely comfortable having sex in front of people, not just being comfortable, getting off on it, in the space of a day or a few days, different things happened. And there was no going back, I was a different person. Somewhere there I also lost the old jealousy emotion. I decided I was happy with who I was/am, no-one can ever interfere with that mindset, it's now either join in, share, I'll never again be worried about another chick. I love that, it's very freeing, even as a single person. So that was fast also, it all happened at the same time, I changed on a dime. And I'm writing a book, sorry
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RHP User
9 years ago
not actually writing a book, I meant my post was getting too long
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RHP User
9 years ago
adjective: mediocre of only average quality; not very good. "he is an enthusiastic if mediocre painter" synonyms:ordinary, common, commonplace, indifferent, average, middle-of-the-road, middling, medium, moderate, everyday, workaday, tolerable, passable, adequate, fair; inferior, second-rate, uninspired, undistinguished, unexceptional, unexciting, unremarkable, run-of-the-mill, not very good, pedestrian, prosaic, lacklustre, forgettable, amateur, amateurish; informalOK, so-so, bog-standard, fair-to-middling, (plain) vanilla, nothing to write home about, no great shakes, not so hot, not up to much; informalhalf-pie I don't believe for a second you are any of these things 😉 MsJonesy - reminds me of a quote "Someone once told me not to bite off more than I can chew. I said I'd rather choke on greatness than nibble on mediocrity" Greatness doesn't have to be a high powered profession, financial success or the perfect body. It can be as simple as accepting where you are and who you are and being completely at peace with it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Love your stories. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
That's very close to what my thoughts were. Although the light bulb moment happened at a work related conference, it also took my mind to places far away from work. To me it meant doing the best you can in any situation; thats very different to continually striving to be the very best. Hmm...to give an example or two... at work there are a couple of people who are well past their expiry date. You know the type...they complete their tasks with no enthusiasm, sigh heavily, any suggestions of changes are met with "we tried that 5 years ago", their public face features a painted on smile which screams why do bother me with triviality....again. Now in the context of my workplace, where the clients have been chewed up and spat out (and probably spat on) by family and/or society, but are trying to build a postive life for themselves, this mediocrity with which they are confronted does nothing to help them, does nothing to help change their belief that the world really doesn't care about them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
At a conference I once heard someone ask Wolf Wolfensberger a noted social philosopher about burnout.He replied that he wasn't concerned about burnout but about people who didn't catch fire in the first place Q
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
I love that!
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RHP User
9 years ago
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." - Martin Luther King Jr.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Twice I have taken a stand in a fight I could not win, the last was for three years and went all the way to the Industrial Relations Commission. Am I glad I did it? *purely rhetorical*The point is you need to ask yourself a few questions before you draw that line in the sand. The last question should be; Is it really worth it?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't confuse my personality with my attitudeMy personality is who I amMy attitude depends on who you are I think we determine ourselves whether we succeed, are mediocre in life. Others may judge us differently but I believe our own values determine how we grade ourselves. Nelson Mandela once said "Ï never lose.......either I win or I learn" which I think is so true as I don't believe anyone ever fails, they only just don't succeed to the level they have set for themselves.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Hank_E_Panky' Twice I have taken a stand in a fight I could not win, the last was for three years and went all the way to the Industrial Relations Commission. Am I glad I did it? *purely rhetorical*The point is you need to ask yourself a few questions before you draw that line in the sand. The last question should be; Is it really worth it? Would you agree your question as to whether your own fight was worthwhile (Is it really worth it?) might be considered from more than standpoint? Would you agree that some principles are worth fighting for? What of the idea that even if the outcome does not meet your own immediate requirement/preference, it may help protect you and others from similar injustices at some point in the future?
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RHP User
9 years ago
"...more than *one* standpoint?..."
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lol I think that was from" tales of ordinary madness "........ Bukowski would have projectiled vomited over any of his quotes ending with a "boom" ...... I have watched hours of his live readings and never saw one ending with a "boom" Here is another quote that might be more appropriate. " The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence".
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RHP User
9 years ago
You reminded me of homer Simpson's quote.... "trying is the first step to failure"
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' Quoting 'Hank_E_Panky' Twice I have taken a stand in a fight I could not win, the last was for three years and went all the way to the Industrial Relations Commission. Am I glad I did it? *purely rhetorical*The point is you need to ask yourself a few questions before you draw that line in the sand. The last question should be; Is it really worth it? Would you agree your question as to whether your own fight was worthwhile (Is it really worth it?) might be considered from more than standpoint? Would you agree that some principles are worth fighting for? What of the idea that even if the outcome does not meet your own immediate requirement/preference, it may help protect you and others from similar injustices at some point in the future? In hindsight I might wonder if it was worth it? But then when viewed subjectively the answer could be yes and no, a bit like damned if I did and damned if I didn't.In the last case I worked for an incompetent boss who realised I knew the job better than him so he did a hatchet job on my reputation. He wasn't that bright so it took a fair bit of skulduggery on his part and having his bosses close ranks and back him up made me dig in resist even harder. It was a hollow moral victory I won and it came at significant personal "cost". I thought it quite funny when after experiencing some stress related chest pains I was given a clearance and moral support by a cardiologist, I then went back to work and told them I did have the ticker for the fight...I'm sure as you suggest I did help prevent others from suffering similar injustices. I know that they were somewhat astounded by my resistance to the injustices heaped on me. It is empowering to know what you can withstand.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Smile always Naughty and nice people will smile back Unhappy people will wonder what your thinking - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My dad made some fairly significant life changes in his early 50s and I remember him telling me that he didn't want to wait any longer to be happy. He was dead from cancer a year later (he didn't know he had it when he made the changes). I left my marriage, quit my job, went to university and learned a new profession and started a new life. I don't think a person gets a bigger 'life is too short' wake up call than that.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Swami vivekananda - if you love me ,I'll b in ur heart and if u hate I'll b in ur mind ? Agree both ways ? "Intense work is rest " chaitanya - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Archimedes Eureka ! or phase of Illumination in Creative thinking. Of course it happens. I think everyone has them. It happened to me so many times and usually it's unexpected. I understand Q Not accepting mediocrity (excellence) comes with discomfort and sacrifice. (Ms)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Knowledge is like a puzzle and you feel when something clicks into that right place and everything fits and makes sense. Quotes just by themselves don't mean much until it becomes part of your experience. And your knowledge.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Lovely! I wholeheartedly agree with your posts!
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RHP User
9 years ago
And you will never be fooled by their words. It's something I've been considering a lot lately. Those that tell you certain things - yet their actions contradict them. I've always taken someone's word, having trust, being clouded by my feelings for them, or lovely things I see about them. I like to see the good in people. But not noticing someone's actions can be very damaging. Actions prove who someone is - words just show who they want to be/or want to appear to be.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Tell us about yourself....(mundane boring stuff) Then Tell us something really really really intersting that you've done... All I could think of was the weekend I'd just had ..which I'm sure majority would have found REALLY REALLY interesting but couldn't share because of main stream thinking . It totally diluted my brain from coming up with any normal day to day activity that could sound remotely intersting
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious'Actions prove who someone is - words just show who they want to be/or want to appear to be. Actions prove what someone did (truism that it is) To analyse the actions you need to know the circumstances leading up to the action, and the intended outcome of the action. Previous actions might be a likely predictor of future actions - but don't prove the character of the person taking them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's difficult to face up to the fact that what someone says doesn't match their actions . Maybe you have been making excuses for them and when the realisation comes that the words are hollow and without real meaning it is a shock,a slight humiliation. But it is important to not let that experience get in the way of being open to trusting again. Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
The flip side of the coin ,do we perhaps expect too much of people,perhaps they are just incapable of giving us what we want. Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's too early in the morning, my coffee IV hasn't started and my head clouded with delicious thoughts of today's activities 😉 I will re-read and respond when I'm coherent.
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Goodvintage
9 years ago
Related Poem Content DetailsBY WILLIAM BLAKETo see a World in a Grain of Sand And a Heaven in a Wild Flower Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand And Eternity in an hourKnow the 'I'
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RHP User
9 years ago
A list of quotes Mr sxc_swcouple tries to live by... Integrity is doing the right thing... Even when no one else is watching... CS Lewis... The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it but that it is too low and we reach it... Michelangelo... Everybody is a genius... But if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree it will live it's whole life believing its stupid... Albert Einstein... You may as well like yourself... Just think about all the time you have to spend with you... Buddy Love... Learn to let go... That is the key to happiness... Confucius... Laughter is the best medicine... proverb...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Collective mediocrity.....seems to be the measure of success in Australia. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So like always I'll dumb it down cos I just can't brain today..... It's better to fart and stink a little, than to bust your arse and be a cripple!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do not be afraid. Do not be satisfied with mediocrity. Everyday is a day of purpose and opportunities, don't waste it and then enjoy the fruits. - Posted from rhpmobile
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