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The Adonis Syndrome
December 25 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because when we join we are inundated with messages and it goes to our heads. Eventually we sort out the nice guys from the dickheads xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I suspect you already know the answer :) because there is an abundance of choice from people actively approaching that doesn't exist in the "real world". Anecdotal evidence suggests the situation is somewhat reversed if you're a male on vanilla dating sites and in the age range that girls approaching 30 are looking for (i.e. when they're inundated with Facebook notices of other school/uni friends getting married/engaged/pregnant).
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RHP User
9 years ago
Curious that someone else wrote this for you? It sounds more like Talls wording than the way you normally write? And it sounds like a post that a man would write. But its still a valid question. And Im sure that there are many men on here that would say the same. Where are all the real women?? But to answer the question, I believe I do find the good guys. Ive been seeing a lovely guy casually for most of this yr, and he would be the first to say he isnt an Adonis body type. I think he is gorgeous though, and its because he isso sweet and kind with a beautiful personality. He is one of the great guys. I think most women on these sites learn to sort out the players from the nice guys fairly quickly. Some of us like to mix it up and have a little of both. We are single and are attracted to what we like. Either just a physical thing, or more for an emotional connection.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Such an individual thing :) we're all here looking for what turns us on and are seeking people with those qualities. My concern is the implication of your post that an Adonis can't be the 'complete package'. I've met amazing people who are incredibly fit and Adonis types who are awesome guys. Equally I've met men who had tickets on themselves, and really had no right to, lol! A nice guy isn't a 'look' but an attitude for me. I like sexy with a hint of vulnerability, I like a sense of humour, i love a sexy smile and gorgeous eyes, I love muscly arms ... I can go on but in reality, like most people, I feast with my eyes first, then the rest follows. And yes, the 'package' must look good in those initial stages for me to want to continue ... Personally, I've lost count how many people have told me 'I look so much better in real life' than I do on my profile. I don't do filters or anything else in my photos and I'm really not photogenic, but the reality is im not going to be everyone's ideal package and that's ok :) just like me, they're all looking for different things :) There are some physical attributes I don't like, call me fickle, but I wouldn't go any further with someone in that case. That's the beauty of sites like this ;) Mary xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
With Willow and Shells regarding the authorship.
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RHP User
9 years ago
cucknshells yes i did have help with this i just could not work out how to right what i was thinking and it so nice of you to say you like reading my posts beening on here is helping me with my reading and spelling and i hope you had a great xmas
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do we have an outing of sorts?! (Comfy chair, popcorn at the ready) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can't knock someone who is trying to improve themselves, much better than someone up themselves.
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
is completely genuine - just provided a little help with the wording. Redhot and I are friends, and as such, assistance is available when desired - nothing untoward in this. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think it's an outing. If the intent of the op is what redhot wanted to say but just couldn't select the right words to say it then who really cares. At work I fairly often review other people's work for documents and other things like that and suggest changes that are normally accepted and used. Redhot has said above the forums are helping her with reading and spelling, so maybe she just isn't as gifted as others regarding literacy and vocabulary... And there's no problem with that, we all have different strengths and weaknesses. Keep posting redhot and if you need help then keep asking for it as you have done. All of the worlds best sports men and women still have coaches and we don't say that they're fake or cheating, they are just accepting the assistance of others who are offering their guidance and support.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Just because someone is nice to you initially and not the "Adonis" you say most look for doesn't mean they aren't just some creepy old dude who's done the rounds well before you existed and was refused because of his creepy behaviour. Just sayin' ~ others advice about not being so gullible or quick to trust would do you well. Indy
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RHP User
9 years ago
There's blood in the water.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ladies, I'm impressed.Your like the Dark Knight Detectives of RHP...
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Seachange73
9 years ago
So nice to see you post again. Glad you decided to stay. I think some people above are just surprised with the new narrative style of your posts of late, whixh is a huge deviation from your usual style. Getting help is good but I think suspicion sets in when a different writing style and thinking is presented that is different from you. It brings to question how much of the thought is yours. It's like getting somebody to write your profile using their words and thoughts rather than yours. I believe it is born out of concern for you rather than the nasty negative implications q couple has posted above. But glad you have explained and all great that posting here helps you with some help from friends. Moving on..... On topic.... I look at the whole package when I get contacts from men. I do get plenty of contact from Mr. Six-pack and Mr. Big-dongs but that is all there is sometimes. And it gets boring and tiring very quickly as they become one dimensional. I like interesting men as I seek fwbs. A physical attraction, this varies from one person to another, is also very important, part of the facet of a person. I'm not shallow. at times at meet and greets here and interstate, I would rather chat to more interesting mature or 'dinstinctive' men that emote warmth, smarts and humour than shallow Adonis who have nothing to say. it is out of genuine interest to me to chat to them. They know who they are when they read this. 😉
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Sometimes, for both men and women, to reflect and be introspective would enable oneself to change the course of the current flow of negativity one may be experiencing. We have it in real life like in business reviews, school report s, peer group reviews, customer feedbacks, etc. Changing the mix and adapting after learning is something people can do for themselves. That just takes out the blame on one or the other when behaviours are assessed from an objective manner. At the same token, we are not for everyone, so pick your battle and move on. There are plenty more fish in the Pie Ocean. ☺
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RHP User
9 years ago
Regardless of who or what Sixy used for spell and grammar checker it's disrespectful, in my view, to not accept the post as hers.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It isn't a choice between fit/healthy and nice/genuine/interesting. There is the same chance that the fit healthy guy with a good body is nice/genuine and interesting as the others. In fact when you consider that the outward appearance of a person does in some way reflect their inner mental state you could argue that the fit/healthy guys probably are more well rounded emotionally/mentally as well. That's the reason extreme bodybuilders, even fitness freaks, can be a turn off because it signals some form of mental unbalance. Also, considering the cliche that this is a sex sight; I can tell you the number of times I can have sex/cum in a day is directly proportional to how intensely I have exercised in the last week then you can start to understand the attraction of the fitter guy to these women. So, in a situation of abundance of choice you can see why the fitter guy has a lot more success on here.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry Red but your OP does seem to be something that a man would say and has been a complaint of Tall's in the past. Women have preferences and choices here,are they looking for an Adonis ? Maybe if looks are all they are interested in but if they are looking for more then looks are only part of the package.In fact many women are intimidated by very good looking men for all sorts of reasons. Most women just want to meet a man who is genuinely interested in them.Simple really. Q
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
The OP reads like Tall wrote it about himself. Not saying it wasn't Redhots idea originally. I like Redhots style. It's her. But l also like her learning thee skills. Just maybe next time less Tall? Just saying so no need to getting antsy with me. Back on topic. Just like normal life, how often does it happen that 2 people that know each other take a long time to realise that the perfect match is there in their life already? A matter of clearing the dead wood out to see the bloomers. Just a pity this place is a timber mill........
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Honestly, who doesn't like the pretty sight of things and people, at the first glance? We all do and we all have done so on both humans and objects, at some point in life 😊 But what stands out for one doesn't necessarily work the same for the others because, we all like different traits in men and that's the core reason to the "why" in your question about why some women would overlook those great men you that have described! For me, and I am going to be very honest, which may come across as blunt or superficial, and you might take it however you interpret it, but that's purely your interpretation :)......for me, self confidence does play a big part in the way I select my partner. I am no Jessica Alba in terms of body shape, but I know I am not ugly looking either, and I have the curves that some men would appreciate/like, plus I know what my strengths are and what skills I have to operate as a person. Self confidence gives me strength to pick the best for me and only me can be the judge to say what's best for me! Therefore, when it comes to selecting a partner (casual or serious), looks do play a part in the first instance. But looks aren't the only trait that I look for in a man initially. It depends on where I meet the man too. If I meet him online, his writing skill is one of the vital attractions that attracts me to wanting to get to know him. If I meet him in real world, the way he speaks will either be attractive or deal breaker. Take my current partner as an example. His physical appearance isn't what I would usually like, but I met him online and his writing skill attracted me to him enormously instantly! So I replied, we met in person fairly quickly and the chemistry has grown stronger and stronger each day since that day three years ago! And now we are in a proper dating relationship rather than a FWB relationship. Why? Because attraction and beauty are in the eyes of the behold :) I live by the motto of: things do happen for a reason. And I believe, in life, we won't be so clever at all times that we won't miss out on something good. So be it if I overlooked a great man in an average looking suits, it's just not meant to be and we are not destined to cross path with each other. Therefore, redhot666, no need to feel sorry for those great men, as they will meet their destined friends or soulmates, when their time comes :) just like you and Tall :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Upon the doubters - the subject was definitely thought and originated by said OP. Redhot did not quite know how to fully word the subject to her satisfaction, and asked me for assistance with the way she would like it to have bee brought on line. There were no ideas exchanged - just trying to put her ideas into words. The overall wording was fully vetted by the OP and changed where requested. Yes, it appears in my style as it was done with my assistance - but as the OP has noted she is still learning her written skills and at times seeks assistance with those matters. As a friend I am happy to oblige. Redhot will always be happy to write in her own fashion in the forums, and that will always be recognizable. But please understand that when it does not appear to be her on occasion, it is because she is not shy to ask for assistance with someone whom she trusts fully. As you all know well by now I am quite capable of putting my own subjects forward, and do not require anyone else to speak for me. Please show appropriate respect on both instances. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
I often find the Adonis types a bit of a turn off. I've not met with any, admittedly, because I've not found any of ehose who message me to be engaging conversationalists, and a guy needs to catch my intereat personally, intellectually and emotionally before I get swayed by how good the rig is.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I appreciate that Redhot felt comfortable enough to approach you for help, and that's wonderful. However, given the contexts of the forums, where people are often posing as others in order to troll or gain points in an argument, I'm sure you can appreciate the suspicions. It's not about a lack of respect, but about recognising a post that didn't seem to be written in the authentic voice of someone many of us have come to recognise. I'm sure it wasn't intended as an offence, but rather an understandable query.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I took it on in my positive rather than negative way that Red had been talking with Tall and as a result this raised questions for her that she then decided to ask here. No 'dick' work needed. It's great too see you growing Red. xox A lot of people questioned my choice of Mr P way back when but it was his heart I loved and still do love that he brings out strengths in me I'd not had reason to have faith in. I was too scared to catch a ball when I met him, and have a lot of fun when my throw hits the bin or whatever nowadays, lol. Throwing rubbish into bins even when out shopping is one thing Mr P does, and picks up the rubbish and puts it in there if he misses. I love his way and the way he makes me laugh. He is a decent man who cares more for me than anything in the whole world. That is humbling. He gets a lot of interest from women these days... much younger women... so glad I trusted him. My Adonis. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I personally disagree with your thinking on a few counts, except for the first point that it isn't a choice between fit/healthy and nice/genuine/interesting. I agree with that one because we have different attributes. Some seem to have it all, the whole package, smart, funny, nice body, money to spend, maybe these people are time poor because they spend all their time on those things and have little time left for family or loved ones? Others would like to have gym time but have kiddies to look after and unfortunately don't have enough me time left, after spending their time pleasing others. You are right that there are many variables, and the post here is considering that. Despite my appearances in my profile photo, I wouldn't consider myself fit or healthy, with the shit I eat and drink, and I'm also a smoker, but I'd challenge you that I'm just as mentally and emotionally stable as you. Body builders, well that to me shows focus rather than any imbalance, they are just people too. The lovely MrsPlayful has had the pleasure of meeting one more than once and by all accounts we was a fine young gentleman and a well rounded person. He is now engaged to marry last I heard. On the counter side to your argument, are you saying that all the nice men and women here who are not necessarily as fit or healthy as some are not emotionally or mentally well rounded? I find that hard to believe and if you considered the population in general in and out of rhp I think you'd find that to be incorrect. Friends, family, work colleagues.. I assume you know some great people who are not as fit as you. Your last point, I won't bother going into that except to say it has more to do with my mind than how much exercise I have had. Sure, exercise may help you feel refreshed and arouse your mind, but there's many better things to assist with that, like meeting someone you've genuinely connected with.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Howdy. I don't contribute much to the forums because it seems that a lot of the contributors know each other and I don't know anyone, but I do read them. For this one I'd like to offer myself as a guinea pig. Lets say you receive the best and most flattering message from me and you can't wait to check out my profile. I urge people to now look at my pictures only and be honest if you would send a reply.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've wondered this myself, and have kind of put this to the test in the real world, and the results are in 😉 I thought for a long time it was opportunity, online opportunity mostly, but not limited to, but in recent months have become fully aware of how I view or respond to men in the real world. I find there are very few men over the age of 40 who appeal to me, I can't help that, it is what it is. Now does that mean I rule them out entirely, of course not, but most times the ones I am attracted to have wives/families with them, they are already taken. So there lies the problem for me. I would ideally like a younger partner in crime, not live in, I don't want to do that, that's a definite no, but to connect with and spend more time with, yeah. But I need him younger, very horny and fit, and agree with everything deepestpurple said. Much more I could add but most of it would go down like a lead balloon so I won't bother. But fitness most definitely increases sex drive for men and women, and largely contributes to performance. Unfit guys can't keep up or perform to level that I like. Every has different preferences. I like the topic though. I think it is good to reflect on our patterns or preferences, which can change over time. I would be/am friends with older men or men who don't fit my all round ideal, but I don't get physical with them 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
My initial thought was to ignore this thread, as I do not have much experience regarding this topic. All I know is that in life what most people aim for is not usually what they get. But I would like to share, if I may, my opinion regarding language. Words are never just words. Language is our skin. It is as if one has words instead of fingertips. Language reflects who we are, all the richness that comes from within us. It's not only what we ask that matters, but also the way we ask questions. It's one thing to help a friend to express their thoughts and desires, but completely different when we alter how others see them. We are social beings and how others see us deeply affects how we see ourselves. We can even use other people thoughts, but they become ours the moment we interpret them, give them our feelings and our memories. My advise would be to help your friend with spelling, but not to control the way their thoughts flow. However, I have to admire someone who is so open and so courageous to ask for help. And there is something undeniably sweet about helping others ...even though you could be most adorable when incoherent. (Ms)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ballsy question. For me, it would be no, I'm a kind of zero body hair person lol you do look like a really nice guy though and I mean that. I also like your user name. It's honest and endearing in a way. You do seem nice, I hope you find what you're looking for
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Hank, I agree...very disrespectful. Yes, we should take Reds post for what it is. 👍 Red /Tall you don't have to explain yourselves or friendship with anyone. X To answer OP question, no one is perfect, so I look for perfect imperfections. That's more attractive/appealling to me, than a Mr/Mrs Adonis who "think/believe" they are perfect.. Ms Foxy
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On_Safari
9 years ago
I'm a predominantly non-smoking blonde with red hair 🙃 Your profile is very honest and well written. You've been true about yourself and quite frankly that's such a rarity here!! You haven't hidden who you are behind any smoke or mirrors. You're the kind of man I've spent most of my life working alongside and I'm certain we could rustle up some trouble socially. As for your question, No I wouldn't view you as a potential FWB. As for the rug, don't let it hold you back, the Best Man at my wedding is a bear of a man and has always had beautiful partners and now a stunning wife. He's a simple man, kind, warm, funny. He had a few set backs but his follicles have never held him or the women he's loved back! Thank you for posting and please continue, we could use some new blood and a man's man around here so Cavey doesn't continue making us all gooey with his virility on his own some. 😆😂😇. Haha
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fifolonely' Howdy. I don't contribute much to the forums because it seems that a lot of the contributors know each other and I don't know anyone, but I do read them. if you've got a point to get across, viewpoint to give, or correction to make - do it. Most of us "know" each other through posting on here, and for those who have actually met in person - it was usually as a result of forum interactions, not forum interactions as a result of meeting.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Can I ask why is it so hard to just reply back to a email... even if your not interested. I know its not eharmony..but a little class to say " Thanks for interested but I am not the one for you" or something like that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fifolonely' Howdy. I don't contribute much to the forums because it seems that a lot of the contributors know each other and I don't know anyone, but I do read them. ...and to add : Don't feel your obliged to "take sides", "like" or even agree with others opinions...just because they liked yours. We're all big kids now. I think..
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RHP User
9 years ago
*shrugs* I just want someone who is on the same page, mentally. I'm very unique tho, which makes me unattainable to most. 😜 Redhot..... I grew up with limited education and never really thought about literacy. I've never been a big reader of fiction either. As you may be aware, I've been on RHP for many years and during this time, through forum bashings for my literacy, I have learnt to write and spell better. I still fuck up to and too and a few others, Im no longer embarresed by it tho. I sometimes don't know where to put the proverbial comma either. It's great you're seeking help and even better you found someone who you feel comfortable with to help you. 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would send a thx but no thx after reading your profile. I'm not into hotrods, NBA etc nor am I fit. In fact I'm large and jingle, so I'd feel somewhat intimidated by you. Perceptions hey..... Goodluck to you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im sure my phone pisses me off deliberately. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
I don't fit the stereotype you have offered; I don't seek an Adonis with chiselled looks and a six pack. I seek a man who is honest, respectful, emotionally intelligent and who are seeking more than NSA booty calls. When I think of the men who I have been friends with they have been all sorts of shapes and sizes. Some have been fit, some have been desk (sedentary) fit. But all have an appreciation of spending quality time with me, and who make an effort (as I do) to make our times together be the best it can be. Those type of men will always be my choice; whether they are an adonis is never a deciding factor.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"Can I ask why is it so hard to just reply back to a email... even if your not interested. I know its not eharmony..but a little class to say " Thanks for interested but I am not the one for you" or something like that. " You can thank the dickheads that spew a torrent of abuse at the women.they send a message to when they get that kind of response. The women have been classy and then the dickhead will just mouth off like a true wanker. My advice? Dont take it personal. I would love to get a response to every message ive sent...but would be lucky to get a 20% response rate. Including the rejections. Take silence as thanks but no thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
could we please stick to topic, thanks.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am attracted to tall men - not necessarily with six packs as none off my 3 current FWB's currently have well defined abs! Nor am I worried about a hairy chest or back or face or nether regions - or lack thereof. Glasses? Who cares? A well sculpted face or arms? Not so important. All are 6'3" or over - my only real physical prerequisite is over 6'1" as I am so tall. Health is a big thing as well as I need a guy to keep up with me. This generally means they aren't obese - perhaps average or slightly overweight at a push and they are generally active physically in some way. They are by no means gym junkies and that would drive me nuts! I am no fitness nut myself and my body is certainly not perfect. After the height and health, it comes down to how we connect. Intelligence over book learning, wit and humour without being nasty, love of family and friends and able to hold a conversation. Do we have to have the same opinions? Definitely not. How boring! Different interests and ideas make for great chats when not fucking. I want FWB's that I can spend time with in and out of bed. Pretty boys are good to look at and feed my ego - come on we all have one of those! :) But they are not necessarily the ones I want to see again. Don't get me wrong, if I could have a tall handsome man that thrilled me in bed and out, I'd definitely put my hand up! The reality is I haven't yet met one. It's fun looking though ;)
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
I'm not looking for an adonis, not at all. An average normal body is fine. I am not a Victorias Secret model and don't expect a man to be physically perfect. That being said I do try to keep myself reasonably fit and would be attracted to a man who does the same. An attraction or spark is important though and thats the main thing. What I'm looking for is individual and different from the next woman. It has to be someone who interests me in their profile and in their messaging. RE not answering to messages When you get hit with loads of messages you do tend to browse through and if theres something you don't like you tend to move on pretty quickly. I reply to every email unless I have already made it clear what my position is and the guy continues to try and message. Then I just ignore.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree 100% , I'm no oil painting but I've gotta at least be a 7/10 on a good day and I reckon I've done a pretty good effort on my profile and I find that heaps of the ladies on here or groups won't even give ya a look in. #selfesteemreapers - Posted from rhpmobile
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McNuggett
9 years ago
People have looked at my pic and classed me as an Adonis until they turn me down and get my response - which is not what they were expecting. Very quickly they start getting the impression that I am a normal, considerate, respectful man. There are still men out there like this that also take care of their bodies....unfortunately I can't make my appendage any bigger LOL. I am new to posting so don't be too harsh and I hope I have made a few people smile x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I personally wouldn't have made the comment either, it was perhaps a bit awkwardly stated, but come to think of it, of the body builders I know (a few men and a few women) most of them do have/have had mental issues and it seems like the body building is a form of compensation or a coping mechanism. A few of them have turned into total narcissists. Of course, not that I would argue that my small sample of anecdotal evidence proves anything. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
A honest answer is a sexual suicide in here. I guess most men know the answer, it's a matter of time that women will know it too. As Socrates said "beauty is the short lived tyranny". All men deserve a woman, but is it a right? Don't think so. Competition got a lot tougher on both personality and financial scale. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
a quote from Henry David Thoreau. It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Quoting 'deepestpurple' It isn't a choice between fit/healthy and nice/genuine/interesting. There is the same chance that the fit healthy guy with a good body is nice/genuine and interesting as the others. In fact when you consider that the outward appearance of a person does in some way reflect their inner mental state you could argue that the fit/healthy guys probably are more well rounded emotionally/mentally as well. That's the reason extreme bodybuilders, even fitness freaks, can be a turn off because it signals some form of mental unbalance. Also, considering the cliche that this is a sex sight; I can tell you the number of times I can have sex/cum in a day is directly proportional to how intensely I have exercised in the last week then you can start to understand the attraction of the fitter guy to these women. So, in a situation of abundance of choice you can see why the fitter guy has a lot more success on here. I'm still not preferring the "fitter guy" to the man with the dad bod myself, and you completely lost me with highlighted part. I think that's rather offensive, actually. Well your personal preferences are your prerogative but googling "are you attracted to bodybuilders" and scanning through the first three links is throwing up a lot of support to my assertion its a turn off. I'm no psychologist but in terms of it signalling a mental imbalance I'm going to have to hold that truth to be self-evident. Whether B causes A would be a tougher one to prove but my common sense and experience, particularly with women, would say it does in many cases. It probably is offensive to some but I believe it to be a valid and useful generalisation and if I have lost you then I suggest that is because you are off with the fairies.
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McNuggett
9 years ago
Bodybuilding comment .......and it seems like the body building is a form of compensation or a coping mechanism For the minority...maybe but, in my opinion, a gross generalisation. Unfortunately some perceive bodybuilding this way due to a misunderstanding of the sport and a person's desire to take their physique to the next level rather than compensating for something they lack. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
interesting, I suppose people might say that the more educated people are a bit nerdy and bookish - but nobody says they're "compensating for something"... "Daniel did a PhD.... well, sommmmeone must have a button mushroom"? not a likely comment. Besides even the variance amongst any large group of people - are we meaning "bodybuilders" as competitive bodybuilders or do we mean "bodybuilders" as anyone who gets themselves rather jacked at the gym. So besides competitive builders, powerlifters, etc you've also got the dude-bros "getting jacked for stereosonic brah". Nobody criticises athletes training for competition - bodybuilding is not my thing, but if you're trying to win a competition that's just what you have to do. Also amusing when RHP takes the view that a minority pursuit is weird, compensating for something or is the result of some bats in the belfry - meanwhile it's on a forum full of people who partake in swinging and group sex, which nobody outside the community would _ever_ suggest is based on bats in the belfry or something else "wrong" with them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I wasn't necessarily inferring that they are compensating for something they lack (i.e. a small dick as eluded to by others...). For example, my cousin (who had virtually zero interest in fitness or bodybuilding) went through a marriage break up and stumbled onto crossfit and body sculpting.It was a way to put her energy and mind into something else rather than dwell on the depression of her marriage break up, which at the time was a good thing. It ended up consuming her and she turned into a complete narcissist, but that may also be due to other individual factors. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have been on RHP on and off for over 12 months with little or no success. I'm not an Adonis either, maybe you have a suggestion for me? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Definitely, but they can be choosy with the bombardment they receive . Have noticed a lot of the chiselled abs guys are on multiple friends lists , they must be busy , almost too busy to spend two hrs each day in the gym or work . Have also noticed a lot of women over 40 who only want under 40 men , such is the amount of choice , gtg scrap heap beckons . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
you add shopping and having coffee with friends your profile has it covered, you sound like a real nice guy, aaahhh there's the problem !
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RHP User
9 years ago
was to TheDiavel.
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cbdlivin
9 years ago
In the end because they can on sites like this....
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RHP User
9 years ago
can in the real world too 😉 Small disclaimer, when I said in an earlier comment, I agreed with everything deepestpurple said, I didn't agree with the body builder part, realized after but couldn't be bothered clarifying. I think that is offensive. Why would someone be mentally imbalanced because they have the strength of body and mind to execute extreme physical fitness, along with managing time constraints re work, family, other life commitments. And that makes them mentally imbalanced? 😀 Really? Sorry deepestpurple I did like the rest of your comment, 100% disagree with this though
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RHP User
9 years ago
Youre straying off topic by gelping someone with a question. The forum nazis will come along and smack you on the pee pee... - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Lmao! That's gold! 😂😂😂😂 @ Pee Pee Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
her first hubby.. they had played a bit before marriage happened.. and they used to call it a "Pee-Pee"On the night of the wedding.. they got back to their suite.. and did the wedding tango..Laying there afterwards.. she said..."Oh Larry... your Pee-Pee" is pretty cute after we do it"Larry said..."Baby.. now we are married, we can cut the "Pee-Pee" name now.. and call it what it is.. A COCK"She should NOT have been drinking that night... she laughed in his face.. and actually spat champagne on him.."HA!! now way.. a fckn COCK is 8inches, fat, and does a fckn LOT better then once a fckn night"She did NOT stay married long...
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RHP User
9 years ago
to Bringbacksummer sorry i do not understand what you are trying to say could you put it in a way i can under stand please
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Small disclaimer, when I said in an earlier comment, I agreed with everything deepestpurple said, I didn't agree with the body builder part, realized after but couldn't be bothered clarifying. I think that is offensive. Why would someone be mentally imbalanced because they have the strength of body and mind to execute extreme physical fitness, along with managing time constraints re work, family, other life commitments. And that makes them mentally imbalanced? 😀 Really? Sorry deepestpurple I did like the rest of your comment, 100% disagree with this though I'm not saying it isn't very impressive or an easy thing to be at all. It takes a lot of time, effort and money and to fit that into functioning in modern society, as you point out. My point is that extreme bodybuilders have all of those qualities and ability but then focus that towards building a body which is maladaptive to anything which does not involve picking up something really heavy and then putting it down again 6 to 8 times. They use all types of harmful and questionable drugs and supplements risking their long term health and often causing near term health issues for themselves such as baldness, excess aggression, kidney stress, bacne, shrunken testicles, etc etc etc. Often their motivation for doing this is how they want other people to perceive them. I think that signals someone who is mentally imbalanced. I should have qualified with; someone who is possibly mentally imbalanced, as I don't think all bodybuilders are imbalanced and I also recognise mental balance as being on a spectrum so the term mental imbalance is relative to each individual's internal cut off point on the spectrum to which the term applies. (the possibly was supposed to be covered by the "can" in "can be a turn off" but I accept that that was awkward.) At least two people, who are clearly not bodybuilders, have taken offense to my statement. Yet the one person I've seen post who is a bodybuilder was not particularly offended at all, he did not agree with the scope of my statement but accepts that it is a fair statement in a minority of cases. Bodybuilders live a lifestyle that is imbalanced, they project an image that is unnatural. I would suspect a lot of them don't view themselves as balanced or want to be seen as balanced. I say that signals a possible mental imbalance. Touchy, you're cool, I like you, you say what you think and I believe you simply don't agree which is ok by me. Summer, you're a white-knight, I quite often suspect you of being intellectually dishonest, I find you argumentative but you rarely post an argument that isn't emotionally based and yet you've criticised my research methods (for a rhp forum post). Where's your facts? If you want an argument or you want me to actually consider your point of view, hit me with one. "I disagree, that's offense" is boring, tell me why.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Deepestpurple you are entitled to your opinion of course and thanks for clarifying. Perhaps your comment here stating ALL bodybuilders use harmful drugs may have been better stated as well.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Your argument that they are mentally unbalanced. Couldn't be bothered copying. People get caught up in hobbies and pastimes. Maybe other things lacking in their lives but none the less they find something that interests them and something that reasonable within them. Something that maybe they could be good at. I think we all like to be good at something. Say a photographer for instance. Gets the bug. Throws themselves into it. Travel in search of the next good shot. Can spend his savings on gear etc. All spare time in pursuit. No difference to a bodybuilder. Something that they can be good at. A few take roids to get the edge. Not ideal of course. But most are natural. Your statement of mentally unbalanced is a bit fucked up and very judgmental of all those who love their body building. Yeah I know I'm a bit unbalanced so no need to go there.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'deepestpurple' My point is that extreme bodybuilders have all of those qualities and ability but then focus that towards building a body which is maladaptive to anything which does not involve picking up something really heavy and then putting it down again 6 to 8 times. They use all types of harmful and questionable drugs and supplements risking their long term health and often causing near term health issues for themselves such as baldness, excess aggression, kidney stress, bacne, shrunken testicles, etc etc etc. Often their motivation for doing this is how they want other people to perceive them. I think that signals someone who is mentally imbalanced. ... Bodybuilders live a lifestyle that is imbalanced, they project an image that is unnatural. I would suspect a lot of them don't view themselves as balanced or want to be seen as balanced. I say that signals a possible mental imbalance. I don't think it is proper to talk about "extreme bodybuilders" and then just "bodybuilders" in a way that isn't very clear you only mean one and not the other - or clarifying that when you say "extreme" you mean the type that does X, Y, Z. IMO it'd be like writing about women who were gold-diggin-whores... and then just referring to "women" when it doesn't make it clear you meant the comments to apply only to those "of the precious-metal-detecting variety". As far as supplements go - the only risky thing about the supplements is their damage to your wallet (which is high since many of them are completely ineffective when ingested). (Great post too Annie)
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RHP User
9 years ago
pretty clear to me the term "mentally imbalanced" is evoking a highly emotive and negative connotation for some people here in the forum. I'd agree it is a loaded term, and the response it elicited suggests there is still quite strong stigma, fear and defensiveness in respect of Mental Health issues in the community (broadly speaking). Dispassionate and thoughtful consideration of that one term ("mentally imbalanced") might evoke a different perception/understanding of, and response to @deepestpurple's suggestion; even more so in context of his expanded explanation. Upon reading his initial post which introduced the 'offending' term, I read his use of "mentally imbalanced" to mean a frame of mind with respect to an activity whereby a disproportionate level of time and attention is devoted to said activity at the cost/exclusion of other activities which are necessary (perhaps important) and which constitute 'balance' in the life of a healthily functioning person. Many of us would be guilty of that on some occasions throughout our lives. Sometimes it may be necessary for short periods of time in order to meet specific objectives. Holding aside issues specific to bodybuilding (such as performance enhancement - via dietary supplements or otherwise), it might reasonably be argued that prolonged dedication to a pursuit which interferes with other responsibilities or opportunities in life suggests an imbalance which may indicate, or if not addressed may lead to, other longer term difficulties. A simple, readily identifiable example would be work/life balance, and associated high incidence of relationship breakdown.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think RedHot has hit the nail on the head - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Over Adonis anyday. I want a man who knows exactly what he wants and he takes it. For me it is all about the experience. I don't give a damn what you look like but I'm a sucker for a confident man who is facinated with the giving and receiving of pleasure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
For articulating my point of view much better than I was able to. I made an offhand remark which I thought was pretty commonly accepted as a valid generalisation and several other posters jumped all over it because "that's offensive (not to me of course but I have nothing better to do than be outraged on rhp forums on behalf of a population subset perfectly capable of defending themselves)" And held my wording to unreasonable standards as though I was some form of judge handing down a legal finding. I think we all lost sight of the OP here. Some Oldandsoft dude managed to convince one of the more impressionable members of this board, who may have said something loosely resembling the OP, to allow him to post in her name so he can push his barrow. Then some more soft dudes jumped on board and started disempowering themselves by externalising the blame for their unsatisfactory situation and having a pity party over it. My post was intended to be a counter-point to this pointing out that fit people dp not necessarily forfeit other desirable qualities simply by becoming fit and, indeed it may be inferred that they possess certain desirable charactisitics from the fact they are fit. Indeed Touchy, validated my statement that fitter guys have more sexual prowess and is anyone going to question Touchy's sample size? And the soft dudes in unsatisfactory situations *love* to remind us this is a sex site. My advice to the soft dudes in unsatisfactory situations is to empower yourself by taking responisibility for your dissatisfaction. Old and soft dudes could consider talking to the mentally imbalanced about some of their questionable supplements. Others may consider not being lazy and bettering their physical condition. Or, and this is a very valid suggestion, take their sex seeking efforts to a situation which better showcases the positive features they already have. Because, like it or not, selections on this site are primarily made based on pics. Good luck changing that reality.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Back on topic (choosing to simply ignore the above), I think the answer to the OP is both yes and no because it is based on attraction. We are all different and attraction means different things to different people. Attraction is largely made up of two big things, physical looks and an intellectual connection. Because we are all different we all have a different balance between these two things when finding ourselves attracted. Some will go more so for the looks of the person and others will go for more of a connection, but there is generally always some form of balance between the two. By which I mean that many people will not just rule a person out if they don't have a six pack, but on the other hand if they don't find the person's look appealing at all to them then they will most likely choose not to engage further. I believe when it comes to the physical component of attraction only we each have our own range of what we like. For some this might be hung guys up to the age of 25 (example only), for others they may actually prefer a larger build to match their own body shape a little more. Some prefer taller, some prefer smaller, older/younger etc, but up to a point. So yes the look is definitely important, but for many their attraction is not limited to the Adonis.
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RHP User
9 years ago
redhot, I love the stockings you're wearing in your current profile pic!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is respectful to me,my family and friends. Is a man who would lift me up and view me as special as I would him. I no longer have time in my life for rubbish and don't want to spend any more of my precious time with people that don't invest same time and energy in me that I would in them. Give me real and raw and people that want to learn and travel and experience the world together with open mind that are caring loving and generous. That's about all I look at now after once only seeing the top layer I want more now. I want someone that's as passionate as me and as imperfect as me :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If the pot isn't stirred the soup gets burned. 😇 Xx
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I love an Adonis ❤️ But what constitutes an adonis to me could be very different to anyone else's definition.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Love an Adonis Belt... 😉 to.die for. I can't help staring, touching, kissing my fwbs Adonis belt. Hubba hubba
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RHP User
9 years ago
'Letting Go of "Let It Go": The Deeper Truths of "Frozen". Carolyn Pirtle, M.M., M.S.M. University of Notre Dame 27OCT14 “The news just came in from the County of Keck That a very small bug by the name of Van Vleck Is yawning so wide you can look down his neck. This may not seem very important, I know, but it Is, so I'm bothering telling you so.” Dr. Seuss
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