The Mundane & The Magic

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I like to find some middle ground but there are some things I stick to just to make sure the playing field is what I am looking for. I find it quite easy to get caught up in the hype and next thing I know, I am thinking with my vagina! Just know what you want and filter out what you don't then it comes down to attraction and when the sparks fly and the practicalities out of the way...the when and where.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Let the sparks fly if they will, it's not often that you meet someone with whom you connect. Look after the practicalities when they arise... There is always a solution... ;-)

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  44 gallon drum of fuel by my side and a pocket full of matches, but without any money, cant travel, cant host, cant even call. How do I handle the mundane? One inconceivably practical, brain numbingly level headed day at a time.Filtering new contacts? Is it still considered filtering if you let nothing through. I am tempted at times to engage, but I can't start someone else's fire only to let them down.But that's me, yawn... OP don't be rushed, don't be pushed, if it does not feel right don't do it. Each new contact has its pros and cons, you stay practical, have a little fun. Keeps the motor running and warm so you can be ready, because every now and then someone comes along that makes you completely forget the meaning of the words practical and level headed, that's when the magic happens. A kind of middle ground but instead of hovering in the never changing middle, you swing from side to side, that way you get the best of both worlds. Well thats how i try to do it when my feet are on the ground.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I'd cross to the other side of the world to experience magic, if that's what my heart wanted. Whether it was an extraordinary travel adventure, a concert that I just had to go to, awesome chemistry with a man, a spontaneous invitation from a friend to come and hang out for a while, or whatever. I say yes first and worry about the details later. The magic, every time :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I agree with MissBB. To me there has to be sparks. Without the sparks I don't care about the practicalities anyway. I have always loved a good challenge so the practicalities can usually be sorted out. If you really want to meet someone, between you you will make it happen. To me the big question is what is a reasonable time frame to give someone to get their shit together?

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  On_Safari

  11 years ago

  And seeing if the attraction and desire to pursue that option exists. Nothing worse than building someone's hopes up then upon meeting dashing a those hopes. This is a 2-way street because not only will they be disappointed but so will you. On the other hand you never know where lightning will strike and I'm all for experiencing that electrifying kind of chemistry even if it is purely sexual. Go with your gut instinct Nortee even if it's not what you wish to do....our 6th sense has a reason and it's going to be right. You can't fight fate. ~ Hugs IOS

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  6exxy

  11 years ago

  But I can be lead adtray☺️ SoRks 🎉 are so lovely...............

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  6exxy

  11 years ago

  Oops 😳

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  How long to give someone? I'd say get on with your own life, it's their responsibility to get it together. If they don't then you're not important enough for them to do so. If they can't rise to the challenge of meeting your needs then you need to move on emotionally. It hurts like a bitch. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is broken, relationships don't work to fix people, people need to fix themselves before they can be in a relationship. Even just a fwb if it's going to work. God I hope I'm not sounding all dr Phil here. Just been through this a bit in the past... Peace, love and Mung Beans xxx

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  MsJonesy

  11 years ago

  I think it depends on what you are looking for Nortee. If you're after fb or one off type arrangements then the spark is more likely to be the important factor and the practicalities will fall into place fairly easily because it could be a one off event. If it's something with a little more legs on it, then the mundane questions of how close to each other you live, what you want, availability etc come into play a little more. But I agree with Safari, arrange a meeting before you invest too much into it. L4Q - sorry to say that I think the longer they take to get their shit together the more likely that they may not really be into you. Or you are Plan B, or even the one that keeps them entertained online/text when they're a bit bored. I'm sure we've all met folk like that - it's just part of the rich tapestry of RHP life :)

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  twintownjack

  11 years ago

  If there is a spark between you, then remember there are "no problems only solutions" the rest will take care of itself. If there isn't a spark, then the solution isn't a problem.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I keep it strictly mundane and to the point... Then meet ASAP... Usually at pub or club where I can disappear if need be. I can never really ascertain if there is a spark until I see them in person and I don't have time or emotional energy to play fantasy games... Xxviolet

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  beebs

  11 years ago

  Can be hard when sometimes the world seems to be your oyster and the possibilities appear limitless.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Flow with the go. Some people don't need sparks.... some need to be set on fire.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  ...share that machine Shells???

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Is for washing machines and cars,

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