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March 23 2018
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blondes6365
8 years ago
Thats why ours are main photo
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RHP User
8 years ago
Keep It Simple Silly And you’ve already done that...”thanks but I’m afraid I’m not attracted to you” Which is not “you’re not attractive” - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
honest but as nicely as you can. That's what i do. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Be kind be gentile and be honest but not cruel I've had some some say to me if she could have my personality in a tall blonde body she would be in heaven And I accepted her rejection as a massive complement - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well, don't offer to meet. Then if they do( I'd feel a little bad, cos I wouldn't want to hear it myself...but ), "Thanks. But no, I'd rather not.." With emoticons. End with smiley-face emoticons for goodness sake. It softens the blow on yourself..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Guess I’m going to have to man up and actually tell them instead of the running away. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Tell rhem the trurh ,there is no attraction sorry . - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
how you would like it to be said to you ,generally with kindness and honesty , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I ask to see face pics ASAP. If I meet someone in 'real life' I see their face straight away, I don't see it as being any different here. If you're going to respond to them and want to give them a reason then I'd be honest about it (it would be pretty obvious anyway by that stage), but as Anti said just state that you aren't attracted to them and avoid making any statements or comments about their appearance.
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Rlee552
8 years ago
The nature of this site is there will be rejections and you will be rejecting people. 1. Let them know as early as possible, so they don’t keep on bothering you 2. Keep it simple so you and them can move on. I liked the one up above -sorry, I am not attracted to you.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There seems to be no standard approach, some ignore, some say it nicely.. for us, If the person has made an effort and written a message and respectfully, we like to reply either way. If its a flirt, or poorly written message, or even a bit crass we wont reply as usually we will get a nasty response no matter how gentle or flattering we try to be.
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curiousnhorny05
8 years ago
My hang up is I don’t want to share face pics nor do I request them until I’m ready to take it to the next step. But then sometimes you feel like either hell no or not sure.. and then you feel bad for doing that. I completely understand where your coming from! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I guess I have to find a way that sits well with me. Whilst I don’t like being mean I also don’t want to do the ghost. Like Kools suggestion of emoticons though. 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have read many times on here "Looks aren't everything". But they are to a degree. (Nothing to do with your personal post OP) There is nothing wrong with having a certain look you are attracted too, even if it is only good looking people. Though I have read many call it shallow. Its a shame we lable people for their beliefs, desires and persona. Oh well. Best of luck OP. Take the heat of yourself and tell them you are somewhat shalllow and ........ and then go into Meanders advice. I hate that too and I too have ghosted and been ghosted. Like BD tho, I ask for pic asap before revealing tooooo much. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have been rejected for physical reasons. The message was personal and very well written as to why. I found that very easy to accept. I even thanked her for doing so. I guess what I’m saying is the way it was done to me would be the way I would do it to others. The age old adage. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. We all have a type. It’s human nature. If all else fails, block, drop and roll. BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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SugarSugar69
8 years ago
I ask for a face pic straight up and will also share mine. It's gone both ways where either party has said thanks but no thanks and that's fine. Not everyone is going to be attracted to me and vice versa. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s funny... Rejection is understood yet no one wants to be the one that does it... So to help with the psychology of it... Try to imagine you’re at a restaurant or bar and you ask the waiter “what do you suggest??” The waiter gives you something and you read about it and think “it sounds nice....but I’m just feeling it....” It’s the same thing, so you tell the waiter “that sounds lovely and all, but I think I’m gonna go with.....” - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
"You aren't what I'm looking for but good luck in your search"Often get a thanks for letting then know
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RHP User
8 years ago
Be honest and upfront before you chat that you need to see their pic or cam to feel you could see yourself getting down and dirty with because not only do you want to be able to talk with someone you need to feel an attraction there as well? - Posted from rhpmobile
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skyhightypeofguy
8 years ago
I was once told that you don’t look at the mantlepiece when you stoke the fire... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldn’t make a straight statement saying “I’m not attracted to you”. That is a bit brutal when youdon’t need to be. I take the approach of complimenting them on something that is nice or attractive about them or their personality, then let them know they are not my type and wish them well in their search.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I do like the 'thankyou but unfortunately you're not what I'm looking for', and some variation of that is what I generally use if I reply (nope I don't always reply, sue me guys ). That's in response to a first message though, so may not work as well when you've already been communicating with them for awhile.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Had a lovely man who I had been chatting to for a few days on here ask for a face pic. We were getting on so well, even arranging to meet so I must give him points for being original. After seeing my face pic he sent a message ' not that it matters to me but are you transgender?'
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RHP User
8 years ago
Despite that it will make you feel better, the drawback of complimenting a person when you're letting them down, is that you're leaving an opening for them to keep trying. You could just say, you'd prefer not to catch up....but thanks, anyway. Don't need to explain the reasons. And if he says, "but why? We were getting on so well.."Then, you could stay silent, or pull out the harder stuff..."Sorry, but you're not my type. Good luck.. "
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldn't give a specific explanation to do with them and probably not really say anything specific at all except to make sure they know there is nothing there. Long time ago, I told a guy he looked like my brother... *cough* Peachy, pussy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Be upfront and keep the messages light and simple, usually 2 messages is enough before requesting to see the whole person although I don't see it being your responsibility to ask. I personally take a no reply as they're not interested and don't give it another thought. - Posted from rhpmobile
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