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Those pesky single guys......
July 08 2019
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Tall74nHard9
6 years ago
Some people just shouldn't be here. What did that bloke think was going to happen - that the single guys line up and chat with him Tall
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couple6270
6 years ago
Single guys in clubs is fine and we enjoy it when the guys know how to behave. Unfortunately we have noticed a trend that singles entry to a club is sometimes seen as a ticket that entitles them to do whatever they want. We have found on occasions that if we try to get the party started in an open play area, which we usually do at a club, too many of the single guys take that as an open invitation to step in. At a club I would expect a single guy to start a conversation with us and then we are more than willing to have him, or them, join in. We have been to a number of clubs that have well behaved single guys and we have always enjoyed the night. It really depends on how well the club is managed.
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
We have no problem with them being there As long as they behave appropriately and respectfully towards us and the other couples / women present. If they start following us around in a predatory “pack” manner, that is when we complain. It has got nothing to do with being insecure. If we go to a club we go to enjoy ourselves. We have the right to enjoy ourselves. We don’t have the right to impose on others nor stalk them and generally make a nuisance of ourselves. We pay the entrance fee and obey the rules (which incidentally makes it very clear that stalking & lurking and following people around is strictly forbidden ) We are under no obligation to play with anyone and just because we are at a swingers club does not mean we have to play with every male (or couple) that approaches us . Sadly for some , they feel that just because they have paid $ to get in, that this now is a guarantee of getting sex. And then when they realise that they have competition, all wanting to sample a piece of a warm cherry pie, that’s when they become desperate and start doing silly things .
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi, Interesting,,,,, do single guy,s actually talk to single women. wow quess I have not had that happen over the 3 years I went to many swinger night,s so quess I have missed something, and I mean to say Hi and have a good natter, like more than 10 sec,s gee that would be different...….Oh I quess being 71 is a no no …. I tried talking to guys and may have just talked to a lamp post , at least I knew the answer first . I have tried to start conversions to no aveal, no point. ...noeleena...
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RHP User
6 years ago
We have met some lovely single men to talk with and others who remind us of the used car salesman on True Lies. Men in nightclubs grope and make lude comments more than most single men in swingers clubs and parties. I think some hubbies think these men expect sex. Personally, I only feel uncomfortable if the ratio is wrong. You tend to get stared at with the men hovering in these situations.
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
What l find hilarious, is that couples only think its single men that are pesky. Like their husbands/partners are Saints and would never be sleazy when their back are turned 🙄
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
And no Koko as a single female or when l've been with my now partner I've never encountered it either. Maybe l'm not anyones cup of tea 🤷♀️ My now beautiful partner was one of those horrid, single males 🙄 plus the many more awesome single male friends I've met from here have made my life richer for meeting them.
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Dirtyandfriendly
6 years ago
I'd never go to an event as the single Male ever again, unless I was specifically invited and it involved single men as the purpose of the event eg, gangbang, 3 some stiff like that. I've been to 2 events years ago and it just pit me off and I had a slightly tarnished view of single men. I went dressed up nice shirt, pants shaved looking decent. Yet when other single men showed up they were in tradie clothes, boarders and would openly wank together. There was very few women and couples there and the vibe wasnt what I was expecting. I think I stayed for about 25 minutes before I left. I'd have stayed if everyone was sociable, but the men saw it as an opportunity to openly wank in front of people. A shower wouldn't have gone astray either.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I've noticed a huge amount of unfortunate single men whose dates are suddenly unable to go to Saints and Sinners and they need a single lady to help them get in.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I think you might be onto something there Koko. Not so much from a club, one man does stand out for me, who now is part of a couple. If only his partner is aware. Ms Foxy
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couple6270
6 years ago
I think the clubs that see single guys as a cash cow have made the single guy events unattractive to a lot of couples. As Dirtyandfriendly said it dissuades genuine guys, who know how to behave, from attending. There must be a lot of couples who have experienced that lurking behavior in their first visit to a club and have vowed never to go to another club again. When we started going to clubs they were, with few exceptions, couples only swingers clubs. If they held a singles event they were plus 1's. The single guy had to arrive and leave with a couple and they were responsible for his behavior. Unfortunately a lot of clubs don't see this as lucrative as the open door policy.
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RHP User
6 years ago
There is a couples chat room. But they dont use it and instead call out single guys who say Hello to them in the main room. I get that most couples are looking for other couples and bi women, but guys are looking for company too. Likewise, we have organised singles nights before and couples have turned up. Live and let live. Ive been part of a couple and the only crap behaviour Ive seen from single men was on the nude beach. I think clubs should scrap the 100 dollar fee for guys and instead charge a more agreeable door price and have a policy where men who turn up sober, clean and well dressed can get in. I agree that some guys seem to think anything goes when they go to a club. However, most turn up looking great. Everyone should make the effort.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
No means no. I also find "fuck off" means no. Just for the hard of hearing........
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horneycouplewa
6 years ago
We had the harassment thing going as a couple at one of the clubs here in Perth which we tend to not go unless a big event is on and we'll know a few going (tbh the guy's were let in with ugg boots or work attire ....standards, but that was just the visual thing then the entitlement came with it) The other club has limited them and/or couples only nights on occasion and I do like to see guy's at clubs and have found most are happy to just chat and learn. I try to invite them to encourage some to go so their fear of attending alone is eliminated, Pity they don't show up after registering on Greedy Girls night even after I offer to go with them :( Koko, a chat room is keyboard, pity no one has fun conversations in them anymore, which is why I don't bother. Honestly ffs say no if you don't want the chat in club, have a drink and chill out, why stress over it, don't turn a bad experience into a night of horror, enjoy the rest of the night, turn a cheek as they say....refill xx
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Couples think Adult Clubs are just for them. What a debacle! Single men and women have just as much right to be there. Sometimes they go to met other singles,not couples. And yes some single men that end up as a couple, can still be creepy, without the female partner knowing. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
I get a lot of couple profiles messaging me. When asked if I'm talking to both, he replies just him, the female half doesnt know. So attached means nothing. So ladies.....is your man moonlighting? There are a couple of forum couples involved. Anyone for a business trip to Melbourne?
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
After that announcement, feeling like an unpaid escort gurl.....
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Loose lip sink ships right....So you deleted my messages, good move...But...Did you empty the RHP trans bin....errrrr mean trash bin.All deleted messages go there. Like throwing a hot chip to the gulls
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Obviously as single male here myself... I can't speak on behaviour at more recent parties, but in the past I had been to many (but only in Vic). As for established clubs, I've only been to Shed 16, twice. I think the entry was actually fair, about $20-$30 maybe if memory is correct, but that was a few years ago. Once was as a pre-invite with a couple for play, the other a first time just having a look, and yes it was lucky on that occasion I ran into someone I knew, otherwise I saw myself as Mr Joe Average among many many other Mr Joe Averages competing for any appeal whatsoever, especially as there was a dress down policy (I'm not sure if that has changed, no point "dressing to impress" in that scenario). I did however also make some nice social chats with strangers on both occasions. Compared with all the house parties and other such events changing on average around $100 for single men if allowed. Which I find it ironic that the smaller events which charge much more seem to have have better behaviour (generally but not all the time), but maybe just because they care more, or they have individual contact for gaining an invite (as opposed to all that turn up) or the lesser overall numbers are easier to police, or because they are players/mini GB events which suit those attending. In any case I've only seen poor behaviour resulting in someone getting booted out once. In smaller groups, single men seem to correct each other's behaviour if needed. But this is where they have already been invited for play, (and don't want to lose the privilege). Yes I've been frustrated before at wandering around like a lost puppy at swinger and even vanilla social events, but I choose to leave the event in such frustration as opposed to getting desperate and pushy and making other people feel uncomfortable.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I know what you mean. Still a pesky single guy at heart, maybe.........
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well as a single guy ,,,,,,,,,,, I think if I meet a couple it is equally important there is a dynamic between myself and the husband otherwise it’s just weird. We have to be able to engage and click . If any husband feels threatened by my presence,,,,, this just isn’t for him . I really liked some of these comments made . Absolutely valid points . You see ,,,, not all single guys are mindless ,, thoughtless self centred obnoxious tools ........ I hate those idiots too ! Oh and FYI ..... I have never been to a club before .
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ElectricDreamers
6 years ago
We've never felt harassed yet but that said we're socially skilled people who can hold a conversation and are able to sniff trouble and avoid it before it's a thing... My husband is very secure too which also helps. The biggest douchebag men we've come across in clubs or parties have been part of couples. The very best parties I've been to have had a few single men in the mix, they are the least complicated dynamic in the scene IMO. That said we were at a party recently where the ratio was heavily sausage, and it was enough to make me not want to play. Then I was at a club abroad where there were couples there but also lots of guys, no-one was playing, and I met a guy I liked but didn't feel safe getting sexual in that environment so I didn't. In the first instance it wasn't that I didn't feel safe because my husband was there but it felt kind of creepy... If I had picked which men were there I would have had no issues.
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
At one particular club (which has attracted a few negative comments on another forum), they hold special events every so often which are open to all. Now its a fairly big club in its own right (certainly much bigger than those I have seen in Qld, NSW & WA), and on the special event nights they also open up the other side of the venue which is a club only for men. So they can fit up to 300+ in, and usually do on event nights. And yes, there are all sorts there on those night, and the crowd does not have the same feel as a regular night. I have seen some shabby behaviour from single men on those nights....as well as shabby behaviour from married women...and also from married men. So it is not particular to single men. I have been followed, and I have been approached in a pretty crude way on event nights, but a firm "no, no way" sees them on their way. On their regular nights, where single men are allowed in (I think that is Saturday nights, its been awhile since I have been), the problem doesn't seem to exist. Well not that I have been subjected to anyway. Just to throw another thought into the conversation, at a WA club, and at a QLD club, I have been hit on by the older male staff. Never had that problem in my home town. Sleazebags 🙄
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RHP User
6 years ago
Being short and sweet about it... People that are cunts aren’t predisposed to being a gender... They exist in all walks of life.....and all kinds of settings.
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RHP User
6 years ago
All this rumor and scuttlebutt in this thread! Loving it! Absolutely gagging to know who the evil once-single-now-coupled male is. And Annie, I love it - like a safe house in a movie, ''quick, we're busted - burn everything!"
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ive heard of this before. Not professional or ever ok.
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RHP User
6 years ago
in my experience, have been blokes from a couple. These are the ones that touch without consent or tell me I can't take a joke after being told 'no'. One memorable occasion I was told I was "too drunk, slurring my words". 'No' is a difficult mono-syllablic word to slur - don't you think? There are a smattering of presumably single guys who sit too close when they're self-pleasuring or they gawk. The gawkers unnerve me. I don't mind a little voyeurism but the hard-core stare especially when combined with the self-pleasuring is just creepy. Mind you, it can be difficult to tell who is there as a single or as a couple, couples don't always stay or play together. So it can be difficult to tell the two apart. SNW
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RHP User
6 years ago
There are pesky single guys where ever you go.... we have had a couple of single men as well as men with partners turn predatory when we may have played with them in the past.. they do think they are 'entitled' Usually a string NO is given if not interested and that settles that.. But to the original question if you are a couple and a single comes up and talks to the lady, we take that as a compliment.. and a chat is free and nothing maybe implied.. however young hot guys are our weakness hahaa
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hotdelights
6 years ago
jump on a single profile and u may have more of a chance couples most like couples connect its not the singles meat market
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey Koko,In my humble opinion, not ignoring the apparent lack of responsibility and decorum of the individual, there's a level of responsibility and obligation that the hosts of clubs or organizers and hosts of private paid events have to their patrons, males, females and couples.The fact is, without the $single guy$, none of these clubs, private paid gatherings, nor even the place in which this topic is being discussed, RHP, would exist. So like it or lump it, in the most, the single guy is always going to be there. Pesky or not. Considering for example, one local Brisbane club charges $180 first time entry for a single guy, ($100 compulsory annual membership and $80 a visit thereafter), as apposed to a single girl $30 and no membership, or a couple $60-$70 and no membership, it's in the clubs interest to have single guys present. Although profiting off the single guy, they still have nights that are purely single females and couples only. (They don't miss!!) I think the discrimination and blatant cash grab from single guys is quite well known with regards to paid parties, clubs, dating sites, sex sites, and is pretty well documented already, however, forms part of my point. My point is, that if a single male decides to pay handsomely for the experience, which does not afford guaranteed sex incidentally, as apposed to women and couples paying minimal amounts, it's the responsibility of that single male to realize that their own decision to take that path, does not entitle them to act disrespectfully or irresponsibly towards others. It is also very much the responsibility and obligation of the host to ensure single males are made aware of the required standard of behavior and to monitor and regulate it, even encourage positive behavior. To that end, I myself, as would many others here, far prefer gatherings with friends and guests where NO money is exchanged. Perhaps that's where the people should go...and the pesky single males don't get invited...Or perhaps the clubs should show some respect for their patrons, and pull their finger out! Zany
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think the fee for men is ridiculous. But.... we arrange lots of social events, meet and greets, and we have had some at a club where the fee is reduced. There are no expectations. I dont expect anything will change soon.
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Good_Bad
6 years ago
People here talk about "single males" as though some people are born in couples 😅🙃
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RHP User
6 years ago
As a single man I haven’t been to any clubs. I’m shy at first and I think it would be much easier to go with someone or a couple even just as friends, so at least you have someone to talk to when you first get there. Getting someone to take you is hard enough when your new to this and don’t know anyone yet. Most couples, and I assume they have their reasons, think most single men must be single for a reason, either they act like some comments above or must be creeps. I have found the hardest thing as a single guy, is to get people to actually want to meet you in fear you might be one of those dickheads. Just my thoughts.....
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RHP User
6 years ago
Like me haha x
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RHP User
6 years ago
And as many self respecting single guys will resent the rip off and go elsewhere the room fills up with entitled fuckwits, so everybody loses.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I've had a lot of the male half of couples contacting me without the knowledge of their partner from couples profiles where they bang on about how in love they are, how they only play together, a great list of demands pfft Makes you wonder how many women think they're in open/honest relationships when in fact they're heading for the marriage scrap heap
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RHP User
6 years ago
If they had more singles nights, broken into age brackets because it's easy to understand why young people aren't always keen on attending when the group are too old, and then charge men and women the same? It would surely remove the problem of too many single men, if they kept the numbers even. Oh and cougar nights lol ☺
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Look. In my opinion is a very complex subject. One side is people that do not want single guys around sharing/wanting what they have. Single guys that are paying a fortune to join some of those events and get discriminated/ segregated . And as well are single guys that are just interested in spending time in good company, maybe make some friends. Is a very big number of couples/single woman that can handle a sinple " Hi, i just want to say i like you profile" and that is eno3to block someone that just pay you a complete imagine what the do at the night club. And of course is the actual idiota that don't know how to behavior himself and is a minoria but screw for all the rest of us single guys... And to finish, just something to think about: If you are single and go to a party. And a single girl is free to enter, a couple is 40$ to enter, a single guy is 205$ to enter. How much that would make you think that you are entitled to Something?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Due respect but how much you pay doesn't make you entitled to anything. Perhaps what you meant is the bad behavior by some of the men, well they might feel entitled after paying so much to get in? I agree that high entry fee wouldn't help
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just because you decide to pay, doesn't make bad behavior ok! Everyone loses? I'm not sure you got my point, I was saying just because single guys pay the premium, does not give them the right to feel "entitled" to anything. The clubs may charge whatever they like....does that make stalking and uninvited touching ok? No it doesn't.
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Just4Fun007007
6 years ago
*superfoxxxy - well said. 👏
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mask... I dunno who would pay as a single male to go to a swingers club just to make friends...lol Facebook is cheaper for that lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
As long as they are hot and fit there can't be enough single guys imo Why would us women discourage more opportunities to play?
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree with you. What I hypothesised was the guys who won’t be entitled won’t pay the rip off price and so go elsewhere.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree with you. What I hypothesised was the guys who won’t be entitled won’t pay the rip off price and so go elsewhere.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Will get a much better deal for themselves on all levels when they wake up to the fact they are being played for what they have because they think with their cock. Men are continually exploited on all fronts because of this and it’s a closed feedback loop, “people” use this weakness to use men and in so doing train men how to behave and then whinge about the outcome. Example; “Harvey if I suck your cock and let you fuck me can I have a part in your new film” 10 years later. “#Me too” Both sides are contributing, both sides need to change. Mutual and self respect would be a good starting point. I’ll say it again boys, “IF YOU DON’T THINK WITH YOUR COCK IT WONT WORK” And for the girls, We teach people how to treat us. Carry on.
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Mask_007
6 years ago
I_touch Saving the day once again. That is exactly what I was trying to say. Thank you Lindona. The_Ant I don't use face book, and when in a swingers club i do never ever attend expecting something. I go to have a good time if happen all good and well if not, atleatihad a good time.
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jualfun
6 years ago
They are abundant in Qld if that’s what you after ,We have no single males on our profile and still get hassled to the point we have to be rude.If you are that one special male we will let you know.Even at parties some guys totally ignore my Hubble like he is totally not there. I guess have some respect for a couple and a least make an effort to talk to the male in the couple you never know you might be the lucky one 🤣
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zoe69r
6 years ago
well as a single guy who does go to events and parties with friends , and someone who does suffer from anxiety at approaching some people to start chatting with it is hard to chat to others , it does make it very hard to start off with , especially as a lot of couples are looking for the bi ladies or other couples and then the clubs charge the single guys a arm n a leg just to get in nd just because you get it doesn't give you any right to expect anything at all from anyone , I will always treat others with respect and courtesy , you will be treated the same way as I want to be treated , but for those that don't show respect this is why it makes it hard for us other single guys because unfortunately we do get all tared with the same brush . I have even been in a play scene with a few people and I was playing with a trans girl and I had a guy lean over and grab her penis and stated to play , I just looked at him and blasted the shit out of him , and ive done the same thing when other guys have leant in to touch a female ive been playing with , its not hard to ask if you can join in first , if you don't get a yes or a invite its a NO
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RHP User
6 years ago
Unfortunately there's always a few bad apples in every barrel give us single men a bad rap. There' some couples out there too that don't seem to recognise that couples privilege can hurt people too. As nice as it is to find lovely people to play with not many people enjoy being a plaything discarded at the end of the night. Soemtimes the drive home in the early hours of the morning can feel very lonely. Caring couples respect their partner even if it's just for a short time.
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Being a single male especially a white one feels like being a walking germ on the earth the way we are all judged and treated. I give respect everywhere I go.. I'm told I'm lovely and told they wonder why I'm single and why I find it hard to find a date. That's just society. We aren't all evil and sleazy !!! Sure there are some that are knobs. People just need to weed the crowd properly. But that mentality that white single males are just sleazy and everyone else is a God that says what goes is only going to make things worse
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Anti I would happily go to swingers clubs (more), without expectation and yes sometimes just to make new friends. Particularly someone or someones that could become ongoing friends. It doesn't need to be play there and then on the night. The ridiculous cost of entry though, combined with travel times/costs and then something to eat and drink, makes for a very expensive way just to even have a conversation, if nothing more. Which is why people might push for more, and more quickly than they deserve. Yes the meet and greets do similar, but they are infrequent and the clubs also contain a wider range of people than just a few that might be searchable (and mutually suitable) on this/one site only. I don't know about you, but I haven't found the Facebook groups dedicated to singles looking for sex positive people to meet and connect with...
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree, a lot of single guys lack social etiquette and really are out of their depth in those sorts of social gatherings. Having said that you also see a bit of another disturbing trend where woman aren’t comfortable with what’s going on and are clearly there at the instance of the husband, they can only play with other woman and no other men, while hubbie can do as he pleases and uses his wife/partner as a bait to his own ends. Then last but not least the best of all is when guys are well mannered, couples are confident and relaxed and everyone has a great time. That’s the best night of all in my opinion anyway.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi I’ve never been to one of these events, and thanks so much for the information and the thumbs up . Sounds creepy and seedy Plus a waste of time and money, I’ve got a bit more class and self respect then to go to a wanking cockfest 😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
If they dont have single guys they dont make money, ladies are very picky too in some clubs, so , some men pays there $ but dont end get their $ worth at the end of the nite.. The clubs need $ so they take any single men , and some time its too many , the nite end up like shit. 😂😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Our experience of single guys at clubs hasn't been good but I'm sure it's not the case with most single guys. The ones we've encountered have said nothing and just stared and started wanking making things awkward. And then there was that one time a guy who again didnt say a word just decided to take it upon himself to just stick his cock inside me 😳😱 no condom, no words, no consent. That did not end well for him especially considering we were just soft swapping at the time and he was old enough and ugly enough to know better. Obviously he got a big talking to and was kicked out. Single guys are fine as long as they're clean, polite and actually spark up a conversation and GAIN CONSENT first, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE DOES🤷♀️. It's really not rocket science.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I play as a single guy 9 times out of 10 events I attend I spend the evening chatting in the kitchen or the living room over a few drinks I hardly even get to the nitty gritty. Single guys need to realise it’s all about the first impression.. dress to impress and be a gentleman. I have to admit when I first started to play I would rush straight in and it was very overwhelming I would climax and then make a bee line for the door straight to my car while promising myself I would never be involved in such an environment again. Moral of the story just sit back be social have a dance have a boogie and let the night flow.
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
What do you mean when you said this "some men pays there $ but dont end get their $ worth at the end of the nite.." What is "their $ worth" ? Do you mean they don't get sex by the end of the night?
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Thank you Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
and what we are looking for appears to be a niche corner of the RHP world, therefore events are a great opportunity to find my delicious 'unicorn'. The ways events are structured for couples and single women mean there is limited scope for finding genuine single men and I do find this terribly frustrating (oh, on so many levels!), and this clangs doubly loud for those lovely bi men (slurp). Oh, where are you?!!!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Wow. You make it all sound so ugly. Us them sounds like if you have a problem you should at least try to sort it out. First thing if a rule is broken then report it. If the problem isn't solved then leave make a formal complaint to the owner of the establishment and never go back. It will change the clubs when they run out of viable clientele. Seriously less prejudice hate speech and more positive action. :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
On the other side of the coin I could open a can of worms on what single woman are like at these events. I’ve seen them cause all sorts of drama that’s unnecessary due to there over indulgence in alcohol and jealous behaviour of other woman.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I would love to go to a club for the very first time. I'm an intelligent guy, I dress well, look after myself, genuine, caring, respectful, but don't know anyone, that goes along. I'm quite a shy guy, but would so love to interact, if only a woman would make the first move.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Insecurity indeed. Any guy who is jealous, possessive, insecure and abusive to wonen is not a man... but a child! And a loser. Pfft what a loser that dude is. I feel like finding his wife and dating her jus to spite him coz dudes like that are honestly scumbags and not in control of their emotions or their mind. My advice is go jump off a cliff for that dikhead. And every other guy like him. Bunch of idiots
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RHP User
6 years ago
Been an enjoyable scroll . Very informative . I haven't been to the clubs and as a single male it doesn't seem very appealing . It sounds like a bunch of self obsessed people that want everyone else to treat them as though they above everyone . It eould appear we have to be polite and respectful and do all the approaching . Seems very old fashioned and boring . What is wrong with all you horny , out there couples approaching . Sorry but it seems self centered and narcissistic .
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funwanted11
6 years ago
As a single male, of average looks and cock size, i refuse to go now. The amount you have to pay in entry fee only to be judged by so called secure couples is ridiculous. If only you knew what your partners were up to behind your backs, if only
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’m fairly new to the scene, and genuinely wanting to explore things I haven’t been able to in a long time. If singles guys couldn’t attend it would make that more difficult, and surely I have as much right as anyone to explore my sexuality so long as I’m being respectful, appropriately behaved, etc. Although tbh I’m not interested in paying heaps more for the same privileges as others (digressing but gender income equality is also something I’d like to see happen ASAP). Plenty of guys have plenty of cash to splash and a premium price signals that there is ‘extra service’ being provided. I understand that’s not the way it works in this scene; unfortunately there are guys who won’t see it the same way I do. Basically, the higher price won’t keep the misogynist/entitled/pesky single males out, and may actually attract them. That all said, I much prefer to go to a party where the invite list has been curated and the balance is right. Clubs serve a purpose, and for those new to scene a good way to meet a lot of new people quickly. But we all have to follow the rules, anyone that does (single male or otherwise should e booted out).
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RHP User
6 years ago
There is a singles night on Wednesday. Check the Events page. The guys wont be charged a small fortune. :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
I hate the fact that being a single heterosexual female, when I go to clubs there are no single males because they don't allow them. I have never ever had an 'entitled' man approach me at a club when they do happen to be there. It is always every single time without exception the couples that put pressure on me. I have zero (nadda, nothing) interest in couples, and I don't actually understand why you would let someone you love play with another person (I'd murder my husband if he even thought of it). But I am constantly constantly bombarded by this 'vulturistic' nature of them. It puts me off going to parties, if I don't see a decent number of males on the list I won't go. But couples take note - I am not interested.
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MnauMnau
6 years ago
Well, there is no point to take these issues personally. Yes, there are ridiculous entry fees for single guys, but make it FREE and you have cockparty. Single girls should pay at least half the full fee. So they don’t act “cheap”. But, single girls and couples are like a magnet to get the guys in. It’s just a business. Some couples are nice and some are not. I’ve met mostly the nice ones. Usually the male is the “boss”, I understand that, but answering “No way!” to my simple and polite question “Can I join you? (To talk)” is a bit rude. But it’s his choice. Just my opinion.
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Koko that looks like a wonderful event. Could you please make something like that happen in Vic? ;)
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
To others: The amount charged above a certain amount has nothing to do with limiting members of men, it is only for making money. If you want to limit numbers, you don't invite as many. Pretty simple really. The only difference is clubs with complete open walk in policies to everyone, like a shopping centre. In such a place the high entry fees may limit men in an environment where they are unable to issue individual personal invites or advance ticketing system. Although they would otherwise happily take any numbers of paying men at a high fee, over time it could corrode the environment and they would lose the women and couples customers, and essentially have no club short of perhaps a gay sex club lol. For house parties and private events where there are preselected invites/tickets and numbers limited that way, the only thing the high entry price achieves is make money off the gents, and by all evidence is counterproductive in creating a respectful and no expectation environment. But it's not like it's just your local state/country thing on such differences in fees. It is a worldwide standard. As a social experiment (in the swinging world), what do people think would happen if someone started running regular parties with an even per head entry basis (say, $20-$30 per head and limited numbers or ratios), regarding the actual event and it's view within the swinging community as a whole?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Personally.. We haven't had any issues..
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RHP User
6 years ago
Again the single male description labelling them all the same. Just as people get invites (automated messages)that when reading say all welcome, then read further to see limited numbers of carefully screened single males to attend. In other words unless your have a Greek god like male body, and looks bugger off its our party our rules. Not decriminalising in anyway, just being very very selective. (Yes their place they have a right to a selection criteria.) catch 22 Then u have the couples complain about single men, yep single men. How the hell did they become a couple without starting with a single male. ??????????????????
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think it would attract more young attractive people if it was cheap for them to attend. As it is, it's mostly older desperate or creepy men they draw in, which is also counter productive because it puts off a lot of women, particularly younger women
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candiedheart
6 years ago
I am a couple, and have no interest beyond chat with single men. But I’m not inclined to being watched. What I don’t enjoy is on other platforms uninvited penis pics and the old chestnut of “husband would never need to know “ or we are a couple but I’m single guy. It’s made me cautious to the point of jaded:( I really think it’s a few ruin it for the good ones.
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RHP User
6 years ago
For me, Swingers clubs and parties are a bit boring when its just couples. I do prefer wild single men who are fun and charming to be there particularly if they are bi. Makes it fun. But I have also been to some bad parties with terrible atmosphere and the couples/singles/men/female ratios were all out of balance.. Too many awkward men and a few women. Eek. Also experienced the groups of men following me around, although to be fair, it was a bisexual male club mainly so.... but yes, definitely feels very intimidating. TO the men saying they would never go as a single male, don’t let these responses put you off. It is a matter of finding the right club/party that suits you and you feel comfortable attending. Finding a female lover to attend with would be the best though, And definitely agree - pesky men can be single or married while the wife has her back turned and women can also be pushy and cause a scene. Always find it funny when hubby is finding all the women too entertaining and is ignoring wifey, the gradually darkening of her expression before the fights starts. It’s pretty funny to watch. They are wonderful places for people watching.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sugar baby dm me to be spoil silly
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