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August 31 2011

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I acknowledge who is am! But for me to do this I must acknowledge that I am literally of two minds. For purposes of this example I will call my self Shaun and Jason. ( I'm re-reading the original bourne books lol ). I am Shaun. I'm a normal married man I suppose in the sense I want to make my wife happy, work hard to provide for her etc. We have a normal vanilla sex life that she try's to spice up from time to time and Shaun is perfectly happy with that. But sometimes I turn into Jason. Sometimes I can do this at will, but sometimes Jason takes control when I'm a little tipsy or horny or frustrated or angry. Jason isn't shy or controlled. He takes what he wants. Chases what he wants. Takes control. My wife is aware of both Shaun and Jason and accepts them both. But she only loves Shaun. And apart from the occasional fling with Jason from time to time she would rather he went elsewhere for that sort of stuff. Not that jason minds. He's more than happy to go elsewhere to which she is also aware of and accepts. Now sometimes when Jason is being Jason. Shaun objects. My question is. How screwed up am I? Any thoughts? Lol

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Shaun or Jason? Just wondering.............

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Pffft... a little bit of self diagnosed shitsophrenia never really bothers me... and you seem pretty vanilla around these parts by all accounts, given your ability to recognise those facets in your personality. Have you met Stalky, Icy, Gazpacho, or that crazy bitch, what's her name?? Sometimes I'm so clever even I dont know what it is I am saying (Oscar). :p I was deliberating this recently. I think we need our myths and rituals... a little bit of magical thinking ... to be human again. I think you should bring your Jason out of those shorts and let him go for a bit of a run ... as long as the fully functioning, domesticated Shaun isn't lost, a fantasy evening, away from the missus of that's what is required, is probably going to keep you sane when you need to be. ... plus... who doesnt like dressups? Does Jason wear a cape?Hugsstalky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    lol.i think shaun started it, and jason finished it. Quoting 'Morticiaaa' Shaun or Jason? Just wondering............. I think shaun started it, but jason finished. except shaun kept interupting.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'stalky' Pffft... a little bit of self diagnosed shitsophrenia never really bothers me... and you seem pretty vanilla around these parts by all accounts, given your ability to recognise those facets in your personality. Have you met Stalky, Icy, Gazpacho, or that crazy bitch, what's her name?? Sometimes I'm so clever even I dont know what it is I am saying (Oscar). :p I was deliberating this recently. I think we need our myths and rituals... a little bit of magical thinking ... to be human again. I think you should bring your Jason out of those shorts and let him go for a bit of a run ... as long as the fully functioning, domesticated Shaun isn't lost, a fantasy evening, away from the missus of that's what is required, is probably going to keep you sane when you need to be. ... plus... who doesnt like dressups? Does Jason wear a cape?Hugsstalky Rubber gimp mask? really? maybe you need to bring your inner shaun out more often stalky lol.I wish i had read your myths and rituals post. Speaking as Jason, I wouldn't be able to survive my relationship if I couldn't go out and play sometimes.like the idea of a whole weekend though. Usually its just a night here or there. Shaun's stupid problem is that he works too much ( so does his wife ), but these days i'm getting more play time than he's getting domestic time. He doesn't have kids so i think he should just shut the fuck up and enjoy his freedom while he has it. Its not like its going to last forever.I think his problem is he isn't getting enough at home, and he thinks he should always get more cake at home.But i think that if your hungry, don't have any food at home and there is a 24hr all you can eat buffet in the city, why not take a drive.And i don't need a cape. The kilt usually does the trick.nightjason

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    It is only your conscience telling you you should be vanilla, be a good husband, man, father figure, not give in to your baser nature...blah, blah, blah. Yeah we all have those moments. It is a throw back to the way we were raised.Those of us raised in a more open and honest way, with parents who are not so biased towards things of a sexual nature are more hedonistic and are more capable of embracing thier sexualtiy without these conscience pangs as does my daughter Focus. Then there are others, like Stalky who just embrace that side of themselves anyway. I know several men who have this problem and give thier alter-egos a different name as well. You said your wife knows and accepts the two sides of you. Therefore she must know that you have others in your life that you play with to fill the gap. All is good then. Just lear to ballance the two and have fun doing it. We all have a vanila side, one we show at work and we all have that naughty side as well. Otherwise we would not be here on RHP. I am betting that your wife has that naughty side as well...it just wont surface until she is older.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    ...but pretty much try to stick to who I am when I'm with someone. | Keeps me from confusing myself. | | The other is like double dating the twin sisters.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    In the words of Tyler Durden "Hey, you created me. I didn't create some loser alter-ego to make myself feel better. Take some responsibility". You should be careful. With multiple personalities RHP may well be within their rights to charge you for two memberships. Although I suppose you could register as a couple.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    too much sugar?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'fionabee' It is only your conscience telling you you should be vanilla, be a good husband, man, father figure, not give in to your baser nature...blah, blah, blah. Yeah we all have those moments. It is a throw back to the way we were raised.Those of us raised in a more open and honest way, with parents who are not so biased towards things of a sexual nature are more hedonistic and are more capable of embracing thier sexualtiy without these conscience pangs as does my daughter Focus. Then there are others, like Stalky who just embrace that side of themselves anyway. I know several men who have this problem and give thier alter-egos a different name as well. You said your wife knows and accepts the two sides of you. Therefore she must know that you have others in your life that you play with to fill the gap. All is good then. Just lear to ballance the two and have fun doing it. We all have a vanila side, one we show at work and we all have that naughty side as well. Otherwise we would not be here on RHP. I am betting that your wife has that naughty side as well...it just wont surface until she is older. lol. my wife asked me if she if she could buy a riding crop a few months ago. i wanted to say a lot of things but i think my actual response was "fuck yeah"lol maybe that naught side is starting to show and jason wont need to hide anymore,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...but pretty much try to stick to who I am when I'm with someone. | Keeps me from confusing myself. | | The other is like double dating the twin sisters. have to admit. while i have given my mind two names, might give it more as time goes by, i have never taking to naming body parts. would get too confusing.and for the record, my wife is a twin sister, and the sister is a work in progress

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'shaunmd lol. my wife asked me if she if she could buy a riding crop a few months ago. i wanted to say a lot of things but i think my actual response was "fuck yeah"lol maybe that naught side is starting to show and jason wont need to hide anymore,Most women grow more confident with age and this also reflects in thier sexuality. As they get older, they understand that it really does not matter what others think and begin to let go more and more. Did she actually get the crop and use it though?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Honey, i think everyone has different sides to them...two sides to a coin blah blah blah.... :) It's wether you like all the different yous