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Time Poor

September 07 2018

Just a general question I guess and interested to know how many other people out there find it a bit difficult to have meets with people whilst juggling family, work and normal friends? I love spending my weekend nights with my hubby and we enjoy going to the clubs with like minded people whether it is to play with others or just to socialise. Also family time is generally during the day on the weekend or we have other plans which have been scheduled well in advance. So having meets either has to be a week night and/or well in advance for a weekend night (for a couple) otherwise it's meet me/us at a club. I am noticing that not everyone likes to go to clubs which makes it hard when we cannot host. Also having to plan out in advance seems that it's off putting for others. I am thinking that because I or my hubby and I are not so readily available that I think at times that maybe playing with others is not that important to us or me? Or maybe because I am pretty happy with my life that I don't need anything else right now because I don't have the time? Does anyone else get that feeling at times? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    7 years ago

    I basically have given up. My ex no longer has my kids on the weekend so there goes my ability to host or stay at anyone’s place or even be spontaneous. Life is so full with work,study at night, kids ,friends, hobbies, doing life. TBH it’s in the too hard basket right now and when you know it’s going to be a hassle to organise anything it’s hard to feel sexy. I just deal with it now, that’s the way it is, but still kind of gets me down at times. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • quickfix4u35

    quickfix4u35

    7 years ago

    I know the feeling been a farmer and been so dry on farm feeding stock that now don't get any free time gets you down a bit as cant find any time get away to catch up with anyone. Cant plan to meet up as don't want mess anyone around as never know if can make a meet up on time. It will rain again one day to be bit more free tho

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    ...are generally the best at scheduling and often the most reliable. When one chooses to make an investment of limited time, you do want to see a solid return! 🧞‍♂️🤠⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I was going to say that i don't like the "term time poor"If i was interested, i'd make the time......and you know you can trust me, I'm a guy. But EQ....just sunk my thoughts

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  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    7 years ago

    But makes you select carefully when you have an available window. Seems when someone special comes along, there seems to be an ability to shuffle things about. Apparently, it's happy birthday OP. Hope you get one away!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    We both work long hours and have different shifts, so we don’t get to spend time together as it is even though we live together. And we find it hard to chat to people regularly when quite a lot of them turned out unreliable in the past. So we now prefer to spend time with each other when we are free instead of risking wasting it on others when they are not sure this is what they want. If we come across wonderful people who are genuine, yes, that would be different but lot of dodgy profiles nowadays are just putting us off. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    As much as the man was a misogynistic monster and a hypocrite, I do love John Lennons ''life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans'' quote (apparently he was not the originator but his is the most famous).

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  • kiwi_4_fun

    kiwi_4_fun

    7 years ago

    im finding it very hard being a single working dad of two boys , i try to plan ahead but its hard when something comes up with the other persons kids or my own , i only get every second weekend alone for adult time , lol

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    AnnieWhichway...yes it is. I'm heading to the gold coast (as I write this) for the weekend away from the kids and out tonight. Should be a good weekend, no real plans yet apart from Draculas tonight then wherever afterwards ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • curiousmrs

    curiousmrs

    7 years ago

    With work, kids, building, plus distance, it can take a bit of time to meet just for coffee or casual drink. Most couples are understanding of this. It’s the single guys that can be frustrated by it. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Yes we are time poor as well and people find it hard that we cant just meet in Sydney on a friday night

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Yes we are time poor as well and people find it hard that we cant just meet in Sydney on a friday night

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  • totally_normal

    totally_normal

    7 years ago

    We have had the same issue, if we already had a circle of friends it would be easier to schedule social or play dates. FIFO, family and home responsibilities have made taking time to meet new couples for a social 'first date' low on the priority list. So we are making lifestyle changes which should help us get back into the swing of things, it is time for us to create a better life, work play balance. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Freaky_Fun

    Freaky_Fun

    7 years ago

    To work and live close to you so we can catch up for drinks and laughs 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • egr2please69

    egr2please69

    7 years ago

    Happy birthday for the other day beautiful lady. I may be lucky only getting my kids every second weekend but i work shift work and travel long distances everyday so like most here i get limited sporadic windows unless i plan well in advance. Only every so often i get the miracle of an off the cuff meeting somehow squeezed into the day to day grind of reality. So no, you aren't alone in your OP, i guess we all just have varying levels of ability to get free. Hang in there though and enjoy the moments you can take xx - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Thankyou egr, you are so kind xx I hope I'll get to catch up with you again when down in Melbourne soon ;-) @Freaky, I always look forward to our catch ups they are always fun ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I only get every other weekend to myself and I'm not going to go to the trouble of finding a sitter for a random meet or hook up. I'm not into those those days anymore anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • tcm70

    tcm70

    7 years ago

    Yes time is a major factor for me also. AND I am a single male. I run my own business, don’t employ staff anymore, but at times get sub-contractors in. I can work for hundreds of different clients throughout a year and do all my own invoicing and bookwork, bar my annual tax return. I also have 2 teenage children which I have almost 50%. So the weekend I do get to myself is important to me and I don’t wish to waste it on being stuffed around, and in return I understand the importance of time and will not waste anyone else’s. I also live in a more rural type area so spontaneity is not always available. I do make sure tho that I inform anyone I approach, or anyone that approaches me of my situation, virtually immediately upon contact. I guess it all restricts my chances, but hey, I’ve got no choice, but if I do find someone then it will be that they appreciate my time and availability as I will for theirs.

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