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Time wasters
May 05 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
A classic excuse for when you can't come up with a valid reason... I'd love to but Mum's making scones.
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unicornhunter
8 years ago
Yeah same thing we’re not sure if we are intimidating to some. We honestly don’t care about your age or size we messaged you or responded so we want to meet. We’ve had people too shy, think we’re not after their age or worried how they would look. We just want someone confident enough to show up at least. If we got to the point of getting a coffee I’m sure most would be happy to see us more. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
To message you etc...but no time to meet. I couldn't do that, if you set a day/time then what have you got to lose!! A coffee/drink and then your on your way, if it doesn't work out then you don't have to meet again!! I have only experienced this once with the same person twice. My couples profile on another site, we've always met them and haven't had issues (so far)!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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pizzadogs
8 years ago
We have had this happen several times , we are a normal couple and don’t think we are in attractive but it seems that one we swap face pics they no longer interested , and funny thing is most other couples are not supermodels or any different to us
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Minx99
8 years ago
I've had couples cancel, couples waste my time by lying about what they look like/are into/age, couples where the "wife" cancels but the "husband" is magically available.. I personally stood one couple up on the night once - because, frankly, they said something that set my danger radar off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
From our perspective, we feel like there’s far more couples who are just ‘dipping their toes in the water’ and really don’t know what they want from the experience, than those who are sure of what they’re looking for. So when they meet a confident, relaxed and straight forward couple, they become easily spooked and back out at the last minute. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Maybe your specific requirements intimidate them lol https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size#/media/File%3AHuman_penis_sizes_length_only.svg
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RHP User
8 years ago
You can't get it back once it's gone. And to waste it on people that do not understand it's value sucks. A message to say they're not interested, late, whatever isn't difficult. Sorry you have experienced this 😕
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you everyone for all your input. I have to say we have had a lot of clicks on our profile since posting this So maybe this is the way to meet ppl. If your ever in Port Macquarie NSW Let us know We wont waste your time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I too have had my fair share, usually last minute cancellations or just a straight up ghosting!! I don't get free time to meet often, so when that happens it is very disappointing. In the last 2 months, literally every single meet I planned has ended in one of these (4 in a row). But, it is what it is. Just gotta pick up and carry on to someone else. Maybe be a little more thorough in vetting them lol
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Putting the fakes aside, inexperience in the lifestyle can of course make people flighty. With messaging, interpretation can go a little skewed very easily. An experienced person can easily overawe someone without meaning to with flirty messages if they are unaware of the other parties inexperience. And of course we dont like to be seen as newbies in our new hobbies so its out with a brave face and fake it till we make it. So my point is, if you are new, unsure of stuffs just put that out there so everyone knows what page you are on so expectations can be adjusted. Majority of peeps are very happy to help newbies but we need to know so we dont scare them off. People talking themselves up and raising the bar of a new meet is the surest way to get a cancellation from the other party. Low key is the key for better success l find
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have you never changed your mind, or had a family matter arise? I see it like this If, as should always be the case.... we all reserve the right to say yes or no at ANY time..... then what you’ve described is not time wasting at all It is merely inconvenient to your hopes.....and a factor of decision making, and scheduling If you had arranged to meet and they failed to show... then I’d call that time wasting And lastly I’ll say that if this is happening to you often, often enough for you to choose to write this topic.... then perhaps there’s a problem with the common factor in play..... you, and how you’re communicating with these people Good for thought DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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Curioustwo88
8 years ago
Unfortunately..... Either they can’t meet, make a date and then cancel or occasionally you get gosted. What on earth is the point?For us if we say we are going to meet we do, every time. Hopefully things improve for you guys OP. Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Its like the movie you play in your head , right before waking up screaming., A total nightmare! Thought i had a good connection with someone, plans made.A no show. 30 mins after the meet. Text. Sorry cant make it something has come up.Thank you for wasting my time
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RHP User
8 years ago
At profiles etc, and what you're all in search of Can i ask who does the "No Shows the most" Men Woman Couples
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Taken a lot of this in & maybe we might change what we do & say as not to scare off ppl. What I am shocked is the single women that have been stood up as a cpl we wouldnt miss out on meeting a single girl when we get the chance - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Being a girl that plays alone, I thought I’d be in hot demand. But often get the ghost, I don’t have a lot of time available to play so it pisses me off to waste time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
A friend of mine is a sex worker. She says it happens all the time in her business. She'll let them talk shit for a while, stroking their ego's, before her voice hardens and she hits them with the question, "Look, are you going to book me, or keep wasting my time..?" I think it's in the nature of men, particularly, given their attitudes to sex workers. I think it's likely that many men on adult sites view women here in a similar way.
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FredAndGinger2
8 years ago
We've had great conversations and pic swapping here and on kik. We've never been stood up and only once have we needed to cancel a meet due to a child's hospital visit. Here's a suggested improvement: ratings like on eBay. Let's have the ability to rate each other for accuracy of profile and punctuality. This will help filter the flakes and riff-raff - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not a bad idea Quoting 'FredAndGinger2' We've had great conversations and pic swapping here and on kik. We've never been stood up and only once have we needed to cancel a meet due to a child's hospital visit. Here's a suggested improvement: ratings like on eBay. Let's have the ability to rate each other for accuracy of profile and punctuality. This will help filter the flakes and riff-raff - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
good idea ,from fred, and no need for going into detailes but a simple three choice tick box system but cmon punctuality , we would be screwed , lucky we don’t do dates ,as hard as we try ,we just seem to be late to the party every bloody time ,something always stuffs us up ,lol, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
attached couples seem to be more of the culprits here they share one kik account , so you never really know if there's actually 2 people at all ,then ask to do an instant camera shot of both and then theres txt silence, One thing we have found those who dont have profile pics are the most fascinating if they cant be bothered advertising we cant be bothered replying, who cares what profession youre in we are all in the same boat here , doesnt mean youre profession is more important than anyone elses secrecy
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