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To reply or not to reply....
May 11 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't think its necessary to reply to emails if you're not interested in taking things further. Some of you girls out there wouldn't have time to answer all the emails you recieve anyway. I do think if you've got some friendly advice to help someone with their future efforts (without putting the poor soul down), it's nice to throw a dog a bone. other than that, not replying when you're not interested is just part of the culture of the site, and i think most people are quite accepting of that.
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RHP User
16 years ago
i figger you should always reply...like you said its just common courtesy...but if you reply and say no thank you and they keep up with crap replies...then give them some of their own back or just bloke them i like it when i get abuse back when i have replied with a no thanks...gives me a chance you let rip and trust me you never hear back after that hehe... oh and winks...they are just dumb, they dont say what you want them to say and nobody takes any notice...but i still reply to those too lol roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
We like what one couple says with unwanted / consistant messages they posted here a while back. "We dont think we are a match as we are looking for a pre op Trans sexual" Used that one once when we got a message "offering his huge black cock" havnt heard back lol. Or We both like to honest and have syphilis if u are ok with this how about this weekend. Just have a bit of fun with those unwanted messages when its obvious they havnt read your profile. Married guys cheating and bugging you wont want to take that home! Cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
that i would like to remove from your chest too!!!...hehebut seriously...if you're getting mail from guys outside of your preferences...i don;t think ya need to reply...it's pretty obvious...if i send a message...and i see it has been read...and there has been no response...well hello, it's obvious that she ain't interested, so i move on...and if YOU look at a guy, and you don;t like what you see or read...sure a polite no thanks would be great, but if ya keep getting those whiny ones back, hell, i'd just go for the real hotties instead....mind you, i always reply to any messages i get...but for the record, most days, my inbox stands at 0 emails, 0 flirts...if ya don;t count the ones sent by my mum...oh, thanks mum..., 5-15 views (normally guys or couples looking for girls...go figure that one...)...why i do believe that i have just been for a bit of a ramble...oh well...jose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree you should always reply even if it is just a simple thanks but no thanks, doesnt take long and you can save it as a template.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'd rather no reply.........saving a rejection message as a template....thats a bit like breaking up by SMS
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wannabyummymummy
16 years ago
However like you i get fed up with those that 1) don't read my profile properly and 2) don't like to take 'no' for an answer.I reply to all flirts and messages even if it is just to say no thanks, if they respond nicely with a 'thanks for the reply can i ask why?' kind of message i tend to nicely point out the things in thier profile that led to that decision, funny enough sometimes it turns out that it is just a poorly written profile and when i outline some things they clarify points and a further chat ensues however most of the time it is just giving my point of view on their profile and being nice (nice costs nothing after all).BUT if i get persistent flirts/messages from someone i have clearly said 'no' to then i don't reply more than once i just hit 'block' that is what it is there for after all remember among all the creepies there are some really nice guys/people on here so dont write them all off and over a few, most of all, HAVE FUN good luck
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would hope for a reply. Sometimes getting the 'you're not what I'm looking for' response is somewhat confusing when I match their profile looking for traits 100% and I will ask why I'm not what they are after. I think that is fair enough to question, of course Im not being rude about it either just trying to figure it out.If people keep harassing after you have said you aren't interested then yeah block them... But if they are responding with a legitimate question like I mention, give them a legitimate answer, you're too fat, you are ugly, we want tall men, short men, hung men, young men, single men...whatever the case may be. Subtle as you want but often the truth is best.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Don't you just hate it when you get a message from a guy that states he only paid membership to contact you??? I just had the most long winded message (I couldn't be bothered reading it all)...but the guy was CLEARLY out of my age range and obviously didn't respect my age boundaries. (He is much much older than what I am looking for)...and I sent him an automated message with "Sorry but your are not what I'm looking for". And then I get another long winded message about how he only joined to meet up with me, and bitched about my response. Now I always reply to my messages, whether by the automated response (if they don't meet my requirements) or a nice message if they do meet my requirements and are just not what I am looking for or attracted to. I mean its easy for men...if it has a pulse and moves...they would nail it (ducks for cover)!! Do some of these men not realise that the attraction has to go both ways? Or do they think womens chants are "Cock A Doodle Doo...Any Cock Will Do"?? For men reading this...if we are interested WE WOULD TELL YOU...and NO we won't change our mind once we say no...and a slut is a girl that sleeps with everyone...not everyone else BUT you!! My beef for the day lol. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
we always reply to winks and messages.. people have been impressed with our profile or pics..so always polite to answer. even if its to say sorry you arnt our type, better than leaving people guessing "are they busy or just ass holes?" ;) N and T
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RHP User
16 years ago
I recently replied to a lady with an extensive and polite reply that fitted 31 of her 32 requirements that she listed on her profile. There wasn't any pressure, I would have been quite happy to just meet for some pleasant conversation or just exchanged messages. I received a very terse rejection. She didn't even look at my profile and for all I know probably didn't even read my reply. It doesn't seem to matter what men do or say or how polite or good natured they are, or even if they fit the requirements precisely they will get rejection. Nice guys finish last I think I have heard it said. In the past I have been either too thin or not thin enough, too old or too young, too tall or not tall enough. My replies have either been long winded or too short,too blunt or too descriptive, not fitting their requirements or fitting too well. It seems it is still happening. I was going to ask "what do women want but it seems even when they list what they want its not what they want.
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RHP User
16 years ago
to reply or not to reply??? in my case.......... well i think it is polite to reply not just to the profiles we feel a chemistry towards but also the profiles we don't.... chemistry is something out of our control and there is someone on RHP for everyone!!! just have to keep looking!!! :) so we all should be mindfull of others' feelings not just our own ... if some one has taken the time to send an email or a flirt to us, regardless of whether they read our profile or not then i think they deserve a thank you or no thank you reply!!! and if it is a no thank you reply then people can move on!!! plenty of fine people on here for everyone!! :) and for the very rude people, there is always the " block"!!! :) Love. miss naughty xxx :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
...seem to forget there is the option of "stealthmode" I think it is on the edit profile section. If that boxed is ticked/unticked, you can view another persons profile and they do not know. More than likely that is the reason behind the many plaintive bleatings of "They never even looked at my profile" For me, if someone has taken the time to send me a message....its just common courtesy to reply, even if it is to say thanks, but no thanks.
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RHP User
16 years ago
We agree with most of the other posts here.... Reply to all, even if it is a polite "No Thanks". (hehe... and we have had our share...) Most people on here are genuine and do appreciate that we will not all suit each other. Mind you, there has been times we have had people message or wink us and we have thought "they want to talk to us? We are not anywhere near what their profile says... Oh well, we are happy to talk..." Then when you reply and sometimes get chatting you work out that they just enjoy talking to real ppl. As they say, you can never have enough friends... Keep smiling and the world will smile with you.. Mr & Mrs Av.
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RHP User
16 years ago
replying is thing right thing to do even to the ones u don't like. but maybe if u don't want poeple to reply back tell why you don't like him/her and don't hold back.
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RHP User
16 years ago
As I said in an earlier post...I reply to all my emails and if they do not fit my criteria then they get a "Quck Reply"...to me if they can't be bothered with my likes and dislikes and age criteria then that is all they deserve. At least they are getting a response!!! Pisses me off that you reject and block someone and then obviously they THEN read your profile and see that you have written in the Forums and then make up bullshit about their reply just to follow you around!! Stalker material if you ask me lol. Some people are just such losers and have nothing better to do!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Are we the only real people left here with any manners and respect for our fellow surfers ?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Spot on so right for real you got it
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RHP User
16 years ago
you know i got this mail the other day ......yer on a swingers site yer fuckwit.. yes thats all it said....i replied back, i was polite and no i havent blocked him...as far as im concerned i put my point across and i beat him at his own game...i got his pg pics shown to me and i got the last say so being nice and polite and answering mail doesnt hurt people....at least the jerks are good to play with enjoy people roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
My question is, if you meet 96.8% of a person requirements is it grounds for being rudely rejected and blocked because you don't meet the last 3.2%?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'ogrilp400' My question is, if you meet 96.8% of a person requirements is it grounds for being rudely rejected and blocked because you don't meet the last 3.2%?Do the 3.2% consist of a number or a prior conviction?
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RHP User
16 years ago
You are a fair dinkum stalker!!! Get over it ... you did NOT get a rude reply....you got a "Quick Reply" (thank your stars that you even got a reply)....you do NOT fit into 96.8% of what I am seeking....you meet 0%. Had you BOTHERED reading my profile it states very very clearly that I do not like men that are over 40...You are too old and that is why I didn't bother to read your tediously long letter to me...I don't give a stuff what you have to say at all and no I didn't look at your profile...Your age was enough to put me off!!! Either respect what a woman is clearly looking for or keep wasting your messages. YOU DO NOTHING FOR ME!! You know that I have you on block and you are just trying to attack me in the Forums as you saw on my profile that I write on them alot of the time!! No wonder girls keep leaving these sites....just take a no as a no and move on!!!! Sick of it!!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I live by the old rule, doesn't cost anything for common courtesy ( manners ) and judge by enough is enough, one contact, one reply, if there's no interest, no point in replying after the first courtesy reply.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Get over yourself....just because you think you fit someone's criteria doesn't mean that they are attracted to you at all....Move on and stop stalking....at least you got a reply and even if it is a "Quick Reply"....its a reply none the less!! Sheesh...
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RHP User
16 years ago
That there certainly shows maybe a reply shouldn't be sent to all messages recieved.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl'That there certainly shows maybe a reply shouldn't be sent to all messages recieved. I have never had a problem with sending a "Quick Reply" Polar...this is the first time ever!! Usually I get a message thanking me for at least replying!! A guy like him makes me think sometimes if it is worth the hassle!! Typical egotist...can't stand the thought that noone wants them!! And to you Polar and everyone else...sorry for my little mini fit....but gawd...enough is enough! Lol xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
If the girl tells me that she is not interested i can remove her from my hot list and stop "bugging" her with chat requests. Ps I believe Men will always try to use logic to to persuade a lady to change her mind, we dont realise its just a complete waste of energy Rhys
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