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Unread email syndrome
October 09 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
The issue may be...if the person has the APP as that will show them on line 24hrs especially if they have not logged off from it??I have the APP and I am always questioned why I am on line all the time.I am not, as I have a life outside of here and work full-time.Maybe I am just multi- skilled when sleeping at 2am. ;)FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe they haven't opened their emails as they are busy and have not logged on - like I said the APP shows online all the time...FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
It could be the app as Superfoxy has mentioned..... Or it could be that they simply don't have time to read it.....when you expect them to.... Or........... The subject line didn't appeal to them And I could list many more, but it's really not their issue but yours. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP there is no 'secret' and it is easily explained ... you're email is simply being ignored for any number of reasons. Username, message subject and your age are the visible parameters used to prioritise what gets past the first round of culling.You have to remind yourself that many of the women receive an unmanageable endless stream of new emails. They are outnumbered 20:1 and can afford to be as 'discerning' as they please.I guess it could be argued that they 'should' at least read all of them given the effort others are putting into responding to their advertisement ... unfortunately we don't live in Shouldland.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well you can read emails without them showing up as read. I usually do that. It depends how I feel, if I am not in the mood to reply to emails I may not reply for 2-3 weeks even if I do log in everyday to contribute to the forum. You get over it after awhile... I also used to allow them to get up to 50 unread emails before I would read and reply.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What is the secret...How does one do that??"Read emails without them showing up as read".FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Click on their profile and you will see on the left hand of the screen the history between you and the other person. How many flirts they have sent you and how many emails. You can click on "view" to see the history. This brings up all the emails you have exchanged including the last one they have sent you. This way you get to read the email but it still appears as unread in your inbox.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When you view their profile, click on "more options" at the top of the screen. This brings up a list with your contact history which you can view.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Click on their profile and you will see on the left hand of the screen the history between you and the other person. How many flirts they have sent you and how many emails. You can click on "view" to see the history. This brings up all the emails you have exchanged including the last one they have sent you. This way you get to read the email but it still appears as unread in your inbox. Meeka why go to so much trouble ? wouldn't just reading it be easier plus it gives closure to those waiting for a response if they can see that you have read it but not responded ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If they have made the effort with an email then I reply in kind, and sometimes I can't be bothered. So if I "read" a few emails and they are just one line I can reply in kind and keep my unread emails to a manageable amount. Oh... And if they are cute and appeal to me I like to make the effort to but I have to be in the mood. I have said it before, and I will say it again... I hate this online dating gig. It's isn't really for me. I am too lazy to vet all the emails and go the through the whole meet and greet thing. I really am here just for the forums.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am pretty sure that it still appears as if I haven't read it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some interesting POV's there thank you. I've been reading another forum post about spending time to write an interesting email that will catch her eye?!? Given what I've learnt from this post I'm starting to think that it's all pretty much a waste of time and maybe men shouldn't be able to send emails at all and only the female members should have that option? That way they don't get bombarded with emails and then men can be tasked with replying which I'm sure most would. What do you think??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Meeka... do you want a job working with my company? Your technical instructions knock those of my "Bestshore" colleges out of the park!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hotshot_101' Some interesting POV's there thank you. I've been reading another forum post about spending time to write an interesting email that will catch her eye?!? Given what I've learnt from this post I'm starting to think that it's all pretty much a waste of time and maybe men shouldn't be able to send emails at all and only the female members should have that option? That way they don't get bombarded with emails and then men can be tasked with replying which I'm sure most would. What do you think?? You just have to get used to sending a lot of messages for very few replies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have only really heard my opinion and you certainly can't base your experience on that!! All women are different and work differently. I find answering emails and looking through profiles an absolute bore and probably would have only lasted a few weeks on RHP if it wasn't for the forum. HOWEVER!! I have met up to 100 men and women via this forum, meet and greet events, and sex clubs. I have even slept with the odd few. This is my personal style only. I like to get to know people via the forum or meet them face to face at the meet and greet nights. Other women will prefer to receive emails.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been on RHP 3.5 years now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been on here on and off for about a year and have yet to meet anyone. I write nice emails, my pics are up to date and I refresh my profile regularly. I generally only approach those that are looking for me in their search. The few that have replied have then for some reason unknown to me then just gone cold even after swapping quite a few emails which as I have put in my profile makes me think that to many this is just a fantasy site.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hotshot_101' I've been on here on and off for about a year and have yet to meet anyone. I write nice emails, my pics are up to date and I refresh my profile regularly. I generally only approach those that are looking for me in their search. The few that have replied have then for some reason unknown to me then just gone cold even after swapping quite a few emails which as I have put in my profile makes me think that to many this is just a fantasy site. Good point.We all do have the same experience.Even worse, I have had a few dates fixed and either I was about to go or I was on my way to theirs, which the sent SMS to cancel it. It happened to me a few times. Sad but true.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow.....one of your replies makes you sound like you're sulking. Keep writing the emails, change your approach without changing you, and you'll do ok. Jesus Christ I'm starting to sound like DG.......MEDIC!!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' If they have made the effort with an email then I reply in kind, and sometimes I can't be bothered. So if I "read" a few emails and they are just one line I can reply in kind and keep my unread emails to a manageable amount. Oh... And if they are cute and appeal to me I like to make the effort to but I have to be in the mood. I have said it before, and I will say it again... I hate this online dating gig. It's isn't really for me. I am too lazy to vet all the emails and go the through the whole meet and greet thing. I really am here just for the forums. By writing 2 characters NO, you save a lot of waiting time for them and meanwhile you don't need to think about unread emails as you don't want to meet them anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
On average I have met almost 30 people a year via RHP to your zero. So.... How many events have you attended? Meet and greet and social nights? I believe there is a Perth FB group who also post up events as well. The WA forum is also very active. Do you contribute? It's an awesome way of making online friends. Who you can then go to events with! Been to a Spank event? They sound like fun. Don't just limit yourself to meeting women.... Meeting people, lots of people as friends, leads to more social activities, which leads to meeting more women!! You are a single good looking guy. Don't waste time on line unless you are making friends through the forum or the chat rooms.... And get out there and meet people !! That's my opinion anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I should add 30 NEW people. There are lots that I have met more than once. ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I disagree. I don't think sitting around sending emails out to loads of women is worth it. I would get active with the online community, make naughty friends, and go out in the real world. Why continue doing something that doesn't work? Makes no sense. Hotshot says in his profile that he believes most people just use RHP as a fantasy tool and have no intention of meeting. Well I can tell you that this isn't true, the 100 people I have met would say the same.... Go to the events where all the people are.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been to Perth a couple of times since I first joined RHP and people are very active there. The first time I went I attended a dinner and a lunch and the last time I went to a drinks night. I'd suggest taking the bit out of your profile that says people are using the site to fantasize. It does sound like sour grapes. I agree with Meeka about getting involved in the forums. That was how I met the person who organised the first dinner when I went to Perth the first time. She liked my contributions and got in touch with me. I stayed with her last time I was over there as well. I do respond to emails as long as the person isn't attached, and I know other women who do as well. So yep, chin up, start sharing your opinions and one of the Perth lovelies might read you and think "hmmm I like his mind". Good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nope I really not sulking or whinging, I was just really seeing if anyone else had the same problem and the answer is a clear yes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for the compliment, I'm more than happy to go out and about and meet people but if I'm going to do that then would question the point in subscribing to this site?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If a Man sends a Message , he had to pay $$$ for the privilege . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Because you know you will meet more open minded people, people that are wanting to experiment, people that are looking for the same thing you are. Thought that might be enough? No? Well, if after a year you have had no luck... Maybe time to change how you view what this site can offer you. Just a thought.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we women pay too. I pay,in the over two years I am on here, I stay a guest for a little while but then I pay again, I think its fair.When you see a women on here who is a guest only, why do you send a message, I would say thats a waste? You all can ignore these females and only write to paid members, so you know these women mean it.I believe most people who pay a member ship want to meet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen'If a Man sends a Message , he had to pay $$$ for the privilege . I pay as well. Hi OP, unlike Meeka I am here to meet people, but apart from that I could have written some of her posts myself (less eloquently of course). Of the 5-10 messages I receive a day, about 80% of them or titled "hi", "hey" ar "hi there". Those are the ones that get left until I'm bored. After all, if people don't read my profile I don't feel obligated to hurry. I will eventually answer all messages though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Emails bore me as well and some times just cbf answering. I work long hours and chill out on the forums. I also have met a few hundred people through meet and greets although WA is very active so it isn't hard. Having organised a few even easier. Like Meeka, I do like to reply, though in my own time and that's OK. Mr G.. anyone who sends more than one message a week has too pay for the so called privilege
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RHP User
12 years ago
those ones out the front of houses, but people are home, same thing. It's not a biggie. don't sweat the little rox
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been here coming up to 6 years now. I have a 92% reply rate and that is increasing. I have sent over a 1000 messages out a year. I have met 100's of people and still meet new people weekly. I am just another average profile but I know one thing. Don't be dull. Read the persons profile you are sending a message to. If that profile is short and boring, do not bother. Study the profile and then find a way to introduce your self. The tittle of your message is very important so do not do hellos, hi's, etc. Put time into thinking up an eye catching title. Make it a sentence not a hello. BTW your profile looks so much like a million other desperate horny men's profiles. Any regular woman here that reads it will struggle to stay awake. Hobbies, quirks, passions, kinks, anything but "Would love to meet like-minded, fun, sexy people for sexy no strings get togethers" Oh god how enticing...A girl can go to any pub or bar to find another guy holding a beer. Oh thus your photo. Put some effort into a good photo. You have a nice smile but there are a million nice smiles out there. You want something that makes them want to take a second look. Not you caught warming another beer. This is an adult sex site is it not? So show the hot girls here why you are more than another mug. Be sexy, stage a photo, put time into getting it right.Best of luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is great and is particularly good for people with kids who don't get the opportunity to go out as much, people that work odd hours, travel a lot etc. for me I first joined as most of my friends are married with small children so I don't go out to as many places anymore where I may meet single men. So, RHP is a good resource, however I think you can use it much more wisely than just sending emails to women. For example, Inspirit has said that Perth has a social community. Good way of meeting people from RHP face to face rather than cold calling emails. Also as people get to know you, word gets around that you are an all right guy.... Then women and couples are more inclined to meet you as well. That is why the chat rooms and the forum is a good vehicle to get known and for people to see that you are not an axe murderer or something.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do want to meet people though, but for me I really dislike the whole email thing with strangers, there are too many guys with not much to distinguish between them and I never know what to ask.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok, some fair comments have been made. I've changed my profile and pics.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Let me guess, you're on AMM as well? RHP doesn't have winks. Oh, wait
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ummmm, you've lost me there, sorry.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This bit:- "Given what I've learnt from this post I'm starting to think that it's all pretty much a waste of time and maybe men shouldn't be able to send emails at all and only the female members should have that option? " Sooky la la. If you'd read other similar posts, women actually appreciate the confident man to approach. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didn't suggest that he sit and write only messages. I suggested he changed his approach in the messages without losing his own unique personality, as clearly the messages he DOES send just aren't cutting it. I do however agree that attending events of personal interest are a great way to meet people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I really am here just for the forums. I am on another (UK) site just for the forums...yes true dinks.I am here hoping to meet someone...or at least have my emails read yes many of my emails are unread. I am pleased to say I have had a couple of replies since joining recently. I would happily read a thanks but no thanks reply in preference to no reply, heck even having a profile blocked counts as a reply (yes I really do like those blue eyes)I joined here because I Googled sites that have forums because the forums are a usually pretty good way to interact with others about sex and sexuality.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would like to point out that when I said I have met 100 people, I mean it in a social sense. I have made probably a dozen or more very good friends this way. I have not slept with those people! In all the meet and greet nights I have gone too, I always go home on my own. My point is that RHP can be more that just a way of getting your dick wet. You can make some awesome friends as well, and who knows what fun events or meeting this good lead to.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This could lead too I mean.
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RHP User
12 years ago
100 people at events. I have met around 12 men that have emailed me in the 3.5 years I have been on RHP. So not many.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well no ones counting, without getting the threads we've both been talking too mixed up it's what the site and social scene is for. Nice plug too!
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