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Upsetting
November 16 2016
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
How did he pick on your size?
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friendlyguy65
9 years ago
Don't be put off by superficial comments like that. The majority of people do not view size in that light, rather the person. Hope you stay on and wish you well.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Continue?? He is not a great guy if, he upset you, hurt your feelings, offended and insulted you over your size, Why continue? You owe him nothing. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Maybe she meant continuing on this site? Dont be put off by 1 arsehole. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again. We all experience a bad one sooner or later. All worth it in the end.
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RHP User
9 years ago
What a nasty man. Clearly, he hasn't experienced the utter gorgeousness of a curvy girl! All women a perfect as they are, as long as they are happy and healthy. Since joining this scene 3 years ago, I have realised that not all men want a size 8, 6 foot, long haired, surgically altered woman. All natural, curvy, soft and squishy is much more popular! Confidence is THE sexiest quality you can have. So love what you've got, and know that PLENTY of people love it too! (And it's ok that not every will think we're sexy.)
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RHP User
9 years ago
How dare someone ever say anything mean about a sexy woman such as urself..... People need to just accept each other for what we are.... Just sayin.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Miss red rouge He decided to chat with you, and then chose to go to the efffort of meeting you ..... and then picked on your size? You should kick him to the curb for simple fact that he is clearly not the fizziest drink in the fridge. Block him And say NEXXXXXXXXT! 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Maybe she meant continuing on this site? I'm sure you are correct Annie - I too think that's what the OP meant.Please stay on redrouge - I'm sure you're a lovely lady.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't be upset Rouge. Consider yourself lucky that you saw who he is before he could really hurt you. Some people think anonymous gives them the right to hurt others without facing the consequences. The time has come to obliterate the false distinctions between digital ties and the ones that bind us in the physical world. He is an a... in real life too. Not all men are like that.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Ignore him darling and stay x - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
9 years ago
Little people try to make themselves feel big by picking on others. Soldier on!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry to here of your experience, there is never an excuse for that behaviour. Don't let 1 dickhead hold you back. I personally think, going on your photo, you look amazing. I have also been told I'm not good looking enough to be on this site, I will never let that rubbish get to me. Hang in there, good luck.
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RHP User
9 years ago
In my experience there are lots of people on sites like this that will be not so kind. It sucks but its a bit part and parcel . I suggest regular breaks from the site to give yourself down time / recovery time then jump back on the horse again so to speak. Sorry he wasn't very nice to you but there are certainly some good experiences to be had here too if you stick around
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RHP User
9 years ago
Dont worry about wankers like that u will find some 1 who will ravish you and make you look back and say fuck u ( him) u will be ok have a wine ore to and look in the mirror and say im sexy
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QLDtwo4fun
9 years ago
And he has shown what sort of am he is. In the world of online contact there will be occasions when you meet someone who is not quite as appealing as you found their profile, or visa versa. But that is never a reason to be rude or hurtful.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Firstly, what an Insecure douche this guy must be! Pay no attention to this oxygen thief, you look great to me! Please don't let the "men" who are abusive, rude or just plain assholes put you off finding the decent ones out there. You deserve to find enjoyment, pleasure and fun and I have no doubt you'll have quality guys keen to make your acquaintance. Hang in there.....Rob - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
worry about wankers move on. If you where in Vic. I would be happy to play with you if you would like what I can offer. I come from Europe where a bit of curve on a women is a plus. Be happy!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
with everyone here saying that this guy is not a nice guy. There are always dicks and assholes (cue Team America speech). Be comfortable with yourself and ignore the idiots, they will always be around, but they have no power over you if you dont let them. This is the internet, you have to learn to /ignore and /moveon Good luck redrouge, I hope you find what you are looking for.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Since joining this scene 3 years ago, I have realised that not all men want a size 8, 6 foot, long haired, surgically altered woman. All natural, curvy, soft and squishy is much more popular! A rather judgmental comment we feel, and something that perhaps needs to be explored in another thread. Why is it, on this site, that some women refer to themselves as BBW , Curvy, Large etc and then go on to bash women that are slim, not overweight, and prefer living a healthy lifestyle? The words fat & obese seems to be "verboten" at all costs, and have thus been replaced with more "appealing", politically correct terms . Yet its acceptable to call a slim woman 'skinny', 'a rake' , 'a stick insect', barbie doll etc ? Reminds us of the term "tall poppies" - coined by Australian mediocrity (we have been told) in order to make themselves feel better with regards people who are driven to succeed, do well for themselves and who strive to rise above Joe Average. Jealousy driven ? If a slim woman were to refer to herself as a BSW (Beautiful Slim Woman) what would the reaction be amongst the larger, overweight women? We are sure that the proverbial shit would hit the fan. There seems to be a perception, amongst some of the women on RHP, that slimmer women are fake, are unhappy, are surgically altered,are jealous & insecure , don't enjoy themselves, are lousy lovers and are generally superficial & fake We find that to be extremely judgemental. What drives such comments? It is jealousy? Insecurity? Is it a way of shifting the blame / self guilt and trying to justify being "fat" ? Ie that skinny bitch is not a happy person. I am a BBW and I at least am happy and desirable" ?? We lost 30 & 23 Kg respectively (3 years ago) . Mrs D went from a size 16/18 down to a size 6/8. We have more energy & vitality. We are happier. We are healthier. Our confidence and sex lives have improved. It is a lot easier to do physical things. We achieved this by altering what we ate, cutting out highly processed foods and also getting more exercise. Surgery was never an option. Australia is the 2nd most obese nation, after the USA , according to a newsletter sent out by our HCF folowing international studies. Beneath our outward appearance, we are all basically the same flesh and bones are we not? Some of us have less body fat than others, some of us watch what we eat as we would have serious health issues if we did not. In Mr D's case it was lose weight and get fit or face 2 major brain operations. In support Mrs D followed his example and together we have changed our lives around. We don't go around calling large women 'fat' nor do we say nasty, judgemental things about them. However we have seen the conversations, amongst many males on here, with regards large BBW women, and it would appear that the perception is that most are very easy to get into bed as being overweight, they are insecure and thus desperate and will accept any male that comes their way. This is what so many of the males believe and boast about . Such attitudes and stereotypes are really not acceptable in our opinion. So with regards what happened to you OP, it was totally unacceptable that your male date, picked on your size. What he clearly did was judge you by your exterior. Whether you are a size 18 or a size 8 , you are still the same person inside, and people who judge only on ones outward appearance, and not the kind of people we want to associate with. It is sad, but things like this happen every day. And it seems to have become the norm with regards Australian society.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Continue with RHP Redrouge, don't be discouraged by one bad experience. What you have encountered with the said man is the same as what you would be encountering in the real world, in terms of running into rude people or unpleasant incident. For example, a work colleague might bluntly come up to you and make offensive comment about your hair do, or makeup, or clothes you wear, etc. and he/she is not sorry about their comment. Would you quit your job just because of one rude colleague offended you? :) it's the same theory if you think from that perspective :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
9 years ago
The best way I have found to approach the body size thing is to have accurate pictures that show your size and shape. People have preferences. You won't be for everyone and you shouldnt want to be. Unfortunately there are guys that can be cruel with their words and make it quite personal. Just last week I was called a fat ugly pig 🐷 Don't let anyone control or dictate your journey only you can control how you feel and react. Good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not tall and I've found that some women can be just as cruel about a mans height. We can't be everyone's cup of tea. The secret is to be ok with yourself. And remember opinions are like assholes everyone has one and it doesn't make them right ☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Give credence to what a stranger says. He sounds like a complete jerk . Perhaps have some more pics that show more of you.You are tall so a size 16 is in proportion. Don't give up yet..Everyone has their preferences ,you just have to find someone who matches yours. Q
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boots_69
9 years ago
One idiot has done a lot of damage - but He is an idiot Size is a perspective and proportion thing for me (and a delicate lil petal I'm not) Smile, enjoy the roses not the thorns and have fun Cheers Boots
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RHP User
9 years ago
Curvy women and bbw most welcome...... apply here!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hun don't let that get to you, Men can be pigs, Treat them as such, Try domination Make them pay - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes you should continue. There will always be a jerk here and there. Was he physically perfect? I doubt it, but he must have thought so.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Tell him to kiss my fat juicy arse goodbye. And move on to the next lovely gentleman. As anything you will come across jerks who are not worthy of your time or pain. Be strong in yourself and don't take any online interaction personally. Hope things work out for you. xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
No excuse for morons like that There are plenty of men who would love the opportunity to meet the wonderful women on this site and wouldn't be stupid enough to insult them. Please don't let it stop you from seeking the things you want in life. Haters gunna hate - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Keep going. He's the one with the problem, not you.
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RHP User
9 years ago
He's done you a favour? Now you have more room for all the other gorgeous men who are inundating your inbox. xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'TrickyBris' Firstly, what an Insecure douche this guy must be! Pay no attention to this oxygen thief, you look great to me! Please don't let the "men" who are abusive, rude or just plain assholes put you off finding the decent ones out there. You deserve to find enjoyment, pleasure and fun and I have no doubt you'll have quality guys keen to make your acquaintance. Hang in there.....Rob - Posted from rhpmobile I always admire fit handsome guys who are delighted with women no matter what the shape. Sexual intelligence is always attractive. I had a young lover on here, who was smoking hot body, and a lovely guy. He would say when he ask bigger girls out they would often knock him back because they thought he was taking the piss. Men also get ridiculed by their mates so pretend they do not like curved women.As for the op A rude person is an insecure person. They just push a person down to make themselves feel better.Just feel comfortable in your birthday suit, no matter your size your gender or your age. We are all beautiful unique creatures.Leave a site because you want to, not because some unkind unthinking person pushes you out.the woman in the tryst
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RHP User
9 years ago
... about the unsolicited opinions of strangers with regards to my physique and size. They can say whatever they like but I love myself too much to let it affect me. I'm proud of the weight I've lost by doing it my way, and how I've become healthier and made the best out of the illnesses I've been struck down with. No insensitive remark made by a cad is going to change the fact that I'm still going to walk around with my head held high. You shouldn't let it affect you, OP - let him keep his myopic opinion to himself. Size is really subjective - the bone size, muscle density, fat percentage and even the characteristic of the fat, ie. How jiggly or firm it is, and the body shape, would render two Size 16 women to appear completely different. BTW, I'm a Size 12 - 16 myself and I don't have a problem with that. ;) All said, I don't believe in making excuses for large sizes as a result of poor diet choices and a sedentary lifestyle. We should stop bad, unhealthy habits and work towards being healthier. A woman who radiates a rosy glow and moves with vitality and is fit is attractive at whatever size she is. I'm with DynamicCouple when it comes to the "BBW" label. No one is ever born to be a Size 24 +++. If that was the case, the skeletal frame would've been able to withstand carrying all the extra weight around without signs of strain. It's only when we recognise the problem and stop being in denial that we can do something positive to turn our lives around. Being fat isn't an accomplishment so I don't see why we should flaunt that. Being fit and healthy, and eating right is. I was never skinny but even at my fattest, I rejected the BBW mindset because I refused to be lulled into inertia. It did take me close to a decade before I finally got my act together so I can understand how tough the journey can be. We've just got to work with what we've got. Despite losing 17 kgs, I've got unsightly fat pads which my Dr friends tell me is due to genetics. Ah well... I ain't a Size 0 and probably may never go below a Size 10 because of my large bones, but that isn't going to stop me from living large (pardon the pun!) and having fun. That man who had the audacity to insult you would probably be very critical, selfish and not GIB anyway. :P IMO, you've probably dodged a bullet. ;) Chin up! There are nicer men out there!
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RHP User
9 years ago
You should be proud of your curvy/voluptuous body! More of you to play with... you know some guys like that. You just need to find the right guy ;) if he was right, he would love you no matter what. But this guy is going to have wandering eyes and that is not your fault. Don't fall for this guy too hard - he's not all that. I don't care how good-looking or cool he is! Even coming from a female, I would prefer to play with a girl with curves than a slim body. If a guy doesn't like me for who I am, then don't waste my time - see ya later. But that's just me. The media tends to glorify skinny girls, but beauty comes from inside out :) it's getting better and better now though as people get more real. You need to be happy and confident with your body. My ex loved curves and loved size 16 and he was pretty hot. He asked me to gain some weight back then... :O but he was special ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
strike upon some pertinent points in relation to this debate. I agree it is not cool to pass nasty comments concerning someone's appearance. Not at all. I also agree for a host of reasons, it is important and worthwhile to pursue a healthy lifestyle. Body size and shape are not necessarily good or true indicators of health and/or fitness. You can have "big stomach bones" and be healthy, or be "stick figure skinny" and be decidedly unhealthy. Anecdotally, sound physical and emotional health often rate highly in peoples' estimations of attractiveness. Fat shaming is bad, to be sure. In respect of the comment "political correctness" as it relates to body size and shape, it seems to me frequently there is a strong tendency for people to reject any health concerns in favour of comforting words and acceptance of whatever feels good. I think that approach may not necessarily be helpful either. What of the idea of tactful and compassionate encouragement toward healthful practices where appropriate? (The most successful and longest lasting weight management strategies occur/are implemented incrementally. It is not out of reach of most people if they are suitably motivated and encouraged). My comment here is not to suggest girls should all aspire to become Barbie Dolls or Stepford Wives. Rather, I'm suggesting there is much to be said for the lifestyle benefits and feelings available to the healthful. In any event, whatever anyone's body shape, size or personality, it is entirely unrealistic to expect to be found attractive by all prospects. I'm inclined to believe the advice that you're best to just be yourself (and be honest with yourself), then you are more likely to attract someone you're really/genuinely happy to be with.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"Big stomach bones" aka Norm. Life. Be in it.
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