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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  There are many, many men out there who are bi or bi-curious. I can understand you feeling confused and perhaps a bit alarmed at these emerging feelings. I decided to explore my bi feelings (which I had been having since a teen) after a marriage breakup in my mid-forties. There are other dating sites that cater to bi men, with forum pages like those here where you can discuss your feelings. Be warned though, as is the case here there are a lot of creeps. Do not give your info and certainly not photos out willy-nilly. You will get bombarded with requests for both. The forum pages are a good way to get advice and input about slipping into the Pool Of Promise. Me, I just leapt right in. Seriously, I just signed on for every contact site and app and just went apeshit. Safely apeshit of course. Whilst I can vouch for that method to get over the jitters (you lose them pretty quick), it is of course not for everyone. That was three years ago, and I have long since scaled it back to the point of ''occasionally''. I would honestly suggest to you though, dependent on where you live, if you have a gay sauna in your town/city, they would be an excellent place to start. You go in, you get naked, you walk around among other naked men, and you have fun if you want to. There is no pressure, if someone cracks on to you and you don't want to, you just say and they will leave you alone. I think that will answer the question for you of whether this is just an indulgent daydream you have, or you are indeed bi. And if you are bi - don't fight it. Trust me, it's a wonderful world. Best of luck.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I don't have the same urges, no interests in men on a sexual level, but may have interests that can only literally be accommodated by pushing the boundaries of "straightness" (and I'm not referring to things like pegging). I would never go it alone though, I would only do it with a supportive female partner or dom/me. So some activities will remain a fantasy. Frankly, once you start "seeking men", you are putting yourself in the position of dealing with the certain number of assholes on sites that women and couples have to deal with. (I don't know what it's like for regular gay/bisexual men on here regarding quality of interests). So perhaps in-person events and bi-friendly events are better, like any real events, you can assess quality of character and physique you may be interested in, as just like seeking women, not all will appeal to you. NBO seems to be the most full on, but perhaps you are seeking something more subtle and with less perceived pressure than going it alone in a men only or mainly bi-men only club. I guess it depends on what situations you feel comfortable and relaxed in. I've seen bi male activities at different events so it happens, although others may tell you that often bi nights are pretty dead/quiet on the bi male front. If you are not full on bisexual or not sure the degree of bi-curiousness then perhaps the most apt word in use seems to be "heteroflexible".

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I'ts hard to know whether you will want something to happen for real or to keep it as a fantasy until you're in the moment. I have this wild fucked up fantasy about my partner and another girl. But I know it's just a fantasy, how I know.... I think about it after I have had an orgasm. If I'm still turned on by it, I want it in real life. If I'm not interested anymore, it's a fantasy...But again that's just me. There is not a thing wrong with what you're feeling. It doesn't mean you're any kind of sexual preference. It's just a sexual act. I say go for it. Sounds like you've thought about it long and hard 😏😋 Add a girl into the mix, and maybe let me watch! 🙊

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  What a timely topic for me. I have been entertaining the thought myself, though not one on one with a chick, I'd still like a guy or two in the mix, but yes. I like to remain open because my needs change, as they have at the moment. I want more intimacy, I figure I'd have more chance of getting that from a woman, and love the female form. Still don't enjoy watching female porn stars, but in life, thinking I want to explore more

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  A feminine cd? I've had a few first time guys dipping the toe (ok, some other things) and they enjoyed the experience of a halfway point. You have to experiment, life is full of regrets otherwise. Good luck

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Thank you all for your opinions, it is highly appreciated. Yes i still think it is more then an urge and certainly something i have to try before i can understand these feelings "urges" I am sure there are some gentlemen out there that could help lol even a woman with a strap lol. The scenerios written above sounds like a plan eventually when feeling condident ,Anyone out there lol.😆. Thanks All.👅👍. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  It might be a journey you like more and more as you go. Maybe not all the time, maybe just from time to time? I say a journey as it may just be something that builds over time and you go further and further with each interaction. So give it a try, but make sure the other party is aware of your interest level at any time, your experience level, or lack thereof, and be double sure they are respectful of your situation and where you are in your journey. Go as fast or as slow as you feel comfortable. I found starting slow and continuing from there worked well. Just be open and honest, only engage with those you trust, are attracted to for whatever reason, will respect your wishes and who want you to enjoy the experience. Good luck and enjoy YOUR journey.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  is to be there to either be part of or to witness the first time a guy interacts with another guy omg what a bloody massive pantie wetter that is 😜

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I wish more people where up front like you both I agree I am a female and if this was what my husband felt I would want him to tell me the truth xxx - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I totally hear what you are saying. I have had similar thoughts, though have only considered so soft bi interactions during a threesome (Touching and sucking). I had bi-curious on my profile for a bit, and I got inundated with pics of dicks and some extremely crude msgs. Ladies, I am sorry this is what you probably have to deal with all the time. My suggestion would be potentially go in slow. Find a couple that has a experimental or bi partner. Explain you situation and get together for a bit of relaxed fun. It may not be easy to find the right couple but... Best of luck out there. Keep safe. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I found the easiest most comfortable way to explore these urges was with a bi couple, it's much less confronting than one on one.

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