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Validations
December 24 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
She likes you!!!!Go for it...Do you ALREADY forget primary school when you were there....?Throwing stones at, or pulling the ponytails of the girls you liked... them sneering at you whenever they could....??BUT.. at the end of the day.. if SHE has a problem with her.. it is JUST that.. "SHE has a problem........" the rest of the statement SHOULD be left unsaid.SHIT man.. unless of course, IF she has reason to believe you paid someone to validate you.. OR you created a false account to do it yourself..I would not be intimidated by someone who has been validated... in fact.. yes.. it is a much better tool to work with when deciding how much time and effort you are prepared to invest in someone..."Maybe...."
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quite tacky and normally don't chat further to someone who has them. Would be okay if they were used to VALIDATE you as a real person, but I truly do not need to know who anyone has fucked on here...nothing personal just me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like to see one or two validations on someone's profile to show they are real and reliable. I'm not a fun of sexual ones saying how great the person is. It's TMI for me and besides, I prefer to decide that for myself. More than three validations imo can make someone sound like they're saying "look how amazing everyone thinks I am". Not my thing, though I wouldn't necessarily turn someone down because of their validations and certainly wouldn't berate someone for having them, like you described. My 2cts, a Merry Christmas to you too x
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RHP User
10 years ago
validations are a useful tool to verify someone is real.... But most seem to post those that only have some reflection of their sexual prowess.... All 8 of your validations are exactly that.... I dunno about you, but I don't kiss and tell, and I wouldn't allow my validations to either... But.... It's not my journey you're on....so whatever works for you and you're happy with is all that matters....you shouldn't really be this concerned though about just 1 lady having an issue with your validations....that part is egotistical, so maybe she got that bit right??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Getting attacked on your validations is just another excuse that some people use to have a go at you. So, don't take it personally and be sure to know that it is your attacker that has problems, not you. Thankfully I didn't get abused verbally back in the day when I had a few validations on my profile. However, I am not a big fan of having validations nor will I buy into other members' validations because, what seems to be great to other people may not seem the same for me. Besides, I have had experiences with some men, who have validations on their profiles, turn out to be someone completely shockingly rude and nasty! Therefore, I don't buy into any validations anymore and prefer to see it for myself. Merry Christmas to you too Dan, hope you have a safe and wonderful holiday :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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beachgal20
10 years ago
Stirry..... Have to agree....
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beachgal20
10 years ago
Get mixed....happy Xmas stranger.....
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IamMrSilly
10 years ago
Hi Jamo, I have regularly heard from people I have met or chatted with that having at least one or two validations is a good thing. Some people will only talk with those with validations. But they also said that too many is a turn off. But I am sure there are those that feel differently, like the woman you met and some of the prior posts. You can't suit everyone, but the majority of people prefer to know you are real and also to hear someone else's opinion of you without knowing the full list of your prior conquests.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are positives and negatives. And you will never keep everyone happy anyway. I used to have a bunch of them. Detailed and covering what I was into at that stage. Yes it was a bit of a brag book for me. I dont have any now because Im over my bragging stage and prefer being discreet. But I still will give one if a friend or someone I meet asks me to write one. They dont turn me off a profile. Even if there is quite a few.A lot of the people I have met at parties have quite a few. As I said, doesnt worry me either way on a profile.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're not allowed to get anything right with some of the "ladies" on here - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
A couple of vaildations to say they're a nice person will do me just fine. I don't want or need to know specifics of other's previous RHP interactions. But I also wouldn't attack someone over their validations. Each to their own. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I was first on here a few yrs ago, i was contacted by a guy who I was attracted to his pics and had a great profile write up. But he had quite a few validations and they were from, in my opinion, very sexy ladies, and it actually made me feel out of my league with who he had previously been with.So I told him this was my reason, that I didnt feel I could compete in the body/looks department to what he was used to( bit insecure and unsure in the early days) He assured me it wasnt like that and was a really nice guy about it But it was in my head that I wasnt up to that standard of hottness.lol. So in that instance, validations stopped me from meeting someone. But all good, I tapped him at a party a yr later. ( and validated him. Haha)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dont post on forums after having a few christmas drinkies. My last post sounds really up myself. 🍸🍹🍷
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RHP User
10 years ago
I truly don't care for Validations. Truth is... If you meet someone on here, the Validations don't really count. I mean, think about it. If you choose to be with someone here, isn't it about what you think of each other. If that person doesn't like you. It's their issue. I'd rather see a guy and base my own feelings instead of going by what someone else posts about the guy. Everyone's different and some people are much more comfortable with some and less comfortable with others. So it's simply up to your own view in the end. If the person has a great time with you, they'll most likely see you again, bugger the validation's that others see you as.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'jamo1313'Has anyone else had similar instances or was I just unlucky? At one time I had a different validation, which simply said: "Meander has a spectacular cunt". I certainly got mixed responses to that one, from guys pissing themselves laughing to calling me a slut. I miss that validation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't want them. I've seen that many fake ones or from fake profiles, and tons from friends who haven't actually engaged sexually with them, that isn't always made clear, but it's easy to pick them. So for me, they say nothing to me, don't even look at them and don't want them on my profile. However, i'm not offended by someone having them, it's your personal choice so all good 😯😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'RuggedlyRugged' You're not allowed to get anything right with some of the "ladies" on here As one of the ''ladies'' being referred to here I can confirm that some of us do indeed hate all men, and everything you do is automatically wrong, bad, and most probably against all laws of nature. Some men, such as this one, have cleverly sussed us out and are attempting to spread the truth far and wide. Forget the Jedi vs the Sith....this is the ultimate struggle of good vs evil!! More seriously....I don't mind validations as evidence of someone's authenticity, but am not a fan of the ones that wax lyrical about sexual prowess. I find those a bit tacky. Wouldn't berate someone over them though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I will give them to people I think are deserving of them because they are people Ive met and really liked. They are still my friends. A few overly sexual ones can be tacky but on the other hand if youre looking for spectacular sex you will know you are in for a good time. Its up to the individual in the end but they wouldnt put me off.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bahahaha you crack me up - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its exactly the same as writing on a public toilet wall....call #$%%$ for a good time, juvenile at best.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
They're a great tool to see if someone follows through. We're members on a few international sites because we spend a bit of time overseas and they're not only very prevalent and expected as a sign someone is real but they make what you read here on rhp seem tame and modest... In line with Meander's spectacular cunt but they're not joking... A bit odd but hey, we're not in Kansas anymore...
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MrJingles
10 years ago
I have a few validations and I would say they work for you rather than against. But in saying that I have had the odd looney tune give some feed back much like you experienced just for having validations. And thats them contacting me first rather than me sending the first message. I only meet those with validations, or worst case verified to help weed out the fakes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can see why, because most are about the parties you host. I think it certainly helps to have good reviews when it comes to those. 👍
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RHP User
10 years ago
why do you feel the need to have 8 validations? You only need one or two, if you must use them. Any more seems just a bit pathetic to me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
:p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
a woman messaged me and said how my validations added some strength to my character...or something similar. I think its important to have a couple to show your real. I wouldnt have any overtly sexual ones tho. Dont judge those who do! Sounds like the woman in question just wanted to have a dig at something - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...validations are just opinions. Some will assist others in deciding whether to meet/hook up with another and some will turn others off. I can see their use and, have one posted on my profile, and I have given validations and the receivers can choose to post them or not. What they do is not my business as if they have read them then my message has been received and that is my main idea for sending, as follow up to what we shared.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We feel that validations are, in many ways, an advert of whom one has slept with / played with and for us, what happens in the bedroom, stays in the bedroom and we prefer, therefore, to keep such info private. This has meant that we have had to delete a few validations over the past couple of years. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think some people may be a little jelly....ask yourself whether the ppl who don't like it are ppl you would meet up with? Probably not as they are too critical and can't see a world outside of their opinions, it would seem :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
quoting genguy"I think some people may be a little jelly....ask yourself whether the ppl who don't like it are ppl you would meet up with? Probably not as they are too critical and can't see a world outside of their opinions, it would seem :)" Those that require a validation are too needy and will require a constant amount of proof before enjoying another persons personality..... Kinda detracts from a union of two or more, and diminishes it to a job application..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow, really? There are so many fakes on here its good to see that some people are genuine and do meet other people. You are entitled to your opinion of course, but to say its juvenile to validate someone on the grounds that you have found them to be worthy of a good word is er.........juvenile?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Any validations ATM ....but if I read a profile and the validations are all about MrBonkalot and his amazing tongue and or dick, I do find that more than a little cringeworthy ,but that's just me..other people love it and some even believe it 🎄🎁xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree, but when it comes to others abusing someone because they choose to have validations, that's not cool.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Wow, really? There are so many fakes on here its good to see that some people are genuine and do meet other people. You are entitled to your opinion of course, but to say its juvenile to validate someone on the grounds that you have found them to be worthy of a good word is er.........juvenile? Lol, yeah its juvenile no matter how you want to dress it up. Funny thing is that we are really real....for real.....and have no validations, we play month in month out without the help of "call #$**$#@@ for a good time".....you do realise that nutters can validate other nutters right?.......validations as a filter are as reliable as accepting the opinion of someone you have never met...........its stupid. We are mostly smart enough to not need validations to work out if a profile is fake.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You have just validated yourselves as the type of people I wouldnt want to meet. Calling people " stupid" and " nutters" and saying we are just as likely to respond to phone numbers on toilet walls is pretty distasteful. But....you say you play every week so obviously some people like you. Enjoy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'social_suicide' Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'to say its juvenile to validate someone on the grounds that you have found them to be worthy of a good word is er.........juvenile? Lol, yeah its juvenile no matter how you want to dress it up. You just agreed that your own post was juvenile...
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Just bad timing and wrong person, I think... You say you've been here a few years. I see you have 8 validations. How I read them, 2 are non sexual and 6 are sexual based. So I think for someone who has been on the site for a while, you're doing ok. I have seen a quite a few profiles with over 40+ validations. I have noticed with a profile, they have been here less than 12mths. Therefore, 8 isn't too bad in my eyes. I have also noticed too, those who attended lots of swinging parties/clubs scene tend to have a lot more validations than those who do not attend. You can have as many validations as you want and by who. There's no right or wrong. Good Luck. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have only the one purely social validation. I doubt I would put up a sex based validation. Although I do see profiles mentioning that they value that, especially couples. But you can never win everyone and short of having more than one profile with different target audiences, I see it best to go for a happy medium and hope for the best. I see general validations as the equivalent of verifying a profile, ie a verification that not only is my profile real, but that I am at least a half-decent person in reality and not just by my own words, which anyone can write. I don't necessarily see validations or friends lists as advertising any kind of sexual accomplishments, in my case most are just people that have met me in person and only in a social context. Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I have also noticed too, those who attended lots of swinging parties/clubs scene tend to have a lot more validations than those who do not attend. You can have as many validations as you want and by who. There's no right or wrong. Good Luck. Ms Foxy Hehe I've been to lots although I'm cutting back lately, but haven't recieved or asked for any validations from them because most people I've met aren't on here anyway. It might be different for parties arranged only via rhp. I have also posted validations in the past for those hosting events.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... for a validation, but then I don't receive any messages from women that I haven't first engaged in some way myself. Maybe my validations keep them away ;) Don't sweat it, Dan ... If you like 'em, keep 'em ... and the people who also like them will get in touch with you. Win-win. Merry Christmas to you too xx
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Sorry OP off topic a little. Yes I was thinking of the RHP parties/club scene. If one is a good host, nothing wrong with validations from others. Personally if one holds events, and they have some great validations, it says a lot to me that they are very good hosts. Take Perth Socialites for example. The ladies do a great job organising social events and they deserve them. On the other hand, if a profile/club held regular parties (RHP well known), had no validations, I would be a little concerned. As for singles holding events/parties with lots of validations, in my eyes, it would be wise to add that in ones profile, if they don't than I think that's where assumptions would be made from readers about them. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
We use them as a way to see who's genuine or not Would say that 95% of the people that have wasted our time (last minute cancellations/people who have had no intention to meet/fake profiles) have been people with no validations. We have met people who've had none and they turned out to be genuine, so we try not to paint all with the same brush. Guest + no validation is a serious no-no, however.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MrJingles' I have a few validations and I would say they work for you rather than against. But in saying that I have had the odd looney tune give some feed back much like you experienced just for having validations. And thats them contacting me first rather than me sending the first message. I only meet those with validations, or worst case verified to help weed out the fakes. You call 21 a few? I like non sexual validations, I know I'm probably not the only person someone is sleeping with but I don't want my nose rubbed in it. And i don't think kissing and telling is cool.
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RHP User
10 years ago
of this topic and similar topics previously, are that validations are more likely to be regarded as important / desirable by people who are more heavily involved in the swinging scene - particularly couples and single men. Single women are less likely to see validations as being necessary or even desirable. Given the dynamics of the scene and what the different groups are looking for that's not really surprising. Note that I said 'generally', obviously there are always exceptions.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'RuggedlyRugged' You're not allowed to get anything right with some of the "ladies" on here As one of the ''ladies'' being referred to here I can confirm that some of us do indeed hate all men, and everything you do is automatically wrong, bad, and most probably against all laws of nature. Some men, such as this one, have cleverly sussed us out and are attempting to spread the truth far and wide. Forget the Jedi vs the Sith....this is the ultimate struggle of good vs evil!! Indeed."Luke, your going to find that many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view."
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RHP User
10 years ago
A forum about validations the OP may like: http://www.redhotpie.com.au/adult-forums/Validation-Hesitation-43419
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RHP User
10 years ago
A man i met on here had validated me yet another didnt. I had validated the first man only cause he was real. May have said he was nicer then he actually was lol. But i try not to be a bitch unless they piss me off too much lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like validations im a guest member so cant use.but its interesting to see where people im interested have been. Got any dirty hogs or dogs on that list though ... goodbye. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks heaps for everyone's thought and opinions. I guess everyone is different, and what works for some, may not work for others. I'm a pretty easy going guy, so I think she just hit a nerve and my ego! ha ha Have a great day! Dan
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RHP User
10 years ago
Waiting on validation is like waiting to blow your load, it could come quick or you could last a long time lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'wild81au' dirty hogs or dogs
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RHP User
10 years ago
is very much like what Social Suicide has said to be honest.... If you take validations on here as serious thing, you may as well dial the phone a fuck on the dunny wall. I've said it before that by believing a validation on a profile is giving credibility to a perfect stranger.... And, it's a credibility that's not been earned. I realise that verified members are the only members that can validate a member, but there's nothing really preventing people validating someone's sexual prowess that has not been there... And let's face it....who's really going to send a message to the person whom validated a member to call them out on that fraud??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Being validated or having many validations does not make one a genuine profile. Having no validations does not make one a fake profile. Validations really mean nothing. We get friend requests, and validations, daily from people on here we have never chatted to. Perhaps they think it will enable them to get lucky with us. Boggles the mind. The only thing that gives more credibility to a profile (in our opinion) is whether it's been VERIFIED by admin or not. Verified profiles generally are the real deal, we have found. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I only accept validations from people who Ive met and are now my friends. I find it weird that some people would want to validate someone they hadnt even chatted to? Anyway, to liken me and my friends to toilet wall hook ups is rude and nasty. Validations are like everything else on here, a bit of fun in cyberdating world, and theres no need to be offensive .
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RHP User
10 years ago
someone you know and trust has validated someone?
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justlook2500
10 years ago
Validations, Verification's and Friends all play a part the way I see it. On here over the years I have seen quite a few fake/time wasting profiles. They can be fake/dodgy profiles (especially female ones) which seem very eerily similar almost auto generated hmmm, Or ones where people pretending to be something they are not Eg. guys or girls pretending to be couples, guy's pretending to be girls (why i don't know??), Or ones where it seems people get off only chatting/messaging and not meeting (nothing wrong with people who just chat as long as that's clear that is what they are about). So for the reason's above i tend to see that Verification is a good first step to weeding out some dodgy profiles, then validations can also help to show someone is real/genuine especially with the meeting in real life situation. Like others have stated here i don't need a million of them or every detail of people's sexual activity to be listed in them. But they are good to indicate someone is real and is going to meet. Similar to people's friends list can viewed in a similar way. Now as for your situation op ... as long as you were respectful of the person in your approach to them, if they don't like them and don't want to take things further with you then so be it. Move on and don't worry about it. You will always find people who like you and some who don't for various reasons ... some reasons logical and some not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just like anything else in life one persons opinion may not be yours no matter how close you might be.I have been influenced by friends into at least rethinking how I perceived someone initially and they were right..but in another situation they agreed that I was right ,so it all comes down to making up your own mind but taking into consideration your friends opinion xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't have any, and don't really want to - I'd rather my sex life wasn't social, and if someone needs a validation to read in order to consider meeting up with me, I'm ok with missing out on that opportunity. But I don't object to them on other people's profiles - each to their own, right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'subperthguy' someone you know and trust has validated someone? If it's a social one, I feel more secure believing a guy is reliable and good company. If however it was a sexual validation by (or about) any woman on my friends list, I'd probably decline. This place is an incestuous pond and I really prefer not to know if my forum friends and I are fucking the same men.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
If you "trust" your friend.. You trust them. If you don't trust them well that then becomes an issue- there's no trust. One either trusts or they don't. Validation or not, trust and have faith in your friend. Unless they prove other wise. It's the relationship you have with that person (in real life) that matters, not the validation. People can write a validation for who ever they want too, it's their choice. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
purely a validation to gauge is a person is real or reliable. I don't always take a friends opinion on if someone is a good person or is good in bed etc. I have great friends who like people I don't, and sexual performance is so subjective and reliant between the individuals involved and the chemistry that I wouldn't use a validation for that purpose.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I copped a shit ton of abuse for telling a man I wasn't intrested after he had like 70 something validations on his wall and after looking at women he had played with in the past I was nothing like any of them so didn't think I'd be a suitable playmate. On telling him he lost his shit and told me I shouldn't be looking at his validations. Why have them then??? Just to remember the names of the chicks you screwed?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I think validations are a bit tacky. Further, they are meaningless. Just because person A and person B clicked does not mean person A and person C will. I'd rather under promise and over deliver myself ;p Lovebitten xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't really think you can say that cos someone is a guest and has no validations, that they are fake. I always meet! And I meet sooner than later!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Underpromise and overdeliver anytime on me lovebitten
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I am ever in the fortunate position to validate someone I would only be focussing on the positive aspects of the interaction and the personality aspects. Commenting on the sexual details or conquests is best left to those with teenage mindsets and egotists. Validations are useful but not the be all and end all, it s more important for me to read profile info and pics to get a sense of the person.
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seppopom
10 years ago
As a couple that occasionally likes to bring a guy into the mix we rarely consider anyone without a validation, ideally from another couple (unless recommended via the grapevine). This is to avoid meeting someone who maybe unfamiliar in a group environment, socially awkward, reduced risk of being a poor performer, etc. Has worked well for us so far.
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seppopom
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Quoting 'seppopom' recommended via the grapevine Exactly what I wouldn't want. Fair enough. By grapevine, I mean other people we have met and trust their opinions.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lovebitten' But I think validations are a bit tacky. Further, they are meaningless. Just because person A and person B clicked does not mean person A and person C will. I'd rather under promise and over deliver myself ;p Lovebitten xxx - Posted from rhpmobile Look out I said the same thing, but got a bit of flak for it.............im hoping koko isn't another man hater here and plays fair......lol
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abcplus1
10 years ago
That's our view of them. We don't kiss and tell.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Could also be the lazy man's(aka the lazy woman's, depending on gender) screening process.....cos it's easier to rely on word of mouth than to form your own opinion.....aka a damn fine but of gossip....hairdressers beware lol :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
A man hater? Hell no I love guys....I have two for breakfast every morning ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
the amount of fakes and flakes on here and the almost non existent screening of profiles I would trust very little of anything here without real life corroboration of some sort.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Quoting 'social_suicide' vaildations suck Its exactly the same as writing on a public toilet wall....call #$%%$ for a good time, juvenile at best. Quoting 'lovebitten' I don't judge... But I think validations are a bit tacky. Further, they are meaningless. Just because person A and person B clicked does not mean person A and person C will. Yah, you said exactly the same thing... So my next sentence was......"validations as a filter are as reliable as accepting the opinion of someone you have never met...........its stupid." Which when viewed in context is the same yes, same point said differently ( and to go with your theme of taking things out of context, I didn't say "exactly the same") Its ok though I expect loads of people here to take sentences and meaning out of context to feed their beast, unfortunately its normal behavior here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Poor performer! What's that all about?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Statistics on a persons profile. Messages sentMessages receivedMessage replies If you then see someone has received 28,250 messages and replied 10 times you just don't bother.I would find that infinitely more helpful than validations.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree meander solstice, stats would make it all so much more easier
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MrJingles
10 years ago
I see your point but majority of mine relate to parties I host...so .for those who havent been to one it suggests that its likely to be a fun night. if they were to consider attending. In this age we line in people want reviews - no different to reading tripadvisor when planning accommodation or reading a restaurant review before you go. Just a different menu
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MrJingles
10 years ago
Quoting 'dissolvedgirl' I can see why, because most are about the parties you host. I think it certainly helps to have good reviews when it comes to those. 👍 You should come then
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RHP User
10 years ago
has anyone been blessed with a bad one?? Like this perhaps:- "Whilst (xyz profile name) is for real, I found him/her/them to smell like mouldy cheese and had the appearance of an inflamed haemorrhoid....but about the same amount of pus....but that all said they were truly lovely....I can't wait to find out my test results so I can see if I can sue them for something... :)" Anyone??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
well....I celebrated New Years in the middle of the year.... New year....new profile ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well i know some ppl think of validations as a farce and yes there are fake ppl on here that may even have two accounts or friends who do validate them however................ The men i have met on here its not to make any women think they are good in bed, face it we all like different things and where one can get us off another cant. The world would be boring if we all loved the same thing, but for me if i validate them its to say they are real, whether they are a gentleman, showed me a great time, treated me like a human rather then a piece of meat, I validate the person for anything apart from the sexual side. I wont ever do it to give them a big head, some ppl on here wont trust meeting someone that they have no idea is a real person or even treats a woman good. On New Years Eve, I had a gentleman here. He wanted to spend time with someone and neither of us had anything on. There was no expectations, it was more for the companionship but we did like eachother through messages and telephone convo. So i allowed him into my home and wow. He bought me a big box of chocolates, drinks and food, we entertained eachother throughout the night *winks* at 5am he massaged me till i fell asleep (I never sleep when men are over) lol. When we awoke he bought me brekky, had more fun *winks* then he bought me dinner. But apart from the sex, we have becum very good friends. He has helped me with alot of things i needed at the time. Im not so open with everyone but he is a man that showed me there is more then just sex when meeting. I love to meet men that will not only please me but to be my real life friend also. So yes i will validate someone just for the person they are. He does find most wont even reply to him when he is genuine. If its because he isnt there type thats a different story. We all know what we want out of this.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You must be very special if we decide to make love with you. We highly appreciate you and your privacy. And you are validating us highly by being with us. Why would we need any other validation or why would you ask for a one? We can allways state that you are a real person but, if after all, you need us to give you a star rating, then this means that we have made a big and unfortunate error of judgment. (mr)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Still working out what everything means. A mate and his partner said that it's a good one. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We send a validation whenever we have met someone in real life. We use this function simply to let others know that they are a real couple. We don't use validations as a list of who we have played with. If we meet you at a party and have enough of a chat that we remember your RHP profile name, you'll generally receive one over the next few days.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dan, am sorry to hear that someone abused you over your validations. Abuse of any sort should not occur on an adult site. For the record, I have met you Dan, some years ago for a coffee, and although my memory is hazy, I don't recall either of us feeling the sort of chemistry to take things further. However, you were a respectful and decent guy to talk to, not egotistical at all. The coffee meeting though didn't need to, and wasn't posted on a validation at all. It does pose the old sexist question though.....If a woman had 9 validations on their profile would she be deemed as a "drive thru"? Generally, after viewing various validations on a range of different profiles, a large percentage do tend to come across as an indirect sales pitch for the profile that is being validated. Which can work for, or against the person in what image they would actually like to be projecting/promoting. It does surprise me that there is still the underlying issue of people coming across "fake" profiles. In this day in age, there is WEBCAM to say hello to someone before going out to meet. It is a great way in validating for yourself, if a profile is real, and worthy of continuing communicating with. I would suggest that this is a "must do" for those experiencing a number of fakes, before investing any time and energy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That was quick ☺ bit too quick?
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RHP User
10 years ago
if I leave validations,which isn't always ....mine is based on the person ive met and how I see them from my own eyes and feelings,i don't write anything sexual because my sexual story with them is my own not everyone elses .....not that I mind seeing others validating their sexual adventures with others,but for me its about the person I had a good time getting to know
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