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Validations - do you really want them?
October 08 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'd like it better if peoples' profiles spoke for themselves but often someone that looks like they might be nice has a really brief or generic profile and then a validation can show they're not just here to browse. To get to the point of one of your questions though, a validation comment from someone else is only going to change my opinion if there wasn't that much to go on in the profile to start with.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I actually think they are, or rather; can be very useful. I like to see what the people thought of this person. They are no use at all to me if they are the generic ones but if someone took the time to write one of their own then i'm interested. Also, it shows you the sort of people that person sleeps with. How high or low are their standards? Granted, one persons fabulous shag is another person yawn but validations have served me when when considering a potential play friend. I get the rest of the information from friends who know this person and the persons profile. If they make it past that point then we're well on the way to playtime.
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RHP User
14 years ago
A Validation on my profile means that i have met that person and that they are real and genuine , not that i have had sex with them, the same go's for my friends list, this is how i view other peoples validations unless the validation indicates otherwise.If anyone were to think otherwise they are not my kind of people.What people say and do in the chat room can certainly, and has changed my perception of them no matter what they have written in their profile.
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RHP User
14 years ago
To me that is anyway. I have had a validation in the past but it was certainly not sexual in nature. Neither would I give a sexual one anyway. Many do and the thing with validations is that you have to agree to have it posted on your profile. No one is going to agree to a validation that says.... l "finaly managed to meet with MrWellHung after he cancelled five times. Once completely standing me up without even calling or texting and I had driven 450 ks just for the meet. Well ladies what can I say? He is not so well hung and terrible in the sack. Not worth the time chatting to him. Dont go there!" l Now that would look good.....not! So only good validations are shown. It is a little like a dog pissing against a tree though. "Look everyone...I was there before you"
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RHP User
14 years ago
They help to prove the person is real and will meet and not stand you up. I personally like to read them as they help me decide if that profile is worth persuing especially if their profile says nothing much about them. They dont have to be of a sexual nature or how good a shag that person was....just nice and genuine wins hands down every time.
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contemplating1
14 years ago
I think a validation is good where it shows that there is a genuine person out there, who (within reason) meets the profile they put out.
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RHP User
14 years ago
for some we guess, they may serve a purpose, and may assist in someone reaching a decision one way or the other.......but for us? we dont see them as useful for ourselves, any more than we see the 'friends list' as handy l......
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RHP User
14 years ago
It confirms the person is real which is assuring here. If you think a prospective partner will judge you on a past partner/interlude you had, then maybe you'd like to consider just how prospective that partner may be? Given their attitude/judgement they deem necessary to dump on you about your past.
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RHP User
14 years ago
could not care less
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RHP User
14 years ago
Shows that there is a real sexy fun Woman attached to myRed Hot Pie Profile As for having More there is no need I gotta Admit if im reading a profile that I like & say hes got lots of validations I say no thanx NEXT so Validations can also having a Negative effectNo one wants Some one thats Screwed lots of the rhp crew not only that at times I have read validations & as a forum Regular we know lots of profiles from here so lol its like oh yeah "he's been with her" sometimes I think its better not knowing We dont need to make it Public Knowledge everyone we sex it up with ............. xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally I would get grossed out if I came across someones profile with lots of validations stating that they were "GREAT IN BED" bcoz that indicates they obviously get around alot and then you start to think if they could potentially have an STD so it's a NO FROM ME
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RHP User
14 years ago
they all seem a wee bit needy one genuine one just to let you know that its a real person any more and it all seems like bragging considering you allow them on your profile
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RHP User
14 years ago
.... kb600 ........ validations just means there real i recon .... helps weed out the dreamers... anyway u can catch up with me anytime ... i wont expect a validation .... lol ......
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RHP User
14 years ago
Missopenminded you sure are pretty & utterly HAWT. But I digress, I dont mind validations if they are about how fun or nice the person is etc. Just because you meet people from RHP and even hit it off doesn't necessarily mean you did the business :p. I wouldn't like an explicit sexual validation. I think it's tacky & everyone is different anyway. What might float your boat isn't necessarily gonna float mine. Xx Meeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Following this topic I can see some of us 'Bring a lot to the table'. All valid points of view nevertheless if you desire all that meaning....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think my validations have helped confirm that I'm genuine for certain couples and singles, which is certainly a positive thing when trying to stand out from the inordinate number of single guys on here. I'd be inclined to think that a profile with at least one validation would mean that they've followed through on their word at some stage... which certainly doesn't hurt when looking for new people to chat with, play with, get to know etc. Having multiple validations doesn't worry me either. Some of us are more interested in playtime with a range of people, some are just after a regular one. It all comes down to what floats your boat and if someone has many validations, I'd look at it as a positive. At least you know they're likely to follow through with what they say. If you hit it off, the likelihood of things moving forward in a positive manner are all the more likely.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Suppose it depends on what you are looking for. We think lots of validations and friends indicate you are right into the lifestyle taking every oppurtunity play. Makes us wonder friends requests and validations from people we have not even talked to . Guess we subscribe to descretion, dont kiss and tell. No thanks to validations. We do think its a good idea to prove your age on here thru RHP.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think it takes the fun out of finding out yourself. We all cant have a great performance everytime and if you have a bad one so to speak with somone on here and they give you a bad rating, then that would suck. Find out for yourself i say and ignore the validation cause really we all arnt going to please everyone on here since we all are not robots and dont all like or do the same things.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally, I never read the validations but I trust the profile more when there is a validation on them. I was very proud to get my first validation and, as already pointed out, if you are not satisfied with the content of the validation offerred, don't add it. Very simple. It is what it says. It validates your authenticity. I like that.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I recently responded to a couple's flirt, there was no validation on it but it was a new profile. I recieved a response asking me to call a number, which I didn't do straight away but when I tried that number later, I was told not to use the number as it was freaking his wife out. He was not genuine and that is why there was no validation. Something to consider.
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TWOfourYOU
14 years ago
We like to think they are worth something.....bottom line at least you know the person is real if someone is adding a comment and not just, someone trolling the site with no intent of meeting....Our thoughts any way!
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RHP User
14 years ago
One of my validations was erased because the person who wrote it canceled her membership.
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RHP User
14 years ago
But she rejoined and resubmitted the validation Just needed to be approved by you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'll have to put another down for you. xxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think validation is a good thing, I'm not really interested in all the details, just need to know they are real. I've joined scarlet women and we've met once already. It was really interesting, I got to meet other women and got a great insite into their experiences. It's not about bagging any of the guys, just a way of finding out who's real, who turns up, etc. I sometimes worry about meeting someone I don't know for the first time, even if it's just for coffee. By actually talking with someone who's been with the guy first helps take that concern away. By the way fellas I always ask the guy if can Tell the girls about them before I do.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Are useful. They show that a person is real and gives another person (other than their own) insight into their personality.I don't want road tests though.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Verifications can have a few useful purposes: validate that both individuals are "real" ( one validating the other ,confirming the existence of both) and also may serve as a good indication that the person they met was "happy" with their meeting, to the point of going through the effort to write the "validation", indicating as well that both parties are "genuine" :) The templates are useful, but extra points go to creative verifications x TD&H
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RHP User
14 years ago
And have not slept with any of them... Pure friendship. But mehhh... human nature to speculate on somethings. Go with what your comfortable with. huggies sweetpxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well I have one. I actually met the person and no we didn't get it on. To me I see them as an indication the person may be more genuine. By no means infalible but helps to see if people are genuine. The actual content of them is irrelevant as it maybe sombody you had sex with or like me, didn't get it on.
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