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What makes a Gentleman?
April 15 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'd like to think my son will aspire to these qualities. It's about being honest, honourable and trusworthy as well as knowing how to be polite in company and with a lady. I'd like to think he would open a door for someone he's with and treat her with respect as well as be someone who can be relied on to be there as support if required.Time will tell, but I'm very proud of him at 13 and I think he'll be a fantastic young man. There must be others out there like him, so I'd hope that these qualities will survive in the younger generation to some extent. Hard to tell if someone is genuine or just trying to get in your pants though, I must admit...
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RHP User
15 years ago
There must be some out there. Certainly older guys know how to be a gentleman and I think that if they treat you like a lady its pretty hard not to act like a lady. To me a Gentleman is a man who is confident enough to be thoughtful and considerate and respectful. xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I havemet some absolutely gorgeous men on here who i would consiuder to be gentlemen and one such man is in his 20's....he has always treated me with the utmost respect iin and out of the bedroom) and is truly an honest and honourable gentleman. Not once have I thought it was him trying to get into my skirt (I dont wear pants ) but I hoenstly do believe that this is the way he is ... genuine guy... . They do exsist ladies you just need to be patient . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
there are some on here...you just have to look real hard some of the men i have travelled to spend the weekend with have been perfect gentlemen to me its the little things that make a man great....opening the doors, standing in the sun when im sunburnt so i can have the shady part of the path, helping me if im in pain, letting me go through a door first, holding my hand, helping me when im stuck (laughing with me when im on the bed farting a tune while trying to be sexy not at me)...just little stuff like Andraxx i am trying to raise my son to do the little things that make a man a gentleman...so hopefully it doesnt burn out with the older generation and ours sons will be classed as gentleman too roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I try, I really do! I think I succeed a lot of the time and I know sometimes I fail dismally. My father also tried and although a hard old bastard I think he did ok. So I guess we aren't true gentlemen but we have/had a go. My Grandfather was renown for being one, a few ex gf's fathers were too and yes I've met quite a few others over the years but agree they tend to be older but it is really impressive when you meet someone younger that is in every essence a true gentleman.My two best friends are true gentlemen and when I'm around them they inspire me to aspire to be more like them.So can I presume to know a "lady" when I meet one? Well the essence that makes someone a gentleman or a lady is the same I think. Thinking about it I find a similar pattern; my mother is one, my grandmothers were, again I've come across many others and mostly older but again so impressed and attracted to the rare young one. My wife definitely is one and I'm so glad she sees potential in me :)I can't really describe all the attributes that make a gentleman or a lady, all I can come up with is that they are truely NICE and genuinely care about ALL interactions they have with other people.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' PS Can I see your Cock ShotsYou Sir are a Gentleman Thanks Krissy, that's very kind of you to say, I do think it's important :-) But are you asking me to show you my cock shots? LOL ;-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Adding to Chilli's post which I thought was great......... . If you feel and act like a lady, then I beleive it's easier to find the gentleman. . Like attracting like I suppose. Thats how Gomez found me (on here)...in a lovely non-template message he said if he didn't live interstate he would ask me out to dinner. I replied that I was flattered by his invitation. To me, it was his email manners that spoke of his "gentleman-ness" :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
chivalry, gentlemanly and womanly behaviour..everything's sexified now..when the gentlemen treated you ladies well DID they end up getting in your pants? (just sayin..)i think it's about the same for both sexes really..i mean look at the site we're on..the next thread will be about gangbangs or how big guys dicks are or something
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' PS Can I see your Cock Shots You Sir are a Gentleman I replied to this last night but it doesn't seem to have gone through - so excuse any duplicates that may appear :-)Thanks you for you kind words :-) And just to clarify - are you asking to see my cock shots LOL
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well Andraxx, i believe you ARE a gentlman.I believe a true gentleman (Of the times), shows a deep compassion for those less fortunateHas utmost respect for others, regardless of gender, age or raceAnd the big one- takes the time to teach his son, the qualities that will enable him to hold his head up high, and face the world with a conviction of spirit.Then there are the little things-Opening a door for a woman (Or man)-Walking on the street side of the path- not just for old times, but nowdays you are just as vulnerable to getting splashed, or worse, have a wayward car jump the curb (If you are on the street side, you have half a chance of doing something)- Picking up something that someone has dropped- again regardless of age or gender-offering $2 to the old lady in the cue infront of you, as she rummages around trying to find enough coin for her meagre meal-humility, and trying to be humbleThese are just some of my thoughts, and there are many othersGuess it just boils down to having respect for all things living, and utmost respect in yourself!
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Play2010
15 years ago
I agree with Andraxx, i think you should always open or hold a door open for your wife or anyone for that matter, slide her chair in at restaurants when she sits, stand up when she gets up, stand up to greet someone, open the car door for her, make her feel sexy, be romantic, dont litter, go without so she can go with, offer to drive....... and basically be a good respectfull person. Just to take it down a level a gentleman tries to not let a sexy lady notice when he is looking at her tits, and as for talking to them (tits that is), dudes not cool. Also make your ladie cum first, second, third and maybe fourth before u do, dont fart or belch, dont play with another chick unless either she knows about it or is participating and........ Put the fcukn toilet seat DOWN! Anywho, thats my take, but maybe i'm just old AND old fashioned!! Party hard and play safe! Frankie
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Play2010
15 years ago
I agree with Andraxx, i think you should always open or hold a door open for your wife or anyone for that matter, slide her chair in at restaurants when she sits, stand up when she gets up, stand up to greet someone, open the car door for her, make her feel sexy, be romantic, dont litter, go without so she can go with, offer to drive....... and basically be a good respectfull person. Just to take it down a level a gentleman tries to not let a sexy lady notice when he is looking at her tits, and as for talking to them (tits that is), dudes not cool. Also make your ladie cum first, second, third and maybe fourth before u do, dont fart or belch, dont play with another chick unless either she knows about it or is participating and........ Put the fcukn toilet seat DOWN! Anywho, thats my take, but maybe i'm just old AND old fashioned!! Party hard and play safe! Frankie
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think I know the post you are talking about, Sarah...and have to admit that made my nose twitch just bit too. I did not know it was a pop quiz and probably should have skipped class. I doubt if any answer, whether humourous or otherwise, was going to be graded much above a "C"...oh well, maybe that right there is how you start to separate the men from the boys and the ladies from the girls. | I meet women that I would call true ladies all the time...they smile if I happen to open the door for them and maybe even smile a bit more if I happen to notice how they look. If we go to a new restaurant together for the first time...she may raise her eyebrows and say we shouldn't order that next time rather than commenting about the "shit on the plate". Of course, I think she is one hell of lady if we are taking a short cut through a cow paddock to get to the river bank and steps in something without calling it poo-poo on her shoes. Call it for what it is...you are still a lady in my book. | Ladies have values, too...they will tell you what they like, don't like and if you are lucky tell you the same about what they are thinking and feeling about you. Ladies, like gentleman...are never harsh or cruel and don't hesitate to pat you on the head or scratch you behind the ears if you are doing all the right things. It makes your tail wag and they just know it. | Sure, I might only let you out of the elevator first because I want to get a good look at your backside...but pssst hey you, I saw your reflection in the window and you were smiling because you knew I was looking. I like that too. | Maybe too it's just that no matter how far you have just gone together or how high up the mountain you have just climbed...that soft smile, the sparkle in yours and a very gentle kiss that says you are glad we shared what we just did and know it was a gift...not a given, goes a long ways. I don't think you can ever wear out the words "thank you" or that special feeling that you have if you know you are friends and respect each other for who you are and just the way you are. Remember it's a journey and all things, even who we are right now today...may be subject to change over time and without notice. Don't miss out on what is right there in front of you. | There is a lot more to like about most people than there is to dislike about them...if I have a choice between catching you doing something I like or telling you I don't approve of who you are, I will try the first one, thanks. Maybe that makes me a gentleman and you a lady if you are doing the same thing. | Too, if you are a woman and have read all of this without saying or thinking... "Jezus, he a long winded gas bag and really so full of shit" then you are... | ...definitely a lady.
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RHP User
15 years ago
is a man that takes time to share all his loves, and a man to show all his loves. and a man who feels his womans love. intrusted to be the gentleman means there is a certain way of doing things to the letter and th e gentleman will fight for the honour of a womans love after a this why we are gentleman...
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RHP User
15 years ago
In my opinion, a Gentleman is:respectfulcourteousthoughtfulattentiveconsiderateprompthonest but kind and may also:swear depending on companytell naughty jokesbe dominant in the bedroombreak the speed limitwoo hoo, i'm all those things.... i think. with the right person/lady anyway
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tomoln' In my opinion, a Gentleman is:respectfulcourteousthoughtfulattentiveconsiderateprompthonest but kind and may also:swear depending on companytell naughty jokesbe dominant in the bedroombreak the speed limitwoo hoo, i'm all those things.... i think. with the right person/lady anyway Ha I like the list, I'm definitely IN too!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'puppy' Quoting 'Tomoln' In my opinion, a Gentleman is: respectful courteous thoughtful attentive considerate prompt honest but kind and may also: swear depending on company tell naughty jokes be dominant in the bedroom break the speed limit woo hoo, i'm all those things.... i think. with the right person/lady anyway Ha I like the list, I'm definitely IN too! looks like im the perfect gentleman too roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have to admit I am a fan of "the list" and just wonder how many ticks I coulld put beside each one...it does sound a little bit like the boy scout credo. They had no sense of humour when I borrowed a kayak from lodge and tried to row across the lake to the girl scout camp on the other side.... | Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' ...and may also: swear depending on company, tell naughty jokes, be dominant in the bedroom and break the speed limit.| I know I have these covered even if I didn't make it into the Eagle scouts...bigger boys and bigger toys, I don't need the kayak to get from one side to the other any more. I did manage to get my demerit badge for knot tying, so maybe that makes up for a few... | ...that I might have missed? | | Light travels at 299,792,458 metres per second...what's the speed limit?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had the privilege of meeting a man once.He was the type of man that scared me.He was huge. He had a shaved head and a beard that grew to his chest.He had earrings and his upper body covered in Tatts.He rode a Harley, and wore leathers, belonging to some club or other.He was a Vietnam Vet.Every Tuesday he turned up at Legacy and spent the day sipping cups of tea and chatting with elderly war widows making them laugh and reminisce.They all loved him. He surprised one of them by taking her riding thru Brisbane town as his pillion for her birthday.Despite the traumas, hardships and limitations of his own lifeHe never swore, was always attentive, had a genuine heart and his respect for the elderly shone from within him.That man is a gentleman.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh MissB, can I have his number lol Love a marshmellow under all the armour!!!! I have met one, and he was whisked away by another oh well... Next? xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
A gentleman doesnt make promises he has no intention of keeping... A gentleman tells you that you look beautiful even when you havent been well and feel anything but beautiful at the time :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's a little unfortunate that most young men consider being a 'player' a more worthwhile choice than acting a gentleman. It's also quite strange: the goal of a player is to score, but a gentleman's ideal is to seduce a woman in mind, body and emotions. If a good gentleman knows how to treat a woman, then 'scoring' seems more like an eventuality than a goal.It's also unfortunate that many young women find themselves attracted to that sense of self-aggrandising, but in a lot of cases that kind of wisdom about the opposite sex comes after years of experience. I don't think there would be nearly as many young players if their technique wasn't halfway successful.In my opinion, a gentleman needs to be aware of three core issues: respect, honesty and confidence: confidence in yourself, honesty about the kind of person you are and how you communicate with other people, and a respect for women that incorporates all of their wants and needs. It's an ongoing process, but one that's worth embarking on.
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RHP User
15 years ago
and that's why panties all over the forums just dropped of their own accord... hehe.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Believes AND demonstrates that ladies always come firstHolds your hair out of the way for you while you're giving oral. (No it's not just so he can see better)Supports your neck when your head is hanging off the side of the bed for a throat-fucking.Cleans his own cum off your nipples with his tongue rather than grabbing a towel, using it on himself and tossing it at you. xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Believes AND demonstrates that ladies always come first Holds your hair out of the way for you while you're giving oral. (No it's not just so he can see better) Supports your neck when your head is hanging off the side of the bed for a throat-fucking. Cleans his own cum off your nipples with his tongue rather than grabbing a towel, using it on himself and tossing it at you. xx Sarah I just choked on my hot cross bun Oh and Charlie T .....what a lovely young gentleman. And I apologise for the evil thoughts that ran through my mind like..........MMMMM fresh meat
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RHP User
15 years ago
... made up of all of the qualities others have mentioned above. . In answer to your questions Sarah, I have only ever met a very small handful of true gentlemen in my time. I have met a couple of them here on RHP. But yes, they are rare and ever the optimist, I pray they aren't becoming extinct. It is absolutely my experience that a real gentleman is usually older, however I don't believe it would be true to say "they just don't make them like that anymore." Whilst breeding may not necessarily be an accurate indicator of whether a man is a gentleman, I consider myself to be a pretty good judge of character and more often than not, you can tell how a man has been raised by how he treats a lady. I have come across men younger than myself who display the qualities of a gentleman and it always warms me to see that all is not lost for our future generations. And no, I don't just assume a man displaying gentlemanly qualities, be he older or younger, is merely a skilled charmer (or player) trying to get into my pantaloons. I always try to see the best in people, however subconsciously, I use many of the traits listed by other posters above to gauge his 'worthiness'. . I found this whilst Googling "A Gentleman Never" and thought some of these were interesting and worth a cut/paste job, especially from an online dating perspective: . A gentleman knows how to begin a conversation. If a gentleman is subjected to a rude remark or rude behavior, he does not offer rudeness in return. A gentleman allows others to finish their sentences. Even in his most brilliant moments, he does not interrupt. A gentleman does not talk with his mouth full - even over the phone. A gentleman is slow to judge the actions of others, either in their public or private affairs. A gentleman never corrects another person's grammar - unless he is teaching an English class. A gentleman does not take part in major arguments over minor issues. A gentleman makes a conscious effort to use correct grammar, but he resists all temptation to sound overly grand. A gentleman does not pretend to speak languages that he has not made his own. A gentleman avoids raising his voice and does not shout others down - even in the most heated discussion. A gentleman says "Excuse me," not "I'm sorry" when he inconveniences someone while moving through a crowded room. When it comes to accepting social invitations, a gentleman never waits for something better to come along. A gentleman does not use his cell phone when he is at a table with others. When a gentleman receives a number of invitations on his voice mail, he accepts the first one. When a gentleman is confronted by foolishness, he does not attempt to refute it with reason. Instead, he keeps silent. In a civil conversation, and when attempting to meet new friends, a gentleman asks the question "What do you think?" often. A gentleman sincerely appreciates any gift that comes his way, and pens a thank you note to show his gratitude. When a gentleman will have guests in his home, he makes sure the toilets are clean and there is plenty of toilet paper. When a gentleman throws a party, he goes to the grocery store and the liquor store early in the day, and buys plenty of ice. A gentleman understands that a hat exists for utilitarian purposes, and that it should never be worn inside. If a gentleman has left a message for another person, he does not leave badgering follow-up calls. Even if he lives alone, a gentleman never drinks milk directly from the container. A gentleman always thinks before he speaks. .In fairness, I then Googled "A Lady Never" and I got: . You don't reveal your age or weight, unless absolutely necessary. You never ask a gentleman how much money he makes. When in doubt, you dress up. You would never look too casual for an event. You never say that you're leaving for the bathroom. You simply excuse yourself. You don't complain about things you can't change - like waiting in line or the weather. If a gentleman offers to pay for a date, you politely accept. You don't engage in prolonged public displays of affection. You never talk on your phone when in a restaurant or at the movies. You don't gossip. You drink in moderation. You never let your drinking behavior get out of control. You do not discuss religion or politics at the dinner table. If you've been given a gift, you follow up with a written thank you note or card. You don't use call waiting. You instead use voicemail for interrupting calls. You always RSVP to invitations, and you never ask if you can bring extra guests. You don't discuss your past relationships with the person you're dating. You don't tell sexist or racist jokes. You do not interrupt people speaking to you. You don't flirt with men that you aren't interested in. If you are on a diet, you do not discuss it at the dinner table. You carry the smallest purse possible, depending on the occasion. You err on the side of saying good night early. You never turn down an invitation hoping something better will come along that night. When in doubt, you dress modestly - saving sexier clothes for the right occasion. You never ask if you look fat. .. Now, obviously accounting for moderate changes in societal norms, and adjusting some of these points for consideration with respect to your own personality, in my opinion, I think these points lay a pretty good foundation for the lady and gentleman of today.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' ... made up of all of the qualities others have mentioned above. . In answer to your questions Sarah, I have only ever met a very small handful of true gentlemen in my time. I have met a couple of them here on RHP. But yes, they are rare and ever the optimist, I pray they aren't becoming extinct. It is absolutely my experience that a real gentleman is usually older, however I don't believe it would be true to say "they just don't make them like that anymore." Whilst breeding may not necessarily be an accurate indicator of whether a man is a gentleman, I consider myself to be a pretty good judge of character and more often than not, you can tell how a man has been raised by how he treats a lady. I have come across men younger than myself who display the qualities of a gentleman and it always warms me to see that all is not lost for our future generations. And no, I don't just assume a man displaying gentlemanly qualities, be he older or younger, is merely a skilled charmer (or player) trying to get into my pantaloons. I always try to see the best in people, however subconsciously, I use many of the traits listed by other posters above to gauge his 'worthiness'. . I found this whilst Googling "A Gentleman Never" and thought some of these were interesting and worth a cut/paste job, especially from an online dating perspective: . A gentleman knows how to begin a conversation. If a gentleman is subjected to a rude remark or rude behavior, he does not offer rudeness in return. A gentleman allows others to finish their sentences. Even in his most brilliant moments, he does not interrupt. A gentleman does not talk with his mouth full - even over the phone. A gentleman is slow to judge the actions of others, either in their public or private affairs. A gentleman never corrects another person's grammar - unless he is teaching an English class. A gentleman does not take part in major arguments over minor issues. A gentleman makes a conscious effort to use correct grammar, but he resists all temptation to sound overly grand. A gentleman does not pretend to speak languages that he has not made his own. A gentleman avoids raising his voice and does not shout others down - even in the most heated discussion. A gentleman says "Excuse me," not "I'm sorry" when he inconveniences someone while moving through a crowded room. When it comes to accepting social invitations, a gentleman never waits for something better to come along. A gentleman does not use his cell phone when he is at a table with others. When a gentleman receives a number of invitations on his voice mail, he accepts the first one. When a gentleman is confronted by foolishness, he does not attempt to refute it with reason. Instead, he keeps silent. In a civil conversation, and when attempting to meet new friends, a gentleman asks the question "What do you think?" often. A gentleman sincerely appreciates any gift that comes his way, and pens a thank you note to show his gratitude. When a gentleman will have guests in his home, he makes sure the toilets are clean and there is plenty of toilet paper. When a gentleman throws a party, he goes to the grocery store and the liquor store early in the day, and buys plenty of ice. A gentleman understands that a hat exists for utilitarian purposes, and that it should never be worn inside. If a gentleman has left a message for another person, he does not leave badgering follow-up calls. Even if he lives alone, a gentleman never drinks milk directly from the container. A gentleman always thinks before he speaks. .In fairness, I then Googled "A Lady Never" and I got: . You don't reveal your age or weight, unless absolutely necessary. You never ask a gentleman how much money he makes. When in doubt, you dress up. You would never look too casual for an event. You never say that you're leaving for the bathroom. You simply excuse yourself. You don't complain about things you can't change - like waiting in line or the weather. If a gentleman offers to pay for a date, you politely accept. You don't engage in prolonged public displays of affection. You never talk on your phone when in a restaurant or at the movies. You don't gossip. You drink in moderation. You never let your drinking behavior get out of control. You do not discuss religion or politics at the dinner table. If you've been given a gift, you follow up with a written thank you note or card. You don't use call waiting. You instead use voicemail for interrupting calls. You always RSVP to invitations, and you never ask if you can bring extra guests. You don't discuss your past relationships with the person you're dating. You don't tell sexist or racist jokes. You do not interrupt people speaking to you. You don't flirt with men that you aren't interested in. If you are on a diet, you do not discuss it at the dinner table. You carry the smallest purse possible, depending on the occasion. You err on the side of saying good night early. You never turn down an invitation hoping something better will come along that night. When in doubt, you dress modestly - saving sexier clothes for the right occasion. You never ask if you look fat. .. Now, obviously accounting for moderate changes in societal norms, and adjusting some of these points for consideration with respect to your own personality, in my opinion, I think these points lay a pretty good foundation for the lady and gentleman of today. That is an excellent list! I would agree that gentlemen aren't becoming extinct but they're certainly harder to see. I'm curious to know as to when we should expect these qualities to begin to manifest themselves. There are some behaviours I was raised to believe were or were not appropriate and I continue to maintain a "ladies first", "stand up for..." approach to life, despite having been bawled out by people of both sexes for doing so.I think one quality that could be added to both lists is that a gentleman (or a lady) never needs to claim to be one; by the way they speak and act they are generally shown to be such.- Adam
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' And where are your bunny ears CNG???C'mon get a wriggle on, you could even give each of your, sorry to say it but... absolutely mesmerising breasts a pair of ears at the top with whiskers around the nipples lolChilli xxDamn what I'd give to see that... posted a link in your bunny thread, take out the spaces.xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'redearthman' I think one quality that could be added to both lists is that a gentleman (or a lady) never needs to claim to be one; by the way they speak and act they are generally shown to be such. - AdamOh ain't that the truth! If a gentleman (or more often the case, a lady) has to point it out, or draw attention to him/herself in such a way, they may as well have missed the point altogether!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm not much of a gentleman at all , but I'm definitely doing my best to please all parties in all circumstances , so I hope that by the grace of God one day I'll become a truly gentle person with a soft heart , and I will no longer have a selfish heart of stone. It's been said that a person should be more tolerant than a tree , more humble than the straw in the street , devoid of all false prestige , and ready to give all respect to others. As for men in particular , yes I agree with all the actions I have read in previous posts , and try to do them as best fits time , place and circumstance. And I like Sarahs ones particularly :) -although I've met a few girls who consider that sort of courtesy to be a mood wrecker , but then when the sex is over they want you to become the perfect gentleman again , which is totally fine and is actually a really cool and far out twist , as in a moment you go from one diametrically opposed role to another , hmmmm the modern gentleman , who'd have thought?? :) Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah that's what it's all about , making THAT connection with people , friends or lovers , there is nothing else. That love is eternal , everything else is temporary and therefore irrelevant.
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