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What the??!!
June 07 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're not missing anything. Translating, he's saying "no fatties" and trying to defuse that potential bomb by claiming most men want the same thing as him. Harsh? I say fair translation ... he's welcome to come here and offer his rebuttal 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like the majority of women on here, I prefer men who arent total twats. 😝😁😳 That statement will work well for him on here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my mind at least and one of those FWIW sort of things... hopefully ''most men'' have learned to appreciate the person well ahead of many of the other quantifications that can come in to attempting to make a selection in such a vacuous atmosphere as this site and/or the 'net in general. You've done well, LL... one less person/profile that you have to consider with ''an opinion'' that is definitely non-sequitur.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' Like the majority of women on here, I prefer men who arent total twats. ..out of my nose! Thanks, Willow... a complete idiot has more moving parts than a partial idiot and even with my ''limited experience'' can't even imagine what may constitute a total twat? Jearsus... that's worse than being a ''dickhead'', right? ... best always!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I saw something almost identical last night, and thought what the hell as well.. he shouldn't be speaking for the 'majority of men' here but hey , good luck to him.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Twats need not apply 😆😅😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't see him getting much action, at least he is doing other guys a favour by putting himself in the "do not touch basket".I've seen worse but written a whole lot better....
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Seachange73
10 years ago
this man have put his preference for 'slim and average sized woman'. I dont have an issue with that as we all have a preferences and I have personally listed mine on my profile. What I think is offensive though is his insulting a whole section of women by making them feel unwanted and scorned by the 'majority of men' phase. Dear me. The last time I checked the ABS questionaire, such question was not on the list. Lol. So maybe the chat among his mates at the local pub is what he based his 'majority' count on? Meh.!! Bullet dodged my dear and he has made it easier for us women to make a decision. Lucky for all women of all shapes and sizes. Don't sweat it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like all sizes. All sexy to me. But there are also many profiles here where the females say no over weight men - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'mangocouple' I like all sizes. All sexy to me. But there are also many profiles here where the females say no over weight men - Posted from rhpmobile As per my prev post, nothing wrong with people stating their preference. Some people prefer slim people, some prefer curvy, some people love large women, short or tall, some prefer only caucasians or Asians or Black... whatever. That is the way it is. In RHP and the real world. Again, the offensive part is to ostracize and shame a section of the community by saying something like the 'majority of men prefer slim or average women'. That was totally unnecessary and mean spirited. IMHO.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' this man have put his preference for 'slim and average sized woman'. I dont have an issue with that as we all have a preferences and I have personally listed mine on my profile. What I think is offensive though is his insulting a whole section of women by making them feel unwanted and scorned by the 'majority of men' phase. Dear me. The last time I checked the ABS questionaire, such question was not on the list. Lol. So maybe the chat among his mates at the local pub is what he based his 'majority' count on? Agreed, he's allowed a preference but the wording is offensive
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aussian43
10 years ago
I don't know about the majority of men, but I disagree with that statement. I have a similar statement on my profile expressing what I find more attractive, but I don't try and hide behind all the other men to justify it. On average I find the larger ladies to be sexier, and I acknowledge that is my personal preference. Would be a boring world if everyone was the same and wanted the same thing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Australian woman is a size 14,is that what he means by "regular" perhaps ? There are differing opinions here about size and shape..Do most men prefer,the word being prefer,slim to "regular " women,sadly I think so.Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Judge a person by their appearance It doesn't define them, it defines you
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LeMerovingien
10 years ago
I'm quite curious to know what everyone here thinks of what I have written in my profile: "Lastly we get to the "what I'm not looking for" where you dread to see one of your traits listed!While I'm not the most fit/healthy individual I prefer women who are not overweight.I enjoy my kissing and therefore don't look too favourably on heavy smokers.It almost goes without saying but good hygiene is a must have!" Would you remove it? Would you change it? If it bothers you, what about it does? Am I an asshole for writing/thinking this?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its a buyers market and hes got a god damn cheek stipulating what he prefers and dosent damit! Now on the other hand Ive seen PLENTY of female profiles that state their likes, dislikes and preferences,fair enough to but some are so outrageously specific that its a friggin wonder how they hook up with anyone at all IE:Must have a 9"+ penis, with the stamina of porn star and be over 6 foot tall with no facial hair and have a professionally manicured pubic region also be no older than 37 and a half with a tight taut tattooed torso (no tribal, yewwww) MUST have a GSOH, manners and be single.That would have to be the male equivalent of a unicorn hahah
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's not really such a big deal. Some are a lot less tactful (women included). I don't think his remarks are actually far off the mark. Much the same as much of the women here prefer ripped to average bodies. Many state fit in an attempt to circumvent the fact they don't want overweight or plus size people. It's just as transparent. Sure he could've worded it better, but he got his point across anyhow. Most of the time it's those excluded who take offence at such wording, but you gotta have a thick skin on rhp as tact is lacking in pretty much every corner in one form or another. Believe me, we've got some very blunt replies in our time here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm glad we've all had a chance to elect our spokespersons for each gender..... But curious......when did we vote again?? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
👲 Confucius says: man who hold big erection not necessarily get voted in.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Had a profile on here say 'no thanks you're too chubby' or words to that effect! Met at a party at a later date, he had a short memory, I didn't ! He thought by saying I look stunning IRL it would get him laid! I reminded him of his criteria and mine! This chubby chick doesn't do dickheads! 😊😎 Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
lol, good to have a memory 😚 Thanks Lily, you clarified point to mangocouple perfectly 😘 Stirry, you missed the vote?? I wonder what other decisions were made in your absence 😎😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do believe, sadly, you are right 😕 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I once had a fit physique man called me panda! He literally said in his reply to my message "no chance, you look like a panda!".......well, I was thankful that he kicked his own arse off my radar by insulting me like that 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Sadly, in my personal experiences, only the Caucasian Australians would agree that size 14 is the average size of women. In some (if not all) Asian cultures, women who are sized above 10 are not slim! The majority of Asian men that I know, would think of women who are sized 12 as chubby, and any sizes above 12 are fat! Ridiculous concept I know! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whats wrong with pandas, dont be so nasty :p Dey is soft, dey is furry, dey is cute, cuddly and loveable.MMMmmmmm pandas,,,,,,,,, 🌑🐼🌑🌑🌑🌑
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' . The last time I checked the ABS questionaire, such question was not on the list. Lol. So maybe the chat among his mates at the local pub is what he based his 'majority' count on? oh come on, it doesn't need to be in the ABS, it is a fairly well established fact through peer reviewed research. Are you seriously suggesting that 'most men' don't? I suspect if 'most' didn't, then mainstream swimsuit models and women featured in majority of other non-niche publications targeting males would look quite different. (And even if it was a question in the census - what people actually look at/go for is a better indicator than self-reported preference anyway)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Quoting 'lilyorchid' . The last time I checked the ABS questionaire, such question was not on the list. Lol. So maybe the chat among his mates at the local pub is what he based his 'majority' count on? oh come on, it doesn't need to be in the ABS, it is a fairly well established fact through peer reviewed research. Are you seriously suggesting that 'most men' don't? I suspect if 'most' didn't, then mainstream swimsuit models and women featured in majority of other non-niche publications targeting males would look quite different. (And even if it was a question in the census - what people actually look at/go for is a better indicator than self-reported preference anyway) Yes S and women are no different in that regard either, you never see a beer gutted slob doing a chesty bonds photo shoot and you only need to look through some of the friends in here lists hahaha More 6 packs than Dan Murphys lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I get that he has a preference for what he finds attractive as do women on here. Hell we aren't addonas or Julia Roberts. My personal preference is a woman with curves and all the marks on her body that make her who she is!! That includes natural boob's and no to bolt on's. I love woman minimum size 12!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' Sadly, in my personal experiences, only the Caucasian Australians would agree that size 14 is the average size of women. In some (if not all) Asian cultures, women who are sized above 10 are not slim! The majority of Asian men that I know, would think of women who are sized 12 as chubby, and any sizes above 12 are fat! Ridiculous concept I know! - Posted from rhpmobile sweetgem, that is so true! Back in my home country, I would be considered "obese" to "morbidly obese"! When I packed on the pounds because I had to go on medication that messed with my body, I went from "average" and attractive, to fat and viewed upon with disgust. It is worse in Asia where slim and willowy is preferred and where average is tolerated. It took me a few years after arriving in Australia to realise that hey, I am actually not considered obese to morbidly obese here! :D Initially, I disregarded my Aussie friends' comments because I felt that they were just being nice and polite. But I keep getting the same remarks by so many people that I've finally come to realise that "average" is different here and most Aussies are not so narrow-minded as to condemn you just because you aren't Ms Body Beautiful! That is such a liberating feeling! Immediately, it felt as if a weight I had been carrying for years had been lifted and I can stretch my wings and fly! :D All said, I agree with LilyOrchid - we all have preferences and those of us who are specific in declaring that are simply not wanting to waste time. We know what turns us on and what repulses us and it's not such a bad thing to be frank about that. However, like Lily stated too, to shame an entire category of people by insinuating that "the majority" felt the same way, is not tactful. I'm not sure that his motive was to make people feel bad though because he might not have put too much thought into it when he was writing it. I am all for acceptance of one's body and cultivating a healthy self-esteem but we should never "endorse" obesity for health reasons. Celebrate beautiful personalities and characters regardless of body size, but never "endorse" a high percentage of fat in the body because that is simply unhealthy. We have to adopt a factual, objective view towards this - obesity is not shameful, but we have to realise that it is not indicative of healthy lifestyles, which then has a huge impact on the state of health of the people involved and the healthcare costs of the country as a whole. I am not proud of the fact that I'm carrying extra weight and I am determined to attain a healthier and fitter body. If we eat more, make bad diet choices and lead a sedantary lifestyle, or if we take certain medications or fall ill, we might end up fatter. We shouldn't allow ourselves to wallow in the pit of shame because of that, but the better and more positive thing to do, IMO only, is to decide to do something about it so that we can become healthier and fitter. I've been average before and much fitter, and I've also been obese. I much prefer to be average, tbh, because I feel healthier and more radiant and beautiful compared to how I felt at my heaviest. I shall NEVER want to return to that state again, ever! To me, it's more about the attitude and lifestyle choices that are unattractive - if one knows that they are trapped in an unhealthy state, and instead of grabbing the bull by the balls... oops, pardon my mind being in the gutter... by the horns, I mean :P ... and doing something to remedy the situation, they instead declare that nothing's wrong and endorse the state of obesity and choose to remain unfit and unhealthy, then that's unattractive. Just to reinforce again that it's all about the attitude, I have a deeper respect for people who were once obese, but who have since lost massive amounts of weight due to sheer determination to become healthier and fitter than for those who are naturally (genetically) endowed with a high metabolism and a slimmer physique. So, for those of us who are tipping the scales, we can turn things around in our favour! I am -13kgs since last year, and I have -7kgs more to go before year's end. I did it my way, by listening to what works for my body, and what doesn't. Mainly, I decided to become healthier and fitter and became more mindful about what I put into my mouth...er... get your minds out of the gutter, I'm talking about food and drinks! LOL!!! :P Let's all encourage a healthier lifestyle and better eating choices all round! Do I find an obese man sexy? No. Do I find an obese man who has radically modified his diet and is on an exercise regimen sexy? Hell, yeah! ;) An ex bf carried a huge flap of skin on his abdomen from losing 20+kgs. He was conscious of it but to me, that is something that ought to be viewed with pride because he had achieved something that is very hard to attain.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have absolutely no problem with him stating his preferences. Im presuming you're happy to have him speak on your behave though? LeMerovinglen, if they areare your preferences thats fine 😊 Theres certainly no use not stipulating them then wasting your time and others on meets only to discover your not compatible - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are just some guys on here who are dicks!! Im sorry you encountered one of the worst xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well just like the majority of women here I prefer men who don't have to use a mirror or selfie stick to see their own dick.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'leeleigh' I have absolutely no problem with him stating his preferences. Im presuming you're happy to have him speak on your behave though? I dont really give 2 hoots one way or another what one puts on an obscure profile on a mediocre hook up site to be quite honest.If I did Id be an overly self conscious blubbering wreck constantly reaching for the valium and forever worrying about measuring up to the unrealistic expectations and demands of so many profiles found around here. As for him speaking up for others, even if it was an untruth they are just words, his words written by him, a random individual looking for sex on a sex site with slim girls, not some mystical guru with words of wisdom carved for eternity into stone in bold sanskrit that should be taken as gospel.Its all about perspective and seeing things for what they are.Like sands through the hourglass so are the days of our lives. hahahPs I always behave :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' You don't think the need for the added "like the majority of men" is rather defensive sounding? What's the need? That's like me saying you're too boyish looking for me*, and "I'm not the only one who thinks so". Why the need to point that out? *Hell no. but I was sporting 3 weeks of growth, surely it could only be described as a "luxurious exhibition of rugged manliness", no? ;) I was only addressing lilyorchid's comment suggesting that his 'majority' claim has no real basis, not whether it was defensive or somehow shaming people who don't fit that description (I'm a bit tired of everything* being a 'shaming' of some sort or another) * not literally everything, 'everything' as used in this sense was hyperbole ^^ use of 'hyperbole' not intended to shame or exclude those unfamiliar with the word or usage ## this should not be construed as a supporting statement that those unfamiliar with the aforementioned term should feel shamed for unfamiliarity with said term :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a recipient of the totally unfounded comment that I was "shaming" someone, I totally agree that it's used far too much for far too little.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Please....cant cuddle stick figures...give me a BBW over skinny any day! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
3 weeks of bum fluff does not maketh the man. 😝
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes we all have certain tastes and bodies we are attracted to. No one is saying you shouldnt want to attract what appeals to you on here or in RL. But its the way the dude made it sound like half the population wont want, or be bothered with, a certain type of person. Just rude.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So what your saying is because its only a comment on an obscure, some would say, redundant little site we should just laugh and move on? In saying that, Im wondering why you have replied so vehemently to my comment?? Could it be because thats what the forums are all about?? Voicing ideas and opinions? My other point is, if we all just let these "comments " slide they become the norm and not the exception. I think those that feel the need to justify such a comment probably come under the umbrella of "most men.." I personally dont give a rats arse whether I fit some narcissists opinion of what is the norm but lots of people do 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I also dont agree with people using comments such as stick figures. I know theres women out there who also struggle with being smaller. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
So what your saying is because its only a comment on an obscure, some would say, redundant little site we should just laugh and move on? Basically, yes, why sweat the small stuff?Is this a one off or do you encounter these types of profiles regularly? In saying that, Im wondering why you have replied so vehemently to my comment??Sorry that you see it that way but I fail to see any hostility in my post, just my opinion. Could you highlight the vehement bits please? :) Could it be because thats what the forums are all about?? Voicing ideas and opinions? Yes correct, I voiced mine, just as you are free to voice yours :) My other point is, if we all just let these "comments " slide they become the norm and not the exception. So what do you suggest is the best course of action to eradicate this type of behaviour before it gets way out of hand and becomes "normal" :S ? Laugh and move on? I think those that feel the need to justify such a comment probably come under the umbrella of "most men.." Hmmm now look whos throwing stones. Please define "most men" and as I didnt read all of the replies I didnt see any posts that I read justifying his comment, did "most men.." who responded justify it? Im confused here? I personally dont give a rats arse whether I fit some narcissists opinion of what is the norm but lots of people do 😊 I wouldnt class him as a woman hater just because of what he had in his profile lol
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Robo355
10 years ago
It is kind of shallow to exclude anyone not within a certain BMI range. Personality is what I look for, I'd rather be with someone with a sexy smile and a laugh and a glint in their eye and a wicked sense of humour than someone with a perfect body and no personality.
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Service_man
10 years ago
Quoting '0z_boy' Its a buyers market and hes got a god damn cheek stipulating what he prefers and dosent damit! Now on the other hand Ive seen PLENTY of female profiles that state their likes, dislikes and preferences,fair enough to but some are so outrageously specific that its a friggin wonder how they hook up with anyone at all IE:Must have a 9"+ penis, with the stamina of porn star and be over 6 foot tall with no facial hair and have a professionally manicured pubic region also be no older than 37 and a half with a tight taut tattooed torso (no tribal, yewwww) MUST have a GSOH, manners and be single.That would have to be the male equivalent of a unicorn hahah or a Dodo =Does not exist. LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
I couldnt agree more but do they state that those preferences are also wanted by the majority? 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' 3 weeks of bum fluff does not maketh the man. 😝 oi, it certainly has no fluff thankyouverymuchyounglady! :pQuoting 'CandyDelicious' As a recipient of the totally unfounded comment that I was "shaming" someone, I totally agree that it's used far too much for far too little. no doubt someone who uses it frequently is now feeling shamed by that ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
lets vote! Ps Im holding a big election :D
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RHP User
10 years ago
All the able points aside....... If someone who didn't fit his preferences contacted him.... he can always say no thank you. So his comments.... are straight out of the Douche Files.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And again I say..... he is free to come in here and defend himself anytime he wants.
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RHP User
10 years ago
1. Obviously you miss the point. If you find his comment acceptable you're quite welcome to move on. I dont therefore Ive commented on it. Simple really.... 2. By opening your reply with the sarcastic heading (yes, i did read your sarcasm in it) the sky is falling...shows quite a fervent response I would've thought? 3. I dont think my replies to anyone are quite as acidic as yours...is it necessary to be a smartarse to get your point across? 4. Ovbiiusly I dont think its worth laughing and moving on - hence my post!! 5.I didn't say most men who replied justified it. Perhaps read all the posts before your ill informed throw away comments 6. As you don't know who the person is Im refering to, you wouldn't know whats in his profile, would you?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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