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What to expect from guys when playing?
January 08 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Try to discuss what turns you on and ask them the same thing. I wont go down on a man unless he goes down on me first. If they dont give oral sex then I dont feel obliged to reciprocate not all men like it, the same as not all women do either, although Ive yet to meet one. Most men I have met are more than happy to pleasure the lady first. I hope that helps.
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Paradisepair
14 years ago
I can't talk from RHP experience, but out in the real world of sexual expectations it's my belief that favors should be returned. If you feel funny about asking in person at the time maybe you should lay it out in a message beforehand.
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RHP User
14 years ago
With both of the ladies above! There is no way in hell that I will suck on a guy's cock unless he gives me GREAT oral first! No use doing the 69er either (which I love)...as the guys always stop licking you and just concentrate on what I am doing! Unfortunately I think that the internet has killed good sex for women...too much porn and the guys can't tell the difference between a girl that gets paid to "oohh and ahhh" as she sucks his cock for half an hour to the guy just giving her 2 licks! . State clearly to them what you do want before agreeing to meet up with them, but watch the ones that will say anything just to get in your pants! Not ALL the men on here are like that...but there are a few! And if they do nothing for you...just get up and leave....it is really hard to do at first...but...you do get used to it! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is a sad fact that most men will only give the woman a perfunctory few licks....just enough to say he did it. Now all the guys will rush in here and tell you they go down on you for hours and love it. I have not been on RHP for long but have been on other istes for a while now and notice quite a few similar faces and profiles. I think I am fairly safe in assuming that the men on RHP are no different from any others...hell they are they same men. lol. Just different sites. I understand though, these men are not going to form a lasting relationship with you...you are married. They may or may not want to play with you again. Looking at it from thier point of view...why should they go to all that bother for someone who is basically a random fuck? They only want to get thier rocks off after all. From a womans point of veiw it can be extremely frustrating and can ruin a good time. I am with the others. Just dont go to all the trouble of giving him a great BJ unless he has given you satisfactory oral first.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Coming from the male here..... I am more than happy to spend time down on a lady without expectation of a return. For me it is an emense pleasure to both hear and feel a woman in heaven while my head is between her legs...it is such a turn on. Sorry but there is nothing better than the taste of pussy and quite happy to be down there as long as it takes, and if there is some reciprication then OMG that is.....pleasure
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RHP User
14 years ago
what to 'expect'?? what to 'demand' you mean! do it right and take charge, its you, as a female, who should always drive this....only accept what you want, nothing less. set the rules, the mood and the tempo, because, as a female, you'll certainly be able to pick and choose, and should only ever pick or choose what it is that suits and satisfies you. second best should never be good enough.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well im really sorry to hear that ladies,,,, you have been with the wrong guys then. For me it's a race to get my head between a ladies thighs, and then she has to beg and plead for me to STOP.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i absolutley love going down on girls, you'll never have to ask me to return the favour to you!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry to hear you ahven't had the best experience with guys giving you oral, that's a tragedy. I would only offer you the same advice a few of the others have. Discuss it all first and don't accept anything less than what you want. There may be quite a few guys in the two lick camp on this site, but there would have to be a few more like me who genuinely love it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Demand? I dont think anyone should be demanding anything (unless it is a bdsm situation and that is a whole different ball game) Surely when two people come together for a mutually satisfying time that is how it should be? MUTUAL! Certainly not demanding but equal...discusion please....there is another topic going, I believe about manners. Just because there are more women here than men it does not mean that the women need to get an overinflated idea of themselves.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ohhh Yeahhh... Love the access no pantie's under a loose skirt brings. Great play area for wandering hands , and much easier to find the right position for a bit of oral pleasure.. mmmmm
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RHP User
14 years ago
no tell them as yous are all there for fun
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RHP User
14 years ago
yes i so agree us ladies need to be please as well so dont let them get away with you sucking their cock unless they return the favor
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RHP User
14 years ago
no.......women have every right to demand what they wish from men, in regards to sex........... men make demands on women from the time they are old enough to understand what their cock is all about..but women dont do the same at all. .. seems to me that we all pussy foot around this shit, and try to be so bloody politically correct..........sex is a power play... men believe that they hold all the cards.... but its women who always hold the joker.............but few play it.... all i mean is that here...on sites like this, women should never settle for 'second bes't...or 'good enough'...........you have what we want, so make us work for it......dont give it away, dont compromise...demand the best deal you can and demand the best attention you can.......and dont ever ever sell yourselves short....not for any man. Mike..... if you make it easy... a man will walk away from an encounter, and barely, if at all, remember your name the next day.....if you make him work for it, and expend a bit of energy and effort...he will remember everything....... dont be forgettable... be memorable.......demand 100% every time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I will never set myself up as to be such a high maintenance princess that I "demand" satisfaction. We meet as equals or not at all. I have known since I was in my teens that it is always a woman who holds the balance of power in any sexual encounter. I manage to get exactly what I want without any demands...... and I am never ever forgotten.
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RHP User
14 years ago
All i can say to you sweetie is check them out VERY thoroughly before you agree to meet. Listen to their language, the words they use. You can tell if they are reliable, what kind of lover they are, how bright they are, wether they are needy or manipulative,wether they are prone to telling fibs or not, their character and moral code. Be fussy...the problem only comes when you haven't been fussy enough and then you have a story of regret to tell. Everyone is entitled (men and women) to be fussy, become a card carrying member of The Fussy Hussies Club Once you find a lovely play friend who is what you want and need, a good guy, who's sweet, naughty, witty, clever and a fabulous shag..........or whatever else floats your boat..........Bon Appétit
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RHP User
14 years ago
Do men really believe that they hold all the cards? That is quite interesting actually... what exactly do you mean Mike? xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Guys want you to tell them what to do in the sack. Especially on a first meet where they have no opportunity nor experience with you to know what gets you off. I have to completely disagree with handmaiden on this one.Tell 'em. "Now put your mouth on my cunt. Run your tongue over my clit, yes, just like that, keep doing that, put a finger inside me... No, don't stop with the tongue... more the the left... put another finger in... push up towards the ceiling with your fingers... harder with the tongue... yes yes yes!"Tell 'em. They're not mind readers. I think really, due to some weird arse freak out about their bits a lot of women don't actually like having someone go down on them. Probably some misguided belief about it being dirty or taboo and this means a lot of men won't take that initiative without actually being asked.Now, taboo is saying, in the above scenario "now shove your tongue on my arsehole".
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RHP User
14 years ago
seems to me that us men kinda sorta have what the ladies want too....at least in my experience. Give and take, ya know?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Studly_McStud'seems to me that us men kinda sorta have what the ladies want too....at least in my experience. Give and take, ya know? With a name like that you MUST have all the goods. ALLLLLLL STUD!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's fine to have an "expectation" .. the reality might be a different story,unless you prepare, communicate and work out if the person you chose to be "intimate" with, will in fact deliver on his -or her- promise of - in this case - enjoyment of oral pleasure..this is the great aspect about sites like this one.. you establish on your profile what it is you are into, that in itself "technically" will narrow the potential candidates.. next the contacts flood in, here's where you can once again "screen" the candidates, be honest, if oral is what you want there is nothing wrong in being open about it: I love oral, I want a man who loves it and will deliver.. its no longer about an "expectation", by that stage is potentially a characteristic of the candidate.. organize a meeting, discuss it, hear it in his or her voice " I love eating pussy" if you see it in their eyes then you may have found the one...its not easy, but beats picking up someone in a club just to find out there is no way in the world they would "go down there" lolgood luck with your search, make it fun, enjoy the process, the rewards are worth the effort for sure*wink*
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RHP User
14 years ago
I can honestly say I LOVE giving oral to ladies. I love it when you can start to feel a lady tense up as she is about to cum, I love then to tease her so that she cums again. I am happy if the lady doesn't suck me off. Oral is the best form of sex (in my opinion)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well firstly I think you are missing out big time. I can honestly say ILOVE giving ladies oral, the feeling of when a lady is about to cum is fantastic. I oove then being able to tease until you come again. As for lady giving me oral, I don't really mind if she does or doesnt.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think it all depends on the type of encounter you are going to have. If its a 1 off then the guy is going to get his rocks off and usually doesn't care about satisfying the girl. If its expected to be a regular thing then they will. In my case I have always had to ask if the women minded me going down, and always had to ask them for a BJ, so communication goes a long way. If you aren't getting what you want you should ask for it, otherwise the guy may incorrectly assume he has satisfied you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
One of my big erogenous zones is my sense of smell. I get turned on by whiffing sex. I love love love the natural smell of a muscular man's armpits for instance... as well as ballsack sweat and the smell of jizz.... it goes without saying that Im turned on by the smell of a delicate snapper, and the smell of a ravaged sloppy horse collar, dripping cream pie. All these things really turn me on. I just wanna immerse myself in them....eyes shut, face first, into delirious euphoric oblivion. I think some people just don't get it. It doesn't do anything for them.... or they're too self conscious to let go and just do. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would agree with that last comment Stalky. I think some people just don't get it. xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
men behave like we know all there is to know about sex, life, love and relationships............ but we dont.....its all bluff..... we play it like some game.... and get through on bravado and bluster.... and women fall for it... and thats a real shame.......women should call these bluffs, but they dont........... make some demands.... be up front and set some guidelines and explain what you'd like to have happen and what you'd like to experience..... dont settle for 'ok'... aim for 'excellent' if you're in a relationship and playing.... why would you be ok with more of the same, or less than what you already have at home? i think that being here you have the right to demand the absolute best of the people you encounter.....we are all opening ourselves up for critical inspection and dissection, like no other place in our lives. we share photos, involve ourselves in discussions and explore ideas that we dont have the opportunity to explore, with any other group of individuals anywhere.... its dangerous, its exciting, its liberating and its arousing...........and its potentially destructive.....so the rewards really should reflect the risks you expose yourself to...shouldnt they?? we dont settle for second best...and we dont see how anyone else could be expected to........
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RHP User
14 years ago
That's it! use some initiative
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kissychen
14 years ago
thanks for all the comments...i feel much more confident now...
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RHP User
14 years ago
in fact, believe it or not, there are some out there that only want to lick because we get great pleasure from bringing a woman to orgasm this way
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'what to 'expect'?? what to 'demand' you mean! do it right and take charge, its you, as a female, who should always drive this....only accept what you want, nothing less. set the rules, the mood and the tempo, because, as a female, you'll certainly be able to pick and choose, and should only ever pick or choose what it is that suits and satisfies you. second best should never be good enough.
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RHP User
14 years ago
shocked? why? the girl is married.......she has a partner....so is obviously not looking for a replacement.....she's seeking a playmate or playdate.... she says she is shy....we are telling her not to be...and to take charge. where is the problem? should she settle more of what she probably has at home? or should she demand something extra? something special?........... we think so...... we should all demand a 100% commitment to pleasure from our playmates.....especially when we've procured them from what purports to be an 'adult site' aimed at connecting people for 'adult diversions'..............anything less, just isnt good enough in our books...........
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RHP User
14 years ago
Shel, Unfortunately my comments werent posted! I went on to say that your advice was worthy of an award.....an unflattering award. As a guy I object to the Queen bee syndrome where women 'demand' because on a site like this a woman can get what she wants. It's a highly emotive thing to say. I'm 100% for ladies satisfying their desires and expoloring all of their interests to their complete satisfaction. Play nice people, be respectful, explore your wild desires.... Don't take the guys you meet here for granted .... just because your sitting on a gold mine it doesnt mean you'll strike gold every time. r, Digital_sf x
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RHP User
14 years ago
And if she can tell me straight out to lick her sexy pussy wherever whenever !, im shocked but excited !!, grab my hair tell me you want to come on my tounge and bang il have you up on th sink and il be licking you like a kitten in a bowl of milk !!, get you all sloppy and wet dying for me to fin you off lol ..... Mmmmmm yummy
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RHP User
14 years ago
so you know........Shels a self proclaimed computer illiterate....she doesnt read the forums, unless i show her something...its me, Mike, who does the posting........... sorry mate, but theres no Queen Bee in this household... we do believe that the female half of a couple, whether she plays solo or as a couple, can absolutely demand that any or all encounters be of the highest standard...and memorable for every reason.... rather than an abject failure, and completely forgettable.... why should she be expected by men (others) to accept less than what she already has at home...... we DONT get what we want...we have offered to us, men who neither of us would give a second glance to... but since we began to make DEMANDS and be very very selective.... every single one of our playdates has ended up as a 100% success, and we've enjoyed some wonderfully entertaining evenings of pleasure....this woman deserves the same.... shes young... shes married...and shes playing.... why would she accept anything thats less than excellent? we just dont see the point of being here if play is disappointing and second grade...............theres no Queen Bee behaviour in this..... just a little empowerment and advice to be completely involved in the selection process, and to not accept second best...to DEMAND what she feels she needs for her satisfaction and her enjoyment............ we play according to Shels criteria...on her terms, and only if and when her demands have been met....it works famously..........theres no 'gold mine' here buddy...just a couple of people who enjoy pleasure....but we figured out some time back, that sex for sex's sake wasnt fulfilling at all...and sex with people you are less than 100% attracted to is, well, pretty pointless as well...we didnt settle for 2nd best in our relationship, so how in the world could we be expected to settle for second best in the bedroom? by making demands and seeing them fulfilled, we go very close to ensuring we are completely happy with our choices, pretty much 100% of the time........... Mike..... the male half of the team........... ( as much as you feel empowered to ensure your experience here is a rewarding one, we feel the same, and we set standards and make demands to ensure we see this completed to our satisfaction.....how can this be a bad or unreasonable thing?? )
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RHP User
14 years ago
My bullshit detector must be broken.... so mike is that you that is contstantly viewing my profile?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think if go down then yes he got to go down and i will ask of it but i do so love it when a guy head st8 down licks til you have to ask him to stop
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think if go down then yes he got to go down and i will ask of it but i do so love it when a guy head st8 down licks til you have to ask him to stop
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RHP User
14 years ago
it seems to me that a few of you girls either have really bad partners who need a good kick up the arse or you have some really bad luck .. why guy would not want to spend a good hour livign you the between the legs happiness you deserve is quite simply beyond me .. i quite simply do not understand why anyone would not want to spend the time licking out your sweet little clit volcano, it is awesome and the rewards are just as good!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Grrr'Guys want you to tell them what to do in the sack. Especially on a first meet where they have no opportunity nor experience with you to know what gets you off. I have to completely disagree with handmaiden on this one.Tell 'em. "Now put your mouth on my cunt. Run your tongue over my clit, yes, just like that, keep doing that, put a finger inside me... No, don't stop with the tongue... more the the left... put another finger in... push up towards the ceiling with your fingers... harder with the tongue... yes yes yes!"Tell 'em. They're not mind readers. I think really, due to some weird arse freak out about their bits a lot of women don't actually like having someone go down on them. Probably some misguided belief about it being dirty or taboo and this means a lot of men won't take that initiative without actually being asked.Now, taboo is saying, in the above scenario "now shove your tongue on my arsehole". I think it's ok to say it, it's not ok to just take the initiative, grab someones ears and wriggle your arsehole onto their tongue... then again - if that's what it takes . Oh and to answer the original question - I don't think two licks is even a token effort...
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RHP User
14 years ago
for me i love to give till you cum ill lick suck & swollow all your juices cant think why a guy wouldnt love to go down on a girl for me i love it yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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RHP User
14 years ago
yum just love it when a lady explodes & you feel her thighs clamp on my ears as she cums while im still sucking on her pussy mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Goodvintage
14 years ago
If you click mentally and physically and respect each others boundaries, I believe that everything falls into place...My excitement has always stemmed from the unknown..if I feel comfortable I embrace the moment and enjoy the anticipation of venturing into unknown fields of pleasure...Experience and openness is important but having the confidence to relax and venture into new territories is priceless....lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
i love giving oral, i love making a girl cum with my tounge first, dont be shy just direct them there :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
it could be either or both of us...and as we are a couple...would it matter?.............if its disturbing just block us.... cheers hey?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Most girlz have to slow me down from going down on them cause its the 1st thing i do in bed. I love it more then anything else and im pretty good at it too! Hehe.. im just a little to quick to go there
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thats life , you get people who only think the world revolves around them and you need to have empathy for them , poor things.lol! Then you get people who love to share with their playmate. Thank god most of us like to give and be rewarded by the seeing the woman in throws of pleasure with her body thrusting and arching as she responds to my tongue. For her to then go down on me is a bonus i love to receive , but if not, i love just the touch of a soft hand while we extend the foreplay until we can't hold the urge off any longer to push and thrust to gether.I always take care in grooming my self and being clean before going out on a play date and that is the only thing i expect from my playmate too. Ive been with one playmate 3 times and have given her 3 good lickings to trhe 1 i've recieved. Time will balance it out and if not you either move on or decide to stay.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i love to give oral and like jacknjill i love to hear the ohhs a arrs of pleasure P.S porn dosnt do much for me unless im with a lady that is otherwise i might as well be reading a mills and boon book
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe there was something wrong either the sight or smell that turned the guy off from giving oral and all the poor guy could muster was two licks. It's really egotistical to just jump to the conclusion there is something wrong with the guy because it is unusual for a guy not to want to go down on a woman. Only logical explanation I can think of.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am happy to keep going as long as the lady likes - one lady friend of mine cums and then that's it for her, as she is on painkillers for whiplash injuries - rarely she might cum again an hour or so later. She still likes me to keep genltly stimulting her labia and g-spot once the o-sensitivity is gone, says it feels intimate and great. Other wimmen have been surprised to find they're multi-orgasmic with me - sure that once-and-over is it for them. More than once I've been told no man has done that for them before. What can I say - they just don't know better. My experience is, the better my partner feels, the better it is for me, as sort of mutual benefit. So I try to be as attentive and responsive to them as I can. It's not 100% by any means - you still need to find some connection but mostly I find it isn't hard (well, it is, really!). If a lady is not turned on, she's not turned on - the brain is still the main sexual organ. M
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RHP User
14 years ago
LOL @ The Fussy Hussies Club ... I'm in
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'justjuice' Ohhh Yeahhh... Love the access no pantie's under a loose skirt brings. Great play area for wandering hands , and much easier to find the right position for a bit of oral pleasure.. mmmmm Hell Yeh! Big turn on being in the comfort of my own home doing the usual duties, wearing no panties under my mini...being randomly bent over the basin in the bathroom as I'm cleaning it or...Lifted onto the Washing Machine(whilst on spin) with his/her head between my knees as I gently pull his/her head in deeper between my thighs thrusting to the motion of the tongue.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with PolarBearGrr, men love women that take control, put him where u want him, guide his hand to the spots that make you hot and wet, moan when he hits the spot,wrap your legs around his head and guide his sweet tongue to his dessert.I believe KissySuzuki...if you are shy...imagine yourself as a teacher who is educating a student in a seductive but firm way. He needs your guidance as to where and how u want it...Don't be shy! Make him work for his A+ and when you're satisfied, just a lil bit... Reward him with your wise lips and quick tongue so that he feels like his work was appreciated but not too much that he forgets to finish what he started. If he is someone that Licks Licks Stops! Maybe help him by getting into the 69 position so both of you can finish each other off.You are not asking too much but asking what he would like in return...to be pleasured!Shadi xxo
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RHP User
14 years ago
As a man the greatest pleasure for me personally is for my lady to blow my face while my tongue is buried deep inside her big wet yummy puss. I would not imagine sex without my partners satisfaction first and foremost as that alone is what drives me. notoverthehill.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i love to give oral and will go untill they cum
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