What's normal??

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  “Ive had several guys ask me "how much?" Which I find rude and insulting. And I wonder if all girls are getting this, or if it's something in the way I'm behaving.” It has nothing to do with you or your behavior, “sugar dating” is a trend now and beyond that, some people actually get off on it. It’s considered a kink. Though people should not ask this to those who did not clearly state in their profiles. “Do many girls use this site like this? Message, Tnen Kik or call, hook up and hopefully everyone is happy a few hours later and we all go to our own respective beds?” No, we don’t do hookups. Though there has been exceptions, we have to meet and chat first. Lot of people use this differently.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I’m fairly new here too. But signed up bcoz I was feeling stupid one night. At first it was just hook up and no string attached. But then....there are wonderful men here. Ones you can just have coffee with and chat about sex but not leading to sex!! That’s the best part!! So I stuck here 🤷🏻‍♀️ and I’m not sure but the sea of messages only happen at the start.....like thousands a day. Now it’s down to like 10 a day but I don’t look or read the ‘flirts’. you won’t have time for that. Rude guys are everywhere. Dumb ones as well. Some people msg me saying “I read your profile this and that and love it and blah blah” But couldn’t even follow my rules. If you just want to hookup and forget about it, I think there are plenty here....like I met from the start. Have fun!

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  yep_its_me

  6 years ago

  Acucullophiliac Welcome to RHP. Yes i can read and know you addressed your question to the ladies on here. I thought I would give you an insight into what I've found. Some may agree, some may not. I have been lucky enough to find not only my partner, but a few women who enjoy my company when time permits. Why they pick here, I think it's the ability to screen who they meet. While some meet with no expectations, others expectations are high...... So use it as a platform for potential playmates, favour the ones who you feel match what you are looking for and save $500 an hour. I'm sure there is enough variety in the candy store for all tastes.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  @Acucullophiliac Read you profile I have all you asking for... I won’t be asking those silly questions..... Let’s talk..

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  EarthQueen

  6 years ago

  Hi OP, its very easy to have hookups on here if that's what you want. Just screen well and get a good feel for the guy before you jump into the more full on sexual banter/interaction so you stay safe. Both physically and emotionally. I have used the site like you have described. This has sometimes been great but other times left me feeling shit because when I was less experienced and made poor judgement calls I have been left feeling like an unpaid sex worker. So now I like a decent amount of connection beforehand and some considerate aftercare. This doesn't mean sleepovers, dinner etc just him being emotionally intelligent, touching base with me after the fact, and checking in, saying thank you etc. I don't have any expectations for anything further other than treating each other well. I like Dan Savages campfire analogy which goes like this "If you’re in a sexual relationship with somebody the rule that applies at campsites shall be applicable to you: you must leave them in at least as good a state (physically and emotionally) as you found them in." I try to apply this to all of my sexual interactions and hope (and try to ensure) that I get it back. I don't put anything too overtly sexual in my profile either. This is a sex site so it's obvious what people are here for. That can be revealed if I actually like the person I'm chatting with. It can help weed out potential creeps.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  NORMAL is a setting on a washing machine 😋

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thats why I joined and Ive met some lovely men. I like the drinks, chat, connection, before anything else happens. I have had so many rude, disrespectful first messages that I wont see anyone unless its meet first, play later. I had a "message" this week that consisted of the aubergine emoji. Nothing else. These guys give me the shivers, just looking to dip their wick. But I know many people like yourself who have busy lives and prefer the quick one off hook ups. Its each to their own here. Whatever suits you and makes you feel happy is "normal."

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Acuccullophilliac, you use this site how you please, you’ve paid your membership so have at it. Funny though, as the “free escort service” comment coming from a male would have generated howls of protest and derision.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Well done on being so honest and forthcoming with what you do and seeking advice. I love that there are women like you here and that women use escorts! Bravo for honesty

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