When we have the power

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I think anytime we feel desired and chased is a powerful feeling. For me being able to mutually arrange a meeting is what I seek - not to be arranged but to be a cog in the wheel that makes it turn and work.... being included and valued is a very powerful feeling as is feeling like we have a say in what is about to happen ie the where when etc...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Welcome here. Agree with you on the sentiment. I don’t see it as power, but a mutually agreed meeting. A lot of guys don’t know how to pace, ask for details too soon, ask for more pics, trying to “close” the deal, without calibration of what the other person wants. In that case you could call it power, pushy, low EQ. Like you a man has much more chance to get into my pants by being respectful and patient. It’s a reverse paradox, getting faster (naked) by slowing down. lol.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  But the majority (big majority) just don’t get it do they? Maybe they will read this thread .......

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  I like to think only I have control of myself, behaviour, feelings, thoughts and feelings. I like to be given choices. Take my choices away and I am not happy. If I am happy, I feel empowered and therefore rubs onto other people. I also believe it's having self-confidence. As a woman, any man who supports me in my choices and gives me choices wins me over every time. Goes vice verse. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Welcome, may I say I haven't been here long either. I wrote a profile that was very conservative and in my original profile hinted that if somebody liked what they saw to contact me. I would organise a meeting at a place of their choosing........I believe in a one on one meeting, for a number of reasons. First there is no hiding behind False photo's and Masks, and also it is safer to have a meeting in a public place so that people can also feel safe. I am looking for a relationship of equality and I really don't want to dominate or rule my partner. I just want to enjoy life with another, who has similar interests. I just don't know what happened to the world with the advent of the internet and technology. Did people forget about their fellow human, and the care of wanting to follow through with mystery, intrigue, and finding out what a person's dislikes or like are. When did it get to men contacting a woman and all but demanding sex ( a F@#K). Respect and how an individual carries themself in discussion or meeting face to face speaks so much of how they are as a person, if they have respect for themself they also have respect for another(vice versa can be considered too). I don't want to contact a lady just so that she can get her kit off, camming or even to use the contact in the context of a disrespecting slur. If she has a liking for that I think that most would discuss it with you, unless of course it done for shack value9 but I would gather an after discussion would occur) I believe that if you have a standard and you demand that, eventually those who matter to you, will conform to that standard. The most important thing in any relationships is COMMUNICATION. So in throes of passion are you going to ask for a "pass out" so that you can go and measure your genital to see whether it meets expectation. What about finding out if the person opposite you is enjoying your touches and intimacy, instead of the impatient climax? NO, I don't think that it is "power" per se, rather it is respect for self, defending and speaking your mind. This should be encouraged by more individuals. People who are intelligent can and should be able to voice an adult opinion in a manner that is kind and respectful. Not everyone will agree with what you want, but it becomes an illusion that I think society has become, instead of hurting anothers feeling, just blurt out stuff with disrespect - "they'll get bluffed and I can manipulate them in any way I want". It also can be said that it is a very awkward medium to communicate through, because a opinion can sometime misunderstood. I hope this makes sense. Just "my humble opinion".

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks for the responses so far. Yes it is a thing of empowerment, and yes some do get perhaps a little too excited. I know both men and women sometimes just want a fuck because they are horny. Perhaps they need to be able to guage where the other person is at a little better, or they just aren't quite able to with a lust addled brain 😅 I know it takes all kinds, and appreciate those here staying that it makes sense for them too.

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