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Where have all the..........
August 28 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
We are just too scary for the fluffy wooses.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Surely a few strong willed women aren't enough to e-mansy-pate them that much MT? Unless there has been a death in the family, a broken heart, clinical depression or a whack in the nuts, I don't want to see a man tearing up Where are the strong chest beating menly men? they don't have to be knuckle draggers but sheesh, this is getting beyond a joke . It's great that you have feelings boys, and a beating heart, but it's probably more sexually productive to chat to a mate about some things than the place where you're trying to score a shag
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RHP User
14 years ago
Are you really expecting an answer to this DGT? xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
...it does seem like some men have recently had a ball-ectomy or they have had some evil creature shove them up their own butt with a sky hook have already posted on this thread. Fuckin' whimps...no wonder you women prefer a Lelo to most men...they get you excited, keep you there then send the bullet home. Bonus, you don't even have to listen to them whine. Makes it harder than hell for the rest of us...goddam it's hard enough already. | PS guys the OP is a totally outrageous cougar...so if you are over 21 and under 30 completely disregard that shit in her profile and blitz her in-box. Be sure your profile is loaded with cock pics and just type in some silly shit like "ya know ya wanna" and you might just get a reply. | Come on, be men...stand up and be counted.
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RHP User
14 years ago
at all Meeks, it's an honest question and of course I expect an answer. Perhaps rhp has noticed this trend too and would like to hear some responses from the boys, as it was approved? . CM you rogue, but it is true. Whine isn't a sexy colour on men, but so many have been wearing it lately.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've felt kinda sorry for guys on this very issue for about 20 years now... around the time first-wave SNAG hit, that said, historically the behaviour of men has been quite pitiful, so...But to present day Twenty-Eleven... They're confused. They were encouraged to open up and share and get in touch with their feelings, which in and of itself was not necessarily a bad thing; domestic violence is nowhere near as prevalent as it was; men are feeling more comfortable 'sharing' between themselves (the whole 'Bromance' thing, rather than traditional 'mateship'...) I for one would rather my man come home from work and bitch about a particularly shitty day, rather than the good ole days when it was more likely he'd grab a tinnie and give me a punch in the mouth.I get that they can sound like a bunch of whiney bitches and it's rarely all that hot, but men do this really cool thing that whiney bitches avec vagina are not so good at: When you say 'just shut the fuck up and fuck me', they do... Despite all their apparent 'girliness', they have Penis. Can you imagine how most women would react to sooking at their partner and having a (metaphorical or literal) cock shoved in their mouth...? (yeah, ok...maybe yum. I said 'MOST' women...)Keep in mind, men have never had the 'sexual revolution' women had, and granted that's because they were the dominant gender; they never had anything to 'revolt' against... (and I could equally argue that this female sexual emancipation has worked to serve the patriarchy... blah blah blah) But that sexual emancipation changed the rules forever. There was a massive shift in the established status quo. Women were suddenly perceived to have more 'power'. That balance is still correcting itself is all. We thought we wanted more feminine, touchy, feely 'love-making' in our lives (and coming from a culture marked by 'Shed Dad's', and disconnection, fairy nuff)... we put it out there; we got what we wanted; we decided maybe a good, hard fuck while getting called a dirty whore was kinda nice too... And that's ok... but guys are still trying to get it...So do we tie them to beds til they suck a cock and embrace some kind of sexual revolution...? Break some rules...?Or do we chuck them a big Pity Party...? Pat the heads on their head, make them a roast and make a date with our Lelo's...? (which are worth the cash...)Or, do we just take a nice hard dick when it presents itself and lead by example, refusing to sound like whingers ourselves...?Wish I knew. People are funny.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just a little example Have a look at the front page when you click on adult forums, it really speaks for itself .... . GIRLS ASK Where have all the ...... Men like big butts So GUYS...blow-jobs . GUYS ASK Advice needed What's wrong with being a gentleman your hot then your cold ....(yes that's how it was written) .
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RHP User
14 years ago
goes out to Snowy, thankyou for showing me your balls today, I enjoyed it immensely
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RHP User
14 years ago
There's still a few of us big boys around DGT ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
...and would assume you know that, as a look in with a bit of a satirical eye often helps get these types of threads start but who knows what others may view as motivational in engagement. | I agree with you...recently the topics initiated by the men here have been a poor excuse let alone a reasonable topic for discussion and really, not at all attractive. Perhaps more detrimental to their own cause was the obviated limited capacity to engage in the lighter and more humorous side of our interactions as men and women. | A more clinical approach would suggest either female intimidation or a male narcissistic attempt to draw attention could be the source...and all characteristic of our very human socio-psychological constitutions. How we display these is entirely discretionary...or at least one would hope that were the case. Free form interaction should not be overly moderated, at least in my very humble opinion...but then again that may not be the case. | It will be entertaining to see how this this thread progresses...hopefully it will be driven by the women as the opportunity for entertainment does appear to be within that arena. For now I'll just watch, hopefully maintaining a modicum of decorum and at the very least.... | ...I will stay on topic. | | PS...I meant "voracious cougar". You can whack me in the nuts later...I have a spoon.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks for the great post, my question exactly, and that's why I wanted to hear the male side of it too, is this how they are feeling, too many must do's from us girls? You put it wonderfully . Oh and damn straight Lelo's are worth the money . Horsey that's right and the one's who aren't afraid to jump into a thread where they are being called snags, shows there are a few more balls still out there apart from CM's
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RHP User
14 years ago
... but you know it's really not a very good one. After I've man-scaped, exfoiliated, moisturised and applied my apricote face scrub, that's the perfect time to check my RHP account. And if I have any flirts or emails I usually run a poll on my social media network of choice and ask my friends to tell me how I should respond. Life really is so much easier when you let some else tell you who to be and how to behave... or is that just call a submissive looking for a Dom? Sorry, 51% of my friends vaoted not to write that remark... oh what the hell! You only life once right? oh, except for buddhists I guess...
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RHP User
14 years ago
You know what I think that guys are de-evolving. The social networking, texting, sites like this...You need communication skills to get a"head" so to speak. . There seems to be a tend to be socially inept because you no longer have conversations. The other thing is that naturally some guys think the woosie posts will attract attention to their profiles. . Lets get real though no imagination in profiles, messages, posts...texts...You have to assume that it is equal in person don't you. . . I really do feel we are breeding a socially inept goup, could be wrong but I have my doubts...Come on guys go out and talk to some women... . LC
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RHP User
14 years ago
Bob I think you've just nailed it !!!! All this manscaping has Samsonised you poor creatures Remove your hair and we remove your strength!!!! . Just remember to exfoilate well though, ingrown hairs are a real bitch
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'd have to agree there, seems to be an increasing amount of especially young males sitting at home behind a keyboard when they should be out with their mates experiencing the things that we all did at that age. Geez I know that sounds very 'old' of me, but it's true. Out clubbing or pubbing, meeting eyes with someone I thought was cute, that little rush of excitement. That IS only something you can experience when face to face or in the same room isn't it?
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RHP User
14 years ago
You know I am lucky I am confident with out being arrogent. I have no trouble talking to people either individually or in groups. More than any thing I know who I am and what I want...I don't try to be something else because in the long run you will always be your self. . Some people may need coaching in how to write a profile and indeed how to send a message. More importantly they need coaching in how to read a profile and read a message. . What we say and do should simply be a reflection of who we are...it might be arrogant, it might be submissive. it might be many things...the only thing I ever changed on my profile was the nick I was using. While toe original nick was tounge in cheek it was a little offensive. I did not need help to explain who I am...I will always be just me...like me , hate me , that is life. . I am certainly not a fan of the what am I doing wrong posts. Sorry but if you can not express your self and realise that to a degree this is all about seduction then you are doomed to sit playing World of Warcraft and not having fun. . Wow I hope that is not too harsh...consider the fact that I am married, I am 50, I smoke...You don't see me complaining about a lack of attention...I ponder what is the differance between myself and the ones who need help. . LC
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RHP User
14 years ago
Here's a thought. Perhaps the wooses aren't so bad. I would rather have Mr Sensitive who tries hard than a cave man who grabs my ankles and says "make a wish"! And today's male knows his way around the toy box so that has to be a bonus.Should we celebrate the snag? Or whinge because they are wooses? Here's a tip guys - many women like you to make the first move.
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RHP User
14 years ago
D_G_T... cheers. And thank-you for opening up an interesting thread... (and for the record, I've seen CM's homemade porn too, and I doubt those balls are real... looked more like something I once saw on a bull*cough cough*shitter.)and bob... Be a good boy and remember your friends are always right. So's your mum.Curvie... idk if I agree. It would make more sense that communication skills would have to improve if trying to get laid via an online medium. Most of the women I know won't talk to someone who calls them 'bb' or asks 'hw u going' or uses 'cum' instead of 'come' at every opportunity. But it's a good screening process. That said... just because we want someone who is articulate, does not mean we want them to articulate their innermost dreams on a first meet, or hear about the four girls who broke their heart, and why you scare them so (quiver...)So here's some clarity... Men: we want you to talk, but only when you have something worthwhile to say. Otherwise get back in the kitchen and bake us some fucken brownies... and open the red... and get your cocks hard. Sorry...? What was that..? *growls and leaps at her man and wraps her thighs around his neck clamping her pussy over his mouth* *garble garble*Yeah... that's what I thought.Men.*shrug*
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tamworthguy46
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Surely a few strong willed women aren't enough to e-mansy-pate them that much MT? Unless there has been a death in the family, a broken heart, clinical depression or a whack in the nuts, I don't want to see a man tearing up Where are the strong chest beating menly men? they don't have to be knuckle draggers but sheesh, this is getting beyond a joke . It's great that you have feelings boys, and a beating heart, but it's probably more sexually productive to chat to a mate about some things than the place where you're trying to score a shag reply.....it's probaly just a simple case, of guys , especialy young ones, getting mixed signals.....lotts of girls saying that they want sensitive guys etc.....which leaves them wondering where they fit in ....to get some action.......? A lot of guys would love to go back to Roman days for instance.....Off fighting a battle ......come back home......Grab your Bitch by the hair and have your way with them !!! then off to the banquet ..... LOL.......I mean that's all well and good these days......but you have to have the consent of your partner, for the proposed roleplay.......Hell yeah....take me back to those days !!.....But now i don't think that is quite socially acceptable in modern times......No wonder guys are confused with their masculinity ...lol Tam
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RHP User
14 years ago
I had a whole post typed up and this damn thing signed me out when I hit post. . Basically I said your Roman thing sounded frikkin HAWT Tam and a few other things lol I'll come back to finish soon, I'm too hungry to concentrate
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RHP User
14 years ago
I mean, only if you really want to. You don't have to of course. I'm sorry for bothering you. .Wait I"m confused. So now guys are finally listening and opening up..... and you can't make up your bloody mind! .I think everybody is told to be, buy and do a million and one different things these days that it's become hard to know who we are and what to do. .I had the thought that the "Big Boys" are out there doing it instead of talking about it here in the forums...but what does that make me? .As has been said before by others, RHP is just another way of meeting people and the results vary for everybody.People need to accept that they're not everybody's cup of tea and a biscuit and it can be a hard slog to find those that think they are..We the poster's of the forums may need to take a bit of the blame too. What's one of the regular bits of advice given to a topic titled "What can I do to get noticed?".Be active on the forums of course. .Oh, and DGT.How can I fix my profile? Wrings hands in anticipation of being voraciously lambasted..Cheers..Rusty
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well I only tend to fire off messages to those I think I might match up with. Unfortunately my writing skills must be lacking because I rarely get an answer. I usually don't bother with flirts as I expect most women on here just ignore them. Now we've had various threads about lack of replies, so no point rehashing that subject, but it does get disheartening to the point of not bothering to send a message because you don't think you'll get a reply. As for knowing what I want, I think I covered that off in my profile. Maybe its the women who say they want one thing when they really mean they want something else?
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RHP User
14 years ago
...your performance review, Ms Fine and here I thought that you made a great deal of sense when you said perhaps most accurately that men are confused. But please...that voice? And if you don't show a bit of respect you will be out the door and on your ass trying to sell knock off cosmetics again door-to-door. A pity about the big floods and hurricanes hitting the city, too...it is obvious that you will need to inflate your *clears throat* magnificent floaties a bit too if you want to survive high tide. | Quoting 'Adz_n_Nayz'D_G_T... cheers. And thank-you for opening up an interesting thread... (and for the record, I've seen CM's homemade porn too, and I doubt those balls are real... looked more like something I once saw on a bull*cough cough*shitter.) | All kidding aside (except for the epilogue to the screenplay) men really are perhaps confused more than anything and is nothing new. If you look back to as early as the mid-70's you will find a series of books by Herb Goldberg beginning with "The Hazards of Being Male - Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege". He talks and writes about the revolution as you have mentioned and brought forward the concepts that men will struggle from within more so than in an outer form as women to have more freedom in becoming more liberated and less inhibited. These books and his works even received early accolades from the likes of Betty Friedan and other woman that followed very pro-actively in the women's movement. So I will concede that before moving on to your deplorable behavior... | *camera pans in to still photos taken from those home movies...with Nanny Fine and Mr. Sheffield huddled over a pile of pictures on the coffee table* | You see by playing into your hand, as it were, and with your utter lack of skill with the that damned phone camera...all it took was a little bit of whining and if you note, that is your hand in the photo whilst I was taking "the shot". | You're dismissed, Ms Fine until I come home from work tomorrow and tell you I have had a shit day an you become one very Fine tie around my neck. | Thanks........I needed a sanity break.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Adz_n_Nayz' So here's some clarity... Men: we want you to talk, but only when you have something worthwhile to say. Otherwise get back in the kitchen and bake us some fucken brownies... and open the red... and get your cocks hard. Sorry...? What was that..? *growls and leaps at her man and wraps her thighs around his neck clamping her pussy over his mouth* *garble garble* Yeah... that's what I thought. Men. *shrug* oh gawd, gave me the biggest belly laugh, were we spearated at birth?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'tamworthguy38' Quoting 'D_G_T' reply.....it's probaly just a simple case, of guys , especialy young ones, getting mixed signals.....lotts of girls saying that they want sensitive guys etc.....which leaves them wondering where they fit in ....to get some action.......? A lot of guys would love to go back to Roman days for instance.....Off fighting a battle ......come back home......Grab your Bitch by the hair and have your way with them !!! then off to the banquet ..... LOL.......I mean that's all well and good these days......but you have to have the consent of your partner, for the proposed roleplay.......Hell yeah....take me back to those days !!.....But now i don't think that is quite socially acceptable in modern times......No wonder guys are confused with their masculinity ...lol Tam I didnt get back to do it last night, I got ummmm sidetracked yeah...anyway basically my point was I dont expect a brute or neanderthal type to be exact, more the sort of thing LC was explaining about essentially knowing who he is underneath, whether he be submissive, dominant, switch, or arrogant. Having that courage of conviction that he will always just know who he is himself. Knowing that the 'what am I doing wrong' ...'someone tell me how to be' and essentially only kidding themselves they can and will stay that way type questions, along with the "I'm always so nice I don't know why no-one will sleep with me" I mean wtf? you are telling a potential sexual partner that no other woman wants to sleep with you Like her, I would have the heels off and the runners on in a flash !!! . My examples Man a) Takes you to dinner, sort of hovers at the door waiting to see if you reach for it first (should you get on your womens' libber high horse) proceeds to talk all through dinner about all the reasons why he doesn't have any luck with the ladies, and can't understand why this always keeps happening?? I mean "Why me? nice guys always finish last" and also throws in a dig at all those boys with ripped abs and big muscles being to blame for it. . Man b) Reaches for the door anyway and says, "I know you're capable of getting it yourself but this is the way I roll" lol Granted he may have a few tales of woe himself, but they will be in a this one time at band camp type anecdote, and obviusly seeing the humour in past mistakes. He'll make no reference to other men having better/fitter bodies than himself because he tacitly knows that if the woman he was with was only into that type of man she wouldnt be sitting in front of him. . I know which head I'd prefer to wrap my legs around
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' goes out to Snowy, thankyou for showing me your balls today, I enjoyed it immensely I get what you're saying and agree that we're looking fairly... new-age these days, but I still think it's worth pointing out that it's hard for us to win. If we can't communicate and are too afraid to ask for help, we're stereotyped as culturally or intellectually backward - otherwise, we're wimps. Add to that women's natural preference for men tending toward one end of the spectrum or the other, and the odds of us hitting the sweet spot start looking pretty long.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Few and far between they may be but I have met a few of them...real men that is. Ones who dont back down at the first sight of a thunder cloud on the brow, ones who can go toe to toe in a sensible debate and not get angry, insulted or have thier masculinity threatened. I have met the occassional man (and yes off RHP) that can and does discuss thier feelings freely but are not push overs or whimps in any way shape or form. Real men can and do eat quiche. Real men can wear pink as they are in no doubt at all about thier masculinity. Real men have calouses...on thier palms and not thier knuckles.
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RHP User
14 years ago
*runs around the room, grunting and beating chest*There. Now you know that I'm a "big boy", wanna come round and play lego with me...?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'KD7884'*runs around the room, grunting and beating chest*There. Now you know that I'm a "big boy", wanna come round and play lego with me...? Just so long as you don't start sooking when I get all the good bits I liked that grunt btw
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RHP User
14 years ago
You definitely haven't got ALL the good "bits"... *sighs*....but most.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Her dress *hmmmph* yeah I spose this'll do I like checking other people for good bits too
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tamworthguy46
14 years ago
Quoting D-G-T I didnt get back to do it last night, I got ummmm sidetracked That's ok i realise you have to eat.......umnnnn and stufff ! yeah...anyway basically my point was I dont expect a brute or neanderthal type to be exact, more the sort of thing LC was explaining about essentially knowing who he is underneath, whether he be submissive, dominant, switch, or arrogant. Having that courage of conviction that he will always just know who he is himself. Knowing that the 'what am I doing wrong' ...'someone tell me how to be' and essentially only kidding themselves they can and will stay that way type questions, along with the "I'm always so nice I don't know why no-one will sleep with me" Yes i know what you mean, you basicly have to yourself.....but people should also be able to look at themselves, and poosibly try and correct some of the floors, that we all have ! I mean wtf? you are telling a potential sexual partner that no other woman wants to sleep with you Like her, I would have the heels off and the runners on in a flash !!! . My examples Man a) Takes you to dinner, sort of hovers at the door waiting to see if you reach for it first (should you get on your womens' libber high horse) proceeds to talk all through dinner about all the reasons why he doesn't have any luck with the ladies, and can't understand why this always keeps happening?? I mean "Why me? nice guys always finish last" and also throws in a dig at all those boys with ripped abs and big muscles being to blame for it. . Man b) Reaches for the door anyway and says, "I know you're capable of getting it yourself but this is the way I roll" lol Granted he may have a few tales of woe himself, but they will be in a this one time at band camp type anecdote, and obviusly seeing the humour in past mistakes. He'll make no reference to other men having better/fitter bodies than himself because he tacitly knows that if the woman he was with was only into that type of man she wouldnt be sitting in front of him. . I know which head I'd prefer to wrap my legs around ........It's rather thought provoking this subject.......I suppose it goes back to nature, and inbuilt human instincts......females are feminine and males are masculine......therfore it is important for us to retain, at least the good bits of our DNA.........and restrain some of the bad things, that's what our big brains are supposed to be for ! Love and peace........errrr .....I mean Grrrrrrr .....Tam
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RHP User
14 years ago
We could always trade bits to play with for a little while. I know I'll have the better end of the deal, seeing as you have more bits. But, you probably need a break from all that over-stimulation anyway...right?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' I didnt get back to do it last night, I got ummmm sidetracked yeah...anyway basically my point was I dont expect a brute or neanderthal type to be exact, more the sort of thing LC was explaining about essentially knowing who he is underneath, whether he be submissive, dominant, switch, or arrogant. Having that courage of conviction that he will always just know who he is himself. Knowing that the 'what am I doing wrong' ...'someone tell me how to be' and essentially only kidding themselves they can and will stay that way type questions, along with the "I'm always so nice I don't know why no-one will sleep with me" I mean wtf? you are telling a potential sexual partner that no other woman wants to sleep with you Like her, I would have the heels off and the runners on in a flash !!! . My examples Man a) Takes you to dinner, sort of hovers at the door waiting to see if you reach for it first (should you get on your womens' libber high horse) proceeds to talk all through dinner about all the reasons why he doesn't have any luck with the ladies, and can't understand why this always keeps happening?? I mean "Why me? nice guys always finish last" and also throws in a dig at all those boys with ripped abs and big muscles being to blame for it. Have you been spying on me D_G_T Such a good description of my scenario Saturday night! I went home so frustrated I could have rooted all my idiot ex's!! Next ...
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RHP User
14 years ago
KK no I didnt spy , but I can just imagine awkward much? . If all you boys think you have it hard with rhp, try starting from scratch without any info or ideas on what a person likes as you do here with profiles. Imagine not knowing sexual preference, kinks fetishes, would she ever have anal etc. Watch that show Dinner Date on tonight, now THAT is the definition of awkward, plus the look on that poor guys face when he tastes what she cooked him is piss funny on the ad
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RHP User
14 years ago
that has multiple answers, sociological, biological, epidemiological... Personal opinion is this: Femenism and the recent power women movement did no one any favours. Men have generally become so role - confused they don't know if they're supposed to be sensitive caring or the tradie type who's still more masculine, or if they're supposed to be a combination of many things. Frankly having seen some of the tripe the mags publish (cosmo, cleo et al) its no wonder as they seem to propegate the prince/princess sydnrome ad nauseum and set standards and checklists that no mortal man could meet. Which leads to socoiological.... Many men these days have been raised by women. The prevalence of single parent families these days is much higher, and with respect to the many awesome single mums out there, women simply cannot raise boys to be men. Men can, and the without intending to start a family court style argument, mens access to sons right or wrong has been somewhat of a travesty in recent decades post divorce. Each will have their opinions on that however, as a sociological phenomenon, its real and exists. WW2/Vietnam saw men go to war and die. Thus, boys were raised by mothers in difficult times and they did the best they possibly could, but many were raised by women during formative years that they desperately needed male influence and guidance. Western society long ago lost initiation rites similar to those Nth American Indians have, subsequently boys don't know what to do to be a man. Its so prevalent Dr Glover coined a disorder so prevalent it now has a clinincal name "Nice Guy Syndrome", which demonstrates characteristics including: covert contracts and maniuplation, being chronic ' people pleasers' ; having no natural masculine aggression/drive/passion; pretendin to be 'different from all those other mean nasty horrible brutish guys' and being 'caring and understanding'... and so on. Overall, many 'men' are still 'boys' in a lot of ways, thankfully these times are changing but change will be generational. Which brings us back to biology.. men are the dominant (phyiscally) gender, we breed, fight, hunt, kill, sow our seed and propegate the species. this has been our role as men for millions of years, and no amount of manscaping, Cleo articles or prssure from the more militant and insecure amongst the femenism movments will change that. They can scream all they want, but biology and nature win every single time. This isn't to be sexist or demeaning, far from in fact. The role of women is to procreate/carry young, raise them, grow children. Fewer tasks in life should attract more honour and pride and support. Sadly thats not the case as some see it as a hinderance or not as special as it really is..but, its the role of women. Its why they're caring and nurturing and strong in ways men can't be. As men are strong in ways women can't be.. So whats the answer to the original question? E) all of the above. Add to that the general prevalence of dishonesty and inability to communicate on this and other similar sites, and we all unfortunately have to sift through the frogs to get to the princes and princesses..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'brisguy69007' Which brings us back to biology.. men are the dominant (phyiscally) gender, we breed, fight, hunt, kill, sow our seed and propegate the species. this has been our role as men for millions of years, and no amount of manscaping, Cleo articles or prssure from the more militant and insecure amongst the femenism movments will change that. They can scream all they want, but biology and nature win every single time. This isn't to be sexist or demeaning, far from in fact. The role of women is to procreate/carry young, raise them, grow children. Fewer tasks in life should attract more honour and pride and support. Sadly thats not the case as some see it as a hinderance or not as special as it really is..but, its the role of women. Its why they're caring and nurturing and strong in ways men can't be. As men are strong in ways women can't be.. I more or less agree with what you said in your post but have to point out that the days of hunting, killing and propagating the species were back in the days when we lived a semi nomadic lifestyle. The males banded together to hunt and the women gathered together to raise the offspring. Everyone knew all the members of the group and their ancestry. The group as a whole moved to follow the herds or the seasons. These days we live as individuals or family units, we don't move often, we don't know who are neighbors are and we work some distance from home. We use the internet to find our ancestry.Could it be that we have finally bred out the "hunter gatherer" in our male population? Have we evolved as a species? Or is merely the effects of modern living stifling our primitive urges? Could RHP be an outlet for such urges?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ahhhh now we're talking to Brisguy and MT , love both these posts! . I want to add to that too, we have evolved , our lifetstyles do have a lot to answer for, and we are very technology dependant. In saying that though, we should be able to find someway of making that work for us. change ..adapt..change..adapt....evolve! maybe this sequence happens a bit too fast for us sometimes and we forget to take the most important basic things with us.....primitive urges and instincts? They should still be there......strip all the other stuff away, and these are the only things that are inbuilt. It's just that we don't listen to it perhaps? . MT your point about rhp being an outlet for it.......absolutely when you think about what it does for us. We come looking for something that stirs us out of something primitive.....sexual urge most are here to cut out that middle man of dallying around asking for first dates, the stuff that sometimes takes months to get through before you can even find out if you're compatible in the sack. A hell of a lot of people are here to satisfy their primal urges, they just don't realise that's what they're listening to
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RHP User
14 years ago
meant to add to my last bit, that maybe this is our modern day way of grabbing someone by the hair and dragging them back to the cave?
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RHP User
14 years ago
MT and DGT, good points both, and I have to agree somewhat with the idea that we're stifling our natural biological instincts with 'political correctness' and other modern constructs.. society has become 'civilised' for whatever reasons, and to whatever ends, and while outwardly we may wear clothing, drive cars, have smartphones and use the internet, internally our biology and instincts haven't really changed for a very long time.. personally I've read some great works discussing how people have lost the ability to trust their instincts, feel, be connected etc. Many men forget that being connected with themselves, and feeling, doesn't mean becoming feminine, rather, it means using all senses to their fuller potential to maintain alert and able to respond to your environment. Soldiers who've seen a lot of contact/combat know that 'hair on teh back of your neck' feeling that becomes literally a lifesaver. IN many ways combat is man operating at his peak. Senses forgotten are brought screaming back to the fore for the most pure of reasons....survival. DGT I think our primal instincts are still there - fight flight or fuck, they all still operate, its our understanding and expression of them that's probably blurry now I think. Totally agree also about cutting out the middle man and satisfying primal urges. Yes yes oh god YES! I know what I'm here for, its why my profile is so direct and to the point andn I make zero excuses for it. I'm not here to please anyone but myself and if someone else happens to have multiple orgasms along the way, then hey, thats a WIN WIN situation!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am a decent guy but don't get taken seriously because of my young age lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
j-1990 so long as you don't grizzle about it, it's all good
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RHP User
14 years ago
Brisguy, your inner ummmmm......... Grrrrrrr is showing through, gotta say I like it
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RHP User
14 years ago
The amount of emotion you can put through in your msg/profile is pretty limited, more so if your crap at expressing yourself textually and thats gonna put you in the "cbf" basket if your not easy on the eye. I'm not actually knocking women for it either, the time it takes to develop an emotional connection online is 10x that of a simple smile from across the room. And any single woman that argues they dont need an emotional connection I call bs. Your all programmed that way ;) The ones that ignore you are either; a) on here to boost their self esteem and arn't active for any good length of time, or b) have no cluewhat they want (1on1, casual, releationship etc) but it sure as hell isnt you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The amount of emotion you can put through in your msg/profile is pretty limited, more so if your crap at expressing yourself textually and thats gonna put you in the "cbf" basket if your not easy on the eye. I'm not actually knocking women for it either, the time it takes to develop an emotional connection online is 10x that of a simple smile from across the room. And any single woman that argues they dont need an emotional connection I call bs. Your all programmed that way ;) The ones that ignore you are either; a) on here to boost their self esteem and arn't active for any good length of time, or b) have no cluewhat they want (1on1, casual, releationship etc) but it sure as hell isnt you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
RHP like many sites have an over abundance of blokes & too few women, as such the women can afford to be picky (to a certian extent) as to who they "chat" to or arrange to meet. But in saying that I'm not prepared to grovel or beg a ladies attention. In all honesty if their not sharp enough to pick up that theres more to me then a pic & a few comical lines on my profile its more their loss then mine. The quandry is that confidence sometimes comes across as arogance or egotistical. A old saying springs to mind regarding that, those that mind dont matter & theose that matter dont mind. CheersC
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RHP User
14 years ago
Im not sure if its really that hard to understand.... Woman are being told "you can do whatever you want... be a woman... its your choice and society will support you!" Men are being told "Be a man!" problem with that is its a pretty fkn ambiguous request now isnt it? and when a guy does post seeking advice or seeking further understanding a post like this is presented... Im wondering what the opposite of the forum topics (as posted earlier by DGT) might read.... women ask for advice men discussing sexual techniques? telling dirty tales of their last shag? (the old chest nut) boasting how big they are? Its all been done before and has been met with the same neutral response (rarely priase mostly criticism) So Im gonna flip this around... where are all the big boys? Right where you left em. You want some? come and get some. We're just tired of the mixed messages and we dont have to buy a Lelo.... we have free porn and internet. I got told once that if you dont like how people are behaving towards you, change how you are behaving towards them... worth a shot? LS
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RHP User
14 years ago
I wonder if we all had to wander around for a few days just fresh out of the shower without the benefits of clothing, lingerie, make-up and the rest that can put an edge of the razor....if maybe the playing field wouldn't be leveled out a little bit. | Just a thought....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T'Brisguy, your inner ummmmm......... Grrrrrrr is showing through, gotta say I like it haha glad you like my ...Grrrr.... it comes with acoutrements should you ever feel the need to pay a visit ;) I like the ropework too btw x
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RHP User
14 years ago
They get told off and called wimps for putting up topics such as the "What am I doing wrong" "Advice needed" and "What's wrong with being a gentleman"....BUT if they write topics such as "Is it ok to have an affair" or "I want Cougars" or "Slamming my cock down her throat till she gags" they get more shit than the Werribee sewer does in a year! I am soooo glad to be a woman on here! < I want to know what your suggestion is to the parents that are raising these wimps? I have seen parents (at basketball) make absolute fun of their boys (any age from 6 to 12) to stop crying and being such a wimp, if they lose a game or grand final! I saw one boy who broke his wrist at a game and his dad sat there and told him "suck it up and don't be a wimp, stop ya sooking"! I tell my 13 year old that it is ok to cry if he is sad or upset or hurt...I took him out to dinner last night as his Grandfather is in Intensive Care and has been since Saturday in a critical condition and it frightened me that he didn't cry! Reason? They are soul mates...you would never meet two people who are closer or have the biggest love for one another! And yes, I did expect him to cry or at least show some sort of reaction! I can see that his eyes brim with tears but then he holds them back! I don't think this is healthy at all! He punched a girl in the arm when he was 7 years old cause his mates "dared" him to...I got pretty upset at him and told him under NO circumstances is he EVER to hit a girl/woman in his life! Am I wrong for doing all this? Am I raising the next "wimp" in life? I want to raise a boy that is not afraid to communicate with others, that is not afraid of showing his emotions and who can share his love with all that mean alot to him! Excuse me for bringing up a wimp!!!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'highland83' The amount of emotion you can put through in your msg/profile is pretty limited, more so if your crap at expressing yourself textually and thats gonna put you in the "cbf" basket if your not easy on the eye. I'm not actually knocking women for it either, the time it takes to develop an emotional connection online is 10x that of a simple smile from across the room. And any single woman that argues they dont need an emotional connection I call bs. Your all programmed that way ;) The ones that ignore you are either; a) on here to boost their self esteem and arn't active for any good length of time, or b) have no cluewhat they want (1on1, casual, releationship etc) but it sure as hell isnt you. I can see where you're coming from here, and in part I agree on the numbers game and needing to impress. The connection part is a bit iffy though, speaking personally only and not on behalf of all women, when I first came to rhp I actually wanted NO emotional connection whatsoever, having come out of a 13yr marriage, I wanted frigging sex!!! purely base and animalistic needs at play, and I can tell you honestly with one of my first fwb as soon as I started hearing the "cute, sweet, spend more time etc" I swear....my ass cheeks sucked in with that uh-oh here we go...LOL I wanted sexual connection and mutual respect only. I can't disagree with your a) or b) on why some are here, because they are definately out there. You'll get to know who's what and which are here for the real experience that rhp can offer, and you've already started in probably the best place......the forums although a fucking nightmare at times, when you take what you will from the good parts and positive threads, talk to people and eventually you will come away with a few more clues, and god forbid !!! you might even get a shag
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Darwin_Bread' RHP like many sites have an over abundance of blokes & too few women, as such the women can afford to be picky (to a certian extent) as to who they "chat" to or arrange to meet. But in saying that I'm not prepared to grovel or beg a ladies attention. In all honesty if their not sharp enough to pick up that theres more to me then a pic & a few comical lines on my profile its more their loss then mine. The quandry is that confidence sometimes comes across as arogance or egotistical. A old saying springs to mind regarding that, those that mind dont matter & theose that matter dont mind. Cheers C By staying true to who you are, you run that risk of coming accross differently than how you would like to be perceived. And that's exactly where your quote comes into play. Why would we want to play with someone who doesn't realise there is another human being behind the profile?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' They get told off and called wimps for putting up topics such as the "What am I doing wrong" "Advice needed" and "What's wrong with being a gentleman"....BUT if they write topics such as "Is it ok to have an affair" or "I want Cougars" or "Slamming my cock down her throat till she gags" they get more shit than the Werribee sewer does in a year! I am soooo glad to be a woman on here! < I want to know what your suggestion is to the parents that are raising these wimps? I have seen parents (at basketball) make absolute fun of their boys (any age from 6 to 12) to stop crying and being such a wimp, if they lose a game or grand final! I saw one boy who broke his wrist at a game and his dad sat there and told him "suck it up and don't be a wimp, stop ya sooking"! I tell my 13 year old that it is ok to cry if he is sad or upset or hurt...I took him out to dinner last night as his Grandfather is in Intensive Care and has been since Saturday in a critical condition and it frightened me that he didn't cry! Reason? They are soul mates...you would never meet two people who are closer or have the biggest love for one another! And yes, I did expect him to cry or at least show some sort of reaction! I can see that his eyes brim with tears but then he holds them back! I don't think this is healthy at all! He punched a girl in the arm when he was 7 years old cause his mates "dared" him to...I got pretty upset at him and told him under NO circumstances is he EVER to hit a girl/woman in his life! Am I wrong for doing all this? Am I raising the next "wimp" in life? I want to raise a boy that is not afraid to communicate with others, that is not afraid of showing his emotions and who can share his love with all that mean alot to him! Excuse me for bringing up a wimp!!!! xFunlovingx The points here are not that they are wimps and aren't allowed to show any emotion, or even cry if they feel the need. This point is about the footstamping little tantrum afterwards when they can't work out why the fuck it all went wrong. It sounds like your son will be a very well adjusted young man, because you are guiding him for one eg on when it's ok to cry and emote, giving him the skills to make up his own mind about it. The grown men on here are a different kettle of fish entirely Funloving, they do this strange thing of looking for sympathy roots when they can't be assed having a think about it for themselves, and then have the deluded expectation that not only will this work, but that it's impressive behaviour I am actually interested enough iin the 'why' to ask the question, and especially because it's not going to be a popular question I was more than ready to cop an earful. As you've probably read so far in the thread it evidently plays on the boys minds too. By discussing it and getting feedback from both sides is a really good path to the understanding and possibly a little more empathy of the 'why'. I'm not some ogre trying to belittle them, but sometimes you do have to be a bit cheeky to get them to bite and let you know they are taking notice, I am however honestly interested in why lately they don't even seem to notice their panties are tucked into their skirt . I'd also like to say that I'm very very sorry to hear your son's Grandfather is in intensive care and that it's obviously extremely hard on your little boy xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I replied with my interpretation of the thread...so sorry. I saw the word "wimp" written on so many of the posts that I thought that was what we were talking about! I think that I need to go back to English classes haha! Actually as I have said in a post before...English is after all my second language...even though I don't remember a word of my first language (well, except the swear words hehe)! < Sympathy roots? Is that how I do it? Woohoo now I don't have to climb the walls in frustration, I can just go out and get a sympathy root! Doubt that it works though..I have put up some pathetic threads and didn't even get so much as a sympathy lick let alone a whole root lol. < It is my Step dad but the only grandfather my son has ever known (as my dad passed away 25 years ago)! Thanks for the sympathy to my son...he is taking it tough! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Now that is a topic we should start, sympathy licks . And it's totally ok to misread occasionally , especially when one of your children is hurting. I'm a mum too and when they hurt, you hurt.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'LeoSteve' Im not sure if its really that hard to understand.... Woman are being told "you can do whatever you want... be a woman... its your choice and society will support you!" Men are being told "Be a man!" problem with that is its a pretty fkn ambiguous request now isnt it? and when a guy does post seeking advice or seeking further understanding a post like this is presented... Im wondering what the opposite of the forum topics (as posted earlier by DGT) might read.... women ask for advice men discussing sexual techniques? telling dirty tales of their last shag? (the old chest nut) boasting how big they are? Its all been done before and has been met with the same neutral response (rarely priase mostly criticism) So Im gonna flip this around... where are all the big boys? Right where you left em. You want some? come and get some. We're just tired of the mixed messages and we dont have to buy a Lelo.... we have free porn and internet. I got told once that if you dont like how people are behaving towards you, change how you are behaving towards them... worth a shot? LS If it was 'only' seeking advice or further understanding there wouldnt be a case to answer to, some of them are just plain and simple having a sook. I'm sick to frikkin death of the poor fucking me attitude followed closely by the self defeatist crap, and the thing here is......they don't affect my sex life, I actually have one! But I would like to hear other peoples' view on the subject and why they might think the same or opposite. Some of them might not even realise why they're doing it themselves, heaven forbid we should ask a hard or unpopular question or two and get at least a little insight? Worth a shot?
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RHP User
14 years ago
D_G_T, having created one of those wimp looking for advise topics, which you commented on, (thanks good comments), I have to say. Yep confused. Brisguy, brilliant first comment on this topic. A lot of this does come back to some basic psychology. Male brain, hardwired to spread their DNA far and wide. Doing well to go more than 5 minutes without thinking about sex. Love it, want it, love the ego boost when you provide a woman with absolute pleasure. Honest – I take the time to focus on the woman’s needs, not for her, for my own ego. Damn selfish that. But all that drive for sex is often taken as rude offensive, how dare you, I’m not some whore, etc etc. Really, we are just trying to say what you want to hear so we can have sex. Just put a nice sign up saying, please say "X", and we can all get on with the fun part. Enough women on this site with comments about he did not focus on my needs, he was rude, I was used, on it goes. Someone made the comment, come on women please make your mind up. It is great for women to admit they enjoy sex too, so why are we put through the mating ritual first. I love a good flirt, gets the blood going. But one wrong move or word and ‘privileges’ removed. No wonder we are scared. We have to dance and perform to your tune, or risk not getting, come be honest guys, what we really want. Confused. Yep, sure am. – Thanks xfunlovingx, some great contributions to the debate as well. D_T_G – Thanks for a great debate topic. Personally, I’m going to stick to being a bit of a snag, or whatever name. Can’t help it, love a good cuddle under a doona on a cold night and yep I’m emotional . That said, sometimes those emotions also come with a lot of passion. Back to a bit of basic psychology there.
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erotictouch4u
14 years ago
FFS DGT...use some of that emancipation you have and just go out and grab some big-boy cock instead of whinging yourself that it is hard to find...not like there is too few males on here to find some...surely it is not that you are lazy and expect it all to come to you ET xox ...now stands in the middle waiting for all the women to come bash him lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
To xFunLovingx I don't have kids so I won't offer any direct advice but perhaps what might help is a book by Celia Lashlie called He'll be OK: Growing Gorgeous boys into Good Men. It might help you with some of the questiind you've asked. If you google her name and the book you'll see if it's the sort of thing that can help. Some people have spoken very highly of it and the author seems to know what she's talking about from what I've heard. Hope it might help :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
You women come on here a SEX site and when a guy comes looking for SEX you want him to write a f**king mills and boon novel ... If you don't want SEX f**k off to another site where you can play your childish games till your heat's content ... Just my opinion :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'eagertongue4u' FFS DGT...use some of that emancipation you have and just go out and grab some big-boy cock instead of whinging yourself that it is hard to find...not like there is too few males on here to find some...surely it is not that you are lazy and expect it all to come to you ET xox ...now stands in the middle waiting for all the women to come bash him lol You're a brave brave man, no e-mansy-pation about you !!! Cracking up. That's it ET, a bit of frigging fire in your belly I'm not whinging here about not being able to find it, I found it !!!! . Jas10119 I commented on your thread because you actually weren't whinging and doing the poor me, as I said above there is nothing worng with asking advice because of a situation you found yourself in, you weren't lamenting and sooking, it was a pretty good result your topis actually, you found out something you didnt know about.......how your particular use of words would have made her feel. More to the point, you'll add that new knowledge to your next approach and use it, you took all comments in good humour and the manner they were intended. . So before I start to get really cranky, let me just say to 'some' of you boys who are taking this the wrong way. If you were serious about those sooky ones (topics) I never this, i never that, this always happens to me......you wouldnt be putting it up where the ladies (targets) can see, you would put it in secret mens business. Because as Kimmoi would say, we're not as fucking stupid as we look (yeah I know, she didnt say fucking, but I did)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Cuccy6' You women come on here a SEX site and when a guy comes looking for SEX you want him to write a f**king mills and boon novel ... If you don't want SEX f**k off to another site where you can play your childish games till your heat's content ... Just my opinion :)haha I'm almost disappointed you didn't finish that off with 'bitch'
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RHP User
14 years ago
Theres been a few people mention "basic psychology" or "psychology 101" however given the nature of RHP where the general demographic is more sexually liberated or open minded the majority of the answers are going to be skewed then the results you get out of a Cleo or Dolly magizine. jas10119 says about "privileges" been removed, let me tell you this if you think us blokes get a bit shitty when sex is withheld women are 10 times worse (in my opinion & experience). As to the "emotions" thing I think a lot of that comes down to "social conditioning" & how males are told, taught, conditioned from boyhood that "boys dont cry" while at the same time girls are allowed even encouraged to cry (& learn quickly a few tears can help them get their own way). This same social conditioning also shows in other ways :- ie if a woman said on here she gave the best blowjobs most would except that almost without question, conversely if a bloke made a equally bold statement that he can perform cunninglistist better then a lesbian he would be shouted down & ridiculed by all & sundry. No wonder some blokes are confused when theres such blatant double standards (& yes I'm aware some of the double standards work in reverse too) Then theres the media campaigns on topics like domestic violence where its only ever the male portrayed as the aggressor & the women as the victim*. Then theres the child abuse ad's where every bloke with a computer & internet is portrayed as trolling chatrooms 24/7 "grooming" kids. All of which helps to undermine a lot of blokes position in society & as such influences how he interacts with others. Everyone says grow some balls & man up, why tho when balls are soft & vunerable, I say grow a vagina.... those things can take a fucking pounding :D* for those interested have a read of the study done by Prof Dorothy Scott into DV, from memory her findings wee women were slightly more the aggressors @ 53%
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RHP User
14 years ago
Got thinking whilst out for a walk. Perhaps if more men took time to focus on women enjoying sex, perhaps more women would be open about their sexual wants.Still a social expectation that women are not to talk about sex, or be judged, often by other women.Often wonder, perhaps some women are not open about sex because they are yet to experience a true orgasm. The orgasm tends to make you want more of the same. Wants something enough, you will seek it out. Don't forget society still strongly ties sex with meaning relationship or sex equals love, rather than both potentially enhancing the other, yet can both exist separately. Perhaps we have fogotten sex can also just be about good fun and a great feeling. Just as much for women as men, perhaps more so. Thank god for women over 40 rediscovering themselves and sick of men hanging off their skirt as a replacement mother. I tip toed around this very topic during an online chat last night. Concerned not to offend etc.Got into bed and suddenly thought, there's a good chance she was just wanting sex no strings attached. The hints were there, the flirting blatant, yet I was being careful to not risk my 'chance', doh. Big secret guys, shhhhhh, wow I've discovered, women like sex too. Whoda thought. Just make it more than 5 minutes (Unless at a bus stop and the bus is about to arrive. Don't want to be late) and a bit more effort other than your own abdominal work out, jump off and on your way. If only my online partner was a bit more clear last night. Probably concerned she would be judged. In fact said she was, stating this, concerned about other people finding out, she was on the site.Embarrassed to admit after 20 years of negative marriage, she then grabbed the first 26 year old (yes she is over 40) hunk on-line and went for it. You go girl. Although liberating, sadly she said not satisfying. Short lived, little attention to her. Perhaps us old dogs do know a few tricks for the young pups. Blokes, for god sake also, Google anatomy. It might just help our cause.Luckily catching up with her again tonight. Yah for me. Time I tired some approaches discussed on this forum.Oh and when thinking about sex - bore yourself silly and read about Neurotransmitters and neuro-peptides – start with oxytocin (dopamine) and fall asleep soon after that. There’s good reasons women love an orgasm, and guys, the 'scent of a woman' is real, so it is far more than just looks. It's all there in the brain. Programed from the start, so why do we all hide our desires, why are we both sides, afraid to state our true wants. . So where are the ....... Crushed by social expectations, just like women have been for years, rather than listening to their deeper inner primal brain. Excuse me now, I must go out and kills some wildebeest with my bare hands.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Darwin_Bread "Everyone says grow some balls & man up, why tho when balls are soft & vunerable, I say grow a vagina.... those things can take a fucking pounding :D" All I can say - Love your work. I still laughing. Oh I also added comments about women wanting orgasm. Yep, they want is just as bad as us, when it is done right. So take your point about "privileges" been removed. Do I hear - woman use sex as a weapon topic? Keep the laughs coming folks.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Quoting 'LeoSteve' Im not sure if its really that hard to understand.... Woman are being told "you can do whatever you want... be a woman... its your choice and society will support you!" Men are being told "Be a man!" problem with that is its a pretty fkn ambiguous request now isnt it? and when a guy does post seeking advice or seeking further understanding a post like this is presented... Im wondering what the opposite of the forum topics (as posted earlier by DGT) might read.... women ask for advice men discussing sexual techniques? telling dirty tales of their last shag? (the old chest nut) boasting how big they are? Its all been done before and has been met with the same neutral response (rarely priase mostly criticism) So Im gonna flip this around... where are all the big boys? Right where you left em. You want some? come and get some. We're just tired of the mixed messages and we dont have to buy a Lelo.... we have free porn and internet. I got told once that if you dont like how people are behaving towards you, change how you are behaving towards them... worth a shot? LS If it was 'only' seeking advice or further understanding there wouldnt be a case to answer to, some of them are just plain and simple having a sook. I'm sick to frikkin death of the poor fucking me attitude followed closely by the self defeatist crap, and the thing here is......they don't affect my sex life, I actually have one! But I would like to hear other peoples' view on the subject and why they might think the same or opposite. Some of them might not even realise why they're doing it themselves, heaven forbid we should ask a hard or unpopular question or two and get at least a little insight? Worth a shot? I guess I see where youre coming from but you are right now at the BEGINNING of the mental frustration that most men entered into in their late teens... the guys on here (some of them) spiraled further into that place because they have desires that fly right smack bang into the face of what they are always told is sick/perverted/ugly/cheuvenistic about being a man Your frustraition on this topic is exactly what you are seeing in the "sooky" man posts and it spilled over a little where I highlighted your text in bold above. Most guys on here, like yourself, want a hassle free shag and some good company along the way and the freedom to celebrate their sexuality (at whatever slant) without the social reprimands that usually assult us on a daily basis. So I stand by my point... its only a problem if you let it be one. I sometimes suffer those same frustraitions every guy does and once in a while u might hear me bitch a little about RHP (have you read my profile :P) but I take it in my stride, I know what it means to me (not a huge deal) and occasionally a post like this one comes along and actually makes me think "yep... welcome to how a lot of guys feel..." So yeah... take it in your stride... next time you see a guy you think has the mustard approach him differently... make it immediate and make it crystal clear and you will get the response you are after: "Your arms are amazing... I bet your grip is nice and strong too... how about u meet me tonight, take me home and fuck me like the man you are!" I reckon you might be finding it a little tender to sit down the next day if u aimed a bullet like that at the right target ;) All you have to do is phrase what you want into your message... not too hard :) (and when it doesnt come through clearly what will you hear from the guys? - "women dont know what they want" lol) LS
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thankyou so much, that gave me a bloody big laugh too I love it, and Im soooo gonna steal it and use one day. . I agree with what a lot of you guys here are saying, I had my own ideas and thoughts on the why's but unless you ask the actual question out loud , you're only left with your own opinion. And for the record i find the whole sex as a weapon thing disgusting!!!! I hate it, and it makes me embarassed to be a woman some days. Well that and the fact I can't go without sex for that long myself . Jas those damned societal expectations have a lot to answer for huh? telling us what is wrong and filthy, and ewwwww baaahhhhh they can kiss the patootie on those things. . LS I've actually found myself the perfect playmate for me (yes here on RHP) and we're having such a good time, that I'm not even looking for further playmates. He certainly has the mustard, I told him what for, in no uncertain terms he was in no doubt as to what I wanted, as soon as I knew, he knew He's not a sook and he wouldnt frikkin want to be either lol. Ahhhhhh and yep, I always have trouble sitting the next day, hell !! walking a straight line has it's problems . Now all you boys who have replied with some great insightful posts in a totally non-sulky manner go out and get yourselves a vagina pound !! pound !! pound . thanks so much again for that Darwin_bread
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your very welcome & glad a few had a giggle, it is true tho If I may offer a further observation (altho a bit off topic) its interesting to observe that some people are willing or free to chat about most things online yet when you meet them in person their not so free or willing to talk about the same things face to face. ie a lady I was chatting to was more then happy to chat about her desire for some fisting & anal play, now as we ended up in bed I can only assume we hit it off, she was a lot more reserved in discussing the matter in person. And that got me thinking in a wider & general manner as to why say a couple can both harbour similar thoughts or fantasies yet are unable to voice those desires to the other? (again I have a female friend who while we arent intimate we do talk face to face & she is keen to try xzy with her bf, I also know her bf & he has mentioned over a beer a few things he'd like to try with her) both of them seem to "scared" to ask, tell, talk, discuss their desires with the other, but are happy to disclose them to myself. Both are also getting "itchy feet" & both have said they are "unhappy" in the relationship. I feel like I'm in a no win situation as I dont wish to break either one's trust or confidence so I havent said anything other then a few general suggestions to take a chance & talk to the other. So that brings me back to why is it that we feel comfortable disclosing some things to virtual strangers but not to those we are often intimate with? it all seems such a waste of wanton pleasure & passion. CheersC
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redhotozz
14 years ago
As a reply to the original poster, there's men and women that suit each other all over the shop, just shop with the right kind of approach and the "big boys" will be there. Although Freud might have said you were not so sure what you want since you didn't ask for real men, or big men, just..."boys". Haven't met so many dominant boys down the pub, lol. We raised our boys to be men....means they can stand up for themselves if they have to, thy can cry if they want to, they care about their fellow human beings, and even misbehave. So can our girls. And they are both great at getting cash out of us. LOL
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14 years ago
Hey forum goers...After reading this particular thread a few times, I figured I'd wade into the conversation.give evidence for this and from experience, and cultural context aside, it is hard to engage a woman and know which she may be tending toward, a masculine "take no prisoners" type or a slow and sensual type. Now, I understand that each woman has their preference, and I applaud those on this site who make that quite clear on their profiles. But there exists a cultural problem at hand also. Given we thrive on stereotypes, despite how painful they are, the current zeitgeist of an attractive male is somewhere between Brad Pitt, George Clooney, David Beckham, Gerard Butler and that guy from the vampires films ;-D. Understandably these probably cater to a younger crowd, but we men take heed of this when judging how to outwardly appear attractive. Add to this the dominance of white collar work over blue collar work and we can seem like pushovers sometimes but expecting a man to be lean, mean and half a caveman who also works a 9-5 clean shaven and at a desk all day is probably a bridge too far. So, I am saying that yes, men should be dominant (mostly) but we must take into consideration how possible this is when you also ask they have a good job and, given the time of the month, to be softer despite themselvesl. You may want one type of guy right now, but saying that's what you want all the time is perhaps, not the whole truth and even then, isn't always true.Exp.
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14 years ago
Indulgent_exp Really good summary. I think a few guys will understand exactly what you are describing. Interesting UK study a few years back suggesting ‘what women want’ does actually vary during the cycle. Most fertile stage, bring on the caveman, club me, drag me off, opposed to just sit with me, listen and cuddle. Studies suggesting that perhaps the modern interpretation of a good hunter provider is the white collar job and BMW in the drive, yet the basic part of the brain still saying, strong solid tough fighter to ensure the best mix of DNA and survival of offspring. Damn that takes the fun out of it. Perhaps it’s that both sides love a good hard old school shag occasionally. “I applaud those on this site who make it quite clear…” I too wish to stand and applaud the women proud enough to say exactly what they want (that includes those looking for soft sensual), no concern they will be judged or stereotyped. Bravo, bravo.
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14 years ago
I'm not sure whether to apologize for the female species for making it too confusing for you, or handing you a tissue. I've noticed a trend lately of grown men not sure about what they should be doing or saying or where to even start... Is it because us girls have made it too hard for you to get the result you want? In the past present and future you will have males that are successful with women. Vs Other’s who are complete shit or something in-between. Many ways are now available to improve. I mean sure it's hard to know what to say sometimes to a complete stranger on here, but surely rocket science isn't required in reading a profile thoroughly to get an idea of whether a woman is going to respond in kind when sent a dirty message, or if she seems the type to want a well thought out and witty few lines, is it? NO it isn’t hard at all. Problem is lots of us male and female will repeat things in our lives and get the same lame results complain and then repeat or quit. Why are you so confused as to the negative response if you haven't done so? and more to the point WHY oh WHY have you lately started to whine about it? Here is a hypothetical scenario... Man A (Dicko) sorry to the Dicks out there don’t be offended. He sends out 50 messages. The fall into these categories - boring unimaginative, crude, no style, information overload, no link to females comments (didn’t read profile – titties and gina distracted him) etc.... Result his feedback is no response or crappy responses. He shrugs his head and goes “fuckin bitches” complains and does another 50 or closes his account. He has other options of course. Man B (Blayd) sends out similar messages. After 50 her decides to read a women’s novel, read a PUA book, change his beliefs, educates himself on the filthy dirty wicked modern women. He changes his stripes and is like a chameleon and customizes his messages, they are now original, tap into women’s senses, lures them, gives partial info, teases, jokes, recognizes women’s test’s and passes them easily, removes unpleasant nice guy traits and more.... He still has to deal with the fickle unreliable nature of the internet beast but he is armed knowledgeable and smiles more... PS he still has to deal with massive male to female ratio, idiotic, crazed, weird, unreliable, inflated egos, Princess’s, elitist individuals and whatever else is in the mix. It’s just part of life so stiff upper lip and all that. Have us girls snag-ified you too much? the new trend seems to be "Why don't I get any responses, why aren't my flirts responded to, girls please tell me how I can fix my profile" and on it goes. After reading No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover and getting a friend to read it society trends are having an effect. You are talking to a particular group of men, what percentage who knows? Face it you could have poor communication skills on here and be quiet successful because you have the right look. My idea on that women are developing stronger male traits while guys are taking on some female traits. So you are popular and have no issues. You wouldn’t even realize your weakness because women let it slide. Sheesh would you like us to wipe your arse as well? Volunteers? Where are the Big Boys that can do all this and more, without the need to hide behind an apron? I love my cooking apron and have nice little cuts and slits on to assist us with the baking process. You can check the buns while I will prepare the sauce... Show your faces and pleeeeease stop the hand wringing, it's just not sexy The whole reason I have retired and don’t have a photo is because of my face so sorry your still not seeing it J XFunlovingX brings up some nice points could be another thread?
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14 years ago
what do you expect!!! its rhp... dont be so lazy!!! get off your arse and go approach someone face to face!!!! problem solved!!!!
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14 years ago
"Have us girls snag-ified you too much? the new trend seems to be "Why don't I get any responses, why aren't my flirts responded to, girls please tell me how I can fix my profile" and on it goes."short answer, YESand well... the saying be careful what you wish for does ring true. But i just act like myself and just do my work, be good to people and have fun along the way.but yes... i believe the collective balls have been cut over the last few years.
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14 years ago
Quoting 'metalgent'what do you expect!!! its rhp... dont be so lazy!!! get off your arse and go approach someone face to face!!!! problem solved!!!! Get off your arse and read the whole thread . Indulgent_exp, thanks for the input. Yes I can see where that would also have some heavy influence, but can our true nature ever really be stifled so much by our career/job, or even stereotypes? It's always there beneath it all, in our approaches, decision making, thinking.......it's who we are. . Hplovecrack.....fantastic post, thankyou. Very witty and helps put things into a different light entirely. I love hearing another persons' view on things......it's like walking around and looking at it from a totally different angle. . I appreciate all of the feedback on here and everyone's opinion.....it brings many different factors to the fore and it really does help in the understanding of just what you boys are up against at times. I will say that I'm especially impressed with the good natured way in which most of you took it too, it could have gone either way just like a reaction you could expect from both Dicko or Blayd admittedly the way I phrased my OP it was intended to get responses, but only Blayd would have noticed my tongue firmly planted in my cheek I enjoy being happily surprised.
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14 years ago
Quoting 'Darwin_Bread' RHP like many sites have an over abundance of blokes & too few women, This comment strikes me as odd, given some of the previous comments (noting that I have not read them all) If women have been empowered, the likely outcome I would have thought would be a closer to 50/50 split.So if not (which it clearly is not), the question is why?
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14 years ago
JF1974 <*quotes*> So if not (which it clearly is not), the question is why?Again given the demographic of RHP & that most are more liberal or open minded the answer is skewed. I think it cames back to social conditioning, ie females are told/taught from a young age "good girls dont do that" while males have the "go sow your wild oats" type messages reinforced as acceptable norms. Take for instance, if a women sleeps with a different bloke every night of the week her friends (male & female) think of her as a slut, yet when a bloke does the same thing his friends (male & female) think of him as a hero or stud. I think its that socil conditioning that makes it ok for one but not the other. CheersC
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14 years ago
Who raises these wimps? Women.... Next time the old man steps in to give the boy a hiding stand back.
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14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Quoting 'metalgent'what do you expect!!! its rhp... dont be so lazy!!! get off your arse and go approach someone face to face!!!! problem solved!!!! Get off your arse and read the whole thread . lol!!!! i have a chair infront of my computer luv!!1 if i was to stand and read the whole thread i would fall over!!1 :) all i can say is the world is over abundant with the "snags", the woman of the world wanted more power and say and now they have it!!! enjoy!! bring back the days of the club in hand style of caveman foreplay?..that wont land me in jail..:) peace and luv and all that hard core fast stuff!!!! \M/...
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14 years ago
Quoting 'macswell789'Who raises these wimps? Women.... Next time the old man steps in to give the boy a hiding stand back. A non-licker waste of cum if you're not going to share it But agree with the rest, sensitive new age parenting is a whole nuther kettle of fish.......text books - raising shitheads all over the world Lol. . Metalgent, but I didnt ask for the snags dammit I ordered the Kiev.....crunchy rough exterior, with an exploding centre, filled with a tasty liquid centre that you can only get to if you bite hard enough oh and fuck the salad, I'll have chips with mine!!!!
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14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Quoting 'macswell789'Who raises these wimps? Women.... Next time the old man steps in to give the boy a hiding stand back. A non-licker waste of cum if you're not going to share it But agree with the rest, sensitive new age parenting is a whole nuther kettle of fish.......text books - raising shitheads all over the world Lol. . Metalgent, but I didnt ask for the snags dammit I ordered the Kiev.....crunchy rough exterior, with an exploding centre, filled with a tasty liquid centre that you can only get to if you bite hard enough oh and fuck the salad, I'll have chips with mine!!!! NOT WANTING THE SNAGS. D_T_G, tisk tisk. Obviously not familiar with the Cheese Kransky.(Kranjska for the non-Aus) So much thicker than your usual snag, when cooked firm, with the occational shot of thick hot liquid as you bite into it. Normally 68% pork. We all love a good pork. Perhaps just a little bit of hope for a snag. "Fuck the salad". Damn right, best use of a cucumber I could think of.
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14 years ago
Jas.....love it hahaha I tell you what, the good old cucumber has it's very own section in porn now
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14 years ago
I think I may have just witnessed another wee tanty from one of your crew Jas A thread obviously designed to get the ladies attention, had a very short life span when another male looked to be getting some attention...........was that a sword fight? cock fight? Gawd you boys are funny sometimes Poor OP...best laid plans n all
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14 years ago
Only a Aussie man can make you feel like a woman ........A plane passed through a severe storm. The turbulence was awful, and Things went from bad to worse when one wing was struck by lightning. One woman lost it completely.She stood up in the front of the plane and screamed, 'I'm too young todie,' she cried. Then she yelled, 'If I'm going to die, I want my lastminuteson earth to be memorable! Is there anyone on this plane who can make mefeel like a WOMAN?'For a moment, there was silence. Everyone stared at the desperate womanin the front of the plane. Then the man from Australia stood up in therear of the plane He was handsome, tall, well built, with dark brown hair and hazel eyes.Slowly, he started to walk up the aisle, unbuttoning his shirt as hewent, one button at a time. No one moved. He removed his shirt. Musclesrippled across his chest. She gasped... Then, he spoke...'Iron this -- and then get me a beer.
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14 years ago
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14 years ago
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14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' I think I may have just witnessed another wee tanty from one of your crew Jas A thread obviously designed to get the ladies attention, had a very short life span when another male looked to be getting some attention...........was that a sword fight? cock fight? Gawd you boys are funny sometimes Poor OP...best laid plans n all Was the short lived thread one of mine? I was going well on one thread. All the right views, positive strong, took a stand, then suddenly when thrown a sniff of a shag, yet not happy with my comments. Well what else could I do. I quickly did the only thing possibly. I withdrew my views saying how wrong my strong stand was. Where have all the ... big boys gone. "ummm, not here." Didn't even get the shag. Yet another lesson learnt. My following comment on "Real Men ...." - Take responsibility for their actions and words. I did manage to find where my 'big boy' had gone. By taking my hand off my 'big boy' that was hidden to let others see. Surprise, surprise, found others liked seeing my hidden 'big boy'. Hmm, I think I'm big enough to accept I'm more 'just about average boy'. Met someone I'm having an absolutely wonderful time with. Naughty girl with a wicked grin, and a lot of laughter. Doesn't see the point in wasting a good salad by eating it. Cock fight. What you've never seen a couple of well horned stag deer butting their hard horned heads together to win the right to mount the young doe. - Actually that sound more like a porn movie I downloaded. Nuh, we're not funny sometimes, just animals. Grrrrr. No idea what noise a deer makes. Although some women love the smell of Musk. " a penetrating odour from the gland of a male musk deer" It all makes sense now. Women want us to be a hard horned animal.
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14 years ago
That last part sounds about right Jas. . Nah wasn't one you were on, just a little fishing expedition that didnt pan out for the OP when some other hot young male took his limelight away, merely by being alive and present on the thread
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14 years ago
lol...
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14 years ago
How true that is Taipan Now go and show them how it's done
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14 years ago
Hello Big Boy! Great Pic! HOT! ......... D_G_T I totally agree!Some have no idea!GUYS!Send a Decent friendly MessageBe Nice let the conversation flowEnjoy the flirting And get Sexy! xxx
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14 years ago
You mean you've only just noticed hehe does wonders for a woman's heart doesn't it gadoonk gadoonk gadoonk
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14 years ago
You can clearly see that other than the forums I have not being meeting or doing anything from rhpinfact I think I have met more Woman from herelol my peferred gender is MenNow totally SINGLE Still out of action for a few more weeksdue to my surgerywatch out Boys!will be needing some serious attentionI reply to intelligent friendly msg's with pics Face would be nice! eyes are Sexy! I don't reply to do u wanna Fuck my answer to that would be get fucked! Its up to you GuysIf yous want to meet Decent Sexy Woman Go about it the right wayBeing nice gets you way moreremember we are all someones daughter where all someones mumwith many great friendsBeing Highly Sexed is just one part of our livesxxx
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14 years ago
JENSTA - "I don't reply to do u wanna Fuck ... Being nice gets you way more ... If yous want to meet Decent Sexy Woman Go about it the right way" Is this the right way? You were one of the first photos I saw on this site, and yet I've found myself coming back a few times just to see your profile photo. I could comment that you have a really sexy rear, but perhaps that for another time, it only come across as such an early stage as simple flattery. For me, I would not say flattery as this tends to imply exaggerated compliments. Complements about one of the most stunningly shaped behinds I have seen across this site are far from exaggerated compliments. I would suggest that saying your figure is the sort that reminds men why they lust after women is more factual that simple flirtation exaggeration. As much as I find it hard to take my eyes from your main profile photo, it is your third photo where I see a body, a body I could easily picture myself taking time to slowly glide my hands over every soft sensual curve of that body, with soft kisses and gentle touch contrasting with the occasional firmness as muscles tighten. Closing my eyes to enhance the feeling in my fingers, to allow the images to form in my mind. A night that is passionate, sensual, with time taken to tease and tantalise, heighten the senses before combining for that level of closeness that comes from sex. I want you to sip wine while I slowly undress you. Feeling each layer that covers you before exposing the sheer beauty I see lay beneath. Sit and look at you naked. Have you slowly turn to allow me to consume ever curve, every aspect of your softness that makes a man feel aroused, alive, passionate. I want to stand before you. Kiss you between your sips of wine. Stare into your eyes as I allow my hands to tease my senses gently feeling the body that only adds to the exquisiteness that are your eyes and smile. Kiss your neck, breath in deep as my mouth follows the curve of your neck and becomes your shoulders. I want to lower myself before you. I want to feel your breasts, kiss them as I glance upwards into your eyes. Guide you with my hands to turn before me, time to admire the softness, the pure sexiness of an arse that screams woman, screams sex. I want to touch and feel that softness. I want to move my hands to the curve of your back as I slowly rise using my mouth to kiss and caress as a return to full height. Embrace you in my arms as I discover areas of your neck not seen before. My hands feeling your breasts, feeling across your waist, fingers gliding, barely touching your skin as I follow the line from your hips across your legs to the pleasure I want you to feel. Lay you on the bed. Sensual jazz music playing, guiding the rhythm of our movements. I want to touch you, caress you, feel you, with my arms, my hands and my mouth. I want to inhale the essence that is you. I want to understand what understand the pleasures that make your body quiver, I want to feel your warmth against mine. I want my fingers inside you, curled just enough to put upward pressure whilst allowing my tongue to explore and tantalise at the same time. I want you to look at me as I raise my eyes to meet yours. I want those eyes that have captured deep into my sole and very consciousness, to give me the pleasure I seek. When your eyes tell me, the quivering of your body says it is time, I want my body to follow yours until our mouths meet again and our eyes are connected to each other. I want for you to feel the head of my penis gently pushing, wanting, straining at the mere anticipation of entering you. I want to stare into your eyes as the warmth and wetness of you parts to allow us to become one. I want your eyes deep into mine as slowly we merge till we can be no closer. -------------- Is that the sort of opening message best sent, or is that too long and "I wanna fuck better"?
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14 years ago
While I'm not female my thoughts are that you have nearly got it right. Its a bit long & if a lady isnt interested she isnt going to read it all. Also we all know what we're here for so been overtly explicit is a bit akin to a slap in the face so can be a turn off rather then a turn on. like yourself I dont send messages with "hi wanna fuck" & I highly doubt anyone sending such messages would have the balls to say it to a stranger in a shopping centre face to face. I generally take the less is more approach with messages & simply say "Hi how are you doing" with perhaps a comment as to how appeasing a photo is, if you get a reply then you can assume there is some interest from the lady & if not you havent invested the time it takes to write a novel. CheersC
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14 years ago
This work, while addressing the issue mostly at a macro level, may provide some answers. 28.09.2010 | Author: Barbara Kay In its earliest and most benign form – the political campaign to achieve equality under the law and equality in economic opportunities – feminism was a necessary and welcome reform movement. No rational person could be less than delighted to see barriers to a full range of educational and career options for women fall by the wayside. The feminism I take exception to today is not the mild and blameless right of a woman to self-actualize that all women absorb by osmosis from the cultural air we breathe, but the radical ideology that has come to dominate the movement’s academic and institutional elites over the last 40 years. This is an ideology that sees the relations between the sexes as a never-ending antagonistic power struggle, with women as eternal victims and men as eternal oppressors. It is an ideology that explains away the moral failings of women as the fault of a patriarchal “system”, but holds men responsible for their actions. And most important, it is an ideology that shortchanges children by privileging the rights and importance to children of mothers over fathers. That kind of feminism is so deeply entrenched in our society’s cultural elites and the institutions they dominate — really it is the defining ideology of our era — that whether she wants to or not, no thinking woman can escape the necessity of negotiating some kind of relationship with its claims. However intellectually objective we all try to be, each of us brings our own particular life experiences to the decision of what kind of relationship that will be, and I am no different. Everything in my experience with men points to the conclusion that different cultural values around relations between the sexes produce different outcomes. Normal, psychologically healthy men, raised in a society respectful of women, as Canada’s heritage culture is, are governed in their relations with women by the instinct to protect them, not to hurt them. The second element I bring to the subject is the fact that I am a Jew, and grew up at a moment of expanding acceptance of Jews as social equals, a direct result of the world’s sympathy for Jews following the Holocaust. Because of my people’s unique history, I am instinctively wary of any group – whether a race, an ethnic group, a religion or a sex – that plays a dualistic hand, scapegoating an entire group to explain the unachieved goals of its own members. For a scapegoating ideology always ends in grievance-collecting and a conspiracy theory of history. My people has been unusually vulnerable to conspiracy theory evils over the centuries. It is presently in the midst of battling a particularly destructive and existentially threatening one. Virtually all Arab and many other Muslim nations rely on Jew hatred to externalize an explanation for their own failures. It works very well. The world has not seen such a widespread and virulent strain of anti-Semitism dominating an entire region since the Nazi era. So I can say with the conviction bred of close scrutiny that I have no use for blame-laying ideologies of any kind. Feminism and demography I moved on from there to the dramatic demographic consequences feminism has had on society. As a result of feminists’ promotion of career equity with men and unrestrained sexual experimentation over early and faithful commitment, women are having fewer children later, and many are having none. Consequently, birthrates are down in all western countries, in many below the replacement levels. Canada’s current fertility rate is 1.54 per woman, behind one-child China’s 1.7. Sadly, many women realize they want to have children, but too late. They were not warned by their Women’s Studies teachers or by feminist commentators that fertility peaks by age 25, or that late pregnancies carry elevated risks, or that induced abortions pose a risk of pre-term delivery in future pregnancies. Abortion is now such a commonplace here that it is used as a backup form of birth control. Abortions in Quebec have doubled in the last 10 years: in 1998 16 percent of pregnancies resulted in abortion. Today 30 percent do. You don’t have to be a religious Christian to find that statistic disturbing. All of these realities are directly traceable to feminist doctrine. Feminists’ original goal may not have been the intention to preside over the actual demographic decline of western civilization. Their goal was to empower women. But as the old saying goes, when you are up to your neck in alligators, it’s difficult to remember that your original intention was to drain the swamp. Campaigning against men I then turned my attention to the negative and far-ranging effects, of feminism on men. Misandry, which is the female equivalent of misogyny (misanthropy is a hatred of humankind), is now entrenched in our public discourse, our education system and social services. Misandry flies beneath most people’s radar, because we have become compliant in the acceptance of theories that have nothing to do with reality, and compliant in the speech codes that accompany that tendency. Denigration of men in ways both casual and formal are a commonplace in society. Last Christmas I saw an advertisement for a butcher block knife holder in the shape of a man. The slot for the largest knife was placed in his groin. Hilarious? Imagine a knifeholder in the shape of a woman and a knife slot at the vagina. Hilarious? Not so much. Once you become aware of the phenomenon, you will see it everywhere, trust me. For overt misandry, one has only to survey the industry around domestic violence. You could be forgiven for thinking that domestic violence is a one-way street, for that is certainly the impression one has from the fact that there are innumerable tax-funded shelters for abused women, none for abused men, unlimited funds for campaigns to raise consciousness around abused women, none for abused men. There is not a single social services agency or charity in Canada advertising “family services” that offers counseling, shelter or legal services for men who have been physically abused by women. When angry feminists adduce their mantra that only men are inherently violent and that women use violence only in self-defense, I bring up a theme that is forbidden to discussion in women’s shelters: how is it then that partner violence amongst lesbians is significantly higher than amongst heterosexual partnerships? How is it that children are far, far more likely to be physically abused by their mothers than their fathers? And when they are, how can we justify a woman’s right to take her children to a shelter to escape a violent husband when there is no shelter in the country that will accept a father with children fleeing an abusive mother? The implosion of the family Finally I want to talk about the implosion of the traditional family, which can be directly traced to feminism’s repudiation of normative marriage and the role of fathers as vital to a child’s psychological well-being. In June 2006 I wrote about the imbalance, in women’s favour, in the family law system: 90 per cent of contested custody suits end in sole custody awarded to the mother. Such a skewed percentage is unthinkable in any other branch of law. The family law system is now systemically colonized by radical feminists. Their goal is the incremental legal eclipse of men’s influence over women’s spheres of “identity” interests, which includes children. To that end the custody issue has become a front line in the gender wars, supported by all feminist academics and institutional elites, by supine cabinet ministers and by feminist judges. To illustrate with just a few examples: Supreme Court of Canada chief justice Beverley McLachlin: “We have to be pro-active in rearranging the Canadian family”Former justice minister Martin Cauchon: “Men have no rights, only responsibilities”Feminist psychologist Peter Jaffe, a social-context educator of family court judges: “oint custody is an attempt of males to continue dominance over females”And most egregiously this from the National Association of Women and the Law: “Courts may treat parents unequally and deny them basic civil liberties and rights, as long as their motives are good”. Here we are truly in George Orwell country. In simple words this statement means “The end justifies the means” and there is not a totalitarian regime in the world that does not espouse that exact excuse for their denial of rights to their citizens. In our courts the “good” that motivates them is supposedly the child’s “best interests” but in fact it is virtually always the mother’s happiness. This is not justice. Misandry in family law Misandry in family law arises from an ideology that views children as the property of women, even though many peer-reviewed studies show children want and need both parents, and no studies show sole parenting by a mother serves children’s best interests. This ideology is instilled in judges during training sessions featuring feminism-driven materials, and subsequently often plays out as unaccountable kangaroo courts. The result is that an adversarial mother who initiates a divorce against the will of the father –however indifferent her parenting skills, however superb his – and even if the children spend their days with nannies or day care workers –pretty well has a lock on sole custody of the children. If she makes a false allegation of abuse in order to have him barred from the house -– this happens regularly; any unsubstantiated claim of abuse or even voicing her fear of abuse by a woman will be acted upon instantly by the police and the courts with no recourse for the man – or denies rightful access to the father, she will never be punished at all. Conversely, if he withholds support money, even if he has lost his job and has no other means of paying, he will be criminalised: His picture as a “deadbeat dad” may appear on government-sanctioned internet sites, and if he goes to jail, as is likely, he will serve a longer sentence than cocaine dealers. In the days when children belonged to both their parents, it used to be said that children were “hostages to fortune.” Today they are hostages to feminism and the state. And yet every credible sociological study on record demonstrates without ambiguity that if there is a single sure indicator for success in adulthood, it is the presence of a father in a child’s life from the time he or she is old enough to negotiate a path through the world beyond her doorstep. If there is a sure indicator of failure – dropping out, drugs, promiscuity, crime – it is not poverty, it is fatherlessness in later childhood and adolescence. There is a Yiddish expression my mother used to invoke with a philosophical sigh, “der reidele dreht sich” – the wheel turns. A hundred years ago, it was homosexual love that dared not speak its name. Today homosexual love roars, and it is manliness that whispers in the shadows. Goethe said: “All theory is grey, but green springs the golden tree of life.” The time for zero-sum theories – if your sex wins, mine loses – is past. Men’s voices needn’t be silenced for women’s to be heard. We need more conversation, less monologue. Only one voice should be privileged by everyone: the still, small voice of conscience. Conscience leads away from sexism and toward humanism. Humanism leads to mutual respect and trust between the sexes. And collaboration between the sexes leads to the “golden tree of life” we should all be striving toward – a healthy society. Barbara Kay writes for the National Post. This article is an excerpt from a speech given earlier this week to the McGill University Women’s Alumnae Association on the Impact of Feminism on Society.
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14 years ago
Well thank u Yes I do have a great arse! & an even hotter pussy! If u had sent that in a msg yes it certainally would get my attention! then I would check out your profile to see if u are someone that I would be attracted to as you are from Brisbane & I am in Melbourne Big distance I would have sent a nice reply thanking you for a great msg & wish u luck with your adventurenow many would have read what u wrote Im tipping all those hot Brisbane Woman will be checking out your Profilexxx
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14 years ago
JENSTA - Well the message was a bit long and I would not really go into the sex aspect on the first message, but I wanted to simply illustrate that it is possible, although taking more time, to say what you want, yet not be crude or overtly offensive. From your photo, it really was not hard (actually it was-opps) to find the right words. Save more direct language for when you get to know someone and know it is what you both like. The other main thing was reading someone's profile, looking at the photos and trying to pick a particular feature (easy for your photo, seriously one hot arse - oh and I saw the other photos and you are correct on that topic as well). Just show that you have taken the time to understand the person, before even meeting them. A bit of ... as in early French language, courteis. Which brought it all back to "Where have all the ...." It takes a bit of courage to show a softer side, yet still be strong enough also be decisive and direct. As men we are chatting on these sites because we love women, and or men, and or people in fury cartoon character costumes, yet somehow lose sight that we can say our wants and desires with a degree of respect. Just because a woman loves sex, wants to be touched and enjoy herself, does not make her a 'slut', 'whore' or whatever other name (unless she wants those names, although best during the act of sex, rather than a text). Darwin_Bread, yet again gets it right. Most of the men - would they really walk up and introduce themselves to a woman face to face in the same way they do with messages on this site. That said, some women like this approach and that is fine too. Perhaps the 'big boys' are the ones simply being themselves and finding the right women attracted to who they really are. JENSTA - I'm an absolute arse man and from a quick view of your profile, well, standing ovation. bravo, bravo. One of the best I've seen. Oh and the thank you, goes to you not me, it was your image that was the inspiration, not to mention the pleasure such photos have provided me. Keep having fun, and thank you for your kind words in reply. Jason
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RHP User
14 years ago
Horseey ... you're HANDSOME ... please look at my profile and contact me if you are interested :) loulou
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