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Where to sit
July 21 2008
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hmmmm angel I am one of those who likes to sit opposite someone of the opposite sex over a coffee, even those i know. For me the subtle hints are in the prolonged eye contact, the raised right eyebrow and the smile thru those quiet moments, and the wink when some comment has been made with 2 meanings lol .. I am not comfortable sitting very close to someone i havent met before. Tina
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RHP User
17 years ago
Tina I am with you on this one.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I am so glad you spelled out your thoughts rather than just throwing out the question. Given the choice I would always sit opposite a new (or first time) friend - not to be further away, but to be able to look at their face & make eye contact. I guess because I'm tall, and most places have fairly small tables, I don't have any difficulty leaning in for a more intimate conversation. The idea of a gentle touch on the forearm or thigh sends shivers of anticipation up my spine - definitely not too subtle in my opinion - but I'd get the message with touching hands across the table. Oh and just to clarify - I'm assuming we've met for a drink because we liked the electronic communication, so the message I'd get from the touch would be that my friend was not turned off meeting me in person and was enjoying themselves - I'd want something a little more explicit before I asked "so when do we shag"
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RHP User
17 years ago
It's a bit of a worry if they sit at another table. But then garlic breath will do that.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I think it all depends on if there is an attraction there or not...and i think one can generally tell if it is mutual. If there is attraction i tend to wanna sit rite next the guy, more opportunity for a little flirting such as a hand on the leg etc... And u r also given that opportunity to whisper sweet nothings without everyone else around potentialy listening in on ur convo. But then on the other hand if there is no attraction i will sit opposite, as i wldnt want to give the guy the wrong impression or think he may have an opportunity. So in saying that i will generally sit where im comfy and wif the idea in mind of wot i wont to get out of the meet.
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RHP User
17 years ago
i agree with Tina on this one also..xxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
First meet/Date: Sit directly opposite. Second Meet/Date: again sit opposite, but half way thru the night, sit beside her Third Meet/Date: With her on my lap :P Of course, every female i meet, is different, so these rules do not generally apply. It might be all three in the first date! :P
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RHP User
17 years ago
When we go to dinner next, we hope to sit opposite you and stare into those beautiful eyes and waiting patiently for the raised eyebrow with a smile. WINK, WINK!!!!!!!!.....lol Grav n Leelee xxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
sitting opposite means I can look into your eyes - which is all that is needed really!
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RHP User
17 years ago
so I guess saying that she can SIT ON MY FACE and I'll tell her a story. Is not what ya after bwahahahahhahaa This post has been sniped ZZ
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RHP User
17 years ago
This is a question I have asked myself also, I agree with LeeLee, sit across from the person, keep eye contact, and converstation, too begin with. You can always play footsies and everyone feels comfortable. Men get as nervous as you hun, even though most won't admit it too you, or even themselves...after all it is a feeling PMSL....JOKES MALE RHP'ers xx Wet xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would have to sit opposite, purely for the fact that it is easier to talk to someone when you can look them directly in the face. And as much as this may sound strange, in public I think I would be a little shy about sitting next to someone, especially is there is an easily identifiale age difference. Just other peoples perceptions bug me (as much as they shouldn't), until I was well and truly comfortable around someone. I think hints can come in many forms, not just a gentle touch on the leg. Hands can be touched over the table, and body language can be hints enough. Just my opinion.... I am a shy-ish guy... and am more into subtlety in public, and straight-forwardness in private.. Lol.
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RHP User
17 years ago
dont go for coffee go to the pub and get so hammered together that you just blurt out i wanna shag you then go shag easy
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RHP User
17 years ago
It doesnt really matter where you sit..... Body Language is 73% of our communication..... A wonderful thing to learn to read other ppls movements,poise,gestures..... Im very much into the Body Language & I use it to my advantage also.... Alan Peas has some good books on the subject.... I had to learn about it for the work I did & now realise it is a huge part of my communication...... dazichane
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RHP User
17 years ago
swan u should have gone to the ball with smellypete,that wooda been fun!!!!
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playfulhorse
17 years ago
well, you should sit wherever the best line of sight straight down your skirt is for him. And no, we don't want you to wear panties. And keep your legs apart. That will do the trick. Playful
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RHP User
17 years ago
nice reply sneakypinkzz, i like your sense of humour nibbles oh and id sit opposite, watch their face expressions, but nothing like a good up the skirt flash now and then :)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hi Ang: together in a spa, in a public space. We'd have to lean close to hear each other over the sound of the bubbly pump, or else sit opposite to enjoy the touch of each other's legs as we face each other, and then we'd go have a shag or three ... awesome memories, call again x
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RHP User
17 years ago
Interesting topic Angie, I have pondered this, and thought back to various encounters over the years, mostly with swinging and meeting couples, and have to say that the most succesful dates were the ones where I was sitting next to the lady , or around the corner. The least succesfull were when directly opposite, I think that is refered to as the "combative zone" especially when you are with a group of people, and round tables are more conducive than square. As far as touching of the arm or hand I never read much into that, other than she is a touchy feely sort of person, but then over the years, I suspect like lots of blokes I have missed some really obvious cues to, Doh! Especially when the venue is crowded and noisy(to distracting) Women are mostly to subtle, and guys to shy I think. cheers Nev
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RHP User
17 years ago
bahhh screw subtle, lets get plastered!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
i would be happy for you to sit on my lap , that would move things along nicely.
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RHP User
17 years ago
i prefer to stand.. so i can pace up and down waving my finger and gesticulating while i lecture her on the evils of strong drink and low levels of personal hygine.. women apreciate my tipps.. LRE
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RHP User
17 years ago
On a first date.. sit opposite - i like to see a persons true reactions and read their body language. These are both easier from front on.. Second date.. sit opposite for dinner.. then move to a nice little lounge bar with funky low volume tunes so u can talk and hear without yelling, where i can sit next to her and start making any moves u may want to make, such as gentle touching of arm when laughing, rubbing of legs, etc. (u may do this after the first date, depending on the other party and what u have read of their intentions) Third date (if not yet shagging) .. if it starts with dinner, then a place with a booth so we can sit on the same side and start showing signs of intent for the night, from the beginning.. (if u dont have signs of intimacy with them after third date, u have to start asking.. will u ever? .. and is it worth taking it further?) Cheers Groover
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RHP User
17 years ago
There are some men Angel dear that the minute you meet them you wish you could just sit on their face :) Best seat in the house often Dev xx PS And onlywith one so far did I wish that in the hope of suffocating him him
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RHP User
17 years ago
How could you not agree with Swann?
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RHP User
17 years ago
Opposite definately.. then after that, if all good the face sounds like a good proposition :) Mrs H
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RHP User
17 years ago
Still one of the best presented arses I've ever seen. does it still look that good????
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sit near the door so you can do a runner and leave her with the bill if you want to. btw... whoa lippy.... check out that gazpacho40 guy.. wooohoo! hehe. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Because we meet as a couple, we like a 4 sided table so we can sit opposite each other and whether it's 1 or 2 that joins us, they will be sitting between us effectively.Don't like booths where we have to sit 2 facing 2. But the round booths could be a lot of fun if we'd met before and felt confident, very cosy...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think taking a seat on the man's lap is long overdue. There ought to be more spontanious lap dancing. You just do not see that any more. What is wrong with people these days huh? Everybody has ot be so formal and serious.... it's not like you are going for a job interview... your looking for an intriguing sexual partner... where you sit is completely irrelevent I would have thought... loosen up... move your chair, do that sexy thing you do with your hair. Swish a little... stroke some forearm... play tootsies... all the things you do not do in a job interview. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Sit near the door so you can do a runner and leave her with the bill if you want to. btw... whoa lippy.... check out that gazpacho40 guy.. wooohoo! hehe. Hugs Stalky I...read....I saw...I read s'more....I went back for a second, third...look De'je' vu!! ps: heading out this weekend for a tete-a-tete so will test out your suggestions as to where to position myself..I was going to say...his face!!.. ever so glad I read this post!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho40'Sit at the bar on a bar stool... we can rub shoulders, I can look down your frock... and plaster you with alcohol... you are going to need it anyway. :) Well, that's how I used to think. Ima changed man. Now Im going to sit next to you at the coffee table so you can do those subtle things if you are interested. You might have to tell me you wanna root though... just to make sure I get it... but after that I'll be fine. What can I say... Im shy! Im well known for my 'so many men...so little memory' condition, however I am experiencing a tickle of recognition...or perhaps I just need another course of canesten....I blame recycled lingerie...
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RHP User
16 years ago
oops,,, forgot i was just watching,,, but hear hear to " more spontanious lap dancing" ,,, so it dose follow,, it is important where you sit!
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RHP User
16 years ago
lmfao Lips! Sit on his face... hehehe. that's perfect! You know.... a funny thing happened to other day... someone had misplaced a mint! lmfao... I nearly fell over, legs kicking in the air... I could hardly breath I was laughing so hard. Brilliant. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
After all, one must ensure a fresh 'breath' in order to make a good first impression Oh and Stalky....budgies smugglers? I beg to differ, that aint no budgie... starling perhaps?....No....definately a gallah....lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah, well a pirate's gotta have a parrot, myname. Arrrrrrrgh. I wonder do they let pirates in to hellfire? Hugs stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
They let anyone in as long as they are dressed in gear, but just to make sure, dress ya parrot in leather chaps and a hat.... OH...having a visual.....random outburst of uncontrolled laughter....ROOUL!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I bring super glue to all my sit down invitees--theres no escaping that wonderful first meeting lol
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