M59 F55
Who Knows?
September 27 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
like you we have two almost completely separate lives; one 'vanilla', one not. We'd like to be more open but there are some powerful social taboos at work preventing that for most except the bravest!
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RHP User
14 years ago
If they're sensible.. they wont cross fertilise. People are entitled to their dirty little secrets so even whn I do recognise someone, I pretend I dont know who they are.HUgsStalky
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Letsgetcrazy09
14 years ago
Quoting Stalky "I pretend I dont know who they are" Yes I think that is the best. And we all have our little quirks whether they be sexual or other that noone know about. And do they really need to know? Does it impact on them? No of course not. Don't muddy the waters. Oh and what a surprise to find Sis on here too........hehehe Keep it kinky Lets
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RHP User
14 years ago
Only one person in my life knows I am on here, the person who got me to join! Apparently she saw straight through the repsectable vanilla shell that I appear to have on the outside... In my real life my best friends would be mortified at the thought of me on here so it's best not to tell them. I dread to think the lectures I would get! I think the person who would be most horrified would be my ex husband, which is ironic considering how I met him lol. Easier to keep the 2 worlds very separate and hope they never clash
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a mate who knows and that's about it, he's similar to me and we both have enough dirt on each other that gossip is a no no.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Couple of my mates know of my account on this site, but as I have said to them, yes, it's a sex site, but none the less, is still a site where you meet ppl. Not everyone uses it strictly for pick ups etc, some like myself have used to to forge friendships that have lasted over time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am fortunate to have a couple of fabulous friends who NEVER judge. One who has played in the scene previously and loved it but has since moved on. The other is single and loves hearing the details. Must admit though that we don't exactly give much detail. Like the others, I feel to mix my playtime with my business or family life would just be weird and potentially dangerous. Besides, there is nothing sexier than being able to whisper a sexual indulgence in your lovers ear while at the dinner table at your very stait in-laws house Kisses T
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RHP User
14 years ago
Like a few other poster's before me, I too have one close mate who knows of my adventures on here and doesn't judge me for it.. As far as everyone else knows I'm a "good little boy"..For me the reason for separation is mainly family (religious) and a few friends who'd be shocked and horrified if they ever found out about my sex-capades. Which has proven rather problematic when catching up with couples at times as I have housemates who are not aware.. "Hang on a minute, was that one voice or two?..." Si xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I like who I am / what I do, and I don't care who knows or what they may think :)
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platinumblonde69
14 years ago
Hmmm...Its quite funny because in real life my personality is very much what I portray in here...I make sexual references which crack people up and say things that everyone at work is thinking, but too gutless to say...haha...My boss even went on stress leave after one such incident....(hopefully it was just a coincidence...)...I have two close friends who know my "other life" but not the fact Im on a sex site....I think the hardest thing was a few years back, winning Red Hot Pics here, three months in a row...OMG...How exciting....But..who could I tell???...NOONE...hahaha...I guess they are the drawbacks of living a double life....
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RHP User
14 years ago
i have a brother and a cousin on here who know.. brother n sister in law who i think are aware..and a couple of personal friends, some workmates and a neighbour....who all know its us......Shel has a friend who knows, and a couple of workmates who know and who are also on here..........we have also bumped into the owner of a local gym we were members of....he knows its us....and a couple of guys from the local shops...who we know...we dont hide any of it, as we are both quite open and honest with anyone who asks...its just sex, its just play....we do nothing we'd ever be ashamed of ..... and besides, as soon as its warm, we are off to the nude beach...again, something we hide from no-one.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My sister-in-law n mum knows..I told them I was on a swingers site but I do not swing..Just that I find the people fun and interesting than the school mum's.... It did not surprise them at all as I have always been able to meet younger men even without this site. I had a lover for 8 months ( he 23 and myself 41)... My sister-in-law thought it was awesome...but my brother was disgusted..LOL.. He is too square for me to talk to him about much at all..My mum is just lovely and loves me just the way I am.. She has even met a couple of close friends. But saying that..Only 1 trusted GF knows I am on here and she evens wants to come to a meet n greet with me. What I do is my business and others don't need to know other than a few very trusted souls. huggies sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Innercircle
14 years ago
we dont go out of our way to tell anyone, but a lot of our friends know after a certain gossip let it out. Nothing to be ashamed at, so it's not really an issue.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Everyone knows what we do!!! Proud to own ci and proud of what we do, as what we do is not trashy or nasty, no one needs to know exactly what anyone gets up to sexually, it is no ones business but your own. But I must say it does upset me sometimes when people tell us not to say anything about the club if we go to "normal parties" of course not talking about family gatherings as everyone in our families are fine with our lifestyle choice, I am talking about " friends" parties, you see they seem to think if we say we own a swingers club it means that they go there!!!!!! Well I say to you all, just because you are a doctor and I know you doesn't mean I go to your surgery, just because I know a lawyer or a prostitute, doesn't mean I go to them either, I am proud of who I am and how honest we are in our lives, and totally understand how people need to keep this lifestyle quiet for reasons of their own, but what I need to say to you all........if you go to a club and it is a little quiet one night, sit back and remember this......if you don't tell people about a club because you are ashamed of attending....how will word of mouth get around about a club aNd how people's biased attitude about swinging ever change!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I havent told anyone that i am on this site, I think that its better to live a double life, more excitement of the secrecy, i was nearly caught out by my hubby when i had a lover comming to my home, but things have settled down and no more questions asked. I think keep the 2 seperate is best. deliteme2
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'deliteme2' I havent told anyone that i am on this site, I think that its better to live a double life, more excitement of the secrecy, i was nearly caught out by my hubby when i had a lover comming to my home, but things have settled down and no more questions asked. I think keep the 2 seperate is best. deliteme2we told nobody..but were discovered anyway....so came clean. we dont conceal anything, as we've found that if you play the game honestly.. it doesnt come back and bite you.......
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am not ashamed of who I am or what I do. My daughters know...one was on here with me. Actually she introduced me to RHP. My mother knows. Not much of a generation gap in our family. Most of the kids in my house know. No secrets here. I have a ten year old computer hacker so nothing can remain a secret. Assorted friends...I certainly dont advertise being on here but neither do I hide it. Funnily enough my on line life seems to hold endless facination for several of my women friends. They certainly dont get all the down and dirty details but they would like to.
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DonnaBrett
14 years ago
Pretty much all of our regular friends know what we do...and most work mates. Family don't know..although some would not be shocked. We figure if anyone has a problem...it's their problem not ours. None of our friends have ever been negative about it..some have even come over to the darkside to try it out(and no it has'nt affected our friendships in the slightest. WE are hopeless liars..just too hard to lead a double life...thus..in our profile we use real names, real ages and real photos...what you see is what you get! LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
.... pretty much all the people that know me well enough know. Basically all my good friends a couple of close workmates... my whole family doesn't really know but then I don't really talk to them about my sex life... my mum knows though.... but I do spare her SOME details..... lol.. ;). I don't really see any reason to hide it from people.. and if they judge then thats their problem but I'm proud of who I am.... I have found ne way that most of my friends ( especially my married friends) are loving hearing my weekly updates of gossip ;) xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Very much living the vanilla life when not on here... Normally we live the family' friends life quite happily' but once we get on here out comes the devilish side of our character where we can be daring and uninhibitedMe thinks' even the ppl out there in vanilla land have their dark side but will never know theres a way to release it.. Sharing with likeminded ppl has to be the ultimate way of expressing yourself... its called sharing for forfillment...
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RHP User
14 years ago
The Lucky ones My Besties friends I share all my parts of my life with ........ they love it & of course He the one im not seeing anymore!We can all thank him for me joining rhpas I did it to piss him offlol gotta love that ..................... I'm still here So for me ....... I choose who I tell xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I keep it all on the down low.... ....but sometimes people find out , then I have them killed
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RHP User
14 years ago
you dont wanna be the friend of a gangsta
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RHP User
14 years ago
also if theyre not wild enough in bed I have them wacked too , its turning into a bad habit
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RHP User
14 years ago
Great topic.. so close to all of us.. Thanks DeliciousCplBris.I have told my closest friend about this site. He is married. Him, his wife and I all work in the same office, same company. But he will never tell anybody else. Also due to the Huge clientele that we deal with in our profession, I do have to keep it pretty "vanilla"Wish I could share with more, because I have met some of the most amazing people on here. Nxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'deliteme2' I havent told anyone that i am on this site, I think that its better to live a double life, more excitement of the secrecy, i was nearly caught out by my hubby when i had a lover comming to my home, but things have settled down and no more questions asked. I think keep the 2 seperate is best. deliteme2Surely having your pic up might be a slight giveaway? not that I'm complaining ;-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Quoting 'FunTimeLover' For me the reason for separation is mainly family (religious) All I can say is "Bless Me Father For I Have Sinned"Chilli xxon a serious note, people without the well meaning but totally whacko religious family members have NO IDEA why it is best to just keep it a fun secret to enjoy while walking on the dark side... And need to be punished?.... Oh, blessed be, the ways I could 'help' you child... FTL xxBtw, very nicely put.. :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I guess really everyone that I talk to knows...And I mean *talk to*So, no, my mother doesn't know, but I haven't had a civilised conversation with her in over a decade, so I'm not going to go out of my way to tell her (although it might hurry up that heart attack I'm hoping she has :P )But my friends know, both of my workplaces/bosses know, my son and his girlfriend know... *shrug* I'd much rather be honest than have to keep track of what I've told whom... I guess that's the theory by which I treat all aspects of my life... if I'm not ashamed to do it, why would I be ashamed to talk about it?
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LoveFrenzy
14 years ago
So between you, me and the RHP gatepost we generally keep our lifestyle pretty much a secret. We have made one exception with some very close vanilla friends and they are now always interested in our adventures (names protected of course).Maybe before we became swingers we might have been a little judgmental ourselves. It is only when go through that big bad swingers door that you realise for yourself what it is all about.We do think that there are a lot of people out there who would really like to give it a go but are just too scared, so their safety mechanism is to condemn it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Funnily enough two guy friends. One is totally platonic and I delight in turning his cheeks red with tales of my latest adventures.The other is a very old friend of mine that I have known since my early 20's... He is now an FB hehehe... After our first bonk I showed him Annabella's profile and he so TOTALLY didn't think it was me! So now when we hook up I have to make sure "Annabella" really heats things up for him! I trust these two guys with my life.xxxx Anna xxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
In my ideal world I wish we could tell everyone because I hate secrets. The other thing I hate is the awkwardness of mixing friends from both "lives" We have made some life long friends from this site and inevitably I talk about those friends to my vanilla ones... It's the "so how do you know/where did you meet them?" question that leaves me stumped... But until some sexual revolution happens I have only 4 friends who know... and I dare say my mum suspects but has never asked! xxx Mrs Sassy
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RHP User
14 years ago
My best mates I still hang around with from high school know, and most of my work mates at my fifo site, but I keep it on the down low" when meeting new ppl :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
we have one life. and live it quite happily.....if people know we 'play' then so what? its our business after all...we dont judge anybody around us, and dont particularly care one way or the other who judges us. while we dont go out of our way to tell all and sundry, we dont hide the fact, when found out and questioned..its no biggie. if it offends anyone. well thats just too sad, they'll get over it...or not...lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The reality is that the RHP members are only indulging in what the rest of the populace is fantasizing about....... Indulge & Enjoy!
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RHP User
14 years ago
A friends husband who is also on here, when they were experiencing a downturn in the sex in their marriage i suggested the site to him, now we are both on here. We lust after each other but wont go their cause of the friendship we have with each others spouses, so rhp and my life as a deviate is a secret to everyone but the people on here.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My sister and my best friend know I am on RHP...we swap notes so we don't fuck the same man..and I guess we would swap notes if we did too :-) What I do in the bedroom does not make me what I am day to day...I function in a perfectly "normal" way day to day in a professional ethos.....In the bedroom???? The gloves are off. Sex isn't love anymore than love is sex.... I can love having sex with someone...and apparently I can love someone without having sex with them.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting: hard_task_master The reality is that the RHP members are only indulging in what the rest of the populace is fantasizing about....... Indulge & Enjoy! *big grin*
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contemplating1
14 years ago
The devil knows I'm here.......... God bless him!.............
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RHP User
14 years ago
which is a contradiction in some ways. All our friends know we swing and that im a bi fem, but only those that know me well , know the sexual kinks ....... or those sexy friends that have been there with me/us
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RHP User
14 years ago
most of our friends and family know were on here.... we dont flaunt it, but hide the wifes bi-ness from anyone either....bout the only ones that dont know are our younger kids.. our older ones (16+) know shes bi, and dont really care... its just life.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well, there is business and then there is pleasure... Trust me, not good to mix both (yes! that includes doing it on the bosses table)The people I have met in person have met the real me and thats what counts to me and most likely them too.A mate knows that I'm here. I'm sure others do too, but wont say anything as they probably dont want me to know..If you do know me... say "hi" ! :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Not many people know I enjoy the watching couples and joining or having thoughts of bi mfm encounters. Very secret I must admit
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RHP User
14 years ago
seeing as ive only been in australia for a year noone knows ive got an account but at the end of the day its my business and if i was asked out right why deny it my only concern is i have a 16 yr old son who lives with me he doesnt need to know about his dads picadillos he will eventually grow up and have his own but everyone deserves privacy and sites like this are for like minded adults so live and let live but i dont think i would activelly lie to hide it be true to yourself and be happy
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RHP User
14 years ago
We couldn't give a damn who knows. We want a big red RHP sticker to stick on the car. Although some of you are secretive for all sorts of cautionary reasons that best suits yourselves and the opinions of significant others...you really ought not be ashamed about who you are. Could you really be any different?
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RHP User
14 years ago
of the birds and the bees...
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RHP User
14 years ago
A few of our friends know we are more open minded than the average bear and others know nothing. That is part of the reason we spend time on here is to find more likeminded people
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think most of my close friends know and my sister. I am normally shy in person but if I know u, u know I am abit cock crazy and am very open. This site allows me to fish around for buddies and that can be hard to find if u r clubbing because I have never picked up lol. Always the weirdos not the ones with the sexy bodies. My face is in all my pics so people I may know could find out but it does not really bother me :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Like Katie - im from townsville too - and being a small city - knowing lots - i try to keep my RHP antics low key and off the radar... but its fun to meet / play with ppl even randoms from here - then "bump" into them - sometimes with their other halfs (not knowing about it) and just gettin eye contact and walking past with a cheeky grin :) discrete and fun - 2 good words to keep the RHP naughty times seperate from vanilla world
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RHP User
14 years ago
Being a tranny in a small country town I only have a couple of friends and they know everything that I do or want to do one was my last girlfriend when I was a man.
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tomrach79
14 years ago
We thought no one knew anything until we chatted with a couple and they recognised us from work! Luckily they were as mortified as us. Turns out the girls are friends and work fairly closely together! So we got together and had a great night. So apart from them, no one knows our dirty little secret! Its quite exciting really. Giggling inside when people speak hypothetically about having orgies with people but "no way, not with my wife!". haha, if only they knew.
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RHP User
14 years ago
No way on Gods earth would I tell my regular friends or any family members.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Havin a secret kinky sex encounters are way more fun and interesting
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have 2 friends who are not in "the scene" who know... 1 who is fazed by nothing, and the other who found out by accident (but then suprised me by telling me she was interested in getting into it also!)... (MRS) Foreverlove
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RHP User
14 years ago
We live in a small country town, and Hubby totally loves the fact that I perve on all of the hot, innocent, country gals around me....do they know that hubby and I want to fuck them senseless, and teach them 10 different ways to achieve an orgasm? So - we quietly grin to each other, and squeeze each other's hands when a woman in a nice floral dress or denim shorts bends over in front of us....oh how I wish we could tell them....I also have lots of friends here that i would love to "cross the line" with - but - i'm not sure how to make the move....any ideas?My sister knows i'm bi - and totally supports me for that, and one of my best friends in Tasmania has admitted that she too is bi, but her hubby won't let her do anything about it. She was invited by a female couple for a threesome, and he flipped his lid, so - she did nothing, despite her desire. My hubby lets me be with other women - it has only happened once, but....i'm hoping it happens again soon enough!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've met on here. Oh and my ex-wife (on here), umm, and a woman I work with found my profile. Did point, umm, you're on here to. Oh and nice umm, photo. Gave us a laugh and something to talk about.
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RHP User
14 years ago
When i first joined no one really....since being on here for 7 or so months now l have learnt that open sexuality is something to be celebrated and not hidden...lf l am asked, l tell....at the end of the day if they have a problem with it, it's there's and not mine. xxxxSpirit
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RHP User
14 years ago
My Aunt who put me onto this site and my sister inlaw I am not ashamed or embarrased to be here, But just cautious..
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RHP User
14 years ago
u never told me bout your sister .... describe her is she as hot as you ? lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nobody, it's double-life like for most others.. However, it seems to be normal as society we live in still sees sex as something that should not be enjoyed - unless just with one and the same person at all times (well - not more often that necessary obviously :-) We were born in the wrong era, in times of ancient Rome and Greece regular orgies where sexual fantasies were on display were on the social calendar ;-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Only one person knows im on here and they introduced me to the site. I keep the naughty and nice parts of my life as far apart as they can get.
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