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Why so threatened?
January 21 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
They are uneducated? Or most likely they have a secret interest in men and it scares them. ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't see the same profiles saying "I'm not into women, so don't bother contacting me if you're one of them". I assume guys would just ignore/delete messages from women they're not interested in. Not sure why they can't do the same for messages from men. Curiouser and curiouser :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Obviously have insecurities when it comes to their sexuality. There is a gay guy that has me on his hot list and he checks out my profile regularly. When I mentioned this to someone recently they suggested I could block him. I couldn't see the point, what harm is he doing? Plus he makes my statistics look better. :-D
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi guys, Nice thread... As for my opinion - whilst I'm pretty sure I'd be classed as 'straight', I'm happy to receive any attention that I can get! haha It's tough enough for guys on here as it is, so any flirts / messages / profile checks are quite flattering, and I'm in no-way offended. I just provide a polite response or wink in return, thanking them for their attention. It's only if someone becomes abusive or persistent that I would word a stronger message - however this would apply to anyone. I think it's a bit presumptious to have any wording in your profile warning people off - it automatically assumes that you'll be receiving attention... which is more than a touch conceited! My two cents anyway...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I read once that purely heterosexual and purely gay is actually a rarity and that most of usl sit somewhere on a scale between the extremes. When I started a thread on the subject, asking people to try to place themselves on that scale, we were inundated with males saying that they sat at '0' (zero) as in completely heterosexual. Certainly some of them may be but it is more likely that they are unwilling to acknowledge their own 'curiosity'. In my younger years, I must admit that I was very defensive and sensitive about having my sexuality put in question as I did have some curiosity about gay interaction. I felt far more comfortable when I acknowledged this about myself and realised that it was curiosity about the act as I do not find other men attractive or arousing. Just for the record, I placed myself as a '2' on the scale as I'm not repulsed by the notion of male to male play and have 'crossed swords' with another man when Jennylee was the meat in the sandwich.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Perhaps it's not (always) homophobia... perhaps its just that men are far (far!) less tolerant of being treated the way they treat women (not that all tv's and gay men behave like that, but some can be *ahem* persistent).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Good point, and one I hadn't thought of at all! I completely accept the possibility that men can be 100% straight. I'd consider myself to be 99.99% straight, which is close enough for me. I also accept that they might put comments like that on their profile due to homophobia and/or fear of their own desires. I was convinced there could be more to it though, and now you've really given me something to think about :) So I imagine men might feel OK being treated as a 'piece of meat' here by women, maybe, but perhaps less so by other men. If that's the case, I wonder if it also has something to do with dominance - if a woman objectifies and dominates a man, most of the time he knows he can put a stop to it if he wants. With other men though ... perhaps a little bit of fear about vulnerability?
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RHP User
13 years ago
FEAR....of perhaps being tempted,fear of what they don't understand,perhaps as jman said,they may not be comfortable with their sexuality yet.
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cbdlivin
13 years ago
This reaction of males to other males even looking at their profile seems to bring out the worse in some guys. I have not quite worked out whether they think being bi/gay is contagious and you can catch it from the computer, or that they are so totally irresistible that all the boys will be after them, and they won't be safe. Some couples are good at having the same reaction, which I put down to the male half. Unwanted attention such as constant messages I could understand would be annoying and that is why we can block.In the end I just ignore these people their hang ups are their own and unfortunately a closed mind will always be a closed mind.B
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RHP User
13 years ago
Because we aren't looking for single men, we're interested in other couples. We just let them know in our profile what we are and aren't looking for. Sure we still get messages and flirts from men and we will reply with a simple "thanks but no thanks" message. MFM just doesn't float Ms Otori's boat.
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RHP User
13 years ago
From experience 99% of people on this site are respectfull of your preferences and the non straight even more so, the other 1% are dropkicks. I do IT work occasionally (mostly data recovery when things go fubar) and have on several occasions found bi or gay or lesbian pics on computers of people who i knew were quite anti gay in real life. Most people know what they are interested in and are comfortable with that. Some aren't so sure or feel uncomfortable with the concept for a lot of reasons, mostly caused by a lack of exposure. And for others the very idea screws with their world view and sense of self identity despite the guys loving lesbians in porn. Despite having bi-curious (i like the term heteroflexible better) on our profile we haven't had any adverse issues from the ultrastaight. Mark & Vixen- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
just don't like their butts touched as much as others do!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe these poor guys are having the same problem the girls always complain about, ie men don't read profiles and so they are trying to make it clearer Personally, I would have thought based on the many posts over the years, many guys on this site would love getting a message, any message
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm sure they are trying to make it clearer. It's what they say and the way they say it that prompted my question. They probably get messages from women they're not interested in as well but you don't see them telling the women to stop pissing them off. I must admit I was hoping one of the guys with such comments on their profile would pop onto this forum and enlighten me. Ever optimistic ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
'fear' or 'misconception' maybe? i have a cpl of friends who are trans...and while i dont see them as attractive options sexually, i'm not so confused by my own or their sexuality that it concerns me one way or the other... i enjoy sex with people i find appealing and physically attractive, and thus far thats been 'manly' men and 'feminine' women... perhaps if everything lined up, and the 'right' person presented themselves, i'd feel differently...but thats not happened, and as we actively seek other things... its not likely.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mesolongi' Perhaps it's not (always) homophobia... perhaps its just that men are far (far!) less tolerant of being treated the way they treat women (not that all tv's and gay men behave like that, but some can be *ahem* persistent).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Obviously have insecurities when it comes to their sexuality. There is a gay guy that has me on his hot list and he checks out my profile regularly. When I mentioned this to someone recently they suggested I could block him. I couldn't see the point, what harm is he doing? Plus he makes my statistics look better. :-D Lol!! FunloverI agree, I get loads of couples looking my profile, big deal, I know who I am and what I want, I'll take it as a compliment.
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