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Why why why are men so unkind?
November 23 2008
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well, it's simple isnt it? I mean, it's difficult to concentrate on any intelligent conversation when someone leaps out of the darkness rubbing her pussy and tits all over a web cam, and whether she is stroking her ego or not is irrelevant. No doubt this ploy of hers is an attention seeking device that seems to be working for some women. As for getting sex, we men are not known for our big picture plans by looking months ahead. That kind of consideration takes foresight and even though the all seeing eye is a one eye, please be aware that cyclops also only had one eye... as does Mr spanky... and Mr spanky seems to enjoy seeing women rubbing thier tits on webcam... rather than have a conversation. lmfao... I dunno. It wasnt me!
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RHP User
17 years ago
hey Miss Phoenix do you really think men are actually unkind or just plain shallow?? i tend to think more they are shallow and as has been said before, when they think with the wee head the big one zones out.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I essence Phoenix, because people are shallow !!! Every single one of us in some way or other have a shallow pit into which we slide. Most of us scamper out quickly before it is noticed. Whilst, sadly, others wallow there quite contently, totally oblivious to the hurt they inflict and the damage they leave in their wake. But then, of course they are oblivious. They are Shallow !!! It happens to guys too. How many times do you hear women asking where are all the nice, decent guys ? Yet they insist on taking off with the arseholes every time ! they don't give a second look to the very type of guys they are looking for. It's a shame Phoenix, but it is life. On the up side, you now know how shallow these guys are ! so you are lucky to have found out what complete and utter one-stroke wankers they !!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
or maybe u are just chating to the wrong blokes
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RHP User
17 years ago
Xpatkiwi hit the nail. Sure, shallow, ego, sex in the brain.. etc etc.,. but it all comes down to the one thing. WHO you talk to. If a guy suddenly drop you off as soon as a chick comes in being a slut.. then these guys wont be worth the money. Mainly because they are really.. stupid. Think about it. What are the chances are for these guys to get a date wif that chick who being slutty on cam? ZERO!!!>. and when they find out they got rejected, they come back to you (mm rebound? surely not!). AND it is THEN they realized (assuming they can realize things) that they fucked up. cos YOU in turn will say "Nope sorry.. yer rejected me.. so i rejected you.. " If you can find just ONE guy.. just ONE guy.... still have a good intellectual conversation with possible leadings .. and not get distracted by a chick flashing her sagging boobs... then YOU know.. as Xpatkiwi states, its all about who you meet. or maybe simply put: What women wants / What men cannot think what they want.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Miss Phoenix Have to agree with wetnkinky on this one......it's the little head that needs attention especially when a woman on cam is flashing her tits, ass etc... Personally, I like to leave as much to the imagination as possible. A little mystery goes a long way, as does humour. Just keep doing what your doing honey, coz those women who need to flash their tits, obviously don't have a sparkling personality like yours. :-)
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RHP User
17 years ago
It's Gods cruel joke, he only gave us mere males enough blood to operate one head at a time.Lol.
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RHP User
17 years ago
< Annoyed at the suggestion that women who flash and play on cam are sluts etc. You have to be kidding people??!! Have a bit of a think about that one hey? RHP is a swingers site, or even a sex site, some would say. It's primarily about sex - people come here to be sexual, find sex, watch sex, imagine having sex with other people on here, to hook up and actually have sex with other people on here etc. The suggestion that women who play on cam are slutty, or that men who do the same are, is more a reflection on the person who said it than the women and men, in my opinion. Miss Phoenix, I think the answer to your question is in the fact that this is fundamentally a sex site. When a man logs on and goes into adult chat (assuming your situation relates to the adult room), his mind is usually on sex, in some form or another. I've been visiting the adult rooms for about 8 months and have definitely found this to be true - I've been in similar converstations and had men move on to chicks who are flashing. However, I've also seen men talk for ages to 1-2 regular, fully clothed chicks without moving on to nudie cams. Connections like that seem to build up over time in chat. Real relating, real connection, real respect ... seems to belong in the real world, not in the artificially hyped up cyber sex world that is rhp. The state rooms are an alternative of course, no flashing usually, plenty of chat, good fun, connections etc - maybe try there ;)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Why is it that girls who get on cam arae considered men stealers bimbos with 'sagging tits' They have every right to get on cam and do their thing, this doesnt mean that they are incapable of holding a conversation, the kind of site this is allows for them to live out a fantasy of their own and hve fellas drool over them. off cam they are nice as u or I, on cam they are hot, sexy and and strutt their stuff. I say good luck to them if u got it flaunt it. I just had some pics taken that i think are very sexy and i am hoping to put them on my profile cos i am proud of them. I hope the fellas look at them and drool and yet i have had many an intelligent conversation and snagged my partner with my brain not my ass.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Its because these women who get on cam and do what they do are simply seeking attention. You can be dressed on cam and guys chat but soon as someone who regularly gets on cam and flashes and entertains them your forgotten. Or guys generally think all us women are the same and will show them what they want. I doubt half the guys in here actually get sex as they are generally cam wankers only. Same with the females. To me they are cock teasers. I can see why most the guys go off and abuse some off the women. We can bright and interlligent women but most guys are after easy women. Because that way they get what they want. Where as a intelligent woman is not so easy to give them what they want Miss_Phoenix stay who you are and don't lower your standards if these guys want to be like let them shows they have no respect or brains.. Well there brain is the one they wank and when that blows the brain goes TIT
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RHP User
17 years ago
Quote: Where as a intelligent woman is not so easy to give them what they want Does that mean that because i like to have fun on cam i am not intelligent> There are reasons why some of us ladies like to play on cam, and it is our right to do so. If we feel we wish to play we will, we will not be told by the guys what to do and most of us are very clear about that. We simply go on cam for US and no one else. It is about US and No one else.. This does not make us less of a person than those that dont show or play on cam. There are days when i am happy to just chat and have great conversations, but on other days if i am feeling a bit naughty i can CHOOSE to play. This lifestyle is about choices and no one should judge or criticize anyone for making a choice they are comfy with. Worry about yourselves and stop consuming time worrying about what others are doing. I am curious at some of the comments that have been made here. That is all i have to say.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Toughen the fuck up is what i say, its a sex site, thats what happens on here, you dont like it, fuck off, or you jelous that someone else is getting the attention apart from you. If someone wants to cam let them, its what this site is all about.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Toughen the fuk up and get ova it...u girlies who dog other woman for going on cam and strutting there stuff are either jealous or ashamed of their own bodies, so dont have the balls to do it yourself. This is a sex site....if you want sex put yourself out there....if you want an intellectual chat and coffee go do that instead. But dont dog other ppl for performing on cam, it is their right, and if the viewers are enjoying it and getting off on it then the sex site is doing its job. So harden the fuk up you lot....if you dont like it, dont go into chat, fukn simple.
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RHP User
17 years ago
So a guy talks to you then goes off to watch another girl play?? Get over it! That's what guys do! They are visual creatures...so let them be! And from reading what you sometimes write in chat...you say you want a guy thats hot and can get you off....hmm....that says alot about you too. So before you go bagging out the guys and the girls they watch...take a look at yourself...and ask yourself if you are someone YOU would want to be with.
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RHP User
17 years ago
there are a few thing that I agree on in yur post yet there are many I think are just off the wall. Firstly, I think you may have some body issues as most women do. the question is wether or not you accept those so called flaws or embrace them.. the thing that women don't get is that confidence is the most sexy thing EVER!! its not about body shape or size 95% of the time.. Just like women we have our own tastes. We also have to choice to change channels.. if you like it watch it.. if you don't change the farken channel. I have been on a few sites before this one where it was all text based conversation but I found that there was alot of mis-truths in those conversations. For example I met a lady after a very long time conversing only to find her pictures were 20 years old and she was missing 4 front teeth!! A cam would of saved me a big journey which was meant to be for sex! The female form is a beautiful thing draped or undraped and those who choose to express themselves undraped should not be pigeon holed as sluts in any way shape or form.. RHP is safe sex.. there is no contact but can almost be as much fun as the real thing... Those who are sexually free does not make them sexually irresponsible.. the clubs I have gone to have always provided safe sex products... in fact its made very clear that they should be used. and remember your in a sex site forum not a christian dating service where pre maritial sex is banished. If your looking for more then maybe look at a different site. Also in the chat room when its busy it is very easy to miss text and think ohh well they may have gone.. its not unusual. The site should be taken with a pinch of salt and a box of tissues lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
Phoenix... This is REDHOTPIE You gotta think.. Why are we here? Why do guys pay for memberships? It's a swingers site, a sex site, a site for perves and deviates :P We are here because we love sex, we love to perve, we love redhot! We aren't here for an afternoon chat with our cuppa teas. We aren't here to swap scone recipes or talk about the weather. Surely you are smart enough to know why this site exists, don't get all teary if people decide to pay attention to the naked women/men on cam, that is what they come here for. A good perve :D A good chat comes in at second for most. RedHot chat is awesome. You have to get in there and chat, add some humour, have a laugh, a joke etc. Don't come in having a whinge that you aren't getting attention. I don't cam in there but I have no problems getting attention lol cause I am an idiot lol I joke and laugh and I have fun in there, love the place. Don't take it SERIOUSLY!!!! or PERSONAL!!!! I admire anyone with the courage to get on cam and show their bodies. I think its a gorgeous thing that they are comfortable with who they are to be daring enough to share their sexiness with others. It does not make someone less intelligent or slutty. It makes them SEXY! Kudos to those who do it :P Men are here to perve.. simple as that!! So are some of us women ;) Don't like it, go find a chat that talks about recipes or weather or something like that. Don't label all the men in here bad if they prefer to come in here for what they paid for. They pay to chat in there and they have the right to chat to whom they want, or perve on who they want.. so let them! We all have a right to do what we want. I HAVE THE RIGHT TO PERVE ON HOTTTIES IN CHAT and I DO and I LOVE IT! :P Just enjoy yourself in redhot, it's AWESOME! Kaito
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RHP User
17 years ago
I have to agree with what Ravenbaby said.. This is a sex site. Not that everyone in the chat room is on heat and hanging to get a load off, but there is also 100 people in the room. There are distractions. If you are at a party with 100 people having a chat and something happens to grab your attention, then you are preoccupied and can always get back to conversation.
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RHP User
17 years ago
go sean ;)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I've been in the shit for that as well, My partner however has the motto "I can look at the menu but have to come home to eat" Men are turned on visually, and I believe that women would be more turned on by, eg; a romantic novel, conversation etc. However the sexy showing of tits etc is not always the one that a fella would like to take home to meet the family
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RHP User
17 years ago
I have never said that I think that the girls who do feel secure enough in themselves are acting like sluts or anything else. I myself am not an exhibitionist and I feel uncomfortable the few times I have shown my breasts, making the decision to not do it unless its in a private chat with someone I like.... that being said, you cannot get to know a guy well enough to know if you do like him because his attention span is limited only to the time in between a girl who does show whats she's go comes into the room. If that gets you off, go for it. I guess I am saying that I really think if guys are on a sex site.... they are here for actual sex. I know thats why I am a member. I want to find a nice guy who I can regularly have sex with, no hassles or strings, just as friends. If I can come into the chat room and say..."hey, any one want to actually have some sex"... I mean it. If I'm attracted to you on a physical level, thats all I want a guy for. (visa versa of course). What I am asking is this... why not put what your really looking for on a profile. if your just looking for a fuck with a really good looking chick, then say that. If you want to experience all types of ladies... say it and mean it. And most importantly... if your on a sex site and you are approached for sex, if your feeling the vibes coming from the person... go for it. I am sick and tired of feeling weird because I am open about wanting to find a guy to have sex with. Why can't men just not be honest and open themselves up to knowing someone different?
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RHP User
17 years ago
Now to a much more important point made in a reply: Posted by: TIT_witch Date: Nov 26, 2008 Its because these women who get on cam and do what they do are simply seeking attention. You can be dressed on cam and guys chat but soon as someone who regularly gets on cam and flashes and entertains them your forgotten. Or guys generally think all us women are the same and will show them what they want. I doubt half the guys in here actually get sex as they are generally cam wankers only. Same with the females. To me they are cock teasers. I can see why most the guys go off and abuse some off the women. We can bright and interlligent women but most guys are after easy women. Because that way they get what they want. Where as a intelligent woman is not so easy to give them what they want Miss_Phoenix stay who you are and don't lower your standards if these guys want to be like let them shows they have no respect or brains.. Well there brain is the one they wank and when that blows the brain goes TIT Ohhhhhhh tsk tsk TIT Alot of what you said there is sooooo sooo bad. Don't blame women who cam in here for men going off and abusing women, thats a low blow. And kudos to the women who are comfortable with getting on cam and showing what the men want to see, if they are fine with showing themselves then let them, the guys come here for that. It does not make a woman less intelligent for showing off their sexy bodies, it does not make them an attention seeker, it makes them confident, makes them sexier if they can feel sexier about themselves in doing this, where in most circumstances they would never do this normally. I don't cam in redhot cause that is MY choice. But I don't think any less of the women or men who do cam and show as much of themselves as they want, I admire them. I know what this site is about and I don't take it serious, I'm a bit of an idiot at times, I love the new people I have met in here, so many cool peoples. Lets all just have fun in here. Don't make this a nasty war :( Enjoy redhot chat :D Kaito
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RHP User
17 years ago
"why is it that a bright, intelligent female with a brain and smart's is wont to be made to feel less than sexually attractive by you blokes, in terms of the way you casually forget your having a conversation with us, and start salivating over a chick who's getting off on webcam...and more than likely only doing it to stroke her own ego. " Read what you wrote, then read it again and even perhaps for a 3rd time, because, quite clearly, you need it pointed out to you that it's YOUR issues, YOUR own insecurities, YOUR own feelings of inadequacy that made you feel that way, not the men you were chatting nicely to before someone like me turned her cam on whilst half naked then proceeded to flash her tits. Just for the record (and I'm certain other women out there who like to play and tease on cam would agree when with me when I say this), we don't ALL do it for the ego stroking, majority of the time it's a case of 'mutual play' with another person you happen to be viewing at the time or have built a rapport with over time via this medium. On a final note, I have had countless conversations with men in chat while not being on cam and I can't say I have had a problem holding their interest, mind you even if they did wander off to perve on women who were camming then good luck to them, in fact I've even hinted at times which cams were worth looking at!! Perhaps you should focus a little more on being open minded in regards to this site and it's workings (as well as the members here and their motives) rather than allowing what I believe are your 'petty jealousies' to consume you. In plain english, as a very good friend of mine would say, it's SO much nicer to "share the horn with like minded people rather than have a play/toss in the dark ....ALONE"..........so true!! Enjoy
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Ohtilts
17 years ago
ummm yeah what God said...lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
Lmfao All have good valid points to each post comment. And it does go both ways as was stated in TITs comment. I got asked by a few guys why was i here if i didn't have a cam to parade myself on. As i told them is my choice and i got abused.. So it goes both ways people .No use attacking anyone on the post because everyone has a point.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Im gettin me ona them cams !!!....Im gonna drive all yooo gals crazy by runnin me fingers through the thick luscious GREY hair on me big sexy rotund belly,, ill even pick the fluff from me belly button !!! "THEN"..comes the big saggy pimply VERY HAIRY ass cheeks !! "YEP" Resta yooo fellas be talikin to ya fukkin self when my show starts !!! ~~~Horrible~~~ And you kunts shoulda brought bigger BAGS !!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would like to thank everyone for their opinions.... however I have to say.... I have not once abused anyone for showing themselves on cam... men or women....Maybe it is "my" insecurities, but I see quite a few of the women who agree with me while I'm in the room and yet are quite happy to pile poo on me within the confines of this forum post. So who is showing a strength of character? Besides I thought this forum was where girls ask guys questions... not a free for all. Opinions are fine, but please don't try to psycho-analyse me or tell me why I am so wrong. I can pay a shrink to do that for me and get it rebated on medicare. Everyone seems to think that just because I am looking for a intelligent conversation first I belong in a christian chat room. I know where I am chatting. I choose to chat here. I don't have a problem if guys or girls want to cam up, but I am tired of being dropped mid-sentence. I'm not here for endless chit chat, but I want to know that I am compatible with someone on an intelligence level before I invite them to share my body. I want to actually find a guy and have sex with him. Period. I want to find a hot guy..."my preferences" who likes girls who are not stick thin models, who can hold a decent conversation on subjects other than the size of his dick, who lives near me... (gold coast, northern NSW), who is single and under 40. My apologies to anyone who finds this openness confronting or confusing. Guys can come online and say what they want, right, but we women still have to have a little moral decorum? Pffft. I might give chat a miss for a few days.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well may i suggest if you start chatting to a guy who strikes you to be quite the intellect and can strike up an intelligent conversation in chat....get his msn before he fuks off to perve on the women on cam.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I cam up because I want to. I get naked because I want to. I stay clothed because I want to. You dont because you dont want to. I am not a slut and my tits are only slightly sagging, but if I want to show them and people want to watch that is mine and thier right. Mrs xxx Live and let Live
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RHP User
17 years ago
be careful how you use it. bloke is a smaller word.. blokes would probably not drop you cold, though they would ave a quick perv at the other flesh. LRE (bloke)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I never asked for people to defend their choices in camming or not camming. It's a person's own choice. Obviously people are more interested to air their own personal opinions and grievances than actually look at this issue and get down into the core of it. There are so many single guys on line that could be actually having real sexual playtime with actual women... in person.... naked.... actually getting hot and sweaty....that I wonder why so many guys don't have it in their heads that if they pay a little attention to the girl they are talking to... be interested, get to know her, she might just be the sexual plaything they have been looking for. My question was never about the right to cam or not to cam.... personally I dont give a flying duck what anyone does in their personal lives, it's their choice. I only care if it impinges on mine. Just like the age old fat verus thin debate.... we all like what we like. I guess I just like the men who can seperate getting to know someone from sexual libido. Chatting about sex is great, it allows two people to get to know one another without pretense of cultural tabbos. I suppose if it turns sexy... so be it. I just want to be enjoying sex with someone... not a battery operated device. I wear them out too quickly. As to generalising... havent a lot of the responses put me in a specific sexual genre? People are very quick to jusge others, but not look at themselves quite so frequently, or with such fevour. Judge not others lest ye be judged yourself. And I'm an aethist.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I'm just thinking maybe you're taking the chatting online signs too seriously? :) I know people who are great in person and just not really good chatters online. The medium seems to make a difference. Also, everyone has wildly varying ideas on what is rude online and not. In real life, however, the issue is a little more certain. Also, I don't think you should be too hard on men for being distracted by the girls disrobing in chat. Men are always distracted by sexy girls wherever they are. It's a cam room so guys like to go in there to watch the exhibitionists. Even if a guy is with the love of his life, I dare say he'd find it hard not to turn his head if a hot chick passed by and .. well you know.. that's not such a bad thing. It's ok to look, surely. I'm not saying that the chat rooms are full of wonderful men - for the most part I've found many extremely rude. However, if there is someone you think is a nice guy and he is interested in seriously talking to you, I say you extract him out of that environment to talk properly. If he won't do that for you then... well maybe he's not worth your time. :) Mrs RJ xo
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RHP User
17 years ago
It is a dick thing, or a pussy thing, or a sexual thing.... You wont find intelligent conversation over rules any naked lady anytime i am sure..or for the matter of fact a sex scene on cam or sometimes even a nice penis. As for us, we see so much sex and masturbation etc, at the club that it is simply like watching vacumming the carpet..lol So me telling you that i would flick on a cam instead of a good chat would be not me. Most of the time i don't look at cams except for the ladies and the occasional nice penis..lol As i said to you Miss - Phoenix i hear what you are saying and understand what you meant and sympathized with you. But, There are no solutions to your questions just that " if it is out there it will be looked at" it is a fact of life and those of us that are proud to show what we have worked hard to achieve are happy and content in ourselves and don't mean to take away from your intelligent conversation. In fact when i wanna play on cam, i just do it, i dont read the text or the screen and simply please myself, as i am sure others do to. So the last thing on my mind is worrying about what someone is saying, as i simply dont care and dont read. my fingers are busy enough. That is because it is all about ME, just like it should be all about YOU. Maybe next time you should say something to the person in the room that you were chatting to so they know that they have hurt your feelings by ignoring you and watching others. Then you can confront the person that actually caused you grief. Communication is the goal in this lifestyle and if you don't communicate no one knows what they have done to offend you. So my advice is next time.. speak up when it happens and then deal with it the, but dont blame the people that are playing, blame the guy that ignored you and ask him WHY then and there. If he then says to you that pussy is more fun..then so be it.. Go on to the next guy.
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RHP User
17 years ago
"Can a guy please explain to me this overwhelming need to say one thing..."We love women who are smart, intelligent, can hold a conversation, are not supermodels, etc"... and yet drop those same women at the drop of a hat? Enlighten me. PLEASE" I assume this is the question you are complaining hasn't been answered? I think there have been a number of genuine answers, just not the ones you're looking for. I spent very little time in the chat rooms as a member, I think the whole community tab sucks (WHY THE HELL DO I KEEP ENDING UP IN OTHER STATES POSTS - I'M IN PERTH AND WILL NEVER MEET YOU PEOPLE! - please note editors - you have a seriously glitchy forum system here!!!), but the chat rooms that in my humble opinion really work, are ones that act more like clubrooms, with open doors to visitors, but set up by moderators who can kick disruptive influences. In that environment you get some rooms for people who want to perve (or show-off), and you get some that are for chatting – and you get plenty of blokes in the chatting-only rooms who are there for the conversations. I guess RHP's version is that the state rooms are for chat & the AO is for perving. If you were trying to chat in the AO room, then you were chatting to blokes who were killing time waiting for a perve, and you should have known it. At the end of the day, only the blokes who did it to you can tell you why they did – and it’s not the sort of thing I’d do, but mostly because I wouldn’t have been there anyway. Hope this helps (although I doubt you’re really expecting an answer), Coodabeen.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Has it ever occured to you Phoenix that the guys who are willing to look at the sexy cams may just be the ones who u should be more interested in ... rather than the ones who are more into chat ...?? After all .. u are making yourself known to them that u want sex .. Just a mere observation
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RHP User
17 years ago
All I can say is variety is the spice of life. If it feels good do it. We all have our preferences and you don't want to show it all well and good. Those that know they have it flaunt it. People do what they feel comfortable with including having boundaries on and off. Your thing is mental stimulation and mystery theirs is to get out there and live their life. If she wishes to stroke her own ego then so be it. Conservatism not for this website. Get out there and go for it girl The intelligent conversation is usually left for when you have that uncomfortable silence after doing the deed that is why guys use this line. We all do what we gotta do. Cheers for now
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RHP User
17 years ago
Check out the "TITS" on that chick ? ,,.. "gotta go " ,,. bye !!! ~~~Horrible~~~
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RHP User
17 years ago
Me personally i dont like looking at something i cant touch so i would be staying chatting, mind you i gave up in the forums a long time ago as alot have their groups and only talk to other people when no one from their group is chatting. Sometimes it gets hard keeping up in the chats too. I prefer a one on one chat as it is alot easier as you know who they are talking to. Alot of men here wont talk to women if they wont get anything more. As others have said be more selective who you chat with. best of luck.
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RHP User
17 years ago
people can be selfish, shallow, vulgar, and just downright rude. they can also be considerate, friendly, complimentary and just plain nice. welcome to the real world. stop getting caught up in the negative and look at the positive and remember...we all have these same experiences...some of us just chose to move on and get over it.
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RHP User
17 years ago
because we can
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RHP User
17 years ago
d.i.l.l.i.g.a.f with a huge grin
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RHP User
17 years ago
That is exactly the reason why I won't go on webcam much these days!
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RHP User
17 years ago
I have only one thing to say on this matter... From what i can see i may be the only person who actually read your profile, And if it is shallow or unkind for a man to prefer to watch an attractive girl on a webcam isn't it also as shallow for a woman to specify a man with a penis that you would probably only find in 10% of Australian men? If i told you i was only 6.5 inches then i would be lacking, correct? And in which case you in all likelihood you wouldnt respond to my message... What it really comes down to Pheonix is that people are looking for different things and their priorities change than so be it, I think that by labeling men unkind your being quite judgmental. BTW, I have actually cut short conversations with people in favour of somebody im more interested in, so if that makes me a bad person, maybe we can both try and be a little less shallow. Thank you for your time. (6.5 inches is still over average, and can be used just as effectively as 9)
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RHP User
17 years ago
chat room is 2 dimension ok you get on cam have a flirt but why is it the bloke fault both men and women are shallow its a fact of life however the shallowness only goes so far there are people who think the sun shine out of there rear monopolise the room live with it chances are your not going to meet that person if ya wanna flirt go to a public place or if ya have msn invite that person in maybe you might hit it off but don't expect too much people in the chatroom are very clicky socialise together so don't despair we all not all totally shallow
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RHP User
17 years ago
Oh boooohoooo ~~toughen up princess~~ men are visual creatures, of course they gonna check out the naked chicks liftmeleg at it again
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RHP User
17 years ago
Ok, good responses to the original post and I agree with some of the responses and and disagree with others. Anyway, it's a sex site. My wife and I can get all the intelligent and stimulating conversation we want from vanilla friends. We get sexy and sexed up friends from a site like this. We don't expect anything different. Why would we? Good luck with what your looking for.........
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RHP User
17 years ago
All i know is that I am a decent guy on here and although i may enjoy perving on a girl playing with herself and the like i am a lot more interested in chatting and getting to know new people but as soon as some cock controlled guys come in the room and start drooling all over themselves over a girl i may have been having a decent conversation with, she ends up ignoring me for them and personally i think its just wrong. Espescially when these girls have written on their profiles that they're after a chat and getting to know people. Fair enough everyone is entitled to have some fun times but how is it fair or even right to then ignore a guy who was having a decent chat with said girl first? And god forbid i should actually say something about it in the chatrooms cause then all i get is childish bullying and ganging up on me from the guys drooling over this girl to which the girls reaction is to side with the guys that are only after whats under her clothes rather than what sort of person she is in general
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RHP User
17 years ago
umm yeah, it is called the nice guy syndrome! 85% of all females will gladly trample you to death, to get at the "bad boys" like a moth to a flame! Cheers Nev
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RHP User
17 years ago
Anybody else had enough of the "somebody done somebody wrong song"? New topic please!
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RHP User
17 years ago
Change the mooosic,,, whack on some aca,, dacca !!! ~~~Horribooole ~~~
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Frankiesgame
17 years ago
what was the question again??
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RHP User
17 years ago
I thought this was a sex site.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Nah its full of bitchiness.
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RHP User
17 years ago
It's difficult love_bites to actually go looking for a male sex partner when most men on red hot pie are looking for no strings sex....sure there are those that would like friends with benifits....finding sex partners on this site is easy....turning it into a friendship is harder....you talk about women been shown respect provide... men with more sex.... that men love women who are smart, intelligent, can hold a conversation, and are not supermodels etc and yet men drop those same women at the drop of a hat if thier distracted by a nude lady getting off on cam and more likely only doing it to stroke her own ego.... and this type of distraction impinges on your conversation causing men to act unkind being distracted deflating your ego.I think you have placed too high a standard for the men on this site.... sure its a site for men looking for sex but it would be only a small percentige looking for a compatiable women for a relationship and god only knows what standards would have to be met.... love_bites I think your quite capable of attracting me to your own profile rather then reaching out to them in chat where others are going to impinge on your conversations....best of everything for you... astralwalker
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well it seems you were getting the respect you desired and in turn the half naked woman got the respect she earned. Maybe it might be wiser to offer your cam chats to guys who you trust to be the quality of man you desire to chat with on this site. To suggest that your intelligent and then go on to tar all men with the same brush is a bit hypocritical as well. As for men, if you are a respectable person that is what you will get, so you say one thing about the half naked woman doing this to stroker her own ego then your next sentence says about respecting women. Did the half naked woman not expect those comments, therefore was it not obvious that in a public chat room this is the reaction she was going to get. Also are you suggesting that women are of higher intellectual standing than men. Some of the requirements I see women having of men you will not find here in all its qualities. The men with the big bank balance, high paid professional careers and nice cars are generally all taken and those with confidence and outgoing characteristics, sense of humour and good looks generally are as well as they have no problem finding partners in the real world. What you will find here is generally cheaters, arseholes and all round wankers really and I would have thought anyone of reasonable intelligence as you say you have would realise this. There are exceptions such as couples wanting an extra, gay and lesbian people and those with little social time due to work committments or single parents and maybe recently divorced who have been out of the scene for too long. It is also easier to be unkind on the internet, its faceless and cowardly by nature.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well flirting is just flirting. 1. to court triflingly or act amorously without serious intentions; play at love; coquet. 2. to trifle or toy, as with an idea Maybe if they knew you were genuinly interested they may not leave so quickly... As for chat in the chat room i've seen little of it for a long time, there was some for a while when people first started chatting in there. When they started meeting it all started becoming a little inane to an outsider and rather difficult to join or enjoy. Seems to me you're looking for intelligent conversation amongst an elite group of people who have the time and the inclination to flirt constantly. Or the newcomers who haven't figured out how it works yet and are still aghast at the opportinities it seems to present... Most of the people i've met from or that know of RHP have no time for the chat room. They do know how to carry a conversation though lol.
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RHP User
17 years ago
WOMEN DO IT TOO
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RHP User
17 years ago
where's the love in the room :D group hug.
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RHP User
17 years ago
A lot of people spend way too much time on here talking about sex and not doing it. Did you know that being on a computer actually changes your brainwave patterns. Now this brings me to another topic. Are orgasms achieved by watching people online being norti, different to the ones you have when you are actually touching someone???? And if brainwaves change....... does this explain the multi tasking abilities of some humans going out the window..........or should I say all over the keyboard. Yeah I know its late lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
A Simple answer to this question is that, Not been able to be happy with what we have got.. is in our blood.. Say what u want.. Yet should a Male be in a Nightclub.. we may talk to one women.. yet then see another female who is better looking.. and that male would move to that Other Female.. And so on.. Until at last we can not only find a connection.. yet a Need.. Yet this Connection (Need) can be through Looks, Brains or even just our body telling us.. This is the One..
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RHP User
17 years ago
maybe your right but I think cam sex and message sex is well entrenched on red hot pie but for some males it fulfills their sexual requirements.... maybe ultra discreet..... even safer sex... whatever.... theres a demand for it ....with one on one sex comming in second.... disapointing it maybe for someone like myself who enjoys physical contact like giving masage and touching.... so important....then again so is companionship...friendship.... the old saying the pen is mightier then the sword maybe dosen't apply in sexual cyberspace... but is it not viewing erotic cam and reading erotic words that thier getting the rocks off on...on computor....what type of brainwave responces are altered by sexual viewing in regards to sexual touching? I dont think any pornography be it in magazines or in vidio/cds have altered brainwave sexual arousal without the need to touch and I don't think cam is any different maybe a bit more personel...cheers astral
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RHP User
17 years ago
Firstly I appreciate your pain. But let me tell you something that should help you out a lot. This is a not a male/female issue. It is a people issue. Do you REALLY think that females don't do the same thing?????? Think about how guys must feel when there are about 3 times more men than woman chatting at any given time. The women don't just go to the most intelligent lovely guy chatting. Ahh.....no they don't. Guys are also not dumber than women nor "don't make the connection" about how you treat women. We understand.....so either we don't care or we deem it less important than the alternative. If you honestly believe that women treat men better than men treat women than you have no idea about life. Also you teach people how to treat you, both as an individual and as a group. I do not blame you for having a whinge, I sure would like to have a whinge about the female attitude on here.....but alas I know it would fall on unsympathetic ears and really.......what is anyone going to do about it anyway? Perhaps the wankers on cam are here only to do just that.....I know I am becoming more and more like that as I have much greater success with more interesting, kinder, confident, better looking women in person than on here. I only come here for shits and giggles or fun. Things more risky than I care to do in person. In Short - you are in the wrong place. Also as for being bright and intelligent - almost everyone thinks they are above average... be careful with that one.
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RHP User
17 years ago
thats it, just trust me... I'm sure a few will get a giggle out of that... lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
It's just instinct, if a half naked girl walks down the street she will grab my attention. That's why Women are used in advertisments so much. Sex get's male attention. We don't mean to be rude when we turn our attention to a yonger woman showing more skin. It just happens.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Alot of guys are mean and nasty, and a lot of females are mean and nasty, unfortunately, thats just the way the world is, There are a lot of chicks on this site who would drop a fully clothed guy like a hot spud if there was a chance for her to see a nice thick cock on cam, and thats the truth. I guess the only way to sort through the genuine people who are here to chat and hopefully meet someone is to do it urself, even thought it would probs take forever... and then you have to worry about those who act and seem decent but are full of crap..... So whilst I understand the frustration of the person who created this topic, rest assured that there are guys who are experiencing similar circumstances.
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RHP User
17 years ago
lol i gotta say i agree with the guys naked person masterbating etc or small talk lolhmm id watch masterbation i feel for u for sure though its happened to me also and it does hurt yr feelings lol but then i think ill watch her to lol though theres been times when ive been chatting with a guy and something has caught my eye on cam and ive kinda forgotton the guy i was chatting to for a bit lol dont let it get to u i always try and remember that i may do the same thing one day they did to me so dont take offense i
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RHP User
17 years ago
get over it
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RHP User
16 years ago
and look at naked women. They will move on the moment something else comes along. They were obviously not interested in you for any kind of relationship so there is no point worrying about them. They certainly do not want to spend months chatting and getting to know you for the slight chance they might get sex. Besides, most guys dont get any attention at all so be grateful for that.
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RHP User
16 years ago
The lesson is believe nothing they say to youUse and abuse them
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